FabSwingers.com forum: can somebody please tell me

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do some guys get the hump!?

i have been talking to a guy and arranged to meet, but i got ill and had to cancel.

He got mardy and said in done chasing women! I then explained what was wrong and arranged to meet this Monday, I've been working all day and not had time to text him, but he has text me asking why i haven't spoke to him or if I've met someone else!

And now he is being mardy again! Am i in the wrong or is he just a little bit clingy!?

i don't like letting people down but its putting me off meeting him now and I'm not sure how to go about this!

please help!

thanks x

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

think I'd be abit concerned about this as well .. does sound a wee bit OTT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooeerrr he sounds too clingy!!! Sounds like you will have to tell him you have a life other than here..

Good luck if you meet him.xx

Elle

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Delete, block and move on, He sounds like a bunny boiler.

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

Say no thanks.. Block..get another

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Fancy a drink sometime????

If you cant make it i will understand and we can plan it again...any time

Just ignore him

He will calm down. Maybe he has taken some viagra and was expecting some action

You got plenty to pick from here, and you can still try him if he calm down

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"Why do some guys get the hump!?

i have been talking to a guy and arranged to meet, but i got ill and had to cancel.

And now he is being mardy again! Am i in the wrong or is he just a little bit clingy!?

i don't like letting people down but its putting me off meeting him now and I'm not sure how to go about this!

please help!

thanks x

"
abort abort abort

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I would say, "I don't do relationship crap, and this is relationship crap." Then leave him to think about it.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Far too clingy.....

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Holly shit....Poppy is that your body???

Block that guy and let talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks! I just don't like being rude and i feel bed for blocking! I'm too soft! And daft! but its getting on my nerves now! I wont b meeting him! X

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By *erbyGuy76Man
over a year ago

Derby

I'd say the warning signs are all there for the future as well.....

If Fab has one thing, it's plenty of available, geniune and possibly un-weird single guys.. move forever onwards and upwards!

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Thanks! I just don't like being rude and i feel bed for blocking! I'm too soft! And daft! but its getting on my nerves now! I wont b meeting him! X"

Bad for blocking? The faster you learn how to block guys ( including me if i ever piss you off ) the better it will be if you want to have fun here

You are so sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well some good seems to have come out of you falling ill. Imagine what he would like after you'ld met - lucky escape!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of all you have said, it would be the 'have you met someone else ?' bit that would put me off meeting him.

He sounds a little confused about the principles surrounding 'swinging' as a single.

Only you can decide which way to turn but I would certainly exercise some caution in meeting again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks! I just don't like being rude and i feel bed for blocking! I'm too soft! And daft! but its getting on my nerves now! I wont b meeting him! X"

You will get tougher the longer you are on here I did x

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Thanks! I just don't like being rude and i feel bed for blocking! I'm too soft! And daft! but its getting on my nerves now! I wont b meeting him! X

You will get tougher the longer you are on here I did x"

How tough are you now??? Time to test you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeh i think i did have a lucky escape!

the thing is he has my number...

when i gave him my number he was not like this at all! He was nice, and no way clingy! But it seems he has gone to the dark side lol

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By *oxerjoshleeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Why do some guys get the hump!?

i have been talking to a guy and arranged to meet, but i got ill and had to cancel.

And now he is being mardy again! Am i in the wrong or is he just a little bit clingy!?

i don't like letting people down but its putting me off meeting him now and I'm not sure how to go about this!

please help!

thanks x

Sounds like a wrong un. At least you found out what he's like early enough to avoid him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks! I just don't like being rude and i feel bed for blocking! I'm too soft! And daft! but its getting on my nerves now! I wont b meeting him! X"

It is OK blocking him, but he still has your mobile number !

If he does contact you by text, I would suggest telling him why you did block him in a message so he is aware of just what he did wrong.

He may well get mardy again, but then again the 'not knowing why' is likely to eat at him more than being told why he is blocked.

Then block his number too

Don't feel bad for going with gut instinct and choosing who YOU want to meet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

it is far, far better to be safe than sorry in these situations. In 99.9% of cases a guy who gets like this will be a pain in the arse at the very best and a dangerous fool at the worst. Don't be afraid to threaten him with the law if he uses your number to harrass you.

PS time to buy a cheap pay as you go "fuck phone"

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

PS time to buy a cheap pay as you go "fuck phone"

Best advise

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

If you haven't met the guy before, turn up for the meet and then realise he really isn't for you I can't see that he is going to deal with that very well. You don't owe him anything. Tell him his attitude has made you uncomfortable and you no longer want to meet him. Plenty of other fairly sane lovlies on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"it is far, far better to be safe than sorry in these situations. In 99.9% of cases a guy who gets like this will be a pain in the arse at the very best and a dangerous fool at the worst. Don't be afraid to threaten him with the law if he uses your number to harrass you.

PS time to buy a cheap pay as you go "fuck phone"

love it ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some guys get the hump!?

i have been talking to a guy and arranged to meet, but i got ill and had to cancel.

And now he is being mardy again! Am i in the wrong or is he just a little bit clingy!?

i don't like letting people down but its putting me off meeting him now and I'm not sure how to go about this!

please help!

thanks x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

PS time to buy a cheap pay as you go "fuck phone"

love it ! Lol

yes but I'm serious, if you have a PAYG phone and only use that number for meets then if someone gets dodgy you just get a new sim card

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

"If you haven't met the guy before, turn up for the meet and then realise he really isn't for you I can't see that he is going to deal with that very well. You don't owe him anything. Tell him his attitude has made you uncomfortable and you no longer want to meet him. Plenty of other fairly sane lovlies on here

and if you dont feel safe take a mate with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shaking my head for you OP

Since meeting someone on here and saying I'm not meeting certain men on my friends list now have the hump

Grrrrrrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some guys get the hump!?

i have been talking to a guy and arranged to meet, but i got ill and had to cancel.

And now he is being mardy again! Am i in the wrong or is he just a little bit clingy!?

i don't like letting people down but its putting me off meeting him now and I'm not sure how to go about this!

please help!

thanks x

being honest.

i wouldnt bother meeting him block and move on if hes getting the hump now can u imagne what its like when u meet him

( her a)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol well he has just text me 6 times since i posted this thread and now he is being a bit mean! I've not said anything horrible I've just said ur to clingy!

I've blocked him on here but he just wont stop texting me!!

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By *oxerjoshleeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Fact is most men are selfish delusional pricks. Keep the faith tho we're not all bad

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

If you have an android phone download Mr number and you can block his number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes he probably is desperate and has been in this position a few times an excuse has been made and the meet never happens.

You have cancelled due to illness but have gone to work and maybe he does not buy it and thinks your stringing him along.

Has he had many meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid is my advice, what's he goon be like after you meet him ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some guys get the hump!?

i have been talking to a guy and arranged to meet, but i got ill and had to cancel.

And now he is being mardy again! Am i in the wrong or is he just a little bit clingy!?

i don't like letting people down but its putting me off meeting him now and I'm not sure how to go about this!

please help!

thanks x

im sorry but if i sniff mardy or clingy before even a social meet, thats the end for me. you explained and if a guy genuinely wants to meet, he would wait a while longer before getting the hump

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He has had one meet but not recent. He says " your loss i would of treated u sooooo well!"

I've been to work as nobody could cover my shift and i don't get paid sick pay, it takes a chunk out my wages if i have time off n i cant afford it i did explain tht too! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He has had one meet but not recent. He says " your loss i would of treated u sooooo well!"

I've been to work as nobody could cover my shift and i don't get paid sick pay, it takes a chunk out my wages if i have time off n i cant afford it i did explain tht too! X"

I am not doubting what you say sounds like he is desperate then.

Love the line about treating you well lucky escape....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Never justify your decision to cancel, you gave notice and that should be enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends...was this from match.com?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

actually, never justify anything you decide within your preferences and choices to play or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are born to be mardy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS time to buy a cheap pay as you go "fuck phone"

Best advise

Quite agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men are born to be mardy

Not all men are

x I get turned down all the time and I'm still happy and here lol xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS time to buy a cheap pay as you go "fuck phone"

Best advise

Quite agree

Who here hasn't got a fuck phone ?

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I aint got a fuck phone .. just give people my normal number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a fuck phone either. Maybe its because I only give my number to people who I have a good feeling about. Its worked perfect upto now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have a fuck phone either. Maybe its because I only give my number to people who I have a good feeling about. Its worked perfect upto now

sends random text: are ur knickers squidgy thinking of my big hard cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe in different amounts but we all get it hey

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

PS time to buy a cheap pay as you go "fuck phone"

Best advise

Quite agree

Who here hasn't got a fuck phone ? "

I don't. A work phone and personal phone are enough for me. I just don't give out my mumber

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have a fuck phone either. Maybe its because I only give my number to people who I have a good feeling about. Its worked perfect upto now

sends random text: are ur knickers squidgy thinking of my big hard cock?"

If you did have my number you would know the answer to that

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By *oxerjoshleeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Can I have this guy's number? He's desperate for a meet... I'm desperate for my first verification. He Sounds like he needs a slap.... I'd like to slap him. I think we're a perfect match

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Lol well he has just text me 6 times since i posted this thread and now he is being a bit mean! I've not said anything horrible I've just said ur to clingy!

I've blocked him on here but he just wont stop texting me!!

Don't reply, don't even read them.

Whether you choose to get another phone is up to you but please put yourself and your life before anyone you meet on here. This site is for no strings attached relationships you owe this man nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most men! His cock over rules any normal response!!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I think all of us, me included, have some internal "buttons" that make us sensitive to what we perceive as rejection. It is not a hard and fast rule, some of it has to do how we grew up, what role models we had - but either way when those buttons are pushed we respond angrily.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't like clingyness. A no means no. Txt him to say to read this thread and then tell him you will take photos of his messages and pass them to the police if he continues to contact you. It's harressment.

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