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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

.... Health!!... Inspired by the trust thread...I'm curious to know your POV:

When you are planning to meet someone new, at what point do you have a conversation about SH and whether they regularly test ??

Do you ask to see the screen shot or is it just on trust if they say they regularly test and are clear?

If you are male, planning to use condoms would it even cross your mind to ask a lady ?

Ladies, if they said they don't test, would you still consider playing using condoms ?? Would you suck cock??

What if you actually don't know WHO they see - interestingly from previous threads forummers mostly say who they play with is their own business, so in effect you have no idea how wide the circle is...

Or is is goodbye at that point!? Would you compromise your safety for a shag? Do you even realise you are!?

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By *oneyDukesCouple
19 weeks ago

The Pleasure Dome.

Which question do you want me to answer here?

Anyway….

Sounds like sex…I’m in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

"Which question do you want me to answer here?

Anyway….

Sounds like sex…I’m in

Answer them all /whatever you fancy!

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By *exxyyDy11Man
19 weeks ago

Darwen

Oh if we have been talking for a bit and planning on having a sexual meet, then I'd like some confirmation they look after their health sexually. I mean I do and get regularly tested even if I wear a condom. Just better to be safe than sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

I didn't realise this might be a bit controversial!

It's ok to DM thoughts if you prefer - had some thoughtful messages so far x

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By *illy IdolMan
19 weeks ago

Midlands

Trust.

It has come up in discussion a few times before meeting but not always. I tend to trust their word rather than ask for a screenshot. You like to think you're a good judge of character, but you never know I guess.

I have had to cancel a meet before, after a scare from oral sex, without protection. Thankfully my test came back negative, but I hadn't received the results before the date with this person, so didn't want to potentially put them at risk.

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By *asterCaneMan
19 weeks ago

Gosport

I always have condoms available

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By *ell GwynnWoman
19 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I prefer to show screenshots of my test results. I also prefer to see theirs too, but I imagine not everyone is comfortable with that. So far nobody has refused.

I have just trusted what they say, on occasion. It's rare, though.

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By *ackformore100Man
19 weeks ago

Tin town

".... Health!!... Inspired by the trust thread...I'm curious to know your POV:

When you are planning to meet someone new, at what point do you have a conversation about SH and whether they regularly test ??

Do you ask to see the screen shot or is it just on trust if they say they regularly test and are clear?

If you are male, planning to use condoms would it even cross your mind to ask a lady ?

Ladies, if they said they don't test, would you still consider playing using condoms ?? Would you suck cock??

Or is is goodbye at that point!? Would you compromise your safety for a shag? Do you even realise you are!?

I'm amazed this doesn't get discussed more given the type of site this is.

People are strangers until they aren't. Trust is earned not a given especially the type of people on here and what they are seeking. Nothing breaks rules as much and as quickly as the quest for money and / or sex.

If you're going to say or seek people who test regularly then it's pointless unless you see the actual results and can somehow tie it back to an Id. I once went on a vanilla date and she wanted to see photo Id...which was a bit weird but I can understand why.

Having sex with strangers is a risk. Personally think we should try and minimise those risks as much as possible.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
19 weeks ago

Reading

I rely on condoms to keep me safe but I do oral without. I get regularly and lucky have always come back negative. I have to go to the clinic though because I can never collect enough blood. I have also educated myself with the symptoms of STDs though I know done are symptomless.

I am taking some risk but try to mitigate it. With a regular partner I will talk about whether they test and I try to get some idea of who they are also fucking.

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By *orthern BeardMan
19 weeks ago

Preston

Condoms always regardless. I have asked some people, others it’s a trust thing

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By *amieLDN22Man
19 weeks ago

London

I've always shared my results with potential/current playmates but things get tricky when you ask some women/couples for theirs.

Some do get offended however and I've lost a few meets over this. I stopped partying with a good friend bc this person doesn't believe in testing.

A lot of people don't understand that if you are active you need to test every 3-4 months. Condoms or not.

So to ease the process I share my testing history early so I know we're on the same page. Its important for me the person I'm playing with has a history of testing and believes in the process. Regularly. That's safe sex for me.

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By *elix SightedMan
19 weeks ago

Cloud 8

I tend to just scrape off the worst of the diseases and take a Berocca.

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By *eliWoman
19 weeks ago

".... Health!!... Inspired by the trust thread...I'm curious to know your POV:

When you are planning to meet someone new, at what point do you have a conversation about SH and whether they regularly test ?? "
Quite early on. Awkwardly just blurt it out, get it over and done with.

"Do you ask to see the screen shot or is it just on trust if they say they regularly test and are clear? "
Generally screenshot, very odd occasion trust.

"Ladies, if they said they don't test, would you still consider playing using condoms ?? Would you suck cock?? "
No. I'm quite cautious, even more so in recent years. I like being HPV and STD/I free.

"What if you actually don't know WHO they see - interestingly from previous threads forummers mostly say who they play with is their own business, so in effect you have no idea how wide the circle is...

Or is is goodbye at that point!? Would you compromise your safety for a shag? Do you even realise you are!?

In the past if I found out someone lied about sex I'd book a test and forgive them and still meet them again. Now? If someone can't have an open and honest discussion about other sexual partners I'm not interested. When I found out an ex had cheated on me repeatedly, after a few tears were shed, the first thing I did was book a next day appointment at a sexual health clinic for the full works of tests. Zero desire now to have sex with people unless they can be open and honest. As I'm not one for one night stands/NSA it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

Hmmm very interesting... What about clubs! I imagine nobody is talking about results in clubs?

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By *riar BelisseWoman
19 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

I ask, a sti can be carried from a vag, via a throat and deposited onto a cock...

If he's not testing we are not meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I have actually never even asked a guy that, never even crossed my mind to.

Same as who they see, you'll never really know.

Having sex with anyone can be a risk.

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