FabSwingers.com forum: Is Fab getting tedious?

By *xSuitedandBootedxx OP Man
7 weeks ago

Market Harborough/London

Your thoughts please?

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By *yrdsisWoman
7 weeks ago

Gleam Street

It has been for years.. yet there are always moments that work out

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By *wiggy2112Woman
7 weeks ago

some where in Yorkshire

Definitely..

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By *agatoXXXMan
7 weeks ago

Mordor

"When a man is tired of Fab, he is tired of life"

(Samuel Johnson)

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Sometimes it's good to put it down for a bit. Then come back when it's calls to you.

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By *alloSpaceboyMan
7 weeks ago

Carmarthen

By its nature it’s repetitive. Mainly in the forums, as it happens.

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By *moothdickMan
7 weeks ago

stoke

It’s become an addictive pain in the arse, the messing around, fakes, bullshit, even woke..

but u keep coming back for a perv and hope u meet yr equivalent filth

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By *hGlobbitsMan
7 weeks ago

Leeds

No - it's always been tedious!

(With occasional bursts of high adventure).

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
7 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"When a man is tired of Fab, he is tired of life"

I guess I’ll just toddle off to Dignitas then.

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By *oeBeansMan
7 weeks ago

Derby

""When a man is tired of Fab, he is tired of life"

(Samuel Johnson)"

Isn't that what people say to justify living in London? "If ya bowd a' Landon, ya bowd a' loif!"

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By *adyBugsWoman
7 weeks ago

cognito

Fab is what you make it.

Or is that life?

I can never remember.

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By *hil most chillMan
7 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"It has been for years.. yet there are always moments that work out"

Exactly this. The more time you spend here, the more tedious it feels. In moderation I find it works well. I may go months without any interesting prospects on here but then one will pop up out of nowhere and make the whole thing worthwhile

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By *agatoXXXMan
7 weeks ago

Mordor

"When a man is tired of Fab, he is tired of life

I guess I’ll just toddle off to Dignitas then."

There will be a queue.

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By *agatoXXXMan
7 weeks ago

Mordor

""When a man is tired of Fab, he is tired of life"

(Samuel Johnson)

Isn't that what people say to justify living in London? "If ya bowd a' Landon, ya bowd a' loif!""

Sorry, I only speak English and profanity.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
7 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I think I’m just tired. Not tired of Fab in particular. Just tired in general.

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By *tevieboyyyMan
7 weeks ago

Waterlooville

Had better results on Tinder, and bestest results in real life.

In real life the social circles that I am in, it's 100% nope from me.

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By *ellhungvweMan
7 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I have just been through a “I am bored with Fab” phase and come out the other side. I am enjoying it again.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
7 weeks ago

Sheffield

It comes in waves sometimes!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
7 weeks ago

ashford

Not tedious! Just I don't know! Seem to have lost interest myself! X

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
7 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"It comes in waves sometimes!"

That’s what *she* said.

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By *parkle1974Woman
7 weeks ago

Leeds

For me yes especially the forums....you see the same topics rehashed over and over again with the same posters on each thread. You almost know who is going to post before they do.

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By *ripfillMan
7 weeks ago

havant

The forum for me is a way of non judgmental expression

Yes hopefully to find that FWB or coupe to

Play with

Yes it can become tedious and I have played my part I securing that tedium

However

There are some contributors and incredibly well meaning fab persons who

Just want to care

There are some topics which raise knowledge awareness

Some topics which are good fun

It’s a balance in-truth - long may it continue

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By *lue RascalMan
7 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

Just avoid the shite boring threads.

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
7 weeks ago

Wolvo

Yeah kinda.

Stuff thats really no big deal is starting to annoy me more often and as someone else said same old topics on forums.

Never bored of cake though lol

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"The forum for me is a way of non judgmental expression

Yes hopefully to find that FWB or coupe to

Play with

Yes it can become tedious and I have played my part I securing that tedium

However

There are some contributors and incredibly well meaning fab persons who

Just want to care

There are some topics which raise knowledge awareness

Some topics which are good fun

It’s a balance in-truth - long may it continue "

After a hilarious opening line, it was a very good regain

Never met so much judgement in my life.

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By *uckingFutzMan
7 weeks ago

Plymouth

Oh yeah definitely! More so when you look at the forums and see the same old rubbish threads popping up time and time and time again! Watersports, biggest boobs, gloryholes, squirting, etc etc and it's always the exact same convos!

Fabs was also much better in 2008 when people actually met!

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By *mf123Man
7 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Its been that way for about 4 years for me since i really enjoyed being here but thats for reasons other than entertainment value

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By *agerMorganMan
7 weeks ago

Canvey Island

Has it got tedious? For me, a little. Seeing the same person create new profiles constantly, forum posts the same and just dead end conversation.

Also, It might just be me but lately I’ve noticed a slow increase in the number of aggressively toned threads about meets. Women, couples, not being able to get meets etc.

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By *ymClassDropoutMan
7 weeks ago

Berkshire

I’ve only been on a matter of a couple of months but there seems to be a lot of petty bickering that just makes you shake your head.

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Mayfair

Not at all. I think it's currently going through a renaissance.

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By *entleman JayMan
7 weeks ago

Wakefield

I’m really enjoying it.

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By *ad NannaWoman
7 weeks ago

East London

""When a man is tired of Fab, he is tired of life"

(Samuel Johnson)

Isn't that what people say to justify living in London? "If ya bowd a' Landon, ya bowd a' loif!""

Why you talking in an Irish accent?

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By *ayronfeetMan
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

""When a man is tired of Fab, he is tired of life"

(Samuel Johnson)

Isn't that what people say to justify living in London? "If ya bowd a' Landon, ya bowd a' loif!"

Why you talking in an Irish accent?"
_ad nanna your feet are incredible 🤘🔥😜 see fabs not so bad sometimes lol

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By *tickler2000Man
7 weeks ago

St Agnes

Don't believe everything you read on the Internet.

(Abraham Lincoln)

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By *uckingFutzMan
7 weeks ago

Plymouth

"Don't believe everything you read on the Internet.

(Abraham Lincoln)"

Wait what - did he prefer android or apple?

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By *innamon!Woman
7 weeks ago

no matter

No laugh till i cry threads anymore .. come back Sea witch and various other incarnations

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By *arcosaMan
7 weeks ago

London

Seeing as I've never hooked up with anyone here I can't say I've ever found it very interesting. I don't know what I'm doing on here much of the time.

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By *heBigLibowskiMan
7 weeks ago

Hampshire

It has been for a while for me to be honest. I dip my toe but there's no mt the magic anymore.

Take a break if you're not interested.

Not much else to say on the matter.

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By *heBigLibowskiMan
7 weeks ago

Hampshire

"No laugh till i cry threads anymore .. come back Sea witch and various other incarnations "

Not sure she's allowed.

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By *innamon!Woman
7 weeks ago

no matter

"No laugh till i cry threads anymore .. come back Sea witch and various other incarnations

Not sure she's allowed. "

Ohhh was she banned ? How unfortunate she was hilarious . I think we should all call for an amnesty on her behalf

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
7 weeks ago

chichester

Yes currently I am in a boredom patch on here. A lot going on in life and fab just seems pretty devoid currently of compatible meets for me.

I find fab goes in cycles of being worthwhile for meets. Usually I just blank my profile for a few months and unplug

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By *aomilatteCouple
7 weeks ago

Midlands

It's one of the most entertaining things in our life!

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"It has been for years.. yet there are always moments that work out"

And people always come back

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By *iker JackMan
7 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I think if anything becomes tedious it’s time for a re evaluation of

1. Do you need it or does it take more than it adds?

2. Is it your current mind set or ongoing?

3. Can you do anything to change how you feel about i?

And I am sure there are more but for me if here or anywhere becomes tedious I will take a time out or leave altogether

I don’t blame others for my tedium and on here be that if it’s because of squabbling, or same posts, or whatever and actually look at myself first and see what I can adjust

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By *eeshelleTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Marlow

I love Fabs, you get to know who's wasting time with experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I e met someone amazing on here so no

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
7 weeks ago

chichester

"It's one of the most entertaining things in our life!

The forums are incredibly amusing watching people react / behave. It’s up there with people hurting themselves in stupid ways on tik tok for sure

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

My good morning thread effort is getting tedious… like pulling teeth.

Where are the community spirited people???

Wish me a good morning you bastards!

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By *aven.Woman
7 weeks ago

Not the North West...

Men are tedious

Penis is not

It's a difficult situation

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

HS got worse over the years feels more like a place to check out porn now

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By *ellhungvweMan
7 weeks ago

Cheltenham

One of the changes I have noticed over the last six months or so is the same thread getting put up again and again and again just with increasing numbers. That is literally the definition of repetitive.

They feel like the forum equivalent of a supermarket coming in and destroying the small shops on a high street. Convenient but bland and boring.

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By *reggSausageMan
7 weeks ago

derby

There is a huge element of it’s not in person so I can say/do what I want which exposes the nature of us, basically we are all a combination of lover/animal/hedonist/asshole in varying percentages, 99 percent of us wouldn’t have the conversation we have in here in public so it’s also the secret walled garden, it’s not fab that’s tedious, it’s us and if it’s not you it’s definitely me

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By *idnight RamblerMan
7 weeks ago

Pershore

It's very repetitive after a while, but the occasional original gem shines through.

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By *entfootloverMan
7 weeks ago

Sevenoaks

"HS got worse over the years feels more like a place to check out porn now"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I think the whole online dating/hookup/whatever thing is tedious. Especially the past 5-10 years.

It wasn't quite so bad back then, although I assume that's just because I've done it for ages and have seen just how much it has changed. The repetition of interaction and constant negative outcomes don't help either.

But overall, now I don't spend half as much time on these things as I used to. So the tedium is down to a bearable level. 😅

Can't change anything about it, but you can change yourself.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
7 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I think the art of conversing properly is getting less and less - people want instant results and you’re chosen or discarded just from a single pic.

A lot of people see this as an instant sex site now.

FAB is becoming harder to unearth that rough diamond.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
7 weeks ago

Coventry

For us FAB is more of a tool than anything. Mainly use it to upto date about events, what's going on and with fab freinds. I agree it gets a bit tedious but that's OK considering our main use of the site.

As to the forums I find myself dipping in and out every now and then. I go on there after a break enjoy them for a bit then bet bored and leave it for a bit. I guess there's just so much you can go over before you repeat.

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By *ornucopiaMan
7 weeks ago

Bexley

"HS got worse over the years feels more like a place to check out porn now"

Probable the last thing I would think of using Fab for!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
7 weeks ago

chichester

"Men are tedious

Penis is not

It's a difficult situation "

Could also be said women are but pussy is not

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By *ee04Man
7 weeks ago

Essex

Fab has been more tedious since lock down but every now and then you still find a diamond worth the effort.

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By *ea monkeyMan
7 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Men are tedious

Penis is not

It's a difficult situation "

This is why dildos are a thing.

I also feel sorry for everyone that you talk to

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By *ea monkeyMan
7 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that there are aspects that stagnate, the same people posting the same thing is boring, the need for people to be funny over honest is tedious. The threads where people just drop their opinions and don’t return or respond are a bit like shouting into the void

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By *inceIlkestonMan
7 weeks ago

Ilkeston

It's not just FAB but all social media for meeting people. We look at the pics and build up our expectation based on all the stories we read and the hype. Then we feel let down. Don't let it get to you

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By *8on33Man
7 weeks ago

winfrith

"Your thoughts please? "
Are you bored with it OP?

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By *elboy1978Man
7 weeks ago

Fellgate

Yes

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
7 weeks ago

Leeds

Yep

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
7 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Arch fab waxes and wanes. I find it’s often to do with my mood.

Mrs TMN x

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By *entfootloverMan
7 weeks ago

Sevenoaks

"HS got worse over the years feels more like a place to check out porn now

Probable the last thing I would think of using Fab for!"

But why not?

The amateur photo/video contributions are solid.

Whereas the original purpose of Fab - to facilitate meetings - certainly feels stilted.

Many people use this site as if it were Tinder. A yes or a no based on a photo. Ignoring and not even politely declining thoughtful messages ...while at the same time bashing people who send curt hello messages. You really make it worth the extra time to compose proper conversation openers eh...

The arcane interface doesn't help either.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
7 weeks ago

Okehampton

I certainly have less messages and offers than I once had. However I am also older now and maybe the newer people that have come along are looking for something that I don’t offer.

I meet people through other places now so either my reputation locally with fab is poor or I just don’t match folks requirements. Tis okay, it’s still a place to catch up with old friends and have a perve.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
7 weeks ago

midlands

Yes.

Too many idiots and timewasters to make it fun anymore

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
7 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Yes.

Too many idiots and timewasters to make it fun anymore"

You can’t blame others for your fab experience surely. Clubs and socials

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By *ansoffateMan
7 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

The forum seems somewhat less active. I think lots of activity for some is exciting or interesting.

I find things can become repetitive or even a bit superficial when it's about volume of activity. A bit like an action movie sequel. Sure I'll watch Rambo 10 but it's not leaving a lasting impact on me.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Personally I think it's been more open and inclusive to others in the last few months. More people posting that wouldn't normally and normal thread posters taking a sabbatical. Perhaps that's why there's a little rehashing going on. Noobs don't know what's been posted before.

It's always going to be the same topics anyway.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Tamworth

It’s not what it used to be but I still enjoy it. There are still some wonderful people and they’re why I’m here and why I stay.

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By *eliWoman
7 weeks ago

No. If it was? I wouldn't be on here posting to say it was.

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Mayfair

"No. If it was? I wouldn't be on here posting to say it was."

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That's her Ted(ious) Talk™ for the day. ⬆️

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"It’s not what it used to be but I still enjoy it. There are still some wonderful people and they’re why I’m here and why I stay. "

Thanks babe

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By *electableicecreamMan
7 weeks ago

The West

Forums always peak, through and repeat. It's the nature of the breast.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
7 weeks ago

Kendal

It depends on what you quantify as "tedious?"

Multiple multiple forum posts daily of the exact same subject (eg profile advice)? Sure, absolutely. Can be monotonous.

Your inbox? Are you chatting to new people or is it the same circle of people with the same old conversations?

Not finding people you'd like to meet? Yes, but now and again people leave and newcomers join in their place and it refreshes it somewhat.

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By *had_ThunderCockMan
7 weeks ago

a place somewhat adjacent to you…

I occasionally visit the forums now, yet I find myself inexorably counting down the days until my departure from the site.

Consequently, my engagement and interaction have considerably diminished. It has become abundantly clear through my experiences earlier this year that the site’s offerings do not resonate with my interests, lifestyle, or overall help with my own well-being; I now linger primarily to converse with a select few individuals until my time here is fully expended.

I would ‘like to’ assert that it is not the individuals per se, but; akin to any esteemed 'Abode', it is invariably about the inhabitants therein.

Sincerely, Chad Thundercock

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