FabSwingers.com forum: Liars

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
11 weeks ago

Leeds

How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing?

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By *ampireLoveMan
11 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

I would say it depends on the lie. The impact of the lie would dictate my reaction

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By *eordieJeansCouple
11 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It depends on the person. If it’s someone I don’t really care for I’ll just ignore it. If it’s someone I do care for then I’ll call it out and I’d want to know immediately why they’re lying to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing? "

Split up with my last partner as he lied about everything and It was so draining. I used to put up with my mums lies because it wasn't worth the drama of confronting her. Usually she'd tell silly stories that didn't happen to family friends. Me and my brother would just eye roll at each other at another story about something foolish we did. I'd have thought she'd at least lie about our accomplishments rather than inventing failures ffs.

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By * Lil Wolf!Man
11 weeks ago

Leeds

"How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing? "

Hello

Are we talking in a fab context?

Or relationships friendships ect

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By *ampireLoveMan
11 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

"How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing?

Sounds like the Mandela effect with your mum. I read about that the other week and realised I know so many people who do that! I think I probably remember things differently to what they actually are at times x

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
11 weeks ago

Leeds

"How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing?

Hello

Are we talking in a fab context?

Or relationships friendships ect"

In general x

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By *eneralKenobiMan
11 weeks ago

North Angus

I pick up on them pretty quick

I’ve just been having a bit of fun with a cat fish profile there. Reverse image search helps but I’ll keep going till I’m bored then reveal I’ve known all along they weren’t who they said they were

Usually get blocked then I report them

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By * Lil Wolf!Man
11 weeks ago

Leeds

"How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing?

Hello

Are we talking in a fab context?

Or relationships friendships ect

In general x"

Tough one as I’m not very good with conflict tbh.

If I suspect someone is lying to me I like to have some kind of proof that I can layout before them or at least subtly hint at!

Makes it easier especially if the lie is severe and you wanna call full BS on the person

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By *andynecklaceWoman
11 weeks ago

West Brom

Don't even bother confronting anymore

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
11 weeks ago

the moon

Not for me …. They know what they’re doing

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By *heBigLibowskiMan
11 weeks ago

Hampshire

"How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing? "

I'll gloss over it but think less of them.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
11 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Sometimes I'm far too forgiving when I shouldn't be.

There are some little lies that I don't mind glossing over as long as they come clean within a reasonable amount of time.

But some are just absolutely unforgivable.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
11 weeks ago

Chatham

Once.

If they lie about the small things. They'll lie about the big things.

And once they lie once, I'm questioning everything you've ever said, or done. And I don't wanna live like that.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
11 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm not at all tolerant although I may seem it I don't initially call people out but will after I take some time to gather myself and think is it worth calling out, is the hassle/drama that comes with it worth it.

There does become a point where I'm just no more enough is enough and then I'm done, they'll be out my life.

I like quiet & peace and lies don't fit with that.

Mrs

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By *erfHerder74Man
11 weeks ago

Greenock

I let them lie, then I hear them talking the same lie to others I ask the same question to seeing if it changes

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By *ell GwynnWoman
11 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

It's so very dependant on who it is, what the lie is about, if it's for personal gain or to save someone's feelings, if they come clean on their own, and how they behave afterwards.

If it's someone important to me I'll call it out, usually without judgement until I understand more, and go from there.

If it's an acquaintance I'll ignore it and not engage further.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing? "

Once and once only. It needs nipping in the bud straight away or it will only get worse xx

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By *andT2023Couple
11 weeks ago

in the middle

Once ... if they lie and i know / find out i have to then question everything else thats been said .

There is no need.

T x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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11 weeks ago

East Sussex

When people lie about 'who' they are it's very difficult to call them out.

When they lie about what they did or something that happened it's easier, if you can be bothered.

I don't like lies and although I'll tolerate them from people I don't know well everyone close to me is truthful as far as possible

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By *uenevereWoman
11 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

It very much depends on the lie, and reasons for it.

Sometimes a lie can be a positive thing.

My stepson has real trouble with the truth, to the point that I take all his "stories" with a pinch of salt. Fortunately, it's rarely anything that matters, life just isn't as exciting as he wishes it was.

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By *till gameMan
11 weeks ago

two doors down

Depends if it’s going to affect me or people I love and care about, if it doesn’t I’ll leave it but will think differently towards them for lying

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By *agnar73Man
11 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing? "

I usually walk from that. Previous bad experiences

I know everyone can bullshit a bit, but black is white, compulsive stuff no

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By *issmorganWoman
11 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

On here, one strike and they're out so to speak. I don't have the relationship with them, that I have with say friends or my partner.

That's also because people here will lie solely to benefit themselves.

With people I know well, I'll tolerate it to a degree, but if their lies are motivated by causing harm to others or me, I'd walk away from them too.

I used to work with a woman who couldn't lie straight in bed, she was caught out several times in lies and stirred up trouble for other staff.

I can't be doing with all the drama arising from lies or twisting the truth.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
11 weeks ago

Leeds

Once I’ve deemed you full of shit, anything you say will have no value.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"It's so very dependant on who it is, what the lie is about, if it's for personal gain or to save someone's feelings, if they come clean on their own, and how they behave afterwards.

If it's someone important to me I'll call it out, usually without judgement until I understand more, and go from there.

If it's an acquaintance I'll ignore it and not engage further.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
11 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

I had a parent who’s basically a pathological liar, and so I think I must have been trained from a young age to never call out a liar. I find it EXTREMELY hard to tell someone they are lying. So instead I mentally note it and take stock of the situation ONCE I’m away from the liar.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Central

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Central

I'll generally call it out, unless I know someone is very vulnerable and how they can't cope too well

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By *ames250122Man
11 weeks ago

Worcester

"How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing? "

To tolerant to my own detriment in the past, probably a lot less now. In a lot of cases it’s a red flag and I don’t have the energy for games or peoples nonsense with needing to manipulate and use friends or love ones

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By *elix SightedMan
11 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"How tolerant are you towards someone who lies to you?

How many times do you allow them to lie before you call them out on it or do you turn a blind eye and say nothing? "

I tend not to confront anymore, I can’t be doing with the drama. Once I discover someone has been lying to me or otherwise fucking me over, they’re gone. No second chances.

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By *piritualBlackBWW1979Woman
11 weeks ago

Medway

"I would say it depends on the lie. The impact of the lie would dictate my reaction "

I'm very similar.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It depends who, what, why. Not all cases are the same. I know someone who embroiders every tale and they're essentially harmless.

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By *enelope2UWoman
11 weeks ago

Fife

Fully dependent on the lie and why it was said...

Saying I was a Tesco when it was Aldi I wouldn't care but if that same lie was a justification used to say why they were late by an hour getting home it would then become relevant for further calling out/questioning.

Being with a narcissist has lighter before some lies are pointless to call out. Just remove yourself from that person.

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By *ife NinjaMan
11 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Depends on the nature. If it's done not to a hurt a feeling, that's acceptable. Anything else, nah

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