FabSwingers.com forum: Interest after being knocked back

By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

Simple question really... Would you meet up with someone on here who shows an interest in you having been knocked back by them before when you approached them?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts

No.

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By *r John WickMan
10 weeks ago

The Continental

I’m not sure, that’s a really interesting one.

I’d be torn between saying no, I wasn’t good enough the first time I asked…… or saying yes and wondering what had changed.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
10 weeks ago

the moon

Nope … that ship sailed …

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By *weetiepie99Woman
10 weeks ago

cardiff

No, why weren't you good enough the first time is what I'd be asking...

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By *ealitybitesMan
10 weeks ago

Belfast

It depends. Are you still interested in them or do you feel they are treating you like a number or a box to tick?

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By *parkle1974Woman
10 weeks ago

Leeds

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By *ell GwynnWoman
10 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Don't know. It depends on what happened initially and the reasons for being knocked back.

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By *naswingdressWoman
10 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Probably not, but it depends on specifics

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By *929Man
10 weeks ago

newcastle

I don’t approach anyone on here but if did and that happened I still would, circumstances change and could be any reason why knocked back before

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By *imples24Man
10 weeks ago

tamworth

"Don't know. It depends on what happened initially and the reasons for being knocked back."

This!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
10 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Depends how they knocked me back really.

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By *anceAloneWoman
10 weeks ago

Adjacent to him

Not sure....its possible that your initial message didn't pique their interet whereas you are showing more of your personality on here?

I guess it would depend on how polite they were in the initial knock back?

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By *hilloutMan
10 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

It depends. If the first rejection was clearly lack of interest in a general sense, then no.

If the person, however, states the initial decline was due to other factors at the time and not necessarily a lack of attraction, I can keep an open mind.

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By *rispyDuckMan
10 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Happened a few times & simple answer is ‘No’

I have to much self respect for a pity fuck or play back up man. That ship has sailed baby 😂, & I would have moved on to greener pastures

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By *hrista BellendWoman
10 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No. Once they have shut that door it stays shut. Same goes with acquaintances.

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By *YDB75Man
10 weeks ago

East Yorkie

I believe in given someone another chance…only once. After that the door is firmly slammed shut locked and bolted.

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By *aizyWoman
10 weeks ago

west midlands

No, if they show no interest in me I quickly lose interest in them, that wouldn't change if they suddenly decided to start showing an interest in me.

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By *illy IdolMan
10 weeks ago

Midlands

I can be stubborn but it depends on the original reasoning.

I've had something similar though between names changes where they didn't recognise me and messaged again. They decided against meeting me the first time due to distance and then the second time they denied any recollection in messaging me prior.

Yes, I'm that forgettable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

"No. "

And a simple answer! Brilliant

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

No.

The soufflé of opportunity (with me) can never be reheated.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
10 weeks ago

Llanelli

Could have just been the wrong time for them first try, might be the wrong time for me if they change mind later on 😂

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By *mmacdheelsTV/TS
10 weeks ago

France, Not in

Yes, why not. There are many very genuine reasons why you could have been knocked back first time. But even if the knock back was because of another prearranged meet then after all this a swingers site and that happens. Just be happy that interest has now been shown and go forward if you still like what you see.

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By *elix SightedMan
10 weeks ago

Cloud 8

I’ve thought about this recently. I stumbled across a couple of profiles I had messaged five years ago and still liked the sound of those people. When I messaged them back then they either didn’t read it or weren’t interested in me at the time. But I and my profile have changed massively over the last five years, so their perception of me may well have too.

I’m always willing to have another shot under those circumstances. But if it was someone three months ago who explicitly rejected me, I wouldn’t waste anyone’s time.

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By *B69Woman
10 weeks ago

Wiltshire

No you get one chance only

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By *iss.ddWoman
10 weeks ago

Leeds + Newcastle

It would really depend on why I was knocked back.

For instance, I've said no to meets because the timing / personal situation wasn't right for me and then gone on to have great fun at a later date.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
10 weeks ago

Sheffield

Not a fucking chance x

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By *ampireLoveMan
10 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

"Simple question really... Would you meet up with someone on here who shows an interest in you having been knocked back by them before when you approached them?"

Depends. Did you change their mind? If so, yes. Nothing better than convincing someone the error of their initial ways 😂😂

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By *r John WickMan
10 weeks ago

The Continental

I don’t buy into the whole ‘one chance’ only thing.

I met a lovely person last year, after letting her down a couple of times (real world stuff). She initially said 2 strikes and out, but softened her stance later down the line. We met, and are still in touch now.

If it’s meant to happen, I don’t see an initial no, as concrete ending.

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By *olfandtazCouple
10 weeks ago

Bristol

Nope, they made things clear the first time... not one for sloppy seconds

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
10 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Very much depends on the reasons behind the initial knockback and the change of heart.

Mrs TMN x

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
10 weeks ago

Stoke

We were on here as 2 singles. I ignored the fella when he messaged me first of all, then we met in a club a few weeks later, it's a good job he didn't knock me back haha!

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By *electableicecreamMan
10 weeks ago

The West

Sure. Why not. Loads of reasons why someone might say no or even vanish that are none of my business and I have met with people who said no thanks early on and then connected with again later in different circumstances.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

Why did they knock us back?

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By *ock-a-doodledooMan
10 weeks ago

Grimsby ish

When they don't answer you,they get blocked,so the answer is no.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
10 weeks ago

Lincoln

Just because I didn't want your penis yesterday, and I do today, is no reason to go making a thread about me 🙄

LvM

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By *elix SightedMan
10 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"Why did they knock us back? "

Smelly vag

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Why did they knock us back?

Smelly vag "

Them or us?

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By *elix SightedMan
10 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"Why did they knock us back?

Smelly vag

Them or us?

Hard to tell, it was so overpowering

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By *andynecklaceWoman
10 weeks ago

West Brom

Depends on the reason really...if it was to do with attraction or anything then no

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Why did they knock us back?

Smelly vag

Them or us?

Hard to tell, it was so overpowering "

I see.probably best we don't meet then. A peg on the nose is so unattractive

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By *ougarsilkWoman
10 weeks ago

Pleasure heaven

Erm No. They had their chance back then. If you've become more desirable since they've knocked you back. Tough! It's their loss.

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By *ellinever70Woman
10 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Probably not

I'm fickle like that

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By *ou only live onceMan
10 weeks ago

London

Probably not. But I guess it might depend on the reason for the knock back.

If it was a "like you, just not the right time etc" I'd probably be up for chatting again, but if they didn't fancy me then, I wouldn't believe they did now so it'd be a hard no.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
10 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Thinking about how much our dynamic has evolved while we've been on the site, it would be daft to think what others are looking for hasn't changed too. Maybe we've met in person or, like others have said, they've seen more of our personalities through the forum.

In short, it depends.

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By *elix SightedMan
10 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"Why did they knock us back?

Smelly vag

Them or us?

Hard to tell, it was so overpowering

I see.probably best we don't meet then. A peg on the nose is so unattractive"

Oh I don’t know, few diamanté and a wet wipe for the bits. Problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

No.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Why did they knock us back?

Smelly vag

Them or us?

Hard to tell, it was so overpowering

I see.probably best we don't meet then. A peg on the nose is so unattractive

Oh I don’t know, few diamanté and a wet wipe for the bits. Problem solved

Nahs, I've gone off the whole hypothetical idea now. It's their hypothetical loss 🙊

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By *alico_KittyWoman
10 weeks ago

Kittys Lane

"Don't know. It depends on what happened initially and the reasons for being knocked back."

My answer is as per Nell's

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

No i don't give second chances

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Only if the knock back was for something like they were seeing someone else amd therefore not considering new /additional people... Or had been ill etc

So i guess yes if there was a good reason

I've got waffle-itis

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By *eliWoman
10 weeks ago

It's not a simple yes or no, far too many factors in play.

I "knocked" someone back before. It wasn't them, it was a reflection of where I was at the time. And then I wasn't that woman any more.

I'm really happy they didn't say no. 🩷

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By *osey WalesMan
10 weeks ago

Surrey

Depends on the reason for the knock back

I've been given second chances and met with ladies who have messed me about for various reasons.

It all depends on the scenerio and situation for me

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
10 weeks ago

Wirral.

Nope.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
10 weeks ago

North West

"Only if the knock back was for something like they were seeing someone else amd therefore not considering new /additional people... Or had been ill etc

So i guess yes if there was a good reason

I've got waffle-itis

Waffles are just pancakes that are ribbed for your pleasure. 😉

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By *ad NannaWoman
10 weeks ago

East London

Little story for you.

Years ago I had my filters open and messages came in.

It was late, I was tired and being a fussy cunt. Probably because I was tired.

Said no ta to loads of men, but didn't block one particular man, just because.

Fast forward I don't know how long and said man messaged me, when I was feeling more myself and we chatted.

That led to us meeting up at his regularly for a few years.

I met up with him again last year, after losing interest over lockdown (him and me).

Sometimes we might say no just because.

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By *arol321Woman
10 weeks ago

Poole

Nope. That sounds like they’ll settle for your coz they’re not getting any luck elsewhere. I’m not a consolation prize.

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By *ucka39Man
10 weeks ago

Newcastle

Possibly, I do believe at times second chances

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By *indergirlWoman
10 weeks ago

somewhere, someplace

Depends on the reason for the initial knock back, if it was just pure non-attraction then probably no as I'd be dubious as to why suddenly now I'm not

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By *agatoXXXMan
10 weeks ago

Mordor

No, because I'd have blocked them to avoid any repeats.

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By *vaRose43Woman
10 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

It really depends on why rejection happened first. If it was lack of interest then no.

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By *ellhungvweMan
10 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I have met some great people at a later date that I didn’t initially match with.

I know from personal experience that what I am looking for can (and does) change over time and I have to assume that applies to other people as well.

The opposite also applies - people you have enjoyed meeting but then you slowly move apart. Things change and that is what makes the site fun. Never say never!

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
10 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I met someone who I blocked initially, so I guess I am in.

We get on very well but just socially.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Stockport

I'd probably give them another chance, I'd probably regret it, because they would probably set me up and knock me down again. I trust people when I shouldn't.

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By *eardedguy800Man
10 weeks ago

Kidderminster

Depends….this fence is hard 😉

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By *entlemanrogueMan
10 weeks ago

Motherwell

"Simple question really... Would you meet up with someone on here who shows an interest in you having been knocked back by them before when you approached them?"

It really depends usually I don't like going where I wasn't wanted, however if their was a genuine reason, such as they were seeing someone at the time, or had no availability, then probably I would.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Simple question really... Would you meet up with someone on here who shows an interest in you having been knocked back by them before when you approached them?"

Yep. Why not?

I've met people in the last year that didn't even read messages I'd sent to them 9 months ago.

Unless it's a knock back that followed a reasonable chat, photo exchange and maybe a coffee social,after which it was clear to them we weren't compatible then why not give a second chance? Messages often don't get read. You never know what's going on in someone's life at any given point. You don't know if circumstances, desires and even preferences have evolved and changed.

An open mind is sometimes better than cutting off your nose to spite your face.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Central

Probably not. It ordinarily is totally not but if the right circumstances arise, it's feasible. I think 99.9% would have to say yes, for Joe Beans and LVM exclusively

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Some people see things very black and white, however, I side more with those who say "it depends". If the knock back was quite emphatic and personal then yes, I would be adding her to my block list, but otherwise...

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
10 weeks ago

Wales

Depends, being knocked back isn't necessarily to do with their perception of you. My life's busy right now and have unfortunately had to cancel arrangements. It sucks, like really sucks. So in that instance I'd be forgiving if their situation had changed.

If they knocked me back because they didn't find me attractive or didn't really like me then no, there'd be no point and I'd be over it.

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By *neeyedwillieMan
10 weeks ago

Darlington

Nope.

Once the boat has sails, its sailed.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

No, fuck em . They had a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Definitely not one must exercise self respect in such matters.

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By *moothdickMan
10 weeks ago

stoke

If they’ve blocked me & some have, for god knows what, then they can jog on, but if it’s been a polite refusal, then hey why not, most deserve a second chance,

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Glady yes, sometimes people need to re evaluate there needs and desires

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By *aven.Woman
10 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I would. I know I have made snap judgements on people on here before,even blocked them. Only to go on to arrange to meet them and one guy been one of the most decent guys I've ever known on here.

People can change their minds.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
10 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Every situation has it's own set of circumstances.

This is a nsa site where people meet in the hope of sex - it's nothing more and feeling hurt and rejected because someone couldn't meet with you only hurts you - no one else

I think that anyone who is butt hurt enough to think 'well you didn't want me before' needs to drop their ego and their tit for tat reactions.

If it's too much of a dent in their pride to meet with someone they find attractive physically and personality wise then they are entitled to be butt hurt and lose out.

Imagine a friend saying ....... no you wouldn't come out with us last week so we are not going out with you this week!!!

I do think people confuse nsa swinging with getting engaged and married. They delude themselves.

Swinging is an attempt to put aside or lose altogether those 'strings' that bind people's attitudes to sex and relationships.

Most, who profess to swing operate by vanilla emotions and standards.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
10 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Yes, we’d consider it - sometimes it’s wrong timing.

Or maybe their situation has changed now - no longer smoke, not in a relationship, shaved their beard and so on.

Judging by the amount of people who message us again after us saying no to them, then the percentages would be quite high

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
10 weeks ago

Manchester

I'd consider it. It depends on how long it'd been but I do think people can change their mind. I have. There were some things I was looking for in a guy before that aren't as important to me now.

It would depend on the person as well but I would give them a second chance.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
10 weeks ago

Maidstone

I'm not a black or white kinda person so it would depend on so many things.

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By *orthern BeardMan
10 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

It depends on the circumstances. I was knocked back by someone when I was relatively new here. My profiles improved a lot since then and I got verified more.

I met them in the end and it turned out to be a great meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

Sorry everyone, I've been a bad OP in not really reply but I have read every post and it's an interesting mix of opinions as I really thought men would be more forgiving as opportunities are few and far between.

There's also an interesting contrast between pride being a big factor for some and not for others where the can understand the circumstances may not be right. If there were multiple instances of circumstances not being right, at what point would you cut your losses?

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By *r John WickMan
10 weeks ago

The Continental

"Sorry everyone, I've been a bad OP in not really reply but I have read every post and it's an interesting mix of opinions as I really thought men would be more forgiving as opportunities are few and far between.

Even in those circumstances, I’d never fully cut and run. I’d be more inclined to message in a way that leaves the ball in their court to come and find me if their situation allows. If I never hear back, I assume they’ve moved on, and not lose sleep over it.

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By *illy IdolMan
10 weeks ago

Midlands

"I would. I know I have made snap judgements on people on here before,even blocked them. Only to go on to arrange to meet them and one guy been one of the most decent guys I've ever known on here.

People can change their minds.

Raven meets people😱😱

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
10 weeks ago

Southampton

"I'm not a black or white kinda person so it would depend on so many things. "

This ...

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By *ellhungvweMan
10 weeks ago

Cheltenham

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By *r John WickMan
10 weeks ago

The Continental

"I would. I know I have made snap judgements on people on here before,even blocked them. Only to go on to arrange to meet them and one guy been one of the most decent guys I've ever known on here.

People can change their minds.

Raven meets people😱😱"

I feel like this should be al over the news

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"... and one guy been one of the most decent guys I've ever known on here...

Thanks.

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By *hilloutMan
10 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Every situation has it's own set of circumstances.

This is a nsa site where people meet in the hope of sex - it's nothing more and feeling hurt and rejected because someone couldn't meet with you only hurts you - no one else

I think that anyone who is butt hurt enough to think 'well you didn't want me before' needs to drop their ego and their tit for tat reactions.

If it's too much of a dent in their pride to meet with someone they find attractive physically and personality wise then they are entitled to be butt hurt and lose out.

Imagine a friend saying ....... no you wouldn't come out with us last week so we are not going out with you this week!!!

I do think people confuse nsa swinging with getting engaged and married. They delude themselves.

Swinging is an attempt to put aside or lose altogether those 'strings' that bind people's attitudes to sex and relationships.

Most, who profess to swing operate by vanilla emotions and standards. "

I completely agree, especially with the last statement.

Once more the fab voice of wisdom tells it like it is 😁😉

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By *exxyyDy11Man
10 weeks ago

North West

Yes, I'm not petty. I understand people, women in particular, get bombarded with messages so it is difficult to get through all messages. I've met someone on here before who had over a thousand messages. So I get it.

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By *WB85Man
10 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Depends why and how it happened.

If it's one of those times you get ghosted or someone simply doesn't turn up, absolutely not.

If there's a genuine reason, then sure.

We all have lives outside of fab.

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By *allipygousMan
10 weeks ago

Leicester

I reckon you can judge the biggest egos by the flat nos, you know, not even willing to consider mitigating circumstances

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By *host63Man
10 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

No I wouldn't. It's important to have some self respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"I reckon you can judge the biggest egos by the flat nos, you know, not even willing to consider mitigating circumstances

Actually, I don’t have an ego because of my flat no.

My No is from experience, I’m on here if they’ve said a flat NO then I accept they are never going to change their mind, so I’ll never ask them again.

But sometimes they just hint that it’s not a good idea right now, and I actually do get along with them, so that no. May turn into a yes sometime. Who knows! If that makes sense.

But do a no does not indicate an ego to me, because my answer wasn’t exactly trying to display that either. It’s just a basic answer because most of the time it’s pointless replying to these things.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
10 weeks ago

chichester

"No. "

Based

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By *8on33Man
10 weeks ago

winfrith

yes it's a definite yes

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By *aTina HeadTurnerWoman
10 weeks ago

Travelling

No. They think you’re an easy target knowing you’ve had a “thing” for them in the past and they only approach you because nobody else is available.

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By *odgerMooreMan
10 weeks ago

Carlisle

Depends on the first interaction… if it was a no thanks - not right now then maybe but if it was a hard no - probably not.

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By *hunky GentMan
10 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I presume we're not talking about just a social meet then?

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By *heGateKeeperMan
10 weeks ago

Stratford

More than likely. It would depend on why, especially if they were in a situation ship at the time (or emotionally not available)

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By *3nsesMan
10 weeks ago

Dublin

Yes. Nearly all my serious previous relationships started with rejection. 😅 I'm like mould, it takes a while for me to grow on someone.

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By *odgerMooreMan
10 weeks ago

Carlisle

"Yes. Nearly all my serious previous relationships started with rejection. 😅 I'm like mould, it takes a while for me to grow on someone. "

Can i nick this for next years Valentines Cards??

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By *avexxMan
10 weeks ago

cheshire

it would be a no..

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By *cLovin2Man
10 weeks ago

Reading

Everyone is entitled to change their mind no?

Given how little meets actually happen on here, and the fact that we don't really know each other. I might consider it.

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By *hunky GentMan
10 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I think it would depend why they knocked me back.

If it was because they thought I was ugly or too fat then no.

If ir was because they didn't know me very well, but now see how wonderful I am then yes.

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By *3nsesMan
10 weeks ago

Dublin

"Yes. Nearly all my serious previous relationships started with rejection. 😅 I'm like mould, it takes a while for me to grow on someone.

Can i nick this for next years Valentines Cards??

Absolutely. It's a guaranteed winner.

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By *cLovin2Man
10 weeks ago

Reading

"No. They think you’re an easy target knowing you’ve had a “thing” for them in the past and they only approach you because nobody else is available. "

But what if they had another reason, say they're attached in the beginning, but no longer are? We never know what is happening in other people's lives do we?

I've been in situations where I am attached, and refused to take up interest from another lady. You never know what is going on.

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By *8on33Man
10 weeks ago

winfrith

I can take a knock back

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By *inceIlkestonMan
10 weeks ago

Ilkeston

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By *inceIlkestonMan
10 weeks ago

Ilkeston

"Simple question really... Would you meet up with someone on here who shows an interest in you having been knocked back by them before when you approached them?"

I would if they said they weren't available or had a good valid excuse. I got knocked back for a job application years ago and I got it the second time and still work there.

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By *aTina HeadTurnerWoman
10 weeks ago

Travelling

"No. They think you’re an easy target knowing you’ve had a “thing” for them in the past and they only approach you because nobody else is available.

But what if they had another reason, say they're attached in the beginning, but no longer are? We never know what is happening in other people's lives do we?

I've been in situations where I am attached, and refused to take up interest from another lady. You never know what is going on."

Only proves my point, thanks.

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By *ongAndThick123Man
10 weeks ago

Leeds

"Simple question really... Would you meet up with someone on here who shows an interest in you having been knocked back by them before when you approached them?"

It depends. If someone gave a definite “no” before then I wouldn’t be interested. But if it was more that our previous messages didn’t go anywhere, or they hadn’t replied, then sure I don’t have a problem trying again. We all get busy and we all change.

There’s people I’m speaking with now who I previously had no interest in. But my type has changed with time, and so have the people in question.

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By *empest2KMan
10 weeks ago

Derby

"Simple question really... Would you meet up with someone on here who shows an interest in you having been knocked back by them before when you approached them?"

Apologies for being late to the party, but I'd say ‘it depends’. It's probably a simple question, but the answer is probably anything but.

It depends on how/why were you knocked back, whether you still like them, etc.

With a figure like yours, I'm relatively confident that you're not (too) short of offers for meets, unlike tubby ol' me who's far from fanciable, so it depends on whether you still want to meet them. Call me envious! 🤣

If it had happened to me, I'd reconsider it only because I know my chances are very limited, and they're even worse now I'm over 45! 🤣

I guess it's up to you, mate. You could just have a social, see how it goes, then go from there. Maybe they have regrets for initially turning you down. In this case, I'd say do what's best for you, Mr Beans 😁👍

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By *inja 636Man
10 weeks ago

Grays

I would on the basis there needs and wants may have changed and if touching on the subject if the discussion was open it may shed light on why but then I'm laid back

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I make sure I ask when it’s a safe bet they’ll say yes

I don’t like rejection, I make sure it’s a dead cert’ 😏

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By *havenhaven2Man
10 weeks ago

Perth

Hmmm not sure about that one, maybe yes, maybe no

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
10 weeks ago

Leeds

It depends, we've had profiles message that we weren't into or them us but then met in person at socials and that's changed, sometimes in person is much easier.

Mrs

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