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"Cheers guys. Was looking in the forum chat on “verifications” people have posted about meet ups just for verification. Thanks for your advice " I think they're just saying to go to clubs and organised socials and you'll meet people there who will verify you. A mass meeting of only unverified people would mean no-one could leave a verification. If one or two verified people showed up to a specifically just to verify meetup they have to do one for everyone. And they get nothing from that. | |||
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"Agh yes that makes a lot of sense now. Always been nervous of going to a club, but guess it’s something to do and hopefully meet people there. Thanks for taking the time " There's plenty of social group meets posted outside of clubs. Normal meetups in normal public places in normal dress as an opportunity to meet new people without the nudity or pressures some people associate with clubs. | |||
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"Agh yes that makes a lot of sense now. Always been nervous of going to a club, but guess it’s something to do and hopefully meet people there. Thanks for taking the time " I prefer social events to clubs. | |||
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"Guys and girls. Do you know of any verifications meet ups happening. I think this is why I’m getting very little luck Be good if we could arrange something if nothing is already arranged " Whilst getting verified won't do any harm, I would recommend that you ensure your profile is selling you as best it can. You need to stand out from the hundreds of other single guys. Have a look at profiles of successful men for an idea. | |||
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"A verification will not change your luck" No, but it will show that he's genuine, a real person and demonstrate a modicum of commitment to his Fab journey. A verification is an attestation that should never be sniffed at. "...be pro active and put yourself out there" He is, hence this thread and any potential outcomes. "...if anything veris can have the opposite affect" Utter nonsense. And if it's true - guess what - you can hide your verifications. | |||
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" ...if anything veris can have the opposite affect Utter nonsense. And if it's true - guess what - you can hide your verifications." It's not utter nonsense, though. As someone said above, "too many" verifications can impact negatively, though not always. Each person's experience on here is unique to them  | |||
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"A verification will not change your luck, be pro active and put yourself out there, if anything veris can have the opposite affect " I had to post my shit ones to beat the air hostesses, hairdressers, beauticians and beach volleyball players off. They are pesky, those validations that I'm not a gaslighting narcissistic stalking weirdo. *Sorry I am. They are the ones I've hidden. | |||
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"A verification will not change your luck, be pro active and put yourself out there, if anything veris can have the opposite affect I had to post my shit ones to beat the air hostesses, hairdressers, beauticians and beach volleyball players off. They are pesky, those validations that I'm not a gaslighting narcissistic stalking weirdo. *Sorry I am. They are the ones I've hidden." You missed out negging 🤣 | |||
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"A verification will not change your luck, be pro active and put yourself out there, if anything veris can have the opposite affect I had to post my shit ones to beat the air hostesses, hairdressers, beauticians and beach volleyball players off. They are pesky, those validations that I'm not a gaslighting narcissistic stalking weirdo. *Sorry I am. They are the ones I've hidden. You missed out negging 🤣" Misty FFS. Don't rumble me on that front. I'm a silent negger a Snegger 😂 | |||
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" ...if anything veris can have the opposite affect Utter nonsense. And if it's true - guess what - you can hide your verifications. It's not utter nonsense, though. As someone said above, "too many" verifications can impact negatively, though not always. Each person's experience on here is unique to them "· Currently the OP has zero verifications, and yet we're already (potentially) putting him off by the 'too many verifications' paradigm. Perhaps he can cross that bridge when he comes to it. 👍🏼 | |||
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Be active, be polite, be patient I guess. X | |||
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"Guys and girls. Do you know of any verifications meet ups happening. I think this is why I’m getting very little luck Be good if we could arrange something if nothing is already arranged " As the resident newbie, here's a few observations I made in the last few weeks, since I joined. Verifications are important BUT not essential. You you have a decent profile and reach out with a decent first message, most people will be willing to at least have a chat with you (even those who state on their profile they would only talk with verified members only!): from there, it's up to you. So, I wouldn't stress too much about verifications. They will happen, naturally, as you meet people. Yes, socials and clubs are a great way to rake in verifications, so you could do those: I would advise you didn't make verifications your only reason for attending such events. You should go to a social or a club to socialize and meet people. Going about overtly seeking verifications will come across as needy/desperate. Whether you meet 1:1 or go to a social/club, just be yourself, enjoy meeting new people, have a chat, have a laugh. Don't think about, and absolutely don't mention, verifications: it's poor form. Again, they will happen, trust the process. If I were to take a guess as why you're having "little" luck, I would say it's because of your profile. I would add more pictures, set one of said pictures as a profile picture (there is a lot of diffidence against "silhouette" profiles), and add a few more lines into your bio. Up to you as to the contents. What do you like? What are you looking for? What kind of people are you looking forward to meet? Have you had lifestyle experiences before? I noticed you have quite a few friends, too! I'm not sure where are you standing with them, but maybe you could start having a chat with some of them, and maybe arranging a meet if there's some chemistry and they're reasonably local? Mind you, you will never be able to please everyone, so just be earnest. Some will naturally like you, some won't. There is no trying to pander/cater to everyone, so just be natural and whoever's meant to click with you, will. Just my 2 cents. | |||
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"A verification will not change your luck, be pro active and put yourself out there, if anything veris can have the opposite affect " This. I’ve met people who are verified and they’ve been a bit of a twat and I’ve not seen them again. I’ve met non verified people and got on like a house on fire. The key is patience (lots of it), remember people are human beings and treat them as such (not a free h0oker), read profiles and see if you have things in common before contacting them (no point contacting someone if you like wedging lemons up your arse but they think it’s gross), manners cost nothing but are often forgotten and no reply is a reply, don’t chase for a response, just quietly move on. And organised group socials are a great way to meet new people if you can be confident enough to talk in person to people, not cocky though cos that can be really off putting. Good luck OP! | |||
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"Thanks guys n girls. Great advice. " Oh or go on the cameras and someone might chat with you and be happy to verify you. | |||
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"Hey thanks for advice and taken on board. Yes it’s very saturated with single guys and I guess it’s hard to pick the genuine ones out from the fake lying ones. Hence why I wanted to be verified so at least people that are looking. At least know I’m genuine and been honest about who and what I am. If that makes sense. Thank you for taking the time to reply x" A verification just says you're a certain gender and turned up to a meet. There may be some additional fluff but essentially that's all they are. I doubt there's any 'fake' single guys on here. Possibly many playing away, but they're all 'genuine' in terms of being men. You still have to put the leg work in in terms of your profile, your contact strategy and approach, and most importantly your behaviour and showing your personality. Just because someone has a green tick it won't guarantee to make them more desirable to other people. | |||
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