FabSwingers.com forum: Have you? can you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

Is it possible to match with someone on a dating site, though only seeing pictures, chatting on the phone for hours, but only been chatting a few days and feel you have such a connection in every way and you feel he/she is the one for you before you have even met ( we plan to meet up Saturday ) and the feeling is mutual for both, can love really be found like that? Is that the actual feeling of true love??

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

This sounds more like infatuation than true love, but I hope it works for you both

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By *mmaleiaWoman
9 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

No, I don’t believe so, you can feel great with the conversation etc, but it’s all in the way they look at me, what their eyes & smile tell me, I find online false & misleading

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By *adyKarmennTVTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Dublin

One of my first boyfriends we actually met online and had only seen one photo of each other! Spoke daily and alot through the day before we got time to meet up

Instant connection with both of us, alot of flirting and fussy feelings! We were together for nearly 5 years!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"No, I don’t believe so, you can feel great with the conversation etc, but it’s all in the way they look at me, what their eyes & smile tell me, I find online false & misleading "

This is the thing first thing she picked out was my eyes and smile

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By *vaRose43Woman
9 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Can you build a connection online? Yes of course

Is it really love? I’m not convinced.

I did meet my husband online so I really hope it works out for you both

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"Can you build a connection online? Yes of course

Is it really love? I’m not convinced.

I did meet my husband online so I really hope it works out for you both "

Thanks for the positive feedback

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By *iker JackMan
9 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

You can definitely build a connection but what you are seeing of them is what they are willing to show at that point in time

I am not saying this is the situation at all but I was watching a programme on sex workers once back in the day of 0898 calls.

She explained she would tell men she was led on the sofa in all this amazing lingerie playing with herself for them where realistically she had trackies on, unwashed hair and was doing the ironing (her words not mine)

I need to meet someone early on to see if that “real in life” connection is there and then go from there.

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By *viatrixWoman
9 weeks ago

Redhill

You won’t know until you’ve actually met in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"You won’t know until you’ve actually met in person. "

This. 2900 times this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"You won’t know until you’ve actually met in person. "

💯💯

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By *iker JackMan
9 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"You won’t know until you’ve actually met in person.

💯💯"

Have you had a video call with them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"You won’t know until you’ve actually met in person.

💯💯

Have you had a video call with them?"

No video calls, just phone calls, no silence, just natural banter, not one awkward moment, I don’t know I may be naive?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
9 weeks ago

Reading

Yes you can.

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By *iker JackMan
9 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"You won’t know until you’ve actually met in person.

💯💯

Have you had a video call with them?

No video calls, just phone calls, no silence, just natural banter, not one awkward moment, I don’t know I may be naive?"

I don’t want to appear negative I’d want a video call. Just to prove you are both who you say you are.

If she is then fantastic have a great day Saturday

If she is not then you have a choice if the connection you have already built is enough to still meet

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By *ell GwynnWoman
9 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Report back in a year once you've actually got to know them. I don't personally think you can fall for someone until then. Infatuation and lust are powerful, but they're not enough to sustain a healthy and authentic relationship. It fades, and then you're left with the mundane and you really find out if they're "the one" (if you believe in "the one").

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By *elix SightedMan
9 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"Is it possible to match with someone on a dating site, though only seeing pictures, chatting on the phone for hours, but only been chatting a few days and feel you have such a connection in every way and you feel he/she is the one for you before you have even met ( we plan to meet up Saturday ) and the feeling is mutual for both, can love really be found like that? Is that the actual feeling of true love??"

Hey OP, I’ve been online dating for years (and am currently single so I’m clearly very bad at it) and have lots of experience in this area. I’ve had feelings of excitement before that all-important first date that may be similar to yours. I don’t think you can ever assume anything more than that because meeting someone is a world apart from chatting by text and voice.

So many times I’ve been feeling great about someone and then, when we’ve met, I’ve realised she’s not all I thought (or vice versa). I genuinely wish you good luck and hope it’s a great date. But - consider not putting you and them under such pressure for success. ‘The one’ is a big label, just enjoy the date and see if you want a second 😊

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By *eordieJeansCouple
9 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

You’re in love with the image that they are presenting to you. Which is the same at the beginning of every relationship. I don’t believe you truly know someone until you’ve lived with them and if you don’t truly know them you can’t really be in love.

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By *inceIlkestonMan
9 weeks ago

Ilkeston

If you click fast you usually finish fast 😉

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By *8on33Man
9 weeks ago

winfrith

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By *agatoXXXMan
9 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

No and no.

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By *eliWoman
9 weeks ago

"Report back in a year once you've actually got to know them. I don't personally think you can fall for someone until then. Infatuation and lust are powerful, but they're not enough to sustain a healthy and authentic relationship. It fades, and then you're left with the mundane and you really find out if they're "the one" (if you believe in "the one")."

I agree with the hairy toed one (although perhaps not a year to be falling for someone!). I think people can fall for the idea of someone and it's not love. More limerence, infatuation. Those are real feelings but it's not... really falling in love. There's too much pressure surrounding it.

Words are beautiful things, of course they are, but actions mean so much more. Some people are naturally more prone to being infatuated - there's nothing wrong with enjoying it but try and not run before you've walked together. Properly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
8 weeks ago

Update from the meeting on Saturday.

Well we finally met on Saturday and all went well, we went for a drink and then for some lovely Indian food together afterwards, we have both absolutely fallen in love with each other, we are so alike in so many things and ways, we got on like it was so natural like we were already together and no pressure or bad feelings was felt by both, I can’t tell the future, but I will say you can surly fall in love at first sight.💯💯

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Central

It's likely it's possible. But I'd also think that the odds make it not too likely for most people

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