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"I'd put my ear phones in! " I didn't have any | |||
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"I see it this way K.C. You are annoyed with yourself because you didn't politely say, 'I've really enjoyed chatting but I have to read this book and can't chat right now' ......... or even in more charming words of your own. Instead, you swallowed your feelings and needs and allowed your life to be given over to someone else. Not his fault" Granny, I didn't reply or engage in the one-sided conversation and continued to read my book. I was being talked AT. I am especially rubbish at putting myself first though. It took enough for me to go and sit there on my own in the first place. I wish I'd just gone home tbh. | |||
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"I'd put my ear phones in! I didn't have any " Just point at your ears next time - they won't know x | |||
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"So no I don't think you're miserable or old. You might be a trout though 😜" Fishy? | |||
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"It's common practice in cafes/restaurants to check in on their customers to ensure their fullest satisfaction. This can include striking up conversations and attempting to make a bond. Putting customers at ease, creating positive atmospheres and word of mouth go a long way in the service industry. I'm making assumptions here, but being unable to read social queues, being impulsive and obsessing over certain subjects are telltale signs of autism, maybe there's a hint of anxiety in there too. It sounds like this person has attempted to create a bond, as maybe he assumed that you both have common struggles and was trying to relate to you. I don't believe he has done anything wrong, nor has OP in regard to "entertaining" his conversation. I think your frustration comes from being to nice to ask him to back off." I agree with some of your points but it’s also important when working in a customer facing role to be able to read a persons tone and body language, know when to engage and when to leave alone. They probably just fancied a chat but have obviously went a bit overboard. | |||
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"I like talking so I would of put my nook down and talked to him. Maybe he was lonely" I specifically went out to get the peace and quiet that's pretty much impossible at home. I went somewhere I knew would be pretty empty on a windy, rainy day. I often don't mind chatting but I did today. I had come from a counselling session and I just wanted to have coffee and a treat and to be quiet. | |||
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"Hmmmm… And then guests don’t like it when we keep to ourselves and don’t interact with them and just stick to serving. Damned if we do it, damned if we don’t. I do chat, but only if they seem receptive or if they initiate it. " That's probably why I feel bad that I was so annoyed by it, but it wasn't just once and it wasn't "isn't the weather naff" or similar chit chat. One "starter" was how eating ice cream spikes insulin and maybe I shouldn't eat it. So, yeah....... | |||
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"Hmmmm… And then guests don’t like it when we keep to ourselves and don’t interact with them and just stick to serving. Damned if we do it, damned if we don’t. I do chat, but only if they seem receptive or if they initiate it. That's probably why I feel bad that I was so annoyed by it, but it wasn't just once and it wasn't "isn't the weather naff" or similar chit chat. One "starter" was how eating ice cream spikes insulin and maybe I shouldn't eat it. So, yeah......." Haha oh no, I’d never say that! xx | |||
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"I like what they do in Roy’s Rolls on Corrie…. They put a wooden spoon in a pot on their table that says something like ‘Happy to chat’. I wish more places did things like that." I want one that says "Fuck Off". | |||
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"I like what they do in Roy’s Rolls on Corrie…. They put a wooden spoon in a pot on their table that says something like ‘Happy to chat’. I wish more places did things like that. I want one that says "Fuck Off". " | |||
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"Hmmmm… And then guests don’t like it when we keep to ourselves and don’t interact with them and just stick to serving. Damned if we do it, damned if we don’t. I do chat, but only if they seem receptive or if they initiate it. That's probably why I feel bad that I was so annoyed by it, but it wasn't just once and it wasn't "isn't the weather naff" or similar chit chat. One "starter" was how eating ice cream spikes insulin and maybe I shouldn't eat it. So, yeah......." He shouldn't eat it or you? | |||
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"Hmmmm… And then guests don’t like it when we keep to ourselves and don’t interact with them and just stick to serving. Damned if we do it, damned if we don’t. I do chat, but only if they seem receptive or if they initiate it. That's probably why I feel bad that I was so annoyed by it, but it wasn't just once and it wasn't "isn't the weather naff" or similar chit chat. One "starter" was how eating ice cream spikes insulin and maybe I shouldn't eat it. So, yeah......." No, not miserable. Depending on my mood, I may have given him my very best withering look, or told him to shove off. Sorry you had your peace and quiet interrrupted xx | |||
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"Hmmmm… And then guests don’t like it when we keep to ourselves and don’t interact with them and just stick to serving. Damned if we do it, damned if we don’t. I do chat, but only if they seem receptive or if they initiate it. That's probably why I feel bad that I was so annoyed by it, but it wasn't just once and it wasn't "isn't the weather naff" or similar chit chat. One "starter" was how eating ice cream spikes insulin and maybe I shouldn't eat it. So, yeah....... He shouldn't eat it or you?" I wasn't entirely clear! | |||
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"Are you sure he didn't just want to look at your tits? " Maybe he had x-ray specs on, yes. | |||
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"Yes you are " I thought so. | |||
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"Are you sure he didn't just want to look at your tits? Maybe he had x-ray specs on, yes. " He could have been on "Who is near", and you were the only person in the cafe... | |||
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"Are you sure he didn't just want to look at your tits? Maybe he had x-ray specs on, yes. He could have been on "Who is near", and you were the only person in the cafe..." I was the only person indoors but our location wasn't on. | |||
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"Are you sure he didn't just want to look at your tits? Maybe he had x-ray specs on, yes. He could have been on "Who is near", and you were the only person in the cafe... I was the only person indoors but our location wasn't on. " OK, you are then. | |||
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