FabSwingers.com forum: Do our BDSM pictures put people off?

By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx

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By *olfandtazCouple
11 weeks ago

Bristol

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By *olfandtazCouple
11 weeks ago

Bristol

It doesn't put us off, we are a bdsm couple too

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By *ickedwillyCouple
11 weeks ago

Bangor

Not at all very horny to look at.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
11 weeks ago

Hull

Not at all !you are just looking for a certain few on here

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
11 weeks ago

City Centre

I think they are very tastefully executed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"It doesn't put us off, we are a bdsm couple too

Haha, a good point well made. Great profile guys xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Not at all very horny to look at. "

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Do you get messages from people saying they don't like them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Not at all !you are just looking for a certain few on here "

We're happy to play vanilla as well as BDSM, but we don't want others to think we only play BDSM xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"I think they are very tastefully executed. "

Thank you xx

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By *unx2019Couple
11 weeks ago

Moray

Most definitely not, in fact very sexy. Love doing things like that to cuck and don't mind it for me too, just not from cuck

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By *otwife Snowy and MeCouple
11 weeks ago

Carshalton

Defo not. Alluring and intriguing if anything x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Do you get messages from people saying they don't like them? "

Yes, there has been quite a few messages lately saying they put people off. Strangely they are messages from people who we haven't even been chatting with xx

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
11 weeks ago

Tamworth

I definitely wouldn’t be put off. But if I wasn’t that way inclined, I’d perhaps wonder if I’d be for you if that’s what interests you.

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
11 weeks ago

rochdale

Definitely not - but that's a scene I find incredibly erotic.

Others may not be into the scene though.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
11 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I think it's important to be open about what you like. If you hide your BDSM pics then you might lose out on attracting those who also love that sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"Not at all !you are just looking for a certain few on here

We're happy to play vanilla as well as BDSM, but we don't want others to think we only play BDSM xx"

I would add the explanation to your profile perhaps so people know?

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"Do you get messages from people saying they don't like them?

Yes, there has been quite a few messages lately saying they put people off. Strangely they are messages from people who we haven't even been chatting with xx"

Ah ok, always remember you will never please everyone - and in reality you are not looking to attract everyone, just those with similar passions

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By *eliWoman
11 weeks ago

I wouldn't hide them. You can explain what you like in your bio, how it's not just BDSM you're looking for. Have a range of photos to show your... varied interests when it comes to sex.

So the ones you have now might put some off? That's fine. You're not compatible. Even more so if they think that's all you want to do.

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By *cnugatugMan
11 weeks ago

Chatham

Just had a perve and my God what an incredible collection of pics definitely wouldn't be afraid or intimated by you both but then again I am a submissive myself lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"I think it's important to be open about what you like. If you hide your BDSM pics then you might lose out on attracting those who also love that sort of thing."

That's a great point xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Not at all !you are just looking for a certain few on here

We're happy to play vanilla as well as BDSM, but we don't want others to think we only play BDSM xx

I would add the explanation to your profile perhaps so people know? "

I can't believe I didn't think of that, it seems so obvious now you have pointed it out. I will do it now, thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Just had a perve and my God what an incredible collection of pics definitely wouldn't be afraid or intimated by you both but then again I am a submissive myself lol"

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"I wouldn't hide them. You can explain what you like in your bio, how it's not just BDSM you're looking for. Have a range of photos to show your... varied interests when it comes to sex.

So the ones you have now might put some off? That's fine. You're not compatible. Even more so if they think that's all you want to do."

Great point well put, thank you xx

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By *oodmessMan
11 weeks ago

yumsville

Skimming your profile, you don't have anything saying you are BDSM players but you can see that there is some Domme play and some bi play. If you're happy to play more vanilla, even more straight (if you like), just add it to your profile - if you think bdsm is putting people off.

To say, I've met bi couples only because they have explicitly said they are happy to keep any meet as straight play, so it does help people understand what you're about

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By *idzmaleMan
11 weeks ago

telford

I love to get I’m into the world of bdsm.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Skimming your profile, you don't have anything saying you are BDSM players but you can see that there is some Domme play and some bi play. If you're happy to play more vanilla, even more straight (if you like), just add it to your profile - if you think bdsm is putting people off.

To say, I've met bi couples only because they have explicitly said they are happy to keep any meet as straight play, so it does help people understand what you're about"

Yes, that's a great point. I will address that in our profile thank you.

we definitely don't want to alienate people, variety is the spice of life and all that haha xx

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By *ady LickWoman
11 weeks ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't think you should remove them, they show what you're into. Plus, they are not hard-core, quite nicely done I think.

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By *aomilatteCouple
11 weeks ago

Visiting Blackpool

Yes they would put us off. They wouldn't put many off though, each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

Anything but. I'm not even into BDSM but they don't put me off, in fact some of them seem quite enticing. I would leave them as public.

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By *electableicecreamMan
11 weeks ago

The West

They don't put me off. They do give me though information make an informed decision about whether we'd be a good match or not. In my case wouldn't be a match.

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By *rhugesMan
11 weeks ago

Cardiff

Love BdSm

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"I don't think you should remove them, they show what you're into. Plus, they are not hard-core, quite nicely done I think."

Thank you xx

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
11 weeks ago

Lincoln

Nope, the pictures aren't even super hardcore BDSM anyway from what I can tell. And like you've said, the people complaining are those you've never talked to before, which already seems odd of them 😅

Be you and attract the people you'll enjoy being with.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Yes they would put us off. They wouldn't put many off though, each to their own."

Intresting, do they put you off even when we say in our profile that we are happy/like to play vanilla ?

Sarah xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Nope, the pictures aren't even super hardcore BDSM anyway from what I can tell. And like you've said, the people complaining are those you've never talked to before, which already seems odd of them 😅

Be you and attract the people you'll enjoy being with.

LvM"

Yes, you are quite right. Thank you both xx

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Doesn't put me off at all,in fact find all your photos are quite a turn on imho.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Doesn't put me off at all,in fact find all your photos are quite a turn on imho.

Thank you, very kind xx

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By *yzykMan
11 weeks ago

Stirlingshire

They're very hot... And the MMF pics? Ooh la laa

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By *issy4kinkTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Leeds

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

Not at all, the BDSM photos are amazing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx

Not at all, the BDSM photos are amazing!

Thank you xx

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
11 weeks ago

Reading

Im sure they will put some off but those wouldn't be for you. On the other hand they will attract the people who are good fits for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Im sure they will put some off but those wouldn't be for you. On the other hand they will attract the people who are good fits for you. "

very true xx

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By *orphia2003Woman
11 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Certainly don't find them off-putting

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By *scobar67Man
11 weeks ago

glasgow

Not at all

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By *ularliWoman
11 weeks ago

Worcester

Absolutely not. I love them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

Thank you guys xx

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By *b9012Man
11 weeks ago

Gunnislake

They don’t put me off at all, but I am a submissive

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By *ase4122Man
11 weeks ago

Lancashire

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

If that's what you like Sarah then it's absolutely fine. BDSM isn't my thing but maybe I've not been involved properly

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By *ildmanYorksMan
11 weeks ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

Your pics certainly do not put me off. In fact I'd love my wrists and ankles tied to the bed while Sarah rides me! The only thing that puts me off is that you're not looking for guys my age

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
11 weeks ago

Leeds

It'll put some off and not others, your photos will never appeal to everyone.

Mrs

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By *H-XXIIIMan
11 weeks ago

Gander

If your pictures put people off then they probably aren't the right people for you. Nothing lost if they move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"It'll put some off and not others, your photos will never appeal to everyone.

Mrs "

That is very true. Not everyone is for everyone. A good point well made xx

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By *ampireLoveMan
11 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

I think they shouldn’t put people off if they read your profile too. It’s part of what you like and think it shows an openness to you both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"I think they shouldn’t put people off if they read your profile too. It’s part of what you like and think it shows an openness to you both. "

That is true, on the advice of some of the comments on this thread I've adjusted our profile slightly and written in that we are happy to play 'vanilla' etc. Hopefully that helps xx

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By *8on33Man
11 weeks ago

winfrith

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"
I thoroughly perused your pics Sarah and no they don't.

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By *eorgieporgie66Man
11 weeks ago

TAUNTON

not at all, love your pics

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
11 weeks ago

Cheshire

Often think the same about my pictures putting people of ,but we are who we are ,open,honest and transparent, dint change anything, just rock on .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

Thank you guys xx

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

The BDSM ones and cute clothed vanilla couple ones together are lovely! Imagination and a nice dynamic between you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"The BDSM ones and cute clothed vanilla couple ones together are lovely! Imagination and a nice dynamic between you

Thank you. Very kind indeed xx

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By *ynamicnatureMan
11 weeks ago

Doncaster

You're pics indicate you're adventurous couple, nothing off putting a out that.

Hot pics btw, 😁

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"You're pics indicate you're adventurous couple, nothing off putting a out that.

Hot pics btw, 😁"

Thank you xx

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By *opinovMan
11 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Not off-putting at all... they're relatively vanilla by some standards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Not off-putting at all... they're relatively vanilla by some standards.

We keep the really kinky ones in our friends only photos haha xx

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By *ust another WonkoMan
11 weeks ago

here and there

No but there are other items in your profile that would stop me from contacting you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"No but there are other items in your profile that would stop me from contacting you "

Not what we asked but ok

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By *2thomMan
11 weeks ago

Norwich

Its a kink and has a target audience. Its hot though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Its a kink and has a target audience. Its hot though."

We think so too xx

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By *he two of us13Couple
11 weeks ago

neverland

No they don’t at all. We think they are great but we are into that side of things as well. But it’s just one of those thing if we all enjoyed the same thing it would be a very boring life.

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By *erry bull1Man
11 weeks ago

doncaster

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ? Definitely not

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

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By *erry bull1Man
11 weeks ago

doncaster

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

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By *hilmeup85Man
11 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

Seeing that side of you guys would draw me in. Others that are not into it and are new to the scene might be put off but I don't think it would for most as your profile isn't dominanted by them type of pics.

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By *toobguyMan
11 weeks ago

Manchester

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By *viatrixWoman
11 weeks ago

Redhill

I am not into BDSM at all, and I find your photos very sexy and appealing.

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By *luebell888Woman
11 weeks ago

Glasgowish

Honest answer, yes they do but each to their own. If a man approached me wearing one of those masks I would freak out and run a mile. Sorry.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"Honest answer, yes they do but each to their own. If a man approached me wearing one of those masks I would freak out and run a mile. Sorry.x"

There is nothing to apologise for. To each there own. Great profile by the way. You look amazing lady !! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

"I am not into BDSM at all, and I find your photos very sexy and appealing.

very kind, thank you xx

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By *luebell888Woman
11 weeks ago

Glasgowish

"Honest answer, yes they do but each to their own. If a man approached me wearing one of those masks I would freak out and run a mile. Sorry.x

There is nothing to apologise for. To each there own. Great profile by the way. You look amazing lady !! xx"

Thank you.x

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
11 weeks ago

Gloucester

We are into BDSM but prefer not to mix it with Swinging but no your BDSM picture’s do not put us off

Kink (mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Not at all of putting. And to be quite frank, those that are put off by them, surely aren’t the right matches for you and your preferences. Own your profile, manage it just the way you want to, not how others want you to

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By *ripfillMan
11 weeks ago

havant

Just taken a peep … not at all quite fabulous

Enjoy and be safe live life to the max - because we’re all an incredibly long time dead

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By *tlanshiaWoman
11 weeks ago

Chatham

Love bdsm so doesn't put me off

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By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
11 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

Not for us, but that doesn't matter in the slightest. For those that are into it they look great.

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By *b750Couple
11 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Think you should be proud of them, as it’s something you enjoy, and that’s the whole part of fab, to share that enjoyment with others

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By *entmike76Man
11 weeks ago

bury

Prefer the none BDSM pics, but there all hot.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
11 weeks ago

Colchester

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By *oubleswing2019Man
11 weeks ago

Colchester

Not at all.

Please retain them.

This is you, and it is your truth and honesty. Be proud of that, and don't sweat about those who don't like them. Your pictures are not for them and their opinion is thus irrelevant. Why they bother wasting their time and yours telling you as such is beyond me.

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By *exySenseiCouple
11 weeks ago

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

Yes, they put us off.

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By *edHeelsCplCouple
11 weeks ago

Kenilworth

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

Not off putting at all Sarah. We’re a kinked couple and it’s always nice to see a Lady in control; just as you and I are xxx I assume you are on FL?

Love to chat with kinked couples any time.

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By *reen as JadeCouple
11 weeks ago

Cheshire

No way it makes us more interested in doing it x

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By *ozzybear1981Man
11 weeks ago

preston

Not at all, I have an amazing friend and she’s a dom for both males and females in so many different dynamics.

It’s quite interesting hearing how it all works really

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By *eyeYCouple
11 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

"Do you get messages from people saying they don't like them?

Yes, there has been quite a few messages lately saying they put people off. Strangely they are messages from people who we haven't even been chatting with xx"

Think that sums them up Sarah!

Those here that judge by their close minded insecurities on preferences they don't share..

And not all swingers are as non judgemental as we'd naively expected.

We got told we were "plain wrong and freaky" by the tipsy woman of a couple for occasionally enjoying sounding, (ok each to their own), wouldn't have been so bad if she'd not been shouting it repeatedly and then took it upon herself to inform everyone that would listen in the club that we were "a disgusting couple!" 🤦🤷

We tend to keep our BDSM to ourselves, just a preference, but honestly are profile of nothing but that content would be off-putting, but yours isn't and you mention the fact as well...

We'd leave them up as it's probably a great filter! D&Y x 🔥😈

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
11 weeks ago

Down the back of the sofa.

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

I always think that if a certain aspect of your sexuality ‘puts people off’ are they the sort of people you really want to meet in the first place?

If someone says to you, that’s not my thing, but I’d still like to meet you. Then I’d have much more respect for them that they understand consent and boundaries!

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

It’s a lifestyle you both enjoy why change for others? Enjoy yourselves I’m sure there are plenty of people who enjoy the BDSM kink. Don’t worry what others think it’s your lives do as you wish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

Thank you guys xx

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By *inky1yorksMan
10 weeks ago

Leeds’ish

Not me… plenty on my profile. Great ones on yours

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By *andPextraCouple
10 weeks ago

North West

Not our thing. However, we can appreciate them and based on the suppostion you can’t please everyone, I’d focus on what pleases you.

If those types of photos are your thing, and they attract the people you like, keep posting them I’d say

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
10 weeks ago

London

Wouldn't put me off, I'm specifically looking for that

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By *ysizeMan
10 weeks ago

Nottingham (ish)

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? "

Nope, love 'em.

Sharing mementos of having a fun time is a good thing. Might not be to everyone's taste but Different strokes for different folks. Keep on doing your thing and like minded people will find you. X

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
10 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Your pics say what needs to be said. It will attract who needs to be attracted.

It will also attract bellends that have no intention of meeting you and clearly give you grief. Block, move on and get amongst it. You can't please everyone.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
10 weeks ago

Sherwood Forest

Just like any pics if they are tastefully taken then we would definitely appreciate them

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
10 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Just like any pics if they are tastefully taken then we would definitely appreciate them

And what superb pics they are.

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By *etWetWet453Couple
10 weeks ago

CAMBERLEY

Yes. We have encountered this, particularly in our early years, when some of earlier pictures might have put people off.

We have, however, addressed it in our profile, which we hope explains the situation.

Having actually met people, who were initially put off from meeting us, as they didn`t share the same tastes, they have been pleasantly surprised that we were not as "scary" as our pics perhaps depicted.

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By *ardhatCharlieMan
10 weeks ago

Northwest

They don't put me off. And goddammit, I'm out of your age range. Ah well.

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By *ykel_and_LizzyCouple
10 weeks ago

Brecon

Having ANYTHING interesting on a profile is a huge turn-on for us - whether BDSM, costumes, or just arty pics!

Your profile looks super fun, quirky, and hot and stands out. good job!

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By *ungandMan
10 weeks ago

daveyhulme

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

Hello Sarah

Keep posting your bdsm photos there very hot and shows both sides of your interest

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By *hesblokeMan
10 weeks ago

Derbyshire village

I don't think so.

There will always be people who are put off by stuff, believe me I know

If it puts people off, you probably didn't want to meet those people.

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By *arry McKockiner69Man
10 weeks ago

Exeter

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

So they probably will put some people off as it isn't something they are interested in but you are here looking for what turns you both on. Do what makes you happy with your profile

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By *andAukCouple
10 weeks ago

leeds

Not at all, we love a little BDSM

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By *rills and SwoonCouple
10 weeks ago

Stroud

Love your pics. But then we are both bi, and into kink! (And nice to see some femdom on here!)

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By *ngelLordCouple
10 weeks ago

Newport

Definitely not putting us off

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
10 weeks ago

Coventry

No, not at all.

However BDSM or the expression of any kind of kink can be polarising on here because kink can be a bit marmite. So naturally if you express kink you will always close a few doors (especially if it's very niche or a bit more extreme).

Which of course isn't necessary a bad thing when we are searching for the right matches.

In terms of swinging you have to ask yourself do you intend to incorporate your kink/fetish with others? If yes then this makes complete sense for helping to find the right matches. If the answer is no you don't then putting up photos of your kink/fetish is arguably counter productive and serves absolutely not value to what you seek on here. Especially if its a kink/fetish that is not particularly popular or a bit niche.

Personally our BDSM is something very private to us and we genrally don't share in it with others in the swinging environment. However sometimes we do a bit so we have a nod to it in our photos with a bit of rope and stuff. But is just lite to indicate we have a kink side but we very much here for the swinging.

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By *J_OuizziCouple
10 weeks ago

Nottingham

No, your BDSM pics wouldn't put us off. In fact they'd be more likely to catch our eye as kink is our main thing, and even though femdom isn't for us, it would give us some common ground to start a conversation.

I don't understand why people would be negative about how you choose to express your sexuality, but it does seem that there are folks on here who can be judgemental about others.

Hit the block button hard and often for those sorts and keep being you.

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By *m3232Man
10 weeks ago

maidenhead

If it puts people off then they wouldn’t be for you anyway.

Myself it doesn’t put me off and they look very sexy.

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By *hGlobbitsMan
10 weeks ago

Leeds

No. The BDSM stuff isn't my area of expertise, but I still think you look great.

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By *eckard2019Man
10 weeks ago

North West Durham

No, not my thing so wouldn't add to any attraction but doesn't put me off

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By *aughty4youMan
9 weeks ago

fareham

"Good morning you lovely lot.

Do our BDSM pictures put people off ? we play vanilla aswell (if you can really call swinging vanilla) haha. I'm not sure if I should make our BDSM pictures friends only to not put others off ?

Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

There is nothing wrong with your profile or photos...everyone has different kinks so why should yours put them off. I personally think your pictures are very erotic xx

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By *rgasmicChemistryCouple
9 weeks ago

east coast

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
9 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Please let me know your thoughts.

Sarah xx"

The fact your 1st pic in your gallery is an out of focus, poorly lit, badly cropped image of someone in a gimp mask is disconcerting.

Especially considering how good the rest of the pictures are.

I wouldn't necessarily hide the BDSM pictures, but mixing in a few more less spicy pics, possibly a few completely vanilla shots and re-ordering your gallery a little may help.

The fact the 1st image has pulp fiction vibes is a little disconcerting.

Hope that helps and you find lots of fun folks.

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By *enegadeMMan
9 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

Not at all…. Makes me more intrigued to find out more… and would love to experience it 😍

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By *tephanieuktvTV/TS
9 weeks ago

bristol

No, it’s like anything else on here, if it floats your boat then they are perfect x

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