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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

what your preference is when you die?

I never speak of it personally so if something happened to me it would be down to my children to decide whether I'm cremated or buried!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reminds me of a Bob Hope joke - his son once asked him if he wanted to be buried or cremated when he died, to which he responded

'Surprise me'

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire


"what your preference is when you die?

I never speak of it personally so if something happened to me it would be down to my children to decide whether I'm cremated or buried!!

"

Re-cyc bin.

Dave

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"what your preference is when you die?

I never speak of it personally so if something happened to me it would be down to my children to decide whether I'm cremated or buried!!

"

Yes - I've practically planned my funeral!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine have been told if i don't get cremated i will haunt them lol and i have my songs picked n all,if my life has taught me anything its that you can go at any time.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

They know everything, i have a statement of directive and i am about to make an ordianary will.

However, since my dad died i have changed the plans for when i die but as soon as i changed them i let people know.

So if i pop my clogs tomorrow im being cremated in a cardboard casket lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I want a wicker coffin and to be cremated and my ashes to go with my dogs and Nev.

Music is paradise city by guns and roses as my coffin goes into crem and one by U2 as everyone leaves the crem.

Not sure of hymns yet

I'd like to be dressed in red and I want no one wearing black I want bright colours. I want no flowers apart from yellow roses from my loved one and donations to be made to animal rescues.

I then want a tea party with pasties and tea and cupcakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I want a wicker coffin and to be cremated and my ashes to go with my dogs and Nev.

Music is paradise city by guns and roses as my coffin goes into crem and one by U2 as everyone leaves the crem.

Not sure of hymns yet

I'd like to be dressed in red and I want no one wearing black I want bright colours. I want no flowers apart from yellow roses from my loved one and donations to be made to animal rescues.

I then want a tea party with pasties and tea and cupcakes "

Also insist on being embalmed so I look nice for visitation and face made up and nails done lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive also thought long and hard about DNR and havent made my final decision on that yet as there are pro's and cons but i am swaying one way at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also thought long and hard about DNR and havent made my final decision on that yet as there are pro's and cons but i am swaying one way at the moment"

Not even thought about that

I think if there's no chance I will recover then DNR

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By *sMinxyWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

yes they do... is all writtten down and brother n sis both have my wishes... sis who knows about here also has a sealed envelope with passwords so some things can be deleted!!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Ive also thought long and hard about DNR and havent made my final decision on that yet as there are pro's and cons but i am swaying one way at the moment

Not even thought about that

I think if there's no chance I will recover then DNR "

What i do know is, if the worst comes to the worst i want to have made all the decisions and not my loved ones to second guess what i would want. I had to second guess everything when my dad was critical but i think i chose what he would of done, i want that to not fall to them

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just the cheapest possible and spend the mony on something usefull as i wont be there to know !!!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Yes I want a wicker coffin and to be cremated and my ashes to go with my dogs and Nev.

Music is paradise city by guns and roses as my coffin goes into crem and one by U2 as everyone leaves the crem.

Not sure of hymns yet

I'd like to be dressed in red and I want no one wearing black I want bright colours. I want no flowers apart from yellow roses from my loved one and donations to be made to animal rescues.

I then want a tea party with pasties and tea and cupcakes "
Not a bad choice overall. I personally would not go for cremation and U2, but G&R, the colour red and the idea of donations are cool. In my case donations to a childrens' and an elderly people charity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're going to be cremated and when we're both done, we're going in a sky rocket or a shot gun cartridge and blasted into infinity

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I really should do this...i keep putting it off as it upsets me for days as i start to worry about my kids and what wud happen to them (..

But i know i have to do it sooner rather than later! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do know. I have made a Will, it has funeral wishes included. I will update my Will as and when circumstances change, ie I become a grandparent.

My mother arranged and paid for her funeral. On receiving the news of my mothers death her wishes were put into action and I didn't have to sort a thing. I knew of these plans at the time of her making them.

I shall also have a pre paid funeral plam. I know that we can go at any time but I'm not ready to plan my funeral as yet. Hopefully I'm only halfway through my life. My Will to divide my estate is in place and more important than my funeral, in 20 years time ill start paying for my funeral

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im having no flowers whatsoever at mine apart from a single yellow rose tied with yellow ribbon on my coffin. Donations are to be split two ways, bipolar foundation and the other half ive said to leave to the most prominant charity in my life at the time of my death. If im in an icu then it goes to them or Loros then it goes to them, you get the drift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've told my son I want to be cremated and my ashes spread by brandy well cottage on the Isle of Man so I can watch the rally there every year lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I now know I need to let them know my wishes, whenever I have tried they all start crying which then sets me off so its all forgot about. Think ile be best just writing it all down for now.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I now know I need to let them know my wishes, whenever I have tried they all start crying which then sets me off so its all forgot about. Think ile be best just writing it all down for now."

Why not write it down and keep it in a nice keepsake box and just tell them everything is in there when the time comes

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I now know I need to let them know my wishes, whenever I have tried they all start crying which then sets me off so its all forgot about. Think ile be best just writing it all down for now."

Why not write it down and keep it in a nice keepsake box and just tell them everything is in there when the time comes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I now know I need to let them know my wishes, whenever I have tried they all start crying which then sets me off so its all forgot about. Think ile be best just writing it all down for now."

Writing it all down sounds like a good plan that, but as long as I end up on the Isle of Man I don't care about the rest of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I now know I need to let them know my wishes, whenever I have tried they all start crying which then sets me off so its all forgot about. Think ile be best just writing it all down for now.

Why not write it down and keep it in a nice keepsake box and just tell them everything is in there when the time comes"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my mum (who is 83 this year) mentions her no longer being around, I change the subject by saying "I know all this dont want to talk about it" and I definately dont discuss mine, but on subject I say I dont want to be buried or cremated so where to put me god only knows. and thats not meant as a joke or anything

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I've thought about it but not actually decided what I'm doing yet.

Have considered giving my body to medical science tho...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've thought about it but not actually decided what I'm doing yet.

Have considered giving my body to medical science tho..."

Bet they'd be pleased to have that awesome body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dig a hole and throw me in it

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

Yeah chucked off a cliff its free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also thought long and hard about DNR and havent made my final decision on that yet as there are pro's and cons but i am swaying one way at the moment"

How does this work? If something happened to me that would leave me in a vegative state, I would Want it ended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like when Hubby died, I didn't have a clue, we'd never discussed it ever.

I really had to think what he would like .

We liv in Devon but he's from Cornwall so I was like shall I have the cremation in Cornwall or shall I have him buried in Cornwall? In the end I opted for cremation as there was no room in his mom and dads plot so it was easier to bury 1/2 his ashes there and I kept the other 1/2 with me.

I dressed he in a cream suit (the one he married me in) his favourite barker shoes and his beloved cuff links ( was always wearing cuff links with a shirt.

Music was albatross by fleetwood mac as his coffin was carried into church. When we left church we has a Cornish choir sing white rose.

The minster was lovely and told lots of jokes so that was right up his street.

I hope I gave him a fitting funeral and that he was there looking down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do honestly think though a funeral is more for the living than the dead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me and my hubby both want to be cremated when we die and no funeral service. i told my son as well.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Although everything financially is in place, I've only recently thought about my funeral. My stepsons buried their mum in February and I know she planned everything.

My girls were able to visit her and say goodbye and support their brothers. She wanted to be cremated, half her ashes to be buried with her mother and the remainder scattered in her favourite place: Hawaii.

I've talked to my girls, but they don't want to know. Their brothers mum was three years older than me.

What I'll do is leave my instructions with my will. I would prepay it, but I don't know whether I'll stay in the UK.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Yes all my family know my prefereances and for our children too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all our plans are sorted out,

will written

cremation wishes

and all the songs we both wish to be played at the service and crem,not a nice thing to discuss but,so much easier to sort out when the day comes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

crystal knows the important bits. Namely that I don't go back to Brum and that my parents aren't to be involved in the organisation and are not wanted at the front of the crem. Humanist ceremony and people in normal clothes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to be burried as I am probably getting eternal fire where I end up anyway.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My mum is danish and wants her coffin to be put in the canal and set alight like they did the vikings... I am not sure that this will be allowed some how...

Me I don't want no one wearing black and want it to be a celebration of my life rather than the ending of it....

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