FabSwingers.com forum: Vulnerable

By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
19 weeks ago

North West

Do you let yourself be vulnerable on here? How much editing goes on between what you want to post and what you actually post?

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By *onkeynutWoman
19 weeks ago

somewhere

No, it’s a public forum it’s not the place imo.

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
19 weeks ago

North West

Bonus question. If you have a partner on here, does that affect your answer?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I edit down comments that are that sarcastic they would cut some numpty to the bone

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
19 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Sometimes I just full word vomit.

Often I'll hold things back so as not to burden other people.

But not always.

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By *urry BlokeMan
19 weeks ago

Stalybridge

I think I am honest here

If that makes me 'vulnerable', it is a side effect of the posting as opposed to a symptom of me

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By *oyahandrussCouple
19 weeks ago

Nr Rugby

Toyah here yes I am always real & being vulnerable is ok too.x

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By *ittlebirdWoman
19 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Do you let yourself be vulnerable on here? How much editing goes on between what you want to post and what you actually post? "

Sometimes. Not too often

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By *ittlebirdWoman
19 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Bonus question. If you have a partner on here, does that affect your answer? "

Yes. Sadly

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By *riar BelisseWoman
19 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

No I won't be vulnerable on here, the vultures are never far away.

I'm a speak first, deal with it later kinda gal (within forum rules of course)

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By *ir tootMan
19 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

I sometimes say what comed to my head, i shouldn't.

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By *hunky GentMan
19 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Is this a trick question?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
19 weeks ago

East Sussex

I never speak about anything that would make me vulnerable in here.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
19 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Bonus question. If you have a partner on here, does that affect your answer? "

It did.

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
19 weeks ago

North West

"Is this a trick question?

Does it feel like one?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
19 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I just say what I want. Not sure if that makes me vulnerable or not

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

When I do I know it's time to leave.

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By *ealitybitesMan
19 weeks ago

Belfast

I sometimes speak about personal experiences but that doesn't leave me vulnerable. The experiences may have done at the time but speaking about them never does.

My best friend is on here but I don't change anything I say because she much prefers me to be me.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
19 weeks ago

Ends

Meh I’m really honest and really open about things. But I think I’m really only vulnerable occasionally. Mostly on topics like racism or things I’ve lived because it’s hard to read things about it on here sometimes.

If you’re my friend, you’ll know that I’m way deeper off of here than I am on here. And I am deep on here

Anyway yeah I think my answer is no. Not usually. Don’t have a partner on the forums but both my partners have been on here and it was lit when they were

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
19 weeks ago

Wherever

I, unfortunately, have no speech filter.

It’s the same no matter on here or not.

Bonus question answer: I don’t have a partner on here or anywhere but I suppose things I say affect the way people think about me.

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By *ea monkeyMan
19 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve been pretty vulnerable at times on here but it’s always with a * attached. There are things that I simply wouldn’t share, others that would require a conversation with others before I posted.

Ultimately there are people on here that remember things and do use them against you, there are others that gossip and try to manipulate. So in those terms I try to keep things private that I wouldn’t share in public conversations.

I’m in something of a privileged position though, being a middle aged man, I’m not a target for stalkers and I’m ‘out’ in my day to day life so I don’t have a problem with anyone threatening to spill secrets

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By *eliWoman
19 weeks ago

Not very. I'm open to a certain extent but really rather guarded at the same time. I like it that way. Having people I care about does affect what I post on here. I don't want them to be caught up in things. Previous experience.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
19 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Bonus question. If you have a partner on here, does that affect your answer? "

Of course. I'd never post anything that would compromise his privacy

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By *emorefridaCouple
19 weeks ago

La la land

Not vulnerable no, but I can be very upfront about my experiences. I'm like that outside of here also.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
19 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Not really.

I'm quite open about some things that others would choose to be private about, like my hostoric MH struggles. I simply see that as factual information, and if it helps anyone on the MH check-in threads then I think it's worth while.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
19 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

"Not vulnerable no, but I can be very upfront about my experiences. I'm like that outside of here also. "

Oh. Snap!

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By *hunky GentMan
19 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Is this a trick question?

Does it feel like one? "

I'm known for speaking before engaging my brain.

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By *antasdeerideMan
19 weeks ago

winfrith

how can you be vulnerable ,surely you wouldn't discuss things that made you feel vulnerable. I certainly wouldn't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
19 weeks ago

East Sussex

"how can you be vulnerable ,surely you wouldn't discuss things that made you feel vulnerable. I certainly wouldn't. "

You'd be surprised what people will mention on here.

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
19 weeks ago

North West

Maybe vulnerable *is* and *isn't* the right word. Feeling vulnerable as opposed to vulnerable to malicious intent.

Anyway, the OP is what it is.

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By *ellinever70Woman
19 weeks ago

Ayrshire

No...I'm protective of me when it comes to strangers on the internet

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
19 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

Personally i wouldn’t share personal stuff on the forum, that’s what friends are for.

Just run things by them by DM

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
19 weeks ago

Next Door

I have been vulnerable in the past on here, I have been burnt as well.

I'm very reluctant now to show anything on the forums or in private messages. The flirt filth that occasionally comes out is more jest.

There's been many times, I have typed out a thread/reply and then deleted it, as it showed my vulnerable side

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By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Occasionally. Sometimes it's worth being honest. Those who mind don't matter

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
19 weeks ago

St Leonards

Judging by the shuffled playlist I posted on LvM's thread, I would appear to be quite comfortable not editing things out, regardless of potential cost

xx.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
19 weeks ago

your head

No, not anymore. Made that mistake before. Anything I talk about on here is stuff that I'm always happy to be open about anywhere else. No my partner being on here doesn't change my answer, he's aware why I wouldn't delve into certain things too deeply on here.

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
19 weeks ago

North West

"Judging by the shuffled playlist I posted on LvM's thread, I would appear to be quite comfortable not editing things out, regardless of potential cost

xx."

I liked your songs!

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By *emorefridaCouple
19 weeks ago

La la land

"Not vulnerable no, but I can be very upfront about my experiences. I'm like that outside of here also.

Oh. Snap!"

I personally find it less stressful to be so. Plus if everyone knows it's not like anyone can use that information in a negative way, is how I view it.

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
19 weeks ago

North West

"how can you be vulnerable ,surely you wouldn't discuss things that made you feel vulnerable. I certainly wouldn't. "

I dunno, it feels like a place you should be able to ask certain questions especially when it comes to swinging. Get certain advice. And yet...

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By *elix SightedMan
19 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"Do you let yourself be vulnerable on here? How much editing goes on between what you want to post and what you actually post? "

No editing Julie darling, everything I post is what I want to post. 😊

That said, it is usually deliberate humour to avoid posting something sensible and authentic. It is very rare for me to post something about the me below the surface. That’s private between my and friends / close fab friends. Not all you forum perverts 😉😘

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By *aizyWoman
19 weeks ago

west midlands

I don't tend to post anything personal at all on the forums so I don't ever feel vulnerable, if that is what you mean?!

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By *ML49Man
19 weeks ago

Burnley

Yes I even get blocked by moderators for some reason

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
19 weeks ago

St Leonards

"Judging by the shuffled playlist I posted on LvM's thread, I would appear to be quite comfortable not editing things out, regardless of potential cost

xx.

I liked your songs! "

Me too

💖🥰💜

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
19 weeks ago

London

Yes, I don't know anyone on here so it's consequence free to be unfiltered and not care what people think about what I say.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

I'm honest but not vulnerable to harm

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
19 weeks ago

St Leonards

Oh - and you're scrummy-licious Julie.

Absolutely scrummy-licious 💋.

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
19 weeks ago

North West

"I don't tend to post anything personal at all on the forums so I don't ever feel vulnerable, if that is what you mean?!"

I don't know quite what I mean. That's useful. 😂🙄

I dunno, when there's certain things that I feel less confident, more vulnerable about, it feels like it would be a really good place to get advice. But also I feel too *known* to do that.

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By *ansoffateMan
19 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I don't think I stop myself being vulnerable, although I am not sure it's always the best place for it.

I don't edit very often, or proof read 😂.

I'd have to be running with the assumption anyone is going to read it, in order for either to be a worthwhile endeavour.

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
19 weeks ago

North West

"Oh - and you're scrummy-licious Julie.

Absolutely scrummy-licious 💋."

I'm an overemotional dickhead. But I prefer your version. 💋

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By *parkle1974Woman
19 weeks ago

Leeds

I say it ad it is why I'm constantly put on the naughty step

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By *aizyWoman
19 weeks ago

west midlands

"I don't tend to post anything personal at all on the forums so I don't ever feel vulnerable, if that is what you mean?!

I don't know quite what I mean. That's useful. 😂🙄

I dunno, when there's certain things that I feel less confident, more vulnerable about, it feels like it would be a really good place to get advice. But also I feel too *known* to do that."

I see what you mean, I would have thought being too *known* would be a good thing if you need advice, you would get a lot of serious answers and not so much of the sarcasm or edgy type replies new forum users seem to get.

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By *hunky GentMan
19 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I say it ad it is why I'm constantly put on the naughty step"

My lap is more comfy.

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
19 weeks ago

North West

"I don't tend to post anything personal at all on the forums so I don't ever feel vulnerable, if that is what you mean?!

I don't know quite what I mean. That's useful. 😂🙄

I dunno, when there's certain things that I feel less confident, more vulnerable about, it feels like it would be a really good place to get advice. But also I feel too *known* to do that.

Watch out for my "I think I'm shit at blowjobs" thread coming to the forums, well, never. Because have you read what's up there ^^^ 😬

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I can't be quite vulnerable in terms of how I'm feeling and whether those feelings are positive and negative. I'll never be so vulnerable as to go into details of my personal life as I don't need strangers on the internet to know that. I have gone into those details though with people I've felt like I could trust though.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
19 weeks ago

somewhere

I'm way to open on here, if there is a subject that comes up and I can resonate with it, I'm commenting on it, even if it means I "out myself" (probably lost some respect from people because of it).

And in answer to your second question, sometimes I see a thread and think "nope I shan't answer on that one" lol

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
19 weeks ago

Reading

No i don't see it as the place to be vulnerable. Strangers on the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Generally, I'm pretty closed even in real life and find it very hard to be vulnerable - occasionally i manage it [but often regret it!]

I've never had a partner who uses the forums, but I'm obviously mindful that everything that is shared publically can be read, interpreted and reacted to... So yeah I'd be even more guarded in that circumstance

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I dunno, when there's certain things that I feel less confident, more vulnerable about, it feels like it would be a really good place to get advice. But also I feel too *known* to do that.

I would love an option to post anonymously for this reason.. But imagine the chaos that would ensue!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
19 weeks ago

North West

"I think I am honest here

If that makes me 'vulnerable', it is a side effect of the posting as opposed to a symptom of me "

I identify with this.

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By *agatoXXXMan
19 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

I only give what I want to. I protect myself in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Do you let yourself be vulnerable on here? How much editing goes on between what you want to post and what you actually post? "

Wowsers.

So to preface., and we’ve never really spoken at length, but One of my core tenets is vulnerability & courageousness.

However I tend to only answer enquiry and forum posts that do not require it, with nonspecific answers, Being a jester or circumventing a topic.

If I decide to answer a direct question, then I go 100% vulnerable here. I’m not afraid of the vulnerabilities or shame, or being the first to lean into it. It just scares people how willing I am.

What’s terrifying, is I’m afraid of not stopping and maybe camping on a thread that requires real people - with real emotions - with real vulnerability - having real conversations.

It’s totally my thing. I could start 100 topics, but I’d get carried away. Human psychology really gets my juices flowing, and love to be engaged in direct conversation where shame, vulnerability, courageousness and wholeheartedness are topics.

Yes my wife is on here, but she knows my penchant for the above. She prefers I stay jester; Chad!

Cannot have people knowing the real me.

🍺🫶🌹❤️

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

Vulnerable, definitely not. Do I watch what I write, definitely yes.

Quite a few sensitive folk in here, who need a cuddle of their mum after I’ve commented. So it’s always best not to get banned.

The mr

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By *inkyAlchemyCouple
19 weeks ago

Corby

I hold back a lot from what I truly want to say - some of the posts on the forum are dispicable.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Lots, but then again, not that many because I avoid as much bullshit and bad vibes as I can.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
19 weeks ago

chichester

no . I think forums are just comical / entertainment not remotely serious and should not be seen as such .. its all drivel ultimately for passing time unless arranging meets ..

Never understand people getting so compromised on forums over comments.psoters of strangers that you will never meet or are of no value to your life / strangers are just irrelevant until they are not strangers

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By *viatrixWoman
19 weeks ago

Redhill

On the forum? Not really. I am more open than vulnerable.

With friends I have met on here via DM? Absolutely. They know all my pains and tribulations lol and offer a listening ear and comfort. ❤️ and I to them!

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By *ulieScrumptious OP Woman
19 weeks ago

North West

I dunno, when there's certain things that I feel less confident, more vulnerable about, it feels like it would be a really good place to get advice. But also I feel too *known* to do that.

I would love an option to post anonymously for this reason.. But imagine the chaos that would ensue! "

I agree. This would be so useful sometimes. But I completely understand why it will never happen.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes at times, I'm a real person and with that comes some vulnerability.

I don't hide it because it's a "sex site" and I do like seeing it from others.

It's kinda refreshing to see people are still human and not some cock/vagina and that's it.

Mrs

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By *rispyDuckMan
19 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

It just pops in my head and I post it!

There is a little filtering so as to not offend but I don’t let myself get vulnerable with strangers I don’t know their genuine intentions 😳

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