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"Your status alone would put me off. K" This Also not much on there, us men have to sell ourselves on our profile (not like that you perverts, stop giggling). If you don't have anything on your profile and you're trying to attract women with pics only you need to remember women tend to get turned on in their mind rather than looking at pics. So you're profile is pretty empty that's where I'd start. Let people know who you are, also don't expect women to make the first move as most don't. | |||
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"All fair, I'm trying to gauge how people are generally interacting and trying to be risque and not boring but yeah, perhaps I am not coming off as I intend. Thanks for feedback so far, I'm new at all this and value the advice" Better status 
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"All fair, I'm trying to gauge how people are generally interacting and trying to be risque and not boring but yeah, perhaps I am not coming off as I intend. Thanks for feedback so far, I'm new at all this and value the advice" All people interact differently and also differently at different points during the day and week There is no one stop solution for receiving messages and people need to stop thinking there is Be yourself, interact, remember the forums are a small percentage of the site, don’t use here as a primary way of meeting people | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance." I'd disagree with the can't accommodate thing, plenty of people don't won't others in their homes. I see not accommodating as having some common sense. | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance. I'd disagree with the can't accommodate thing, plenty of people don't won't others in their homes. I see not accommodating as having some common sense. " It’s a heuristic thing for us, just makes it easier to sort through the messages. There are certainly people who can’t, or won’t, accommodate for various reasons but when you are wading through a load of emails you need a way to thin out the numbers. We can understand why a single woman might not want to let a man into her home but less so for men. | |||
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"Bruce was a national treasure!! Lol Thanks again everyone, I clearly need to put alot more thought into crafting a better profile" Dan, you've taken the advice with a sense of humour. That's a really good start. Show it in your profile, get some decent pics and keep joining in the forums. 😁 | |||
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"Hi, just looking for a little advice, I am ideally looking for a woman FWB in my area, Northamptonshire. I've messaged a number of ladies that catch my eye but almost never get a response. I am always polite and try to be interesting so don't really understand as alot of the ladies say they are looking for similar arrangements as me. Is my profile turning people off? Any advice would be appreciated" It's the ratio of men to women that is working in your favour. The fairer sex gets hundreds of messages and is overwhelming for them. Needle in a haystack springs to mind | |||
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"Bruce was a national treasure!! Lol Thanks again everyone, I clearly need to put alot more thought into crafting a better profile" Your face pic is lovely but all the other pics need work. Take them out of public view for now and put them in friends only or private. Several people have suggested they aren’t good and I would suggest that the pics are actually putting people off x | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance. I'd disagree with the can't accommodate thing, plenty of people don't won't others in their homes. I see not accommodating as having some common sense. It’s a heuristic thing for us, just makes it easier to sort through the messages. There are certainly people who can’t, or won’t, accommodate for various reasons but when you are wading through a load of emails you need a way to thin out the numbers. We can understand why a single woman might not want to let a man into her home but less so for men." Wait what? Why would it be less so for a man? Why would a man not have a sense of privacy and only allow people they trust in their house? Men are not immune to crazy female stalkers, or women with dangerous dark desires...why would anyone (man or woman) allow someone they only met for a social once, in their house, is beyond risky. The whole "can't accommodate = married" is just ignorant 🙄 | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance. I'd disagree with the can't accommodate thing, plenty of people don't won't others in their homes. I see not accommodating as having some common sense. It’s a heuristic thing for us, just makes it easier to sort through the messages. There are certainly people who can’t, or won’t, accommodate for various reasons but when you are wading through a load of emails you need a way to thin out the numbers. We can understand why a single woman might not want to let a man into her home but less so for men. Wait what? Why would it be less so for a man? Why would a man not have a sense of privacy and only allow people they trust in their house? Men are not immune to crazy female stalkers, or women with dangerous dark desires...why would anyone (man or woman) allow someone they only met for a social once, in their house, is beyond risky. The whole "can't accommodate = married" is just ignorant 🙄 " This is one of the glaring double standards on fab where a woman will more likely be given a pass or receive sympathy for the same thing as opposed to a man. | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married." • Your sleuthing skills are unsurpassed. | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance. I'd disagree with the can't accommodate thing, plenty of people don't won't others in their homes. I see not accommodating as having some common sense. It’s a heuristic thing for us, just makes it easier to sort through the messages. There are certainly people who can’t, or won’t, accommodate for various reasons but when you are wading through a load of emails you need a way to thin out the numbers. We can understand why a single woman might not want to let a man into her home but less so for men. Wait what? Why would it be less so for a man? Why would a man not have a sense of privacy and only allow people they trust in their house? Men are not immune to crazy female stalkers, or women with dangerous dark desires...why would anyone (man or woman) allow someone they only met for a social once, in their house, is beyond risky. The whole "can't accommodate = married" is just ignorant 🙄 " Because 99% of r**es and sexual assaults are committed by men, I assume you only meet at hotels or clubs? | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance. I'd disagree with the can't accommodate thing, plenty of people don't won't others in their homes. I see not accommodating as having some common sense. It’s a heuristic thing for us, just makes it easier to sort through the messages. There are certainly people who can’t, or won’t, accommodate for various reasons but when you are wading through a load of emails you need a way to thin out the numbers. We can understand why a single woman might not want to let a man into her home but less so for men. Wait what? Why would it be less so for a man? Why would a man not have a sense of privacy and only allow people they trust in their house? Men are not immune to crazy female stalkers, or women with dangerous dark desires...why would anyone (man or woman) allow someone they only met for a social once, in their house, is beyond risky. The whole "can't accommodate = married" is just ignorant 🙄 This is one of the glaring double standards on fab where a woman will more likely be given a pass or receive sympathy for the same thing as opposed to a man." Won’t someone think of the poor men, downtrodden for centuries. | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance." People have other reasons for not being able to accommodate, to say they are definitely married is short sited. | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance. People have other reasons for not being able to accommodate, to say they are definitely married is short sited." Perhaps but when you are dealing with a lot of fabmin you need a filter. | |||
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"Bio way too short. Cannot accommodate (huge red flag)" • My goodness me — another sleuth! | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance." That's a complete load of bollocks. Many men are single fathers who have children at home. I can't accommodate because I share a house with family and there are numerous other reasons why people can't or won't accommodate. People seem to jump to this conclusion with single men. I never see the same judgement when it comes to single women. | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance. I'd disagree with the can't accommodate thing, plenty of people don't won't others in their homes. I see not accommodating as having some common sense. It’s a heuristic thing for us, just makes it easier to sort through the messages. There are certainly people who can’t, or won’t, accommodate for various reasons but when you are wading through a load of emails you need a way to thin out the numbers. We can understand why a single woman might not want to let a man into her home but less so for men. Wait what? Why would it be less so for a man? Why would a man not have a sense of privacy and only allow people they trust in their house? Men are not immune to crazy female stalkers, or women with dangerous dark desires...why would anyone (man or woman) allow someone they only met for a social once, in their house, is beyond risky. The whole "can't accommodate = married" is just ignorant 🙄 Because 99% of r**es and sexual assaults are committed by men, I assume you only meet at hotels or clubs?" Wow ok, at this point you're just projecting...people don't necessarily need to be ra**d to be the victim of a crime, and that's exactly the reason why both men and women should be careful who they allow in their house. I'm also not trying to change your mind...if you want to generalise and believe that if a man can't accommodate they are married and cheating, please continue- however I will continue to believe that this is an ignorant misconception. Good day 🙏 | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance. I'd disagree with the can't accommodate thing, plenty of people don't won't others in their homes. I see not accommodating as having some common sense. It’s a heuristic thing for us, just makes it easier to sort through the messages. There are certainly people who can’t, or won’t, accommodate for various reasons but when you are wading through a load of emails you need a way to thin out the numbers. We can understand why a single woman might not want to let a man into her home but less so for men. Wait what? Why would it be less so for a man? Why would a man not have a sense of privacy and only allow people they trust in their house? Men are not immune to crazy female stalkers, or women with dangerous dark desires...why would anyone (man or woman) allow someone they only met for a social once, in their house, is beyond risky. The whole "can't accommodate = married" is just ignorant 🙄 Because 99% of r**es and sexual assaults are committed by men, I assume you only meet at hotels or clubs? Wow ok, at this point you're just projecting...people don't necessarily need to be ra**d to be the victim of a crime, and that's exactly the reason why both men and women should be careful who they allow in their house. I'm also not trying to change your mind...if you want to generalise and believe that if a man can't accommodate they are married and cheating, please continue- however I will continue to believe that this is an ignorant misconception. Good day 🙏" Good for you x | |||
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"Explain why you can't accomodate so people don't assume you are married. But you will cut down your possible market as then you need to find a woman who does accomodate as for fwb hotels get rather expensive." Why should anyone need to "explain" why they can't accommodate?? It's no-ones business at the end of the day. | |||
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"You can’t accommodate, which is a red flag as it basically means you’re married. You don’t really say anything about yourself either. There are thousands of men looking for the same thing as you, if you don’t stand out you’ll have no chance. That's a complete load of bollocks. Many men are single fathers who have children at home. I can't accommodate because I share a house with family and there are numerous other reasons why people can't or won't accommodate. People seem to jump to this conclusion with single men. I never see the same judgement when it comes to single women." And you put that in your profile, which is great, but if someone doesn’t then we’ll assume they are married. | |||
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"Explain why you can't accomodate so people don't assume you are married. But you will cut down your possible market as then you need to find a woman who does accomodate as for fwb hotels get rather expensive. Why should anyone need to "explain" why they can't accommodate?? It's no-ones business at the end of the day." Absolutely true, and people can choose not to meet people who can’t accommodate because the potential hassle that comes with meeting a married person just isn’t worth it, for us at least. | |||
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"The attraction needs to be mutual, that's the first hurdle." For real. That’s the thing people don’t like to admit | |||
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