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"My expectations have changed on fab & made me realise some fantasies are best left at fantasy, not every fantasy needs acting on. That's not to say I don't have any I'm not wanting to try. I've got this book on my to read list. " The author Nancy Friday says this in the book - the very act of sharing some sexual fantasies, even anonymously, cannot even be contemplated. The act of making the fantasy into words destroys it. Some sexual fantasies are abstract, there’s one where the woman says she is entered by ambidextrous arms.. like an octopus tentacle but not.. | |||
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"My expectations have changed on fab & made me realise some fantasies are best left at fantasy, not every fantasy needs acting on. That's not to say I don't have any I'm not wanting to try. I've got this book on my to read list. " This is so me. I have got quite a few fantasies that need to stay just as that.. A fantasy.. But my partner talks about me doing them when we have our play which drives me wild | |||
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"My expectations have changed on fab & made me realise some fantasies are best left at fantasy, not every fantasy needs acting on. That's not to say I don't have any I'm not wanting to try. I've got this book on my to read list. This is so me. I have got quite a few fantasies that need to stay just as that.. A fantasy.. But my partner talks about me doing them when we have our play which drives me wild" Many couples I know are like this - they have an incredibly exciting sexlife even without swinging because they openly share some of their fantasies between them, discuss, expand on them, add detail….the other fantasies, those never revealed but thought about during sexual play… 😈 | |||
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"I have lots of fantasies that I have made real, with varying degrees of success. Others I have absolutely no intention of ever sharing let alone attempting to make them real because they are definitely meant to remain as fantasy only. Even the thought of sharing them feels like it would somehow ruin it and I enjoy them very much." They’re the special ones ☺️😈 Are there certain scenarios in real life which prompt you to think of particular fantasies… ones to match an occasion? | |||
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"I have lots of fantasies that I have made real, with varying degrees of success. Others I have absolutely no intention of ever sharing let alone attempting to make them real because they are definitely meant to remain as fantasy only. Even the thought of sharing them feels like it would somehow ruin it and I enjoy them very much." By the way I love those baths in your pics - both the contemporary one and that Victorian roll-top. Of course you being in them… | |||
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For purposes of masturbation I occasionally plan but mostly recall or interact to some extent.
But then I am also uninterested in fantasy of the witches and wizards type. | |||
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"I do not much fantasise. I plan.
For purposes of masturbation I occasionally plan but mostly recall or interact to some extent.
But then I am also uninterested in fantasy of the witches and wizards type. "Flashbacks and thoughts of those future possibilities.. It’s the ant….. icip….. …..ation then ☺️ | |||
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"I’m reading My Secret Garden again before a copy of Gillian Andersons book Want arrives (signed Hardback copy! ☺️). Having joined the lifestyle since last reading My Secret Garden, I was struck by how many of these common female erotic fantasies were quite easily delivered by being in the Lifestyle, having Fab or a visit to a swingers club… multiple men, strangers, black men, lesbian / bisexual encounters, voyeurism…. Some of what I’ve read happens every night I’ve been at a club! So question to the Ladies in the lifestyle… have your sexual fantasies moved on or become more… fantastic? or complex? or downright bizarre? (a common theme of female sexual fantasies is that some of them aren’t possible, dangerous, illegal or are never intended to shared or actually be carried out). It’s said that sexual fantasies, fetishes and kinks develop as sexual experience grows… what’s your experience? This enquiring mind wants to know… 😘" Oh my I read that book years ago too ! Swingers lifestyle def gets some boxes ticked but I still have a few left even after 10+ years in the scene | |||
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"We ticked a lot off our fantasy lists and we keep updating them. Some now require more than a few people and in our head the fantasies are hot people - in reality the 4/5 guys needed are pretty seemingly impossible to have in the same place - sometimes even an extra guy is 😬 K " 😂 This is the thing! Fantasies that are perfectly practicable and possible to enact but those fucking flakey people ruin them! | |||
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"I’m reading My Secret Garden again before a copy of Gillian Andersons book Want arrives (signed Hardback copy! ☺️). Having joined the lifestyle since last reading My Secret Garden, I was struck by how many of these common female erotic fantasies were quite easily delivered by being in the Lifestyle, having Fab or a visit to a swingers club… multiple men, strangers, black men, lesbian / bisexual encounters, voyeurism…. Some of what I’ve read happens every night I’ve been at a club! So question to the Ladies in the lifestyle… have your sexual fantasies moved on or become more… fantastic? or complex? or downright bizarre? (a common theme of female sexual fantasies is that some of them aren’t possible, dangerous, illegal or are never intended to shared or actually be carried out). It’s said that sexual fantasies, fetishes and kinks develop as sexual experience grows… what’s your experience? This enquiring mind wants to know… 😘 Oh my I read that book years ago too ! Swingers lifestyle def gets some boxes ticked but I still have a few left even after 10+ years in the scene " It’s an interesting read (recommended to those men that care what women want), even though it was published back in 1973. Can’t wait to read WANT, something a little more contemporary. Gillian A has become quite the Sexual Ambassador.. | |||
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"I have lots of fantasies that I have made real, with varying degrees of success. Others I have absolutely no intention of ever sharing let alone attempting to make them real because they are definitely meant to remain as fantasy only. Even the thought of sharing them feels like it would somehow ruin it and I enjoy them very much. They’re the special ones ☺️😈 Are there certain scenarios in real life which prompt you to think of particular fantasies… ones to match an occasion?" Not that often no. I’m an avid reader and that can sometimes unlock new fantasies or scenarios | |||
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"I have lots of fantasies that I have made real, with varying degrees of success. Others I have absolutely no intention of ever sharing let alone attempting to make them real because they are definitely meant to remain as fantasy only. Even the thought of sharing them feels like it would somehow ruin it and I enjoy them very much. By the way I love those baths in your pics - both the contemporary one and that Victorian roll-top. Of course you being in them… " Thank you very much xxx | |||
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