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By *idssissy OP   TV/TS
7 weeks ago

Birmingham

On this day in particular hugs to anyone suffering, contemplating it or anyone who has been affected by it.

Hope you find another answer.

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By *vaRose43Woman
7 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Numbers and websites here for help if anyone is contemplating right now… covers a huge international range

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

There are of course other websites, agencies and helplines for the uk than those mentioned here but this is a succinct easy list for fabs international membership

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By *ell GwynnWoman
7 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

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By *r John WickMan
7 weeks ago

The Continental

Hardest day to get through, aside from the day I found my brother. 🥺

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By *nickeringWoman
7 weeks ago

Coleshill


"Hardest day to get through, aside from the day I found my brother. 🥺"

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
7 weeks ago

Southampton


"Hardest day to get through, aside from the day I found my brother. 🥺"

Sending you love and hugs xx

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By *obilebottomMan
7 weeks ago

All over


"Hardest day to get through, aside from the day I found my brother. 🥺"

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By *assy69Man
7 weeks ago

West Sussex and Wales

Great big hugs to everybody, and especially to those of us that are finding life difficult xx

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By *uicy 2020Woman
7 weeks ago

London

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By *moothpussyMan
7 weeks ago

Glasgow

I lost my mother to suicide. She was in a lot of pain. I pray for her daily. I understand she wanted the physical pain to stop. I pray for anyone going through this. May you always find the light in the darkness.

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By *anchesterGuy1Man
7 weeks ago

Manchester

This is a tough day, sometimes the white noise just becomes too loud for some people and just needs to be switched off 😕

Be kind to people you never know what they are going through on the inside, a simple smile or hello can change someone's life at the point you interact with them

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By *idssissy OP   TV/TS
7 weeks ago

Birmingham

Knowing the pain it can cause those left behind causes me guilt that I still consider it as a solution.

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By *osco78Man
7 weeks ago

Sheffield

I lost one of my best friends a few years back , I know why he did it and I've never judged him , but god I wish he could have spoken up, he was and is soo loved and it still doesn't feel real , every time I hear a blur song I think about him, I still call him a nob on his Facebook from time to time too.

And then a few years later I found myself having thoughts , thankfully I got help..but it's so easy for it to happen to you....

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Mayfair

🕊️ ♥️ 🕊️

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By *opinovMan
7 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

It has been tough lately. My heart goes out to all.

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By *uckmy8inchesMan
7 weeks ago

Hemel Hempstead

I'm a trained mental health 1st aider through work as I'm in construction with a high suicide rate..... xx

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By *n the cloudsMan
7 weeks ago

warlingham

Reaching out and talking is the hardest thing to do. From my own experiences it’s also the most rewarding and makes you realise how normal it is.

You are never alone

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By *ell GwynnWoman
7 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"Knowing the pain it can cause those left behind causes me guilt that I still consider it as a solution. "

I get that. So much.

But it's not a rationally considered solution. It's desperation, anguish, exhaustion.

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By *YDB75Man
7 weeks ago

East Yorkie

Reach out…my inbox is always open

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By *opinovMan
7 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"Knowing the pain it can cause those left behind causes me guilt that I still consider it as a solution.

I get that. So much.

But it's not a rationally considered solution. It's desperation, anguish, exhaustion. "

Yes. I sometimes wonder if that's why I'm still around - even if it does almost feel rational at times.

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By *ripfillMan
7 weeks ago

havant

Thanks for posting this OP

I think society needs to be aware of the importance of this day … awareness can lead to resumed healing and growth. It just needs some one you know to know

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By *bisfunMan
7 weeks ago

sutton

This is the best post of the day by far. There’s no where near enough support in this country for mental health

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By *ell GwynnWoman
7 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"Knowing the pain it can cause those left behind causes me guilt that I still consider it as a solution.

I get that. So much.

But it's not a rationally considered solution. It's desperation, anguish, exhaustion.

Yes. I sometimes wonder if that's why I'm still around - even if it does almost feel rational at times."

It feels so very rational at the time. Knowing that it's because you're ill can be extremely difficult to keep in mind.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
7 weeks ago

Next Door


"Reaching out and talking is the hardest thing to do. From my own experiences it’s also the most rewarding and makes you realise how normal it is.

You are never alone "

Unless the person you reached to slammed the door shut in your face. Then you are totally alone.

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By *n the cloudsMan
7 weeks ago

warlingham

Wether it’s a someone you know or a professional there is always help out there.

Despite the outcome, the fact you reached out in the first place is a huge step.

Don’t let their reaction define yours.

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By *elfordstevieMan
7 weeks ago

Telford

I’ve just been through a bad flare up of PTSD. Came so close to it. Again.

Not wishing I hadn’t done it yet, but hopefully the relief will come soon.

Wishing everyone that’s struggling some positive thoughts.

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By *ansoffateMan
7 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I think one of the main contributing factors, is that it is such a social taboo to talk about suicide.

People not being able to talk about their feelings, because of how others react at such a time, can be deeply isolating, lead to shame and inhibit people from seeking support.

When I hear people say it's a cowardly act, I think: well maybe if we had more empathy there would be better support, maybe even a society that was more geared to meeting human needs, as a priority. Perhaps, then people wouldn't reach such depths of despair and desperation, so often.

The greatest sadness for me, is not just that someone ended their life, it's that they likely suffered in silence and battled with it.

It's an anniversary of someone dearly departed for me tomorrow. A person who battled with suicide many times in their life. Who recovered and then died from an aneurysm, anyway. There one day; gone the next. She was filled with joy and lust for life, but when the darkness took hold of her, it was abyssal.

People should not suffer alone, unnecessarily, or for the convenience of other people's beliefs.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
7 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"Wether it’s a someone you know or a professional there is always help out there.

Despite the outcome, the fact you reached out in the first place is a huge step.

Don’t let their reaction define yours.

"

I'm sorry, but that's just not true. There isn't the staffing or the funding in MH services to appropriately help people when they need it. I.e, BEFORE they get to the point of doing something.

I'm very grateful for the care I've received through MH services, but by God I had to fight for it. Last time I needed them, I had to wait 5 months before treatment was available. 5 months of almost constant suicide ideation. Do you know how exhausting that can be?

Fortunately, I've been well for a good couple of years now. I hope to never need that sort of help again, but given my history it is possible, and it scares me that I might have to wait that long again.

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By *opinovMan
7 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"Knowing the pain it can cause those left behind causes me guilt that I still consider it as a solution.

I get that. So much.

But it's not a rationally considered solution. It's desperation, anguish, exhaustion.

Yes. I sometimes wonder if that's why I'm still around - even if it does almost feel rational at times.

It feels so very rational at the time. Knowing that it's because you're ill can be extremely difficult to keep in mind."

It's too easy to forget, but then sometimes the balance between the things that make it worth carrying on and the lack of those things is impossible to weigh without it resulting in a deficit, especially when that lacking only ever has the prospect of becoming deeper and deeper as time passes, and everything seems to rub one's face in it. The single solutions that would resolve it one way or another seem so simple: to find and join with that soul who matches and nourishes or say to hell with it - but one is impossible and the other is unthinkable.

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By *naswingdressWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Wether it’s a someone you know or a professional there is always help out there.

Despite the outcome, the fact you reached out in the first place is a huge step.

Don’t let their reaction define yours.

I'm sorry, but that's just not true. There isn't the staffing or the funding in MH services to appropriately help people when they need it. I.e, BEFORE they get to the point of doing something.

I'm very grateful for the care I've received through MH services, but by God I had to fight for it. Last time I needed them, I had to wait 5 months before treatment was available. 5 months of almost constant suicide ideation. Do you know how exhausting that can be?

Fortunately, I've been well for a good couple of years now. I hope to never need that sort of help again, but given my history it is possible, and it scares me that I might have to wait that long again."

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By *idssissy OP   TV/TS
7 weeks ago

Birmingham


"Knowing the pain it can cause those left behind causes me guilt that I still consider it as a solution.

I get that. So much.

But it's not a rationally considered solution. It's desperation, anguish, exhaustion.

Yes. I sometimes wonder if that's why I'm still around - even if it does almost feel rational at times.

It feels so very rational at the time. Knowing that it's because you're ill can be extremely difficult to keep in mind."

Especially when you don't look ill and most people think everything is perfect with you or you are just making excuses

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By *idssissy OP   TV/TS
7 weeks ago

Birmingham


"Wether it’s a someone you know or a professional there is always help out there.

Despite the outcome, the fact you reached out in the first place is a huge step.

Don’t let their reaction define yours.

I'm sorry, but that's just not true. There isn't the staffing or the funding in MH services to appropriately help people when they need it. I.e, BEFORE they get to the point of doing something.

I'm very grateful for the care I've received through MH services, but by God I had to fight for it. Last time I needed them, I had to wait 5 months before treatment was available. 5 months of almost constant suicide ideation. Do you know how exhausting that can be?

Fortunately, I've been well for a good couple of years now. I hope to never need that sort of help again, but given my history it is possible, and it scares me that I might have to wait that long again."

Wouldn't wishy this on anyone. I live with passive suicidal thoughts daily and at the moment just hope they stay passive.

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By *uscious_Lady1Woman
7 weeks ago

Norwich

Shame there’s not more help for those struggling with MH but always remember you’re worth it, you’re wanted and you’re loved… don’t suffer in silence, there is usually always someone who’ll listen or help, just reach out

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By *ell GwynnWoman
7 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"Knowing the pain it can cause those left behind causes me guilt that I still consider it as a solution.

I get that. So much.

But it's not a rationally considered solution. It's desperation, anguish, exhaustion.

Yes. I sometimes wonder if that's why I'm still around - even if it does almost feel rational at times.

It feels so very rational at the time. Knowing that it's because you're ill can be extremely difficult to keep in mind.

Especially when you don't look ill and most people think everything is perfect with you or you are just making excuses "

Ah yes. I'm also one of the "quiet and functional" suicidal types. During DBT there was a definite difference in how we were treated by MH services compared to those who were more vocal. It definitely feels like the level of care you recieve, how seriously you're taken, depends on how much your suffering impacts on others and not on the level of pain you're in.

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By *naswingdressWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Knowing the pain it can cause those left behind causes me guilt that I still consider it as a solution.

I get that. So much.

But it's not a rationally considered solution. It's desperation, anguish, exhaustion.

Yes. I sometimes wonder if that's why I'm still around - even if it does almost feel rational at times.

It feels so very rational at the time. Knowing that it's because you're ill can be extremely difficult to keep in mind.

Especially when you don't look ill and most people think everything is perfect with you or you are just making excuses

Ah yes. I'm also one of the "quiet and functional" suicidal types. During DBT there was a definite difference in how we were treated by MH services compared to those who were more vocal. It definitely feels like the level of care you recieve, how seriously you're taken, depends on how much your suffering impacts on others and not on the level of pain you're in. "

Reminds me very much of autism in that regard.

It's the usual body/mind duality - no one would ever do that if you were calmly seeking help for cancer or a broken leg.

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By *reeneyes40Man
7 weeks ago

cambridge


"Hardest day to get through, aside from the day I found my brother. 🥺"

Dear Lord, sending love 🧡

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By *entlemanrogueMan
7 weeks ago

Motherwell


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Numbers and websites here for help if anyone is contemplating right now… covers a huge international range

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

There are of course other websites, agencies and helplines for the uk than those mentioned here but this is a succinct easy list for fabs international membership"

Thanks for this I have shared it elsewhere.

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By *opinovMan
7 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"Knowing the pain it can cause those left behind causes me guilt that I still consider it as a solution.

I get that. So much.

But it's not a rationally considered solution. It's desperation, anguish, exhaustion.

Yes. I sometimes wonder if that's why I'm still around - even if it does almost feel rational at times.

It feels so very rational at the time. Knowing that it's because you're ill can be extremely difficult to keep in mind.

Especially when you don't look ill and most people think everything is perfect with you or you are just making excuses

Ah yes. I'm also one of the "quiet and functional" suicidal types. During DBT there was a definite difference in how we were treated by MH services compared to those who were more vocal. It definitely feels like the level of care you recieve, how seriously you're taken, depends on how much your suffering impacts on others and not on the level of pain you're in.

Reminds me very much of autism in that regard.

It's the usual body/mind duality - no one would ever do that if you were calmly seeking help for cancer or a broken leg."

For me, it seems very much connected with my autism. My inability to figure out how to approach people is central to the feeling of isolation which, amongst other things, feeds how I feel in general. Amongst those other things is that I'm a synesthesiac - my senses are a bit mixed up, which I feel is also connected to my autism. Feelings of being 'down' express themselves as a physical ache engulfing my hands and spreading up my arms - when I'm really down, it becomes a debilitating pain bursting from my fingers. There are others sides to it too, like tasting some shapes when I see them (eg spheres taste like metal) and orgasms are all kinds of geometric patterns and colours, but the overriding manifestation lately has been the ache. For all the supposed 'benefits' of creativity and the like, I fucking hate being autistic for all the heartbreak it's brought me and for all the prospect of nothing but more ahead. It's difficult to ignore and really stacks the balance of how I feel overall.

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By *naswingdressWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Knowing the pain it can cause those left behind causes me guilt that I still consider it as a solution.

I get that. So much.

But it's not a rationally considered solution. It's desperation, anguish, exhaustion.

Yes. I sometimes wonder if that's why I'm still around - even if it does almost feel rational at times.

It feels so very rational at the time. Knowing that it's because you're ill can be extremely difficult to keep in mind.

Especially when you don't look ill and most people think everything is perfect with you or you are just making excuses

Ah yes. I'm also one of the "quiet and functional" suicidal types. During DBT there was a definite difference in how we were treated by MH services compared to those who were more vocal. It definitely feels like the level of care you recieve, how seriously you're taken, depends on how much your suffering impacts on others and not on the level of pain you're in.

Reminds me very much of autism in that regard.

It's the usual body/mind duality - no one would ever do that if you were calmly seeking help for cancer or a broken leg.

For me, it seems very much connected with my autism. My inability to figure out how to approach people is central to the feeling of isolation which, amongst other things, feeds how I feel in general. Amongst those other things is that I'm a synesthesiac - my senses are a bit mixed up, which I feel is also connected to my autism. Feelings of being 'down' express themselves as a physical ache engulfing my hands and spreading up my arms - when I'm really down, it becomes a debilitating pain bursting from my fingers. There are others sides to it too, like tasting some shapes when I see them (eg spheres taste like metal) and orgasms are all kinds of geometric patterns and colours, but the overriding manifestation lately has been the ache. For all the supposed 'benefits' of creativity and the like, I fucking hate being autistic for all the heartbreak it's brought me and for all the prospect of nothing but more ahead. It's difficult to ignore and really stacks the balance of how I feel overall."

I hear that (fellow autistic here).

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By *reenwheelMan
8 hours ago

Huntingdon

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By *ujadeMan
7 hours ago

North of the Wall

I think there will always be a stigma about mental illness, suicide is the biggest killer of men under 50 (numbers may have changed since I last checked)

I can fully thank my medication for my better mental state, unfortunately my memory isn't great so can definitely tell if I haven't taken it for a few days

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By *IXEN200Woman
6 hours ago

newcastle upon tyne

I've only ever made one promise in my life and that's been to my youngest daughter which was to never try to take my own life again but I still struggle at times as the thought never really leaves your head

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