FabSwingers.com forum: Can you tolerate your own company?

By *hagTonight OP Man
20 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

Are you able to be on your own for any length of time and not reach for your phone or the television the radio or anything really, to distract you from yourself?

Reading a book, going for a walk on my own. I enjoy my own company, it seems that many dont, because it seems that many are after that endorphin hit of the mobile phone, like here comes a message, who is that from, sitting and waiting for the next notification, whether it is from facebook or instagram.

I think that being one with yourself teaches you patience, the ability to let things unfold, having that ability is empowering, because I decide when I want to check it, not that instant moment.

It would be interesting to see if you can tolerate your own company. I think everyone needs to have time by themselves

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By *ostindreamsMan
20 weeks ago

London

I have been on week long solo trips. Once a month I go hiking around Wales or Lakes. I don't have trouble staying off the phone. But I have to do something.

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
20 weeks ago

St Leonards

I definitely don't tolerate my own company OP.

But I do celebrate it

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
20 weeks ago

Leeds

I enjoy my own company & a book in peace or wondering around shopping.

Mrs

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
20 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

I enjoy my own company, with a face like this it’s just as well. 🤣😂

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By *urry BlokeMan
20 weeks ago

Stalybridge

I like people around, but I like being on my own in those conditions

I'm not great with solitude, but that's different to being on my own

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By *mmaleiaWoman
20 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I prefer to be in my own company

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By *avexxMan
20 weeks ago

cheshire

i think we all need are own company from time to time,,, dont get me wrong i do like people around me i do like to chat

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By *ell GwynnWoman
20 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I love being on my own, actively crave it, but I do need to be doing something because I'm an overthinker.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Left on my own I develop Stockholm Syndrome

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By *illy IdolMan
20 weeks ago

Midlands

Is reading a book not a distraction?

I enjoy a walk in my own company, but I don't like being alone for too long.

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By *ripfillMan
20 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

I’m never bored on my own. I have lots of interest and lots of hobbies. I listen to a lot of radio particularly music rather than TV and I read both technical information and I read for pleasure.

I do love company especially female company but equally quite happy being on my own for short spells of time I think if you have an outgoing personality and you do need people around you.

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By *luebell888Woman
20 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I prefer being alone so most of my time is spent alone. I also work alone now which suits me.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Nope. Wonko’s an arse

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By *ellhungvweMan
20 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I am more than happy on my own.

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By *iker JackMan
20 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I am more happy in my own company than that of others on the whole

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
20 weeks ago

Merseyside

I love my own company tbh very comfortable in it

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By *edGrayCouple
20 weeks ago

Swindon

I freaking love my own company. I have quite a stressful job managing a company. Having time to myself doing what I want to do is heaven. Without my downtime solitude I would of had a physical or mental breakdown by now.

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By *obilebottomMan
20 weeks ago

All over

Most of the time. We all need a bit of this and the otherv

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By *lik and PaulCouple
20 weeks ago

cahoots

Love spending quiet time alone and often go out without my phone...it comes naturally to me.

Paul

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By *moothpussyMan
20 weeks ago

Glasgow

I prefer my own company, perhaps a tad too much

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By *oomlMan
20 weeks ago

Fareham

I enjoy the company of others but equally happy being on my own. I have plenty of interests to keep me occupied.

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By *cnugatugMan
20 weeks ago

Chatham

Yup I like my own company

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By *IXEN200Woman
20 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I like my own company have done now for 8 years but I do believe you need a balance of being in your own company and having company

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Yes you have to be at peace with yourself. it others needed to socialise, chat and stimulate the mind. In the main people are interesting and fun

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By *viatrixWoman
20 weeks ago

Redhill

I spend many days alone and I love it.

I actually get stressed when I have to interact with colleagues when away… not being free to choose what I want to do, where to eat, etc.

Some people just cannot stay alone. I feel bad for them…

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By *urls and DressesWoman
20 weeks ago

Somewhere near here

I love time alone and crave it. I go on holidays, walking, camping on my own and try and avoid people

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By *hrek101Man
20 weeks ago

Herts

Majority of my time is spent alone in the week, don't really think about much. I see friends at the weekend but some weekends I can not speak to a single person. I find that odd cause I'm pretty chatty.

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By *ustamanMan
20 weeks ago

weymouth

Yes, but I'd probably watch a film

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By *og-ManMan
20 weeks ago

somewhere

Usually go on holidays on my own so don't mind it

Grab a couple of books from hotel reception and get stuck into them for the week

Was in Vegas for 5 days on my own last november and did everything I wanted to do and see at my own pace and planning

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By *hagTonight OP Man
20 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I have been on week long solo trips. Once a month I go hiking around Wales or Lakes. I don't have trouble staying off the phone. But I have to do something. "
That is good you can stay off the phone when you are on trips too

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By *olfandtazCouple
20 weeks ago

Bristol

I enjoy having my own space away from people, I'm more than comfortable with my own company.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
20 weeks ago

Halifax

I enjoy my own company

but at times it's good to share my thoughts & humour with others..

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By *ewbootsandpanties99Man
20 weeks ago

Darkest South East Surrey

Yes, been on a few trips without the wife and kids and really enjoyed them. Nice not having any pressure, I can do what I want without worrying whether everyone else is enjoying themselves.

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By *r TriomanMan
20 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I love my own company, I have some very funny, exciting, interesting and sometimes silly conversations with myself. I do lots of fun things by myself and I love to look at myself in the mirror. When I'm alone, the hours just fly by.

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
20 weeks ago

Midlothian

Yep, I'm very comfortable being by myself. A quiet day of reading and chilling suits me fine. I've been working on not reaching for my phone to doomscroll as much, quite enjoying spending way less time on social media.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
20 weeks ago

Tamworth

Yes - I’ve been on many solo holidays and living alone, I’d go nuts if I wasn’t comfortable in my own company.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
20 weeks ago

Next Door

I enjoy time on my own. I read, watch a film, walk.

I can overthink occasionally, and that doesn't help if you're alone, so I really try to focus on other things during those times.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
20 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
20 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I prefer to be in my own company "
Hi _mmaleia, that is good you prefer to be in your own company too

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By *onesome swingerMan
20 weeks ago

Belfast

I am a solo traveller and very much enjoy my own company,time and space, that said I can enjoy the company of others and be very sociable too

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Central

I really enjoy my own company

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By *parkle1974Woman
20 weeks ago

Leeds

I love my own company x

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Love my own company, happily hours chilling, take walk somewhere scenic etc

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
20 weeks ago

south coast IOW

I enjoy solitude sometimes and relaxing aline with a book is one of my greatest joys. I do however also enjoy the company of others and am quite outgoing.

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By *opeyXWoman
20 weeks ago

Dundee

As much as I can enjoy socialising, I equally enjoy my alone time.

Walks without a phone are great when time allows away from responsibilitys.

Same with lodge breaks away with no internet.

I need my alone time though day to day too.

The world sometimes is going too fast and its nice to recharge.

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By *anchesterGuy1Man
20 weeks ago

Manchester

I am very much somebody who n is comfortable in my own company

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By *holouk1970Man
20 weeks ago

Beckton

Sometimes. So I try to avoid me. 🙄

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By *ags73Man
20 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Relieved I have the dog as company to be honest.

I can tolerate being alone but comes a point you get pissed off at yourself

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
20 weeks ago

Always on the move

Good lord no. After a prolonged amount of time solo, I start to overthink and go stir crazy. I'm very much a social creature, and get energised from spending time around people

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By *issmorganWoman
20 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Yep, I really like being on my own, with a good book and a cuppa.

I lived alone for years & enjoyed having my own space...

My other half works from home, so I don't get that much alone time. When I do, I make the most of it.

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By *ohn pcoolMan
20 weeks ago

Inverness

In my job I deal with a lot of people on a daily basis, often spend my first day off just kicking back and relaxing by myself.

Discovered during the lockdown that I can be quite happy in my own company

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By *ongAndThick123Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds

"Are you able to be on your own for any length of time and not reach for your phone or the television the radio or anything really, to distract you from yourself?

I think that being one with yourself teaches you patience, the ability to let things unfold, having that ability is empowering, because I decide when I want to check it, not that instant moment.

It would be interesting to see if you can tolerate your own company. I think everyone needs to have time by themselves

Why do you consider tv or phone to be a distraction, but you think reading a book or going for a walk isn’t?

They’re all distractions. The only thing in life that is not a distraction would be meditating. So unless you’re good at that, then all of us need “distractions”

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I grew up an only child with parents who both worked. In the summer months my Dad would work until dark and my Mum worked evening shifts in a factory. So from the age of 9/10 I spent lots of time alone after school hours.

Now I get anxious about events/socials of more than a few people and, even at home, I need to take myself away to be alone for a couple of hours.

I don't think I could travel solo though.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
20 weeks ago

Wherever

I’m a hermit. Happiest in my own company and don’t really need anyone else.

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By *cnugatugMan
20 weeks ago

Chatham

Often I go off alone for woodland walk just to clear my head and get back to me I find a solo walk though woodlands rather calming just wish there was more woodland around to walk in

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By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a lot better than being with most people.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I can't wait for the next lock down.

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By *assy69Man
20 weeks ago

West Sussex and Wales

"Are you able to be on your own for any length of time and not reach for your phone or the television the radio or anything really, to distract you from yourself?

I think that being one with yourself teaches you patience, the ability to let things unfold, having that ability is empowering, because I decide when I want to check it, not that instant moment.

It would be interesting to see if you can tolerate your own company. I think everyone needs to have time by themselves

I very much enjoy my own company and get away solo wild camping whenever I can. Currently looking into how I might squeeze a long break to be able to walk the Welsh coastal path on my own. I sometimes find that people can crowd in on my brain and I find it takes a while to be able to quieten the noise in my head down……. Perhaps I am just odd

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By *rthur30Man
20 weeks ago

Warrington

"Left on my own I develop Stockholm Syndrome "

Quite brilliant!

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By *hagTonight OP Man
20 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I love being on my own, actively crave it, but I do need to be doing something because I'm an overthinker."
Hi nell, that is good you love being on your own. I also actively crave it

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Its not easy being alone as other half passed but have family that live close and having ago doing things alone . x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
20 weeks ago

North West

Nah I'm shite company

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By *hunky GentMan
20 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Its not easy being alone as other half passed but have family that live close and having ago doing things alone . x"

Sending hugs

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By *hunky GentMan
20 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Me??? Fuck yeah.

I'm the nicest and most amazing person I know.

And......... the voices in my head agree.

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By *HUSH-Man
20 weeks ago

London

I enjoy my own company…. Not sure if others do though 🤔

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By *ad NannaWoman
20 weeks ago

East London

I can read a book, if it's riveting. I read on my phone though, so I might as well be watching Netflix.

I've thought about walking to the park to feed the birds on the lake, but I don't feel safe in the park any more.

I need something to distract myself or I cry.

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By *ad NannaWoman
20 weeks ago

East London

I wonder if a meditation group would be popular on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"I can read a book, if it's riveting. I read on my phone though, so I might as well be watching Netflix.

I've thought about walking to the park to feed the birds on the lake, but I don't feel safe in the park any more.

I need something to distract myself or I cry."
this is sad. Hope nothing bad happened in the park

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By *vaRose43Woman
20 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Yes absolutely

I’m quite comfortable on my own

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By *younaughty2Man
20 weeks ago

preston

Absolutely enjoy my own company, peace and quiet above all else

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By *opinovMan
20 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

I'm completely accustomed to it and comfortable with it... which is just as well.

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By *ad NannaWoman
20 weeks ago

East London

"I can read a book, if it's riveting. I read on my phone though, so I might as well be watching Netflix.

I've thought about walking to the park to feed the birds on the lake, but I don't feel safe in the park any more.

I need something to distract myself or I cry.this is sad. Hope nothing bad happened in the park

It's not the safest of places for a long woman, even at 2 in the afternoon.

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By *xbabyxxxWoman
20 weeks ago

Bradford

I love my own company got used to it now 13 yrs n counting

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By *hil most chillMan
20 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"Is reading a book not a distraction?

I was thinking this also. I guess it's more romanticised than watching TV or a film, or using a phone, but in my opinion it's in the same category. A lot of people read books on their phones, does OP allow that??

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

My faithful Retriever aside, I would not quarrel with Thoreau.

“I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.”

― Henry David Thoreau, Walden

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By *rimal InstinctCouple
20 weeks ago

Carlisle

"Are you able to be on your own for any length of time and not reach for your phone or the television the radio or anything really, to distract you from yourself?

I think that being one with yourself teaches you patience, the ability to let things unfold, having that ability is empowering, because I decide when I want to check it, not that instant moment.

It would be interesting to see if you can tolerate your own company. I think everyone needs to have time by themselves

Yes I can. I often lose my phone so I can do the without a phone bit, the TV - I don't watch it much to be honest. i have to do something though, but it doesn't have to be technology.

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By *ornucopiaMan
20 weeks ago

Bexley

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By *entleman JayMan
20 weeks ago

Wakefield

I like my own company.

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By *929Man
20 weeks ago

bedlington

Used to love time alone, learning to enjoy it again now that kids are older got so used to them always being around it felt weird going back to being alone when they only leave their room to eat

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By *hagTonight OP Man
20 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Used to love time alone, learning to enjoy it again now that kids are older got so used to them always being around it felt weird going back to being alone when they only leave their room to eat"
That is good you are learning it again too

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I mean I think I'm funny as fuck so 👀

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Absolutely. I’ll grab my backpack and tent whenever I need a break from life and everyone in it. I did the coast to coast walk last year which was 12 days of bliss and blisters.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I enjoy being alone at times no phone no radio no “ noise “ to essentially reset and just enjoy the sounds of the surroundings,

problem is tho spending alone is dangerous and addictive, once you see and feel how peaceful it is you dont want to and struggle to deal with people anymore

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By *he Silver FuxMan
20 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

No. So I left and joined a multinational

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By *erfHerder74Man
20 weeks ago

Inverclyde

I love my own company, if I let anyone in it’s rare and very intimate

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I don't really have a choice in the matter, but we get along okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

100% comfortable in my own company in a very healthy way. Very glad to be able to say so too.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
20 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

If I didn't have a beautiful wife and fantastic children and grandchildren,I'd happily live alone in a cave on my own far away from everyone else.

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