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"Gosh no. No leagues, just incompatibility..." This. | |||
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"Yeah, pretty much. It stops me messaging people because I pretty much assume that I wouldn't be their type" Snap ! | |||
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"I used to but not anymore. I have nothing to loose but everything to gain and so should everyone." Well I’ve lost a lot of confidence. And gained a lot of baggage. And gained nothing. 🤔😂 | |||
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"I used to but not anymore. I have nothing to loose but everything to gain and so should everyone. Well I’ve lost a lot of confidence. And gained a lot of baggage. And gained nothing. 🤔😂" No but seriously your outlook is so good. I need to be more confident. | |||
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"I used to but not anymore. I have nothing to loose but everything to gain and so should everyone." You lose Schrodinger's Attraction. As long as you don't message, they are both attracted and not attracted to you | |||
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"I used to but not anymore. I have nothing to loose but everything to gain and so should everyone. You lose Schrodinger's Attraction. As long as you don't message, they are both attracted and not attracted to you" Love a sneaky geek reference 😍 | |||
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Don't put yourself down, you have nothing to lose by making contact with them.
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"No I don't feel out of anybody's league. I'm too old and too tired for that. I am realistic though and can pretty much judge who's unlikely to be interested in me. I also know that this doesn't make them better than me just as I'm not better than people who aren't my cup of tea. " Yep ^^ I think "leagues" and compatibility often get mixed up on here. | |||
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so if we are compatible with them being similar it's a win win 😂 | |||
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"No I don't feel out of anybody's league. I'm too old and too tired for that. I am realistic though and can pretty much judge who's unlikely to be interested in me. I also know that this doesn't make them better than me just as I'm not better than people who aren't my cup of tea. Yep ^^ I think "leagues" and compatibility often get mixed up on here. " It's probably also a slippery slope. If you think others are more attractive to you, it probably makes those who are attracted to you question why that is | |||
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"No I don't feel out of anybody's league. I'm too old and too tired for that. I am realistic though and can pretty much judge who's unlikely to be interested in me. I also know that this doesn't make them better than me just as I'm not better than people who aren't my cup of tea. Yep ^^ I think "leagues" and compatibility often get mixed up on here. " You could well be right. | |||
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"I used to but not anymore. I have nothing to loose but everything to gain and so should everyone. You lose Schrodinger's Attraction. As long as you don't message, they are both attracted and not attracted to you" Oh Joe!  | |||
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"No I don't feel out of anybody's league. I'm too old and too tired for that. I am realistic though and can pretty much judge who's unlikely to be interested in me. I also know that this doesn't make them better than me just as I'm not better than people who aren't my cup of tea. Yep ^^ I think "leagues" and compatibility often get mixed up on here. It's probably also a slippery slope. If you think others are more attractive to you, it probably makes those who are attracted to you question why that is "Yep. What does it say about the people you are happy to approach?  | |||
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"No I don't feel out of anybody's league. I'm too old and too tired for that. I am realistic though and can pretty much judge who's unlikely to be interested in me. I also know that this doesn't make them better than me just as I'm not better than people who aren't my cup of tea. Yep ^^ I think "leagues" and compatibility often get mixed up on here. It's probably also a slippery slope. If you think others are more attractive to you, it probably makes those who are attracted to you question why that is "Joe, you're scrambling my brain. | |||
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"Its a woman's market here, so its easy for any woman to offer and be confident whoever it is will say yes. But mem KNOW that if they don't exceed the woman's expectations there is no chance. That's the vibe men get generally. But especially here. " I know this site is hard when you feel so outnumbered. And it knocks the confidence when you don't get replies. But this sort of attitude is so off-putting. Gee, someone is definitely going to say yes to me just because I have the required orifices, sign me up for sex right now. | |||
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"No I don't feel out of anybody's league. I'm too old and too tired for that. I am realistic though and can pretty much judge who's unlikely to be interested in me. I also know that this doesn't make them better than me just as I'm not better than people who aren't my cup of tea. Yep ^^ I think "leagues" and compatibility often get mixed up on here. It's probably also a slippery slope. If you think others are more attractive to you, it probably makes those who are attracted to you question why that is
Joe, you're scrambling my brain. "Probably my poor writing skills. I'm not in Meli or Nero's league | |||
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"No I don't feel out of anybody's league. I'm too old and too tired for that. I am realistic though and can pretty much judge who's unlikely to be interested in me. I also know that this doesn't make them better than me just as I'm not better than people who aren't my cup of tea. Yep ^^ I think "leagues" and compatibility often get mixed up on here. It's probably also a slippery slope. If you think others are more attractive to you, it probably makes those who are attracted to you question why that is
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Probably my poor writing skills. I'm not in Meli or Nero's league "Oh, I just nod and smile at those two. They've not figured that out, yet. | |||
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"No I don't feel out of anybody's league. I'm too old and too tired for that. I am realistic though and can pretty much judge who's unlikely to be interested in me. I also know that this doesn't make them better than me just as I'm not better than people who aren't my cup of tea. Yep ^^ I think "leagues" and compatibility often get mixed up on here. It's probably also a slippery slope. If you think others are more attractive to you, it probably makes those who are attracted to you question why that is
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Probably my poor writing skills. I'm not in Meli or Nero's league
Oh, I just nod and smile at those two. They've not figured that out, yet."That's what everyone does 😎 | |||
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"Pretty simple I guess do you ever see a profile from someone who you match what they are looking for but for some reason think they are out of you're league? I ask and this might be more of a guy thing because I'm having this issue with everyone currently and just want to make sure I'm not going mental basically. " We only judge people on what they are looking for. As long as it matters what we are looking for we will meet up with them... Looks are unimportant, they need to be old enough, hygienic and be pleasant to be with. Anything else is unimportant.. I mean we will probably only ever meet them the once.. Its not like we are planning a relationship with them | |||
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"Its a woman's market here, so its easy for any woman to offer and be confident whoever it is will say yes. But mem KNOW that if they don't exceed the woman's expectations there is no chance. That's the vibe men get generally. But especially here. " That wasn't what I was getting at because I've used fab guys in the past and had the same issue
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"No I don't feel out of anybody's league. I'm too old and too tired for that. I am realistic though and can pretty much judge who's unlikely to be interested in me. I also know that this doesn't make them better than me just as I'm not better than people who aren't my cup of tea. Yep ^^ I think "leagues" and compatibility often get mixed up on here. It's probably also a slippery slope. If you think others are more attractive to you, it probably makes those who are attracted to you question why that is "Well i wasn't before! No I actually havnt ever thought that which now I think about it is weird. Maybe I'm just having a crisis of confidence? (Which has probably been most of my life come to think of it) | |||
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"How come nobody is mad about the use of the term league" I did wonder if I was walking a fine line with using that term but it's a Friday evening and I wasn't sure how to word it. | |||
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"How come nobody is mad about the use of the term league" I appreciate I have been away for a while but am I missing something? Why is this a bad word now? | |||
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"How come nobody is mad about the use of the term league" There's no justice | |||
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"I don't believe there are many people who have the self confidence to not feel that way at some point. " 🙋♀️ | |||
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"How come nobody is mad about the use of the term league I appreciate I have been away for a while but am I missing something? Why is this a bad word now?" This might be a classic cade of an extreme minority of a minority find it bad but everyone else did not. | |||
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"Without a doubt "Now that's shocking that someone as fit as yourself feels out of someone's league 🙄 I could only ever dream of having any sort of encounter / interaction with someone like yourself | |||
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"How come nobody is mad about the use of the term league I appreciate I have been away for a while but am I missing something? Why is this a bad word now? This might be a classic cade of an extreme minority of a minority find it bad but everyone else did not. " I have missed the pleasure of the thought police  | |||
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"I used to but not anymore. I have nothing to loose but everything to gain and so should everyone. You lose Schrodinger's Attraction. As long as you don't message, they are both attracted and not attracted to you" This is my approach and I stand by it. | |||
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"I feel like because I’m not verified it’s a big no for the people I speak or try to talk to. But if no one wants to meet then I don’t know how to change that and get verified? " I'm in the same boat pal | |||
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"Gosh no. No leagues, just incompatibility..." so perfectly put | |||
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"Nah. I don't generally elevate people to Greek God status Joking aside, I don't feel like I might not be a persons type, so I don't bother " Ditto xx | |||
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"On the leagues thing, this is a long and rambling post, and I'm not sure I've reached a conclusion, so bear with... Of course we're all equal. No one is better than anyone else. We are all attractive to someone. Yadda yadda. This is all true. But there are also people who are more attractive than I am. And/or there are lots of people who are more attractive to a wider selection of people than me. This is also true. Does that mean there's a league? No-one is rating us all and keeping score centrally (other than the recent threads about best cock or best tits or best bum - they're all banked), but it's wild to me that those thoughts don't cross everyone's mind when it comes so naturally to me when thinking about whether someone might be interested in me. So for me, any league is less that she is "too hot" for me, but that I'd assume someone I considered attractive was also attractive to lots of other people, many of whom would be more attractive to her than me... Have I just written the longest "yes" in history? I think I might have." Ahhh YOLO, I can identify with this a lot. It sucks to think that way and it's almost a form of self preservation by not messaging at all and it's so easy to compare yourself with others, especially when you can actually see their type through verifications and feel like you don't quite measure up. | |||
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"On the leagues thing, this is a long and rambling post, and I'm not sure I've reached a conclusion, so bear with... Of course we're all equal. No one is better than anyone else. We are all attractive to someone. Yadda yadda. This is all true. But there are also people who are more attractive than I am. And/or there are lots of people who are more attractive to a wider selection of people than me. This is also true. Does that mean there's a league? No-one is rating us all and keeping score centrally (other than the recent threads about best cock or best tits or best bum - they're all banked), but it's wild to me that those thoughts don't cross everyone's mind when it comes so naturally to me when thinking about whether someone might be interested in me. So for me, any league is less that she is "too hot" for me, but that I'd assume someone I considered attractive was also attractive to lots of other people, many of whom would be more attractive to her than me... Have I just written the longest "yes" in history? I think I might have. Ahhh YOLO, I can identify with this a lot. It sucks to think that way and it's almost a form of self preservation by not messaging at all and it's so easy to compare yourself with others, especially when you can actually see their type through verifications and feel like you don't quite measure up." That being said, you're an absolute stud regardless of what anyone else (or even yourself) might think 😎 | |||
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"I used to but not anymore. I have nothing to loose but everything to gain and so should everyone. You lose Schrodinger's Attraction. As long as you don't message, they are both attracted and not attracted to you Love a sneaky geek reference 😍" Schrodinger's Swingers | |||
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"... ...do you ever see a profile from someone who you match... ...but for some reason think they are out of you're league?" Picture the scene: her profile matches almost perfectly; she's eloquent, erudite, 'girl next door', unfazed by shape and size, open to all castes and creeds, I'm intrigued by her interests and her worldly passions, her humour etc... ✅ We are *compatible* !! Then I scroll through her photographs (again) and scrutinise her verifications: they are ALL of men who are tall, athletic, noble, refined, aesthetically pleasing, monied etc — attributes that totally and shamelessly contradict what she's written. I am the one who is out of *her* league. We are compatible but I'm still out of her league. "League" isn't a dirty word. | |||
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"On the leagues thing, this is a long and rambling post, and I'm not sure I've reached a conclusion, so bear with... Of course we're all equal. No one is better than anyone else. We are all attractive to someone. Yadda yadda. This is all true. But there are also people who are more attractive than I am. And/or there are lots of people who are more attractive to a wider selection of people than me. This is also true. Does that mean there's a league? No-one is rating us all and keeping score centrally (other than the recent threads about best cock or best tits or best bum - they're all banked), but it's wild to me that those thoughts don't cross everyone's mind when it comes so naturally to me when thinking about whether someone might be interested in me. So for me, any league is less that she is "too hot" for me, but that I'd assume someone I considered attractive was also attractive to lots of other people, many of whom would be more attractive to her than me... Have I just written the longest "yes" in history? I think I might have." YES! This! This basically sums it up for me! Is that a lack of confidence? Self esteem (on my part not yours). | |||
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"... ...do you ever see a profile from someone who you match... ...but for some reason think they are out of you're league? Picture the scene: her profile matches almost perfectly; she's eloquent, erudite, 'girl next door', unfazed by shape and size, open to all castes and creeds, I'm intrigued by her interests and her worldly passions, her humour etc... ✅ We are *compatible* !! Then I scroll through her photographs (again) and scrutinise her verifications: they are ALL of men who are tall, athletic, noble, refined, aesthetically pleasing, monied etc — attributes that totally and shamelessly contradict what she's written. I am the one who is out of *her* league. We are compatible but I'm still out of her league. "League" isn't a dirty word." Maybe those are the only guys confident enough to message said goddess with enough charm to capture her attention🤔 | |||
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"On the leagues thing, this is a long and rambling post, and I'm not sure I've reached a conclusion, so bear with... Of course we're all equal. No one is better than anyone else. We are all attractive to someone. Yadda yadda. This is all true. But there are also people who are more attractive than I am. And/or there are lots of people who are more attractive to a wider selection of people than me. This is also true. Does that mean there's a league? No-one is rating us all and keeping score centrally (other than the recent threads about best cock or best tits or best bum - they're all banked), but it's wild to me that those thoughts don't cross everyone's mind when it comes so naturally to me when thinking about whether someone might be interested in me. So for me, any league is less that she is "too hot" for me, but that I'd assume someone I considered attractive was also attractive to lots of other people, many of whom would be more attractive to her than me... Have I just written the longest "yes" in history? I think I might have. Ahhh YOLO, I can identify with this a lot. It sucks to think that way and it's almost a form of self preservation by not messaging at all and it's so easy to compare yourself with others, especially when you can actually see their type through verifications and feel like you don't quite measure up. That being said, you're an absolute stud regardless of what anyone else (or even yourself) might think 😎" Haha, thanks, Joe. Takes one to know one, of course! It's a tricky one to articulate - I don't think I'm *unattractive* (though no-one's talking Stud Division), but definitely more Tottenham than Man City. Even City get beaten occasionally, but not often. | |||
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"... ...do you ever see a profile from someone who you match... ...but for some reason think they are out of you're league? Picture the scene: her profile matches almost perfectly; she's eloquent, erudite, 'girl next door', unfazed by shape and size, open to all castes and creeds, I'm intrigued by her interests and her worldly passions, her humour etc... ✅ We are *compatible* !! Then I scroll through her photographs (again) and scrutinise her verifications: they are ALL of men who are tall, athletic, noble, refined, aesthetically pleasing, monied etc — attributes that totally and shamelessly contradict what she's written. I am the one who is out of *her* league. We are compatible but I'm still out of her league. "League" isn't a dirty word. · Maybe those are the only guys confident enough to message said goddess with enough charm to capture her attention🤔" • I would suspect that it's ·her· doing the messaging seeing that all her verifications are exhibiting similar characteristics and traits. Who knows? | |||
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Since my type is so, so, specific, and let’s say, not mainstream at all, most guys who would be deemed as “out of my league” are completely unattractive to me. They do message me, and it disconcerts me … I have yet to meet one as they’re not attractive to me at all.
And the one time in six years that I messaged someone to see if they were interested in chatting to see where it lead he politely declined. But that was cool- not really out of my league, just not interested. | |||
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"Haha, thanks, Joe. Takes one to know one, of course! It's a tricky one to articulate - I don't think I'm *unattractive* (though no-one's talking Stud Division), but definitely more Tottenham than Man City. Even City get beaten occasionally, but not often." I get what you mean, and of course as it's a numbers game, it's easy to put yourself in the box of being one of many others rather than the top of the top! 😅 | |||
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"Haha, thanks, Joe. Takes one to know one, of course! It's a tricky one to articulate - I don't think I'm *unattractive* (though no-one's talking Stud Division), but definitely more Tottenham than Man City. Even City get beaten occasionally, but not often. I get what you mean, and of course as it's a numbers game, it's easy to put yourself in the box of being one of many others rather than the top of the top! 😅" I absolutely won’t meet a scruffy woman… uncombed hair and no lippy on… just a rule that I won’t break…. Unless they ask… or say hello or something similarly flirtatious!!! | |||
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"Haha, thanks, Joe. Takes one to know one, of course! It's a tricky one to articulate - I don't think I'm *unattractive* (though no-one's talking Stud Division), but definitely more Tottenham than Man City. Even City get beaten occasionally, but not often. I get what you mean, and of course as it's a numbers game, it's easy to put yourself in the box of being one of many others rather than the top of the top! 😅 I absolutely won’t meet a scruffy woman… uncombed hair and no lippy on… just a rule that I won’t break…. Unless they ask… or say hello or something similarly flirtatious!!! "Haha, well that's me out! | |||
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"Haha, thanks, Joe. Takes one to know one, of course! It's a tricky one to articulate - I don't think I'm *unattractive* (though no-one's talking Stud Division), but definitely more Tottenham than Man City. Even City get beaten occasionally, but not often. I get what you mean, and of course as it's a numbers game, it's easy to put yourself in the box of being one of many others rather than the top of the top! 😅" Or you could drop a division and be the top of that one | |||
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"... ...do you ever see a profile from someone who you match... ...but for some reason think they are out of you're league? Picture the scene: her profile matches almost perfectly; she's eloquent, erudite, 'girl next door', unfazed by shape and size, open to all castes and creeds, I'm intrigued by her interests and her worldly passions, her humour etc... ✅ We are *compatible* !! Then I scroll through her photographs (again) and scrutinise her verifications: they are ALL of men who are tall, athletic, noble, refined, aesthetically pleasing, monied etc — attributes that totally and shamelessly contradict what she's written. I am the one who is out of *her* league. We are compatible but I'm still out of her league. "League" isn't a dirty word. Maybe those are the only guys confident enough to message said goddess with enough charm to capture her attention🤔" Exactly!!!! Maybe she’s just aching for someone to smack her arse and tell her to get the drinks in … and the pork scratchings!! | |||
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"Haha, thanks, Joe. Takes one to know one, of course! It's a tricky one to articulate - I don't think I'm *unattractive* (though no-one's talking Stud Division), but definitely more Tottenham than Man City. Even City get beaten occasionally, but not often. I get what you mean, and of course as it's a numbers game, it's easy to put yourself in the box of being one of many others rather than the top of the top! 😅 I absolutely won’t meet a scruffy woman… uncombed hair and no lippy on… just a rule that I won’t break…. Unless they ask… or say hello or something similarly flirtatious!!!
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"Haha, thanks, Joe. Takes one to know one, of course! It's a tricky one to articulate - I don't think I'm *unattractive* (though no-one's talking Stud Division), but definitely more Tottenham than Man City. Even City get beaten occasionally, but not often. I get what you mean, and of course as it's a numbers game, it's easy to put yourself in the box of being one of many others rather than the top of the top! 😅 I absolutely won’t meet a scruffy woman… uncombed hair and no lippy on… just a rule that I won’t break…. Unless they ask… or say hello or something similarly flirtatious!!!
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"Haha, thanks, Joe. Takes one to know one, of course! It's a tricky one to articulate - I don't think I'm *unattractive* (though no-one's talking Stud Division), but definitely more Tottenham than Man City. Even City get beaten occasionally, but not often. I get what you mean, and of course as it's a numbers game, it's easy to put yourself in the box of being one of many others rather than the top of the top! 😅 Or you could drop a division and be the top of that one " Tbf I need to drop a weight division or two | |||
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"Haha, thanks, Joe. Takes one to know one, of course! It's a tricky one to articulate - I don't think I'm *unattractive* (though no-one's talking Stud Division), but definitely more Tottenham than Man City. Even City get beaten occasionally, but not often. I get what you mean, and of course as it's a numbers game, it's easy to put yourself in the box of being one of many others rather than the top of the top! 😅 I absolutely won’t meet a scruffy woman… uncombed hair and no lippy on… just a rule that I won’t break…. Unless they ask… or say hello or something similarly flirtatious!!!
Haha, well that's me out!
Oooh that’s a bit flirtatious….
I'm very unkempt and never wear lippy or other kinds of makeup "ok you’ve seduced me now… do with me what you will you saucy minx x | |||
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"... ...do you ever see a profile from someone who you match... ...but for some reason think they are out of you're league? Picture the scene: her profile matches almost perfectly; she's eloquent, erudite, 'girl next door', unfazed by shape and size, open to all castes and creeds, I'm intrigued by her interests and her worldly passions, her humour etc... ✅ We are *compatible* !! Then I scroll through her photographs (again) and scrutinise her verifications: they are ALL of men who are tall, athletic, noble, refined, aesthetically pleasing, monied etc — attributes that totally and shamelessly contradict what she's written. I am the one who is out of *her* league. We are compatible but I'm still out of her league. "League" isn't a dirty word. · Maybe those are the only guys confident enough to message said goddess with enough charm to capture her attention🤔 • I would suspect that it's ·her· doing the messaging seeing that all her verifications are exhibiting similar characteristics and traits. Who knows?" Do ladies message first? Who are these veritable unicorns 🤔😘 | |||
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"...Do ladies message first? Who are these veritable unicorns 🤔😘" • Yes they do. 😇 | |||
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"... ...do you ever see a profile from someone who you match... ...but for some reason think they are out of you're league? Picture the scene: her profile matches almost perfectly; she's eloquent, erudite, 'girl next door', unfazed by shape and size, open to all castes and creeds, I'm intrigued by her interests and her worldly passions, her humour etc... ✅ We are *compatible* !! Then I scroll through her photographs (again) and scrutinise her verifications: they are ALL of men who are tall, athletic, noble, refined, aesthetically pleasing, monied etc — attributes that totally and shamelessly contradict what she's written. I am the one who is out of *her* league. We are compatible but I'm still out of her league. "League" isn't a dirty word. Maybe those are the only guys confident enough to message said goddess with enough charm to capture her attention🤔 Exactly!!!! Maybe she’s just aching for someone to smack her arse and tell her to get the drinks in … and the pork scratchings!! "Every ladies dream 😆😆 | |||
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"... ...do you ever see a profile from someone who you match... ...but for some reason think they are out of you're league? Picture the scene: her profile matches almost perfectly; she's eloquent, erudite, 'girl next door', unfazed by shape and size, open to all castes and creeds, I'm intrigued by her interests and her worldly passions, her humour etc... ✅ We are *compatible* !! Then I scroll through her photographs (again) and scrutinise her verifications: they are ALL of men who are tall, athletic, noble, refined, aesthetically pleasing, monied etc — attributes that totally and shamelessly contradict what she's written. I am the one who is out of *her* league. We are compatible but I'm still out of her league. "League" isn't a dirty word. Maybe those are the only guys confident enough to message said goddess with enough charm to capture her attention🤔 Exactly!!!! Maybe she’s just aching for someone to smack her arse and tell her to get the drinks in … and the pork scratchings!!
Every ladies dream 😆😆"Exactly… keep prince charming - a real woman wants a pint of bitter and a pasty and a fumble up against the fruit machine… oooh hold the plums!! | |||
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"...Do ladies message first? Who are these veritable unicorns 🤔😘 • Yes they do. 😇" Don't tell everyone...you'll have to explain your magic touch 😎 | |||
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" oooh hold the plums!! "Do you remember the Billy and Wally show on Radio Merseyside?! | |||
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"How come nobody is mad about the use of the term league There's no justice" No justice No peace Fuck the - Well you know the rest 🥰 | |||
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"I don't believe in leagues but there are people that I assume wouldn't fancy me, even if they would want to have sex with me What’s not to fancy about you
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"Pretty simple I guess do you ever see a profile from someone who you match what they are looking for but for some reason think they are out of you're league? I ask and this might be more of a guy thing because I'm having this issue with everyone currently and just want to make sure I'm not going mental basically. " Almost every time 😂 | |||
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"On here you only see the best of someone, good photos from the right angles. That person with the great body, do they have a great face? Personality? Everyone has flaws, just because they seem "popular" or have great photos doesn't mean a thing. They'll be distinctly average in person, everyone is. " You're not average Raven. You're one of a kind (actually that's not true, cos Elf, Coyote Ugly, Jane Doe and a few others that I've forgotten, can give you a run for your money). Please don't change. | |||
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"On here you only see the best of someone, good photos from the right angles. That person with the great body, do they have a great face? Personality? Everyone has flaws, just because they seem "popular" or have great photos doesn't mean a thing. They'll be distinctly average in person, everyone is. You're not average Raven. You're one of a kind (actually that's not true, cos Elf, Coyote Ugly, Jane Doe and a few others that I've forgotten, can give you a run for your money). Please don't change." I'm probably the most average here, actually a little below. | |||
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"On here you only see the best of someone, good photos from the right angles. That person with the great body, do they have a great face? Personality? Everyone has flaws, just because they seem "popular" or have great photos doesn't mean a thing. They'll be distinctly average in person, everyone is. You're not average Raven. You're one of a kind (actually that's not true, cos Elf, Coyote Ugly, Jane Doe and a few others that I've forgotten, can give you a run for your money). Please don't change. I'm probably the most average here, actually a little below." Absolutely not ! ..me on the other hand...lol | |||
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"On here you only see the best of someone, good photos from the right angles. That person with the great body, do they have a great face? Personality? Everyone has flaws, just because they seem "popular" or have great photos doesn't mean a thing. They'll be distinctly average in person, everyone is. You're not average Raven. You're one of a kind (actually that's not true, cos Elf, Coyote Ugly, Jane Doe and a few others that I've forgotten, can give you a run for your money). Please don't change. I'm probably the most average here, actually a little below. Absolutely not ! ..me on the other hand...lol" This is my point. I am, I know I am but on here people can think you're something more. In reality they aren't. Yeah people will have preferences with ages and stuff, but thinking someone is above average and "out of your league" is just ridiculous. | |||
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"On here you only see the best of someone, good photos from the right angles. That person with the great body, do they have a great face? Personality? Everyone has flaws, just because they seem "popular" or have great photos doesn't mean a thing. They'll be distinctly average in person, everyone is. " I agree with this and have often asked the question here why for some people it seems to be a given that just because others have stunning pics or toned bodies they must therefore be amazing people and fabulous sexual partners. Some confuse fab productivity with popularity and struggle to understand why those they consider to be "hot" find it difficult to get repeat meets. It doesn't really matter how good you look if you are a lazy lover. I have met people at group socials who have a ridiculously poor attitude, are full of entitlement, unable to put a coherent sentence together and spend their evenings propping up a bar and yet their fab profiles and verifications would suggest they are social butterflies. Fab is built on smoke and mirrors. | |||
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"Gosh no. No leagues, just incompatibility..." This 👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾 Putting people in leagues just raises their ‘egos’ & is a form of self deprivation in my humble opinion . So ‘no’ no1 is out of my league we just incompatible due to various reasons 😉 | |||
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"Not sure I agree with some of the answers. As a 60 year old man I can look at some women's profiles and think they are gorgeous, significantly younger than me and their age range clearly excludes me. I am out of their league. That is fine. However, I can have fun in the Forum, interact with some, but know full well that I am not on their radar for any kind of hook up." I agree with this. My rambling answer was trying to get at it, but failed. I don't think knowing (or perhaps judging, based on the law of averages) that something is a bit of a non-starter is about a lack of confidence in yourself, but more about realism. | |||
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"People who think in terms of leagues, what do you think of the people you are prepared to contact? I'd feel a bit miffed if someone contacted me who thought like this. " I think it's more a self confidence thing than necessarily about the individual. I do think stereotyping (which unfortunatly is part of the human mindset) also plays a part. And also experience! | |||
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"People who think in terms of leagues, what do you think of the people you are prepared to contact? I'd feel a bit miffed if someone contacted me who thought like this. " • She's right, you know. She messaged me earlier. She's in my (joy) Division. Plans are afoot! 😈 | |||
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"People who think in terms of leagues, what do you think of the people you are prepared to contact? I'd feel a bit miffed if someone contacted me who thought like this. " I think less about I’m out of someone’s league etc or they’re in my league. I think more- they would not find me attractive they don’t look like or read like the type of person that would find me attractive. And then for someone I would message, either I hope they would find me attractive or I think they could. I know the kind of person I am. I know I’m not usually my type’s type. Also there’s an element of, everyone is out of my league, I’m just more confident at different points. | |||
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"People who think in terms of leagues, what do you think of the people you are prepared to contact? I'd feel a bit miffed if someone contacted me who thought like this. I think less about I’m out of someone’s league etc or they’re in my league. I think more- they would not find me attractive they don’t look like or read like the type of person that would find me attractive. And then for someone I would message, either I hope they would find me attractive or I think they could. I know the kind of person I am. I know I’m not usually my type’s type. Also there’s an element of, everyone is out of my league, I’m just more confident at different points. " This. It's human nature to be selective and to have opinions. | |||
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"People who think in terms of leagues, what do you think of the people you are prepared to contact? I'd feel a bit miffed if someone contacted me who thought like this. I think it's more a self confidence thing than necessarily about the individual. I do think stereotyping (which unfortunatly is part of the human mindset) also plays a part. And also experience! " I sort of understand that. It is a bit as if people are saying "those people are too good for me so you'll do." | |||
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"People who think in terms of leagues, what do you think of the people you are prepared to contact? I'd feel a bit miffed if someone contacted me who thought like this. • She's right, you know. She messaged me earlier. She's in my (joy) Division. Plans are afoot! 😈" My plans are more 18inches but have it your way | |||
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"People who think in terms of leagues, what do you think of the people you are prepared to contact? I'd feel a bit miffed if someone contacted me who thought like this. " Is a good question, my own personal answer is i rightly or wrongly assume everyone is in one way or another not going to be interested in me or "out of my league" to use to term. | |||
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"People who think in terms of leagues, what do you think of the people you are prepared to contact? I'd feel a bit miffed if someone contacted me who thought like this. I think less about I’m out of someone’s league etc or they’re in my league. I think more- they would not find me attractive they don’t look like or read like the type of person that would find me attractive. And then for someone I would message, either I hope they would find me attractive or I think they could. I know the kind of person I am. I know I’m not usually my type’s type. Also there’s an element of, everyone is out of my league, I’m just more confident at different points. " I think knowing yourself and being realistic is very different to considering other people to be in a different league on a personal level. I know for instance that in intelligence stakes there are people waaaay out of my league but personally we're equals. | |||
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"People who think in terms of leagues, what do you think of the people you are prepared to contact? I'd feel a bit miffed if someone contacted me who thought like this. Is a good question, my own personal answer is i rightly or wrongly assume everyone is in one way or another not going to be interested in me or "out of my league" to use to term. " Everyone! Do you approach anybody? | |||
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"Like it or not there are leagues. There are societal standards of attractiveness and a lot of people are ranked against that. We’d consider some people would be out of our league . " Not everyone goes in for societal standards of attractiveness and not everyone only finds one body type attractive. My partners/lovers have been as physically different from each other as you can get and I fancied all of them. | |||
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"Like it or not there are leagues. There are societal standards of attractiveness and a lot of people are ranked against that. We’d consider some people would be out of our league . Not everyone goes in for societal standards of attractiveness and not everyone only finds one body type attractive. My partners/lovers have been as physically different from each other as you can get and I fancied all of them." Not everyone, but a majority of people. That's how they become standards (rightly or wrongly!) 🤷 | |||
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"Like it or not there are leagues. There are societal standards of attractiveness and a lot of people are ranked against that. We’d consider some people would be out of our league . Not everyone goes in for societal standards of attractiveness and not everyone only finds one body type attractive. My partners/lovers have been as physically different from each other as you can get and I fancied all of them." Mine too. On here I use facial attraction initially, then character through conversation. Someone doesn't have to be devastatingly handsome to gain my interest, and I won't think anyone is out of my league because of any characteristics. When it comes to sex, I know anyone can need a fat, 58 Yr old woman with a limp, to satisfy a need. | |||
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"Wait! Are leagues based purely on looks? What about all those people who say looks are irrelevant? " That's what I was just thinking. I've seen woman on here say they are really picky/fussy and I've not found the men they've met attractive at all. I've even turned some of them down, after chatting to them. For some women, wealth, attire, occupation, even popularity on here seems to put someone in a higher league. | |||
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