FabSwingers.com forum: Long profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

Anyone else think that having to read 42 pages worth of a profile is off putting?

I understand certain things need to be said but sometimes just the sheer amount of text on a profile can be off putting.. just me?

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By *exxyyDy11Man
19 weeks ago

Darwen

If I'm that interested, I will read, though some profiles read like a Tolkien book.

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By *cnugatugMan
19 weeks ago

Chatham

Ill read it if im genuinly interested

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By *ucka39Man
19 weeks ago

Newcastle

Nah, it can mean they are more interesting than some

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
19 weeks ago

The Continental

Better than one or two lines that tell me nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Each to his own, sometimes better to read 42 pages than yo waste two weeks of convo and discover you are not matched

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
19 weeks ago

Stoke

Then bypass them and move onto the ones who put little effort it. Not always, but those who've put more effort into their profile write ups with more information are often the more genuine ones on here.

Plus, if you can't even be arsed or trusted to read a profile, how are you to be trusted between the sheets?

Just our take on it.

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By *obilebottomMan
19 weeks ago

All over

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

All these points have been valid. But when you jump on a profile and youre reading some pure shite that isnt needed.. dont you think that takes away from conversation when they say "havent you read my profile" when you ask the question?

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By *illy IdolMan
19 weeks ago

Midlands

I don't mind a long profile, but just make sure you put all the important bits in the first paragraph

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By *ealitybitesMan
19 weeks ago

Belfast

There are many things on profiles that I find more off-putting than the length of their bio.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
19 weeks ago

hexham

"Anyone else think that having to read 42 pages worth of a profile is off putting?

I understand certain things need to be said but sometimes just the sheer amount of text on a profile can be off putting.. just me?"

I have rewritten my profile a few times.

I kind of think it is a bit long but I wanted to get the points I made across to everyone.

I would love to know if people think it is too long ??

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
19 weeks ago

chichester

I just scan read a profile and key out buzzwords / terms .. that determines if its Worth my time reading in full

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

Profiles help to filter out the unsuitable. There are many literary and photographic devices that can help you along.

The beauty of a profile is that it's entirely yours to get it just right for you but not the wrong'uns

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
19 weeks ago

The Continental

"All these points have been valid. But when you jump on a profile and youre reading some pure shite that isnt needed.. dont you think that takes away from conversation when they say "havent you read my profile" when you ask the question? "

No, because you can converse about something else instead. Why ask questions that are answered in the profile text?

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By *obilebottomMan
19 weeks ago

All over

It passes the time and some are rather interesting.

Though I must admit not keen on a list of 100 donts or the ones that leave absolutely nothing to talk about in a conversation.

Then again is not for me to say. Everybody likes different things and people can choose how they present themselves

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By *exxyyDy11Man
19 weeks ago

Darwen

"Anyone else think that having to read 42 pages worth of a profile is off putting?

I understand certain things need to be said but sometimes just the sheer amount of text on a profile can be off putting.. just me?

I have rewritten my profile a few times.

I kind of think it is a bit long but I wanted to get the points I made across to everyone.

I would love to know if people think it is too long ??

Your profile is fine. Outlined what you want and reads clear.

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By *ealitybitesMan
19 weeks ago

Belfast

If they are off-putting why are you even getting to the stage of messaging them?

If I found something that annoying the last thing I would be doing would be typing a message or trying to start a conversation.

That just says straight away that you think the profile doesn't apply to you.

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By *eroLondonMan
19 weeks ago

Mayfair

Dear OP, Fab doesn't offer the facility to paginate profiles on here, unless something new has been introduced and I didn't receive the memo.

Profiles exist on one screen only, for you to scroll up and down.

I enjoy detailed profiles as long as they are meaningful, interesting and downright enthralling. ♥️

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
19 weeks ago

manchester

Ours is quite long. We both believe its better to know enough to help us make a judgement on whether we want to meet. So many profiles have far too little info and we tend to avoid these

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By *eyond PurityCouple
19 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I’d much rather read a profile and know whether we are compatible rather than ones that say absolutely nothing and come out with the usual generic spiel.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
19 weeks ago

1127 walnut avenue

Problem with me I do get carried away with the written word.. one day I'll write a 📖...

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By *WANDTGCouple
19 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

Some do drag a bit, but I'll persevere until I get to the dos and don'ts then I'll probably just block them as we are here for fun, not to be held to rules.

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By *cnugatugMan
19 weeks ago

Chatham

Ive been told mines too long for a single guy i dont think it is tbh ive re written it a couple times and im still not happy with so ill add or take out bits no profile is perfect

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
19 weeks ago

Stoke

"Some do drag a bit, but I'll persevere until I get to the dos and don'ts then I'll probably just block them as we are here for fun, not to be held to rules."

Wow... Rules are the most important part.

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By *imples24Man
19 weeks ago

tamworth

I think it’s a fine balance. Profiles with next to nothing come across as fake. Love a good profile read but some do go over the top. Suppose women get too many messages so try to limit that by saying what they are after.

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By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. It takes away from the conversation when someone hasn't bothered to engage with the information available to them.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It depends on how interesting the profile is.

If it is 94 pages of tedium with them using the words no, not and never in capitals, then I'll move on. They're probably quite tedious in person and we'll never get on

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By *oxy jWoman
19 weeks ago

somerset

if my profile is putting some people off then its working as my profile should ..im not here for most im here for the few

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By *nigmaDreamWoman
19 weeks ago

West Midlands

If it’s engaging I like a read.

Not a shouty capital letter rant though.

I personally like ones with some humour thrown in. That’s keeps me reading it all

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
19 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Anyone else think that having to read 42 pages worth of a profile is off putting?

I understand certain things need to be said but sometimes just the sheer amount of text on a profile can be off putting.. just me?"

I bet you my crusty french stick caked in pate that you aren't even reading a bio and are going straight to the 'tits section'.

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By *andPextraCouple
19 weeks ago

North West

"if my profile is putting some people off then its working as my profile should ..im not here for most im here for the few"

This. Our profile is long. Read it is you wish, don't if you cant be bothered.

But we only tend to engage with those who indicate in messages they have.

If that reduces the pot of people available to us on here, hey ho.

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By *yesgreenMan
19 weeks ago

north and south

"If it’s engaging I like a read.

Not a shouty capital letter rant though.

I personally like ones with some humour thrown in. That’s keeps me reading it all "
I enjoy reading the profile the pictures say wow but the reading gives you a look at the personality and weather they have a gsoh which we need on here too

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By *WANDTGCouple
19 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

"Some do drag a bit, but I'll persevere until I get to the dos and don'ts then I'll probably just block them as we are here for fun, not to be held to rules.

Wow... Rules are the most important part."

Some rules like you must be taller than me when I'm wearing heels or I won't meet. Are a little idiotic .

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By *asterMeliodasMan
19 weeks ago

Newmill

I think mine strikes a decent balance of offering enough information on me without dragging. I have no issue reading longer ones, I've made some new friends on the basis of doing so!

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
19 weeks ago

The Continental

"Some do drag a bit, but I'll persevere until I get to the dos and don'ts then I'll probably just block them as we are here for fun, not to be held to rules.

Wow... Rules are the most important part.

Some rules like you must be taller than me when I'm wearing heels or I won't meet. Are a little idiotic .

To you perhaps.

But not to the person writing the profile.

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By *WANDTGCouple
19 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

"Some do drag a bit, but I'll persevere until I get to the dos and don'ts then I'll probably just block them as we are here for fun, not to be held to rules.

Wow... Rules are the most important part.

Some rules like you must be taller than me when I'm wearing heels or I won't meet. Are a little idiotic .

To you perhaps.

But not to the person writing the profile. "

Obviously, as it's their profile !!!

Hence my choice to block them as it's not for me , which I thought the discussion was all about !

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By *ucy AnneTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Woodstock

"Anyone else think that having to read 42 pages worth of a profile is off putting?

I understand certain things need to be said but sometimes just the sheer amount of text on a profile can be off putting.. just me?

I have rewritten my profile a few times.

I kind of think it is a bit long but I wanted to get the points I made across to everyone.

I would love to know if people think it is too long ??

I think that yours is very well and clearly written and explains the key things about you. It is fairly long, but I think not too long, and if someone can’t be bothered to read that much they are probably just going to waste your time or not be the sort of man that you want to meet anyhow.

A reasonably detailed profile should avoid wasting your own time and other people’s in exchanging messages only to realise that you and they have incompatible desires.

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By *adyKarmennTVTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Dublin

Previous to what i have now i did have a long profile mainly for the reason i got asked the same questions every single day so i put everything there, told them read it then message me!

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
19 weeks ago

The Continental

"Some do drag a bit, but I'll persevere until I get to the dos and don'ts then I'll probably just block them as we are here for fun, not to be held to rules.

Wow... Rules are the most important part.

Some rules like you must be taller than me when I'm wearing heels or I won't meet. Are a little idiotic .

To you perhaps.

But not to the person writing the profile.

Obviously, as it's their profile !!!

Hence my choice to block them as it's not for me , which I thought the discussion was all about !"

I thought it was about long profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Long profiles can be ok if they're formatted properly and the person knows basic english...

Oftentimes that's not the case.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
19 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Long profiles can be ok if they're formatted properly and the person knows basic english...

Oftentimes that's not the case."
yours needs a re write.

* There is a difference between MMF and MFM.😉

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By *WANDTGCouple
19 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

"Some do drag a bit, but I'll persevere until I get to the dos and don'ts then I'll probably just block them as we are here for fun, not to be held to rules.

Wow... Rules are the most important part.

Some rules like you must be taller than me when I'm wearing heels or I won't meet. Are a little idiotic .

To you perhaps.

But not to the person writing the profile.

Obviously, as it's their profile !!!

Hence my choice to block them as it's not for me , which I thought the discussion was all about !

I thought it was about long profiles."

You're correct, I'm on another chat regarding blocking. , apologies.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
19 weeks ago

The Continental

"Some do drag a bit, but I'll persevere until I get to the dos and don'ts then I'll probably just block them as we are here for fun, not to be held to rules.

Wow... Rules are the most important part.

Some rules like you must be taller than me when I'm wearing heels or I won't meet. Are a little idiotic .

To you perhaps.

But not to the person writing the profile.

Obviously, as it's their profile !!!

Hence my choice to block them as it's not for me , which I thought the discussion was all about !

I thought it was about long profiles.

You're correct, I'm on another chat regarding blocking. , apologies. "

None needed, shit happens.

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By *odgerMooreMan
19 weeks ago

Nowhere

If it’s interesting and informative and it just a list of demands ….

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Personally I don’t mind a longer interesting profile, especially when it’s an honest one.

It’s the shorter BS ones that I’d ignore…..

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By *endalshaggersCouple
19 weeks ago

Kendal

What would you rather, a longer profile that pre empts questions you'd probably ask in a message anyway or a "fill in later" from someone who joined 2 years ago?

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By *piritOfWolvesMan
19 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

If it's an interesting profile yes, I'll read through it all even if I'm not their type. If it's just a 42 page rant and list of demands. No I just move on, I'm single I don't come on here to get nagged at on a profile.

But I do understand some people will just message women/couples without reading or being in their preferences.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

"Each to his own, sometimes better to read 42 pages than yo waste two weeks of convo and discover you are not matched "

Exactly this, I have time to read a profile, I don't have time to invest in someone who's isn't compatible, would have saved time if I'd have not spoke to start.

Mrs

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By *enelope2UWoman
19 weeks ago

Fife

If they are too bored to read my profile then they definitely aren't the type for me. I'm not an empty vessel and prefer competency.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Long profiles can be ok if they're formatted properly and the person knows basic english...

Oftentimes that's not the case."

I feel that the issue you are alluding to here is precisely that they do know basic English??

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I hold no objections to lengthy, succinct, or moderate profiles. Nonetheless, I anticipate that an examination of such a profile will afford me a lucid and genuine insight into the individual in question.

No pretence or artifice—merely an exposition of their expectations towards the reader, a transparent comprehension of their own essence, and indications of any beguiling qualities that might suggest our compatibility.

Those who indulge in deception or concoct spurious narratives are inevitably unceremoniously unmasked, invariably failing to convey a true authenticity and sense of themselves.

🍺❤️🌹

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
19 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I hold no objections to lengthy, succinct, or moderate profiles. Nonetheless, I anticipate that an examination of such a profile will afford me a lucid and genuine insight into the individual in question.

Those who indulge in deception or concoct spurious narratives are inevitably unceremoniously unmasked, invariably failing to convey a true authenticity and sense of themselves.

🍺❤️🌹"

Are you Nerø in disguise?

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

My profile is lengthy. It used to be even longer. I’ve truncated it. 🤣

Aside from the clear non readers, the length of my profile is not indicative of generating a lack of interest from those interested.

There’s also something to be said about quality within verbosity. Some have rather lengthy profiles and have of it is filled with useless warnings and legalise that holds no water.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

It's those that have swallowed a thesaurus I watch out for, they give me a headache after one paragraph.

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By *issmorganWoman
19 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

For me it means that I'd not be compatible with people who don't want to take time to read my bio.

I list what I'm into etc and if people can't take 2 mins to read it, how would they know if we'd be into the same etc.

I have that I'm not meeting on the 2nd line of my profile and people still don't even read that.

I've had my profile long like now and shorter and there are still those who didn't read it.

You're best off skipping those profiles you deem too long, it's cool if people skip mine, as long as they then don't message me.

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By *eliWoman
19 weeks ago

"It's those that have swallowed a thesaurus I watch out for, they give me a headache after one paragraph.

Wholeheartedly agree.

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By *essTTWoman
19 weeks ago

Birmingham

Yes it does take away from the conversation.

I generally lose interest is someone asks something that very clearly stated on my profile

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By *ittlebirdWoman
19 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

My profile used to be really long as I wanted it that way. It’s now really short… because I want it that way.

Either way loads of twat waffles don’t read it. It’s a perfect filter for me 👍🏻

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
19 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"It's those that have swallowed a thesaurus I watch out for, they give me a headache after one paragraph.

Agree. We have to suffer their contrafibularities.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Are you Nerø in disguise?"

I suggest we’re both hero’s,

Nether are zero’s,

Though, I am not Nero,

Aligned taste in females, tho!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
19 weeks ago

Wherever

How about people manage their profiles as they wish, be it long or short - and it’s up to us if we choose to interact with them.

It’s also another useful filter to narrow the pool of people you would be most likely compatible with.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"It's those that have swallowed a thesaurus I watch out for, they give me a headache after one paragraph."

🤣👀Exactly, an idealistic outcome. It’s the greatest filter. Perfect kryptonite.

Should I ever embark upon the pursuit of companionship from here once more, I would undoubtedly issue a cautionary advisory

⚠️⚠️ with this profile .. should you be incapable of perceiving this, comprehending it, or begin to demonstrate distress or physical pain whilst reading it, kindly do us both a favour & clear off forthwith. ⚠️⚠️

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By *asycouple1971Couple
19 weeks ago

midlands

Our profile explains who we are and what we are looking for.

If you don't read it and message us then don't moan if the message gets deleted unread.

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By *eroLondonMan
19 weeks ago

Mayfair

"It's those that have swallowed a thesaurus I watch out for, they give me a headache after one paragraph."

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It's all academic for you, JÅG, you get a headache after a fullstop. There's nothing like a silver plated thimbleful of the finest Rum to a_eliorate your boredom. ♥️🥃

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Not at all. Im not interested unless I read a 42 page bio including back story and spin off side stories.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

I skip to the end of leaflets to see how they end. I can’t be reading long profiles.

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By *ongAndThick123Man
19 weeks ago

Leeds

"Anyone else think that having to read 42 pages worth of a profile is off putting?

I understand certain things need to be said but sometimes just the sheer amount of text on a profile can be off putting.. just me?"

It depends what the first few lines are. If it starts with a list of negatives, or rules, then I won’t read any further.

If it’s interesting and positive then yes sure I’ll read it all to find out more about the person.

The only time I don’t read profiles is when they’re giving off negativity.

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