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By *ornycouga OP   Woman
10 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

No not me... I'm talking about when someone you have never interacted with messages you on here and straight off the bat tells you what they want to do to you sexually (or - possibly even worse - what they want you to do to them). It makes me throw up a little in my mouth and frantically hit the delete or block button. But does this approach work for any of you lovely folk?

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I'm as much of a hornbag as the next guy, but I do find that approach a bit off-putting too.

Then my neurospicy brains getstechnical, like what if the stuff they want to do to me is not of my liking? What if they're not that great at it? What if there's no sexual chemistry? What's the context?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
10 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Good god you’re sexy!!!

I really wanna put my tongue up your asshole

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By *r John WickMan
10 weeks ago

The Continental

It’s worked for me once.

But………..she asked me what I’d do to her if I was there right now. She was impressed by my suggestions, I was invited round to make good on the promise.

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
10 weeks ago

Cannock


"Good god you’re sexy!!!

I really wanna put my tongue up your asshole "

😂😂😂 I knew someone would say it

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
10 weeks ago

Staffordshire


"I'm as much of a hornbag as the next guy, but I do find that approach a bit off-putting too.

Then my neurospicy brains getstechnical, like what if the stuff they want to do to me is not of my liking? What if they're not that great at it? What if there's no sexual chemistry? What's the context? "

Yeah, we’d just gag and tie you up.

You can have all the doubts you like as long as we can’t hear you

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
10 weeks ago

Staffordshire


"Good god you’re sexy!!!

I really wanna put my tongue up your asshole

😂😂😂 I knew someone would say it"

I blame the tub of haribos I’ve just eaten.

Sugar overload!

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago


"I'm as much of a hornbag as the next guy, but I do find that approach a bit off-putting too.

Then my neurospicy brains getstechnical, like what if the stuff they want to do to me is not of my liking? What if they're not that great at it? What if there's no sexual chemistry? What's the context?

Yeah, we’d just gag and tie you up.

You can have all the doubts you like as long as we can’t hear you "

Is that a promise? 😍

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By *ornycouga OP   Woman
10 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat


"I'm as much of a hornbag as the next guy, but I do find that approach a bit off-putting too.

Then my neurospicy brains getstechnical, like what if the stuff they want to do to me is not of my liking? What if they're not that great at it? What if there's no sexual chemistry? What's the context? "

There speaks the voice of experience

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By *ornycouga OP   Woman
10 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat


"Good god you’re sexy!!!

I really wanna put my tongue up your asshole "

Well as it's you... I'll assume the position

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I used to be really flattered by someone complimenting me right off the bat, although I've never had the message of what they'd do to me straight away. But I've become a bit desensitised to those sorts of comments as they're generally just talking about my body rather than who I am as a person. Being told by someone I know what they'd do to me on the other hand...

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By *ornycouga OP   Woman
10 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat


"It’s worked for me once.

But………..she asked me what I’d do to her if I was there right now. She was impressed by my suggestions, I was invited round to make good on the promise.

"

If you told me you were going to clean my oven and descale my kettle (neither are euphemism) I'd invite you round pronto to put your money where your mouth is!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, it's flattering, but a bit naff.

As for the OP, she's great, though

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago


"I'm as much of a hornbag as the next guy, but I do find that approach a bit off-putting too.

Then my neurospicy brains getstechnical, like what if the stuff they want to do to me is not of my liking? What if they're not that great at it? What if there's no sexual chemistry? What's the context?

There speaks the voice of experience "

Or of a deranged mind who can't accept a compliment or see an opportunity. Your call. 🙃

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By *eliWoman
10 weeks ago

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It'd work for me if it was from Tom Hiddleston.

I don't know if it's something I could ever make work. Almost tempted to try it.

It's just quite... well I feel oft it's a copy and paste exercise and I'm a fleshlight. A faceless void for their cum and lust fuelled fantasies. Hardly arousing.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
10 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

‘I walk into your room as you lay naked on the bed…..’ etc etc

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By *vaRose43Woman
10 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"I used to be really flattered by someone complimenting me right off the bat, although I've never had the message of what they'd do to me straight away. But I've become a bit desensitised to those sorts of comments as they're generally just talking about my body rather than who I am as a person. Being told by someone I know what they'd do to me on the other hand... "

This.

It’s really off-putting if it’s someone I don’t know or have any connection with.

But sharing a fantasy with someone I do know and want…. That’s a different story altogether

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By *ornycouga OP   Woman
10 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat


"I used to be really flattered by someone complimenting me right off the bat, although I've never had the message of what they'd do to me straight away. But I've become a bit desensitised to those sorts of comments as they're generally just talking about my body rather than who I am as a person. Being told by someone I know what they'd do to me on the other hand... "

Particularly when they are on the way to do it 😏

Oh and just so you know I don't just objectify you... I'd Taskmaster the fuck out of you JB!!

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By *ake_or_deathMan
10 weeks ago

Manchester

I love exchanging fantasies and scenarios with people...if I'm comfortable with the person first. I'd never lead with that kind of thing and if someone decided to go with that kind of thing in message 1 I would be very surprised if I would be comfortable with that.

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By *ornycouga OP   Woman
10 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat


"It'd work for me if it was from Tom Hiddleston.

I don't know if it's something I could ever make work. Almost tempted to try it.

It's just quite... well I feel oft it's a copy and paste exercise and I'm a fleshlight. A faceless void for their cum and lust fuelled fantasies. Hardly arousing.

"

I'll fight you for Tom in a vat of jelly... Ever since I saw those hip moves on Alan Carr Chatty Man 😈

But yes, my sentiments exactly. If I could make one change on here it would be to stop the ability to cut and paste

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
10 weeks ago

Sherwood Forest

We aren't into sexting over messages at all, so its always a big put off when the conversation gets started like it

We do however like to share and give little teasing videos or pics via snapchat to our friends with benefits or those we do flirt with

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
10 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm with you HC it makes me vomit a little in my mouth, reeling off a load of shit about what "they want" to do to me having never seen my face or know the slightest but about me is just cringe.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago


"I used to be really flattered by someone complimenting me right off the bat, although I've never had the message of what they'd do to me straight away. But I've become a bit desensitised to those sorts of comments as they're generally just talking about my body rather than who I am as a person. Being told by someone I know what they'd do to me on the other hand...

Particularly when they are on the way to do it 😏

Oh and just so you know I don't just objectify you... I'd Taskmaster the fuck out of you JB!! "

I like the way you think, 5 points to HC! Bonus points are of course on offer too 😉

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By *ansoffateMan
10 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

If depends very much on the details and their style.

It's incredibly rare someone can turn me on instantly, before I've got to know them.

But those odd occasions do have a warm fuzzy place in my memory.

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By *aven.Woman
10 weeks ago

Not the North West...

It's gets zero reaction from me.

Maybe I'm desensitised to it all.

Or maybe I just don't care.

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By *r SproutMan
10 weeks ago

the middle

I would think had been drinking heavily if I got any messages like that

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

When a woman sends me one of those messages I wonder how big his dick is.

If it's a couple? I wonder when the wife (if there is one) will be home from work/shopping.

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By *uicy 2020Woman
10 weeks ago

London

Its a big nope from me, instant delete. I am a human being not a sex toy, please get to know something about me as a person x

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts

I find there is a direct correlation between how explicit the message is and how far away they’ll be when they’re meant to be meeting.

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By *ir-March-a-lotMan
10 weeks ago

london

I sometimes get messages like that in the chat rooms here. It’s usually a woman’s profile without verification or photos so like a guy. It just makes me want to log out straight away.

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By *aTina HeadTurnerWoman
10 weeks ago

Travelling

They get no reaction from me.

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By *andynecklaceWoman
10 weeks ago

West Brom

It's a huge turn off

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By *ackformore100Man
10 weeks ago

Tin town


"No not me... I'm talking about when someone you have never interacted with messages you on here and straight off the bat tells you what they want to do to you sexually (or - possibly even worse - what they want you to do to them). It makes me throw up a little in my mouth and frantically hit the delete or block button. But does this approach work for any of you lovely folk? "

Fucking hell yes.. Great profile... Oh ok. Backspaces quickly.

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Covent Garden

It sort of works for me every time because, when you reach my level of youthful advancing vintage, I become susceptible to most forms of flattery and fawning.

Therefore anything off the bat makes them 'open season' for my charm and intentions to bed them.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
10 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I particularly love the ones where they say they’re going to fuck me hard “if I can take it”….

Like they would know. Or would ever find out.

It makes me vom. Even from people I know 💯

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By *erfHerder74Man
10 weeks ago

Greenock

I’m autistic, I can appreciate and like pictures of people but I need a face to face before I could begin to think of them sexually

Messaging what they want does next to nothing

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By *imi_RougeWoman
10 weeks ago

Portsmouth

No it never works.

It's either a straight delete or they get "tldr" 😂

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By *parkle1974Woman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

Definitely not a turn on...instant delete and block x

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By *8on33Man
10 weeks ago

winfrith


"No not me... I'm talking about when someone you have never interacted with messages you on here and straight off the bat tells you what they want to do to you sexually (or - possibly even worse - what they want you to do to them). It makes me throw up a little in my mouth and frantically hit the delete or block button. But does this approach work for any of you lovely folk? "
Couldn't tell you I've certainly never approached a stranger and suggested sex .

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
10 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

“I put on my robe and wizard hat.”

.

(One for the old folks, there.)

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By *rincipessaWoman
10 weeks ago

your wildest dreams,

Delete. If they keep coming back again it’s a block

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By *orthern BeardMan
10 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

That surely can’t work for anyone

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
10 weeks ago

near Putney Heath


"I'm as much of a hornbag as the next guy, but I do find that approach a bit off-putting too.

Then my neurospicy brains getstechnical, like what if the stuff they want to do to me is not of my liking? What if they're not that great at it? What if there's no sexual chemistry? What's the context? "

My autistic brain always goes....I have no frame of reference as to whether I like them doing whatever it is they want to do. Vague and no context and my brain forgets being horny. lol!

Also it takes the fun out of the exploration and experimenting and discovering together!!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
10 weeks ago

near Putney Heath


"I’m autistic, I can appreciate and like pictures of people but I need a face to face before I could begin to think of them sexually

Messaging what they want does next to nothing "

same... Also how can I approach first off so sexually explicit to someone when I've never even seen their body or know what they like.

Too self-conscious to think of potentially offering something that a person doesn't like....cringe...vom.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
10 weeks ago

Lincoln

People we've never interacted with, no, it's a bit weird (let's be honest they're targeted at K 😅). People we've chatted with before? Yeah sure, drop some smut in our box

LvM

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By *herry delightWoman
10 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I find it refreshing when I get a message saying what they want to do, I get soooo bored of the small talk about that half the time I have moved on.

After all this is a sex site not a dating site.

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By *mf123Man
10 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I want to bum you in the anus with the first 3 inches hoping uranus gets lock jaw

You mean that kind of thing?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
10 weeks ago

Tamworth

Loathe it. I struggle to connect with someone sexually if we’ve not yet met. It’s only once I have a sense of the person that’s it’s anything other than abstract.

Plus it’s a red flag for them only being interested in their own enjoyment and often indicates someone who’s not looking to actually meet.

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By *ou only live onceMan
10 weeks ago

London

I need to up my "oooh, the things I'd do chat" - less of the waffle on niff-naff, and more of the Mills & Boon.

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By *irthandgirthMan
10 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Its not something I do when I speak to people.. I think the only time it's appropriate is when you whisper it in their ear.. if you know them.

A lot of the time it's a rundown of whatever porn fantasy they have running through their mind, and they just substitute the message recipient in as a set of body parts/orifices.

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