FabSwingers.com forum: What stops you

By *iker Jack OP Man
3 days ago

Wolverhampton

What stops you doing something you really want?

Maybe you think the money could be spent better elsewhere or no money

Maybe you don’t think you can take the risk right now

Maybe you’re worried you may not like it or you may actually like it

What stops you doing something you’ve always wanted to or do you just do it anyway?

Have you ever done something you always wanted but found the reality of it wasn’t worth the wait?

And it’s not all sexual things either

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By *nickeringWoman
3 days ago

Coleshill

sometimes anxiety

sometimes cost

sometimes lack of motivation

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By *ucka39Man
3 days ago

Newcastle

Hasn't been thoroughly thought out would stop me

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By *elix SightedMan
3 days ago

Cloud 8

I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.

And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.

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By *IXEN200Woman
3 days ago

newcastle upon tyne

Fear of failure stops me doing something

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By *iker Jack OP Man
3 days ago

Wolverhampton

"Fear of failure stops me doing something "

There’s a saying

Better to try and fail

Than fail to try

But I understand totally

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 days ago

S. Herts

"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.

And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream."

I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.

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By *iker Jack OP Man
3 days ago

Wolverhampton

"sometimes anxiety

sometimes cost

sometimes lack of motivation "

Motivation I get. Sometimes I just can’t be bothered

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By *iker Jack OP Man
3 days ago

Wolverhampton

"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.

And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.

I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo. "

Has this thread just set up two potential travel partners.

I’m like a proud uncle right now 🤣

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By *a LunaWoman
3 days ago

South

Fear of making a mistake.

I tend to rush into things without always thinking about the consequences.

Familiarity. I like routine and knowing what is around the corner. Until I don’t. But I wouldn’t risk that unless I was certain of the outcome.

Lack of spare money.

Responsibility- to my mum, my children and my 3 dogs.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
3 days ago

Tamworth

If I really want it, I do it.

Things that stop me doing as much as I’d like are time, money and dog care!

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By *iker Jack OP Man
3 days ago

Wolverhampton

"Fear of making a mistake.

I tend to rush into things without always thinking about the consequences.

Familiarity. I like routine and knowing what is around the corner. Until I don’t. But I wouldn’t risk that unless I was certain of the outcome.

Lack of spare money.

Responsibility- to my mum, my children and my 3 dogs."

I understand responsibility totally

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By *iker Jack OP Man
3 days ago

Wolverhampton

"If I really want it, I do it.

Things that stop me doing as much as I’d like are time, money and dog care! "

Take the Frenchie with you. They’d like a day out 😂

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By *aprica2Couple
3 days ago

Addlestone

Usually my sensible adult head now, although more motorcycles would be nice 😂

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By *nickeringWoman
3 days ago

Coleshill

"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.

And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.

I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo. "

its hard on your own, especially if you go somewhere exciting - who do you point all the things out to ?? yep - its ok to go away and just veg but an exciting holiday you need people to share the joy and fun with

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By *iker Jack OP Man
3 days ago

Wolverhampton

"Usually my sensible adult head now, although more motorcycles would be nice 😂"

I am just in negotiations for a third

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
3 days ago

Tamworth

"If I really want it, I do it.

Things that stop me doing as much as I’d like are time, money and dog care!

Take the Frenchie with you. They’d like a day out 😂"

He’s a massive pain 😂

The plan is to get another camper and go to places he can come too.

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By *elix SightedMan
3 days ago

Cloud 8

"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.

And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.

I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.

Exactly! I feel like I’d stare at some grand scenic view and think “Yea so that’s nice” and then walk off. Probably take a shit selfie which I’ll delete after a week.

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By *tacey78Woman
3 days ago

London

Maybe set up a fab holiday social club for singles?

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By *iker Jack OP Man
3 days ago

Wolverhampton

"If I really want it, I do it.

Things that stop me doing as much as I’d like are time, money and dog care!

Take the Frenchie with you. They’d like a day out 😂

He’s a massive pain 😂

The plan is to get another camper and go to places he can come too. "

He can sit up front and look and plan the route

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By *elix SightedMan
3 days ago

Cloud 8

"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.

And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.

I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.

Has this thread just set up two potential travel partners.

I’m like a proud uncle right now 🤣"

😆😆😆

C’mon cousin Glow, let’s go up the Amazon…..

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By *nickeringWoman
3 days ago

Coleshill

"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.

And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.

I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.

Exactly! I feel like I’d stare at some grand scenic view and think “Yea so that’s nice” and then walk off. Probably take a shit selfie which I’ll delete after a week."

i have months worth of photos on a life trip abroad for 9 months - and have hardly shown anyone - that was a trip on my own, i really enjoyed it but who cares

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By *cnugatugMan
3 days ago

Chatham

My a.d.d stops me on alot of things ill decide im going to save for say download festival ill stick with it for a week or two then ill just forget about saving for that and decide ill want a new phone but same thing happens I forget what I was saving for or ill get distracted by something new

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 days ago

S. Herts

"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.

And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.

I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.

Has this thread just set up two potential travel partners.

I’m like a proud uncle right now 🤣

😆😆😆

C’mon cousin Glow, let’s go up the Amazon….."

Is that a euphemism Felix?

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By *eordie-nufcMan
3 days ago

Peterlee

"Fear of failure stops me doing something "

Same here

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By *elix SightedMan
3 days ago

Cloud 8

"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.

And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.

I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.

Has this thread just set up two potential travel partners.

I’m like a proud uncle right now 🤣

😆😆😆

C’mon cousin Glow, let’s go up the Amazon…..

Is that a euphemism Felix? "

You know me so well!! 😆

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By *orny PTMan
3 days ago

Peterborough

"I like going away on holidays but only want to go with other people, so I can’t have a holiday to somewhere nice until I have someone to share it with.

And please don’t say “You should just do it, I go away on my own all the time” etc etc. if I hear that again I’ll scream.

I’m the same. There are places I’d like to visit but I don’t want to go alone. I just wouldn’t enjoy it solo.

Has this thread just set up two potential travel partners.

I’m like a proud uncle right now 🤣

😆😆😆

C’mon cousin Glow, let’s go up the Amazon….."

Aah! "The kiddies' play area syndrome"

Sometimes you can play there on your own: slides and climbing frames.

Swings are solo play equipment and also work well with a friend.

Roundabouts, seesaws and witch's hats are absolutely useless without someone else to get things moving, ie pushing, pulling and jumping.

Meanwhile for the adults...

A landline is useless without another talker on the other end. Mobile phones can exist without a single word being spoken.

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By *agatoXXXMan
3 days ago

North Haverbrook

Mostly my physical (in)ability.

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By *aven.Woman
3 days ago

Not the North West...

Usually my head

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By *rimal InstinctCouple
3 days ago

Carlisle

"sometimes anxiety

sometimes cost

sometimes lack of motivation "

This.

Also a lot of the times the lack of childcare.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
3 days ago

Wirral

Apathy.

If it's something I REALLY want to do then I'm doing it. If it's something I kind-of want to do then apathy will have me coming up with random excuses why I can't.

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By *miler6969Man
3 days ago

Warwickshire

"sometimes anxiety

sometimes cost

sometimes lack of motivation "

You need someone to support you in your goals x

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By *oeBeansMan
3 days ago

Derby

Fear of failure or fearing it won't be a success straight away and I'll have wasted time going back to the beginning or being worse off than when I started.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
3 days ago

Birmingham

Anxiety, cost, thinking I don't deserve it, laziness

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By *adyBugsWoman
3 days ago

cognito

Nothing really. I tend to do whatever I want, I don’t want to get old and have regrets of not doing things.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
3 days ago

couple, us we him her.

I really want to start running again but have a fucked up back 20m or so and I'm pretty much on my knees.

So recently taken up walking, well rambling actually

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By *cottish guy 555Man
3 days ago

London

I'm so lacking in motivation and suffering from such apathy sometimes I can't even finish a

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By *ittlebirdWoman
3 days ago

The Big Smoke

Absolutely nothing. Hence my auto-biography How did I get into this shit again 🤣

I literally have no filter and no fear 😘

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
3 days ago

Essex

Very often - time.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
3 days ago

Solihull

Responsibilities

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By *lue RascalMan
3 days ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

Occasionally it’s this little furry thing that makes me pick up her shit everyday.

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By *929Man
3 days ago

newcastle

Nothing if I really wanted to do something I would just do it

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By *lowloadandgocoupleCouple
3 days ago

ferrybank

Timing..always bad fucking timing

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By *enfleetMaleMan
3 days ago

Hadleigh

I stay in my safe space where I know the outcome and have no problems brought to me. I'm able to predict what's coming and prepare for it. Doing something I've always wanted to do would mean leaving comfort zone and at the moment that's all I have.

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By *ellhungvweMan
3 days ago

Cheltenham

If I want to do something then I will generally roll the dice and give it a go.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
3 days ago

North Yorkshire

Lack of funds.

Having to pace myself in order to avoid burnout.

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By *oydykeWoman
3 days ago

Southampton (they/them)

Money is one reason why I don’t do a lot of things

But the main reason is anxiety ! I used to have such severe anxiety and I’ve worked so hard on it and now it’s manageable but I still don’t do stuff because of the fear of being perceived. It’s more the fear of being perceived by family members, tho.

I also have massive trust issues and hypochondria that stop me doing stuff that’s thrill seeking/adrenaline

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By *elix SightedMan
3 days ago

Cloud 8

"Occasionally it’s this little furry thing that makes me pick up her shit everyday. "

Talk to your daughter about laser hair removal.

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By *inxy777Woman
3 days ago

essex

Money and no one to go with! 🤷‍♀️😂

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By *ad NannaWoman
3 days ago

East London

My musculoskeletal problems mostly.

Also, my fear of flying and travelling alone.

Being poor.

My nervous system.

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By *searchingMan
3 days ago

hmmm

I always seem to find a way of getting in my own way. Just happens

I’m sure I’d accomplish a fraction more if I won the lottery though

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By *ellroseWoman
3 days ago

Solihull

"I always seem to find a way of getting in my own way. Just happens

I’m sure I’d accomplish a fraction more if I won the lottery though"

Would you share the winnings

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By *eliWoman
3 days ago

Myself. Well, doubts and uncertainties. And time. That's a very precious resource to me.

I'm recently more fond of going for it. Embracing life and not making excuses. Now I have another date in the making with someone I think is rather lovely. Sometimes it's good to go for it. Try it and see what happens (resources allowing).

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By *lex46TV/TS
3 days ago

Near Wells

Having enough money and time stops me thinking about doing those things.

But if I really want to do it, I’ll find both of those and go ahead. Maybe I just don’t want those other things enough.

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By *ornycougaWoman
3 days ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Nothing really. I do pretty much exactly what I want to do, cutting my coat according to my cloth. If it doesn't work out (nothing hasn't so far), then I'd just go and do something else instead.

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By *ot.a.murdererWoman
3 days ago

Banbury

My health stops me from doing much physical these days

My mental health stops me from doing ANYTHING fun, I have severe agoraphobia and can't go more than two streets away from home without panic attacks, so that's very limiting

Money stops me from doing a lot, my partner steals from me so they can buy beer and tobacco and energy drinks, so I'm left with maybe £100 a month if I'm lucky?

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By *oubleswing2019Man
2 days ago

Colchester

Nothing has ever stopped me doing what I want. I'm single-minded in my pursuit of things I wish to pursue. Has everything always worked out ? Of course not. Do I regret anything ? Non, je ne regrette rien.

The only regrets I have ever had are for things I didn't do, not things I did.

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