FabSwingers.com forum: First message

By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

What are people's first message to someone on here to engage in conversation?

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

It’s usually if I get a fab on a pic I thank them and ask them how they are

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

It would be different for everyone so that's not something I could answer in here. Soz.

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By *iker JackMan
9 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

FAF

Honestly though it depends on a physical attraction, something on their profile or a forum post

There’s not a 1 stop answer for messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I like to make a lasting impression.

So I usually start with a minge pic.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Something specific to something they've said that prompted me to reach out to them in the first place.

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By *imples24Man
9 weeks ago

tamworth

I usually read their profile and mention something about that or their interests etc

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By *ah HumbugMan
9 weeks ago

here and there

I just smile and they run away

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Herts

Hello are you (insert parameters of latest asbo or restraining order)?

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By *pthillMan
9 weeks ago

helens

"What are people's first message to someone on here to engage in conversation? "

No matter what you start with

The majority of people are ignorant and arrogant

Especially the women

Maybe its that im repulsive to them

I don’t know or care

But politeness is a virtue

Being horrible for no reason isn’t

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By *idnightMuseWoman
9 weeks ago

Dreamville

16 digit card number, expiry date and CVC

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By *eyond PurityCouple
9 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Just be respectful.

However, most of the time we look at the profile and pics first and if they aren’t appealing what is written in the message is irrelevant.

A message, to us, is an invite to view your profile and pics.

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By *iker JackMan
9 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"What are people's first message to someone on here to engage in conversation?

No matter what you start with

The majority of people are ignorant and arrogant

Especially the women

Maybe its that im repulsive to them

I don’t know or care

But politeness is a virtue

Being horrible for no reason isn’t "

Ignorant or arrogant or just don’t see an attraction on any level and are not obliged to reply?

Remember it works both ways. You don’t have to reply to messages either

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Being horrible for no reason isn't a virtue. But declaring the majority of people ignorant and arrogant is bang on I reckon 💜

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By *eckme70Man
9 weeks ago

Strabane

"I like to make a lasting impression.

So I usually start with a minge pic."

That'll definitely get a response 🤤😈

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By *idnightMuseWoman
9 weeks ago

Dreamville

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Hi, I'm Tina Titz - no autographs, sorry

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By *ascaIMan
9 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

"What are people's first message to someone on here to engage in conversation?

No matter what you start with

The majority of people are ignorant and arrogant

Especially the women

Maybe its that im repulsive to them

I don’t know or care

But politeness is a virtue

Being horrible for no reason isn’t "

Hopefully this helps with any future messages 🤞🏻

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
9 weeks ago

Reading

I like some reference to my profile. I have made it easy by listing what I like. If we don't share a single interest i doubt we will get on.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Something specific to something they've said that prompted me to reach out to them in the first place."

For example....

"Bugger me....you leave it til summer is over and folk are putting the central heating on to post a nude? Bejeezus!!! 😮😮😮🥶🥶"

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
9 weeks ago

Lincoln

How's about a nosh on this?

[Attach twelve identical dick pics]

Sixty percent of the time it works... some of the time 😎

LvM

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
9 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"What are people's first message to someone on here to engage in conversation?

No matter what you start with

The majority of people are ignorant and arrogant

Especially the women

Maybe its that im repulsive to them

I don’t know or care

But politeness is a virtue

Being horrible for no reason isn’t "

Jesus fuck, you will need to smear as much dogshit from your local park onto the biggest stock you can wield, for you Sir are going to need it to keep the chicks off.

Picture Gandalf and his staff when he bangs it into the ground and the light shines.

That'll be you buddy. No doubt one or two of them will still slip past and into your inbox. But choose wisely. You are the chosen one.

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By *lim_bbcMan
9 weeks ago

barking

"It’s usually if I get a fab on a pic I thank them and ask them how they are "

Lol using that

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By *agatoXXXMan
9 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

"What are people's first message to someone on here to engage in conversation? "

Never had one.

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By *cnugatugMan
9 weeks ago

Chatham

That would be giving my secret away my good man and I can't have everyone using my ideas

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"What are people's first message to someone on here to engage in conversation? "

Mine's usually a 750-words essay on current intersectional gender politics and chaos theory.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"I usually read their profile and mention something about that or their interests etc"

That's what I usually do but hardly ever works

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By *imples24Man
9 weeks ago

tamworth

"I usually read their profile and mention something about that or their interests etc

That's what I usually do but hardly ever works "

Tbf mate what I’ve gathered so far from my own experience here and from reading the forums. There are too many single men and these women are hounded with hundreds of messages so it’s hard enough getting a message read and a reply is like gold dust but we keep plodding on 🤣🤷‍♂️

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"I usually read their profile and mention something about that or their interests etc

That's what I usually do but hardly ever works

I have noticed that since I was last on here.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Central

It's always unique to them, as you'd naturally expect

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By *nickeringWoman
9 weeks ago

Coleshill

"Something specific to something they've said that prompted me to reach out to them in the first place.

For example....

"Bugger me....you leave it til summer is over and folk are putting the central heating on to post a nude? Bejeezus!!! 😮😮😮🥶🥶""

haha that would make me laugh

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
9 weeks ago

Stoke

I send a fanny pic, Mr sends a dick pic, then we say how's you, yous are looking great, then we'll send a wink and a random friends request. If we don't hear anything back in 20 minutes we'll send another asking why they're not interested? Followed by another 4 messages after an hour.

Just our way of doing it.

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By *odders88Man
9 weeks ago

Northampton

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By *odders88Man
9 weeks ago

Northampton

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By *odders88Man
9 weeks ago

Northampton

Usually a picture of my Corey next to a fun sized can of Fanta

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By *andadbodMan
9 weeks ago

Liverpool

I don’t message first, if anyone wants to chat or meet they find me 😊

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By *aven.Woman
9 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I seduce them with my awesome personality

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By *illy IdolMan
9 weeks ago

Midlands

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By *illy IdolMan
9 weeks ago

Midlands

I was never any good at first messages, so I stopped. What I have found out since is that women are no better.

It's only couples who seem to have mastered this art and put some thought into them.

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By *ellroseWoman
9 weeks ago

Brum

I don’t send them 🤣

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

FAF works 💯

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

"FAF works 💯"

FAF ?

😈

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

It doesn't matter what your first message says if your profile pic is as appealing as a decaying frankfurter.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
9 weeks ago

Tamworth

"I was never any good at first messages, so I stopped. What I have found out since is that women are no better.

It's only couples who seem to have mastered this art and put some thought into them.

Two heads...?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
9 weeks ago

Tamworth

No set message - I respond to whatever has attracted me about their profile.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
9 weeks ago

London

"oi you"

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By *ir-March-a-lotMan
9 weeks ago

london

No longer send them as they get lost amongst the 100s women get in a day.

When I used to send them it was about something I’ve read on their profile.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"FAF works 💯

FAF ?

😈"

You got it 😈

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By *enfleetMaleMan
9 weeks ago

Hadleigh

I usually start with "How's you" and attach a close up dick pic.

It works 9 times out of 10 and the women can't get enough of it.

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By *aldandWellhung71Man
9 weeks ago

Fabville.

I never receive messages full stop.

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By *electableicecreamMan
9 weeks ago

The West

I rarely send messages so if I do it's because I have a good reason beyond 'I'd smash'.

Honestly I think that's all the information anyone needs.

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By *rey NomadMan
9 weeks ago

Calne

"I like to make a lasting impression.

So I usually start with a minge pic."

Classy 😉

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
9 weeks ago

Cheshire

Deleting your message without a reply is a response. Although at times we do reply with a simple not for us thanks and it's surprising how many guys are just grateful of that.

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By *oney HoneyWoman
9 weeks ago

York

It’s very very rare that I will message someone first, but when I do message someone, I read their profile carefully first, look at their pics, and then I try to say something that shows an interest in them and what they have said or shown from their profile.

Too many of the messages I get from men are just “hey, how are you?” Or worse “fancy a fuck” and it’s boring and I just delete.

I have noticed that couples make much more effort.

Also I absolutely hate when a message is cut and paste and you know they have sent it to loads of people.

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By *oney HoneyWoman
9 weeks ago

York

"I usually start with "How's you" and attach a close up dick pic.

It works 9 times out of 10 and the women can't get enough of it."

This had my laughing out loud. You don’t know how many men actually think this is going to work?!

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By *oney HoneyWoman
9 weeks ago

York

"I send a fanny pic, Mr sends a dick pic, then we say how's you, yous are looking great, then we'll send a wink and a random friends request. If we don't hear anything back in 20 minutes we'll send another asking why they're not interested? Followed by another 4 messages after an hour.

Just our way of doing it. "

Brilliant! It works so well doesn’t it! I just love looking at all those random dicks in my inbox!!

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
9 weeks ago

Cheshire

Oh avoid the hows fab treating you. Literally just had another one slide to the top of the pile.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
9 weeks ago

Colchester

I rarely msg posters out of the blue, and if I do it's typically in relation to something they have posted in a forum.

I actively avoid commenting on their photos as that's just not my style, and I feel uncomfortable giving such compliments.

(I'll make a comment about a thing, but not the person, eg, Mrs DS dyed her hair earlier. I did not say, "YOU look good/nice/whatever". I said "That colour is good." I try to de-objectivise.

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By *oney HoneyWoman
9 weeks ago

York

"Oh avoid the hows fab treating you. Literally just had another one slide to the top of the pile. "

Yes, it’s nearly as bad as “how is your evening/ weekend”

Hope you two are keeping sexy!! Always smile when I see you in the forums!

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
9 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Oh avoid the hows fab treating you. Literally just had another one slide to the top of the pile.

Yes, it’s nearly as bad as “how is your evening/ weekend”

Hope you two are keeping sexy!! Always smile when I see you in the forums! "

It's always good when you bump into a person on the forum you have met in the flesh.

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By *eroLondonMan
9 weeks ago

Covent Garden

I sometimes pen a sonnet for them or a stanza, 'enough to whet their appetite and pique their curiosities.

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By *electableicecreamMan
9 weeks ago

The West

"It’s very very rare that I will message someone first, but when I do message someone, I read their profile carefully first, look at their pics, and then I try to say something that shows an interest in them and what they have said or shown from their profile.

Too many of the messages I get from men are just “hey, how are you?” Or worse “fancy a fuck” and it’s boring and I just delete.

I have noticed that couples make much more effort.

Also I absolutely hate when a message is cut and paste and you know they have sent it to loads of people.

I think pretty much every message I get from a woman or a couple is a simple 'hey how are you' or something like that. I don't mind at all and I think that's in part to not getting so many of the same thing that it becomes repetitive.

Also they generally come from people with decent profiles which, for me, carries a lot more weight than the message

Any opening messages I send wouldn't be more than a couple of lines.

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By *ougarsilkWoman
9 weeks ago

Pleasure heaven

I very rarely send a first message. However for the ones I have it could be because they've viewed my profile and have a gorgeous chest or decent profile write up.

Profiles that are all of dic pics tho I cba to message I'm more intrigued by what is above the waist

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
9 weeks ago

Cheshire

Most women and couples get A LOT of messages and we have a little filtering system basically no profile picture , no response

Also shit profile no info, no veries , no response

When I was a single female I always noticed the funny ones

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By *hornyx69Man
9 weeks ago

down south and up north

I start with hi great profile would you be interested in chatting see if we have a connection

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