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By *inkyguyUK OP   Man
19 weeks ago

worcester

I am trying to see a better way of verifying meets. If fab do nothing then maybe a third party verification app cross site might work as people who don't turn up to meets and mess people around have no comeback here but there should be a way. Anyone want to help message me

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By *eordieJeansCouple
19 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”?

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By *elix SightedMan
19 weeks ago

Cloud 8

Nope. It’s a nice idea, OP, but it’s too open to abuse. Someone who is snubbed may decide to use the other app/method/whatever to say that person/couple is a timewaster and doesn’t turn up.

And there are people who will genuinely be unable to turn up because of an unexpected life event. It’s disappointing, maybe even annoying, but they’re not timewasters.

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By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

BiggusDickus* said he only wanted to meet blondes with buzz cuts. I really wanted to meet him, so I lied about my brown hair down to my butt. When he found out, he blocked me before meeting. What a time waster!

* Monty Python reference in lieu of a real username

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By *inkyguyUK OP   Man
19 weeks ago

worcester

It's simple you can both agree a meet with a relative geo tag and a check in this will be private. Both can agree to break the meet and both need to agree a meet and the timewaster can make an excuse.

So you have a clear record if they agreed to meet and if the meet happened.

It's pretty simple once it twice the person may have a legitimate excuse but like verified buyer reviews the rubbish tends to attract rubbish feedback and the good good.

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By *inkyguyUK OP   Man
19 weeks ago

worcester

It's if you have never wasted time preparing don't use it

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By *inkyguyUK OP   Man
19 weeks ago

worcester


"KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”?"
what is this system the one where the user can choose to show only good reviews and it's against the rules to name someone who wasted time. Some meets cost a lot to set up and there is 0 ways to warn others here

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By *eordieJeansCouple
19 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”? what is this system the one where the user can choose to show only good reviews and it's against the rules to name someone who wasted time. Some meets cost a lot to set up and there is 0 ways to warn others here "

It it’s what it is. If it’s a regular occurrence for you then you need to change your vetting process.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
19 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

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By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's simple you can both agree a meet with a relative geo tag and a check in this will be private. Both can agree to break the meet and both need to agree a meet and the timewaster can make an excuse.

So you have a clear record if they agreed to meet and if the meet happened.

It's pretty simple once it twice the person may have a legitimate excuse but like verified buyer reviews the rubbish tends to attract rubbish feedback and the good good."

I mean, best of luck finding a group that'll agree to this sort of thing.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
19 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”? what is this system the one where the user can choose to show only good reviews and it's against the rules to name someone who wasted time. Some meets cost a lot to set up and there is 0 ways to warn others here

It it’s what it is. If it’s a regular occurrence for you then you need to change your vetting process.

"

It is*

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By *inkyguyUK OP   Man
19 weeks ago

worcester


"KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”? what is this system the one where the user can choose to show only good reviews and it's against the rules to name someone who wasted time. Some meets cost a lot to set up and there is 0 ways to warn others here

It it’s what it is. If it’s a regular occurrence for you then you need to change your vetting process.

"
this is a vetting system. There is zero ability to vet on here. Your not even allowed to mention names in anything remotely negative on the forums.

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By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”? what is this system the one where the user can choose to show only good reviews and it's against the rules to name someone who wasted time. Some meets cost a lot to set up and there is 0 ways to warn others here

It it’s what it is. If it’s a regular occurrence for you then you need to change your vetting process.

this is a vetting system. There is zero ability to vet on here. Your not even allowed to mention names in anything remotely negative on the forums. "

There is lots of ability to vet on here. You use your judgement about people. You arrange meets in a low cost way (local pub for a drink at first).

People give off plenty of clues if they're being sketchy.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
19 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”? what is this system the one where the user can choose to show only good reviews and it's against the rules to name someone who wasted time. Some meets cost a lot to set up and there is 0 ways to warn others here

It it’s what it is. If it’s a regular occurrence for you then you need to change your vetting process.

this is a vetting system. There is zero ability to vet on here. Your not even allowed to mention names in anything remotely negative on the forums. "

There’s plenty you can do to lower the risk of having your time wasted.

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By *inkyguyUK OP   Man
19 weeks ago

worcester


"It's simple you can both agree a meet with a relative geo tag and a check in this will be private. Both can agree to break the meet and both need to agree a meet and the timewaster can make an excuse.

So you have a clear record if they agreed to meet and if the meet happened.

It's pretty simple once it twice the person may have a legitimate excuse but like verified buyer reviews the rubbish tends to attract rubbish feedback and the good good.

I mean, best of luck finding a group that'll agree to this sort of thing."

Ok I will. It's what eccomerce have been going for years how can you trust A seller is going to send you the item at least if they don't you can review them here there is no way to mention if they didn't turn up and anyone naming anyone even if they threatened your let alone just didn't turn up. Mainly as even timewasters pay for premium on here

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19 weeks ago

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By *inkyguyUK OP   Man
19 weeks ago

worcester


"KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”? what is this system the one where the user can choose to show only good reviews and it's against the rules to name someone who wasted time. Some meets cost a lot to set up and there is 0 ways to warn others here

It it’s what it is. If it’s a regular occurrence for you then you need to change your vetting process.

this is a vetting system. There is zero ability to vet on here. Your not even allowed to mention names in anything remotely negative on the forums.

There’s plenty you can do to lower the risk of having your time wasted."
ok interesting is it easier than just clicking be both agree to a meet and an override

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By *ittlebirdWoman
19 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”? what is this system the one where the user can choose to show only good reviews and it's against the rules to name someone who wasted time. Some meets cost a lot to set up and there is 0 ways to warn others here

It it’s what it is. If it’s a regular occurrence for you then you need to change your vetting process.

this is a vetting system. There is zero ability to vet on here. Your not even allowed to mention names in anything remotely negative on the forums. "

You can do your own personal vetting procedures OP. It’s not for the site to do it for you.

Verifications in person just mean the person is real, not that they will definitely turn up or anything else.

Hope it works for you

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By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

The only way there's no vetting system on this site is if you a) agree to meet without having exercised judgement about the person, or b) you're exceptionally bad at exercising judgement.

Both of these are on you.

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By *inkyguyUK OP   Man
19 weeks ago

worcester


"KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”? what is this system the one where the user can choose to show only good reviews and it's against the rules to name someone who wasted time. Some meets cost a lot to set up and there is 0 ways to warn others here

It it’s what it is. If it’s a regular occurrence for you then you need to change your vetting process.

this is a vetting system. There is zero ability to vet on here. Your not even allowed to mention names in anything remotely negative on the forums.

There is lots of ability to vet on here. You use your judgement about people. You arrange meets in a low cost way (local pub for a drink at first).

People give off plenty of clues if they're being sketchy. "

Ok maybe your idea of 2 hrs is cheap or however long it takes to get ready to go to a pub but that's 2hrs of my life gone to me that's priceless

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By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's simple you can both agree a meet with a relative geo tag and a check in this will be private. Both can agree to break the meet and both need to agree a meet and the timewaster can make an excuse.

So you have a clear record if they agreed to meet and if the meet happened.

It's pretty simple once it twice the person may have a legitimate excuse but like verified buyer reviews the rubbish tends to attract rubbish feedback and the good good.

I mean, best of luck finding a group that'll agree to this sort of thing.

Ok I will. It's what eccomerce have been going for years how can you trust A seller is going to send you the item at least if they don't you can review them here there is no way to mention if they didn't turn up and anyone naming anyone even if they threatened your let alone just didn't turn up. Mainly as even timewasters pay for premium on here "

If I wanted to be subjected to e-commerce procedures I would be on a site that was more transactional.

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By *naswingdressWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"KinkyguyUK didn’t show up but i’m almost certain he shot my cat with a pellet gun.

Don’t see the problem with this “system”? what is this system the one where the user can choose to show only good reviews and it's against the rules to name someone who wasted time. Some meets cost a lot to set up and there is 0 ways to warn others here

It it’s what it is. If it’s a regular occurrence for you then you need to change your vetting process.

this is a vetting system. There is zero ability to vet on here. Your not even allowed to mention names in anything remotely negative on the forums.

There is lots of ability to vet on here. You use your judgement about people. You arrange meets in a low cost way (local pub for a drink at first).

People give off plenty of clues if they're being sketchy.

Ok maybe your idea of 2 hrs is cheap or however long it takes to get ready to go to a pub but that's 2hrs of my life gone to me that's priceless "

Then maybe you should be more selective.

How much risk is it worth to you to waste two hours? Vet better to make it worth it.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
19 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Ok maybe your idea of 2 hrs is cheap or however long it takes to get ready to go to a pub but that's 2hrs of my life gone to me that's priceless "

If it's priceless then how impressive are these time wasters appearing to make it seem worthwhile in the first place?

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By *ealitybitesMan
19 weeks ago

Belfast

The biggest problem with common sense is that it isn't common.

This is like one of those life hack suggestions where you take an extremely simple and straightforward process and make it as complicated as you can before showing the tiktok generation how they should be doing it.

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By *izandpaulCouple
19 weeks ago

merseyside

We tend not to use FAB for 121 meets, it's great for other meets and swinging information but we see it now as a generic social media site where I can flash my lady bits.

The sites with no chat, no forum and very basic tends not to attract the timewater or dreamer as there's nothing for them to gain and nowhere to pontificate.

Also, check profiles against forum posts, it's a guideline but we have met very vocal forumites who are not so chatty in real meets.

See FAB as 75% timewasters for real world meets, do your due diligence and its great.

Have fun, there are great people on this site but lots of strange ones too, but the really strange ones don't venture out too much as they may have to speak to a real person.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

Time wasters are not the problem, the people who give them their time are, here’s an idea, might sound strange at first but just go with it. Instead of talking/sending your dick to anything with women on their profile, make sure the person you’re talking to is actually real.

The mr

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By *till gameMan
19 weeks ago

Oldham


"The biggest problem with common sense is that it isn't common.

This is like one of those life hack suggestions where you take an extremely simple and straightforward process and make it as complicated as you can before showing the tiktok generation how they should be doing it.

"

A bit like VAR 😀

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

This is why I would never have a social meet unless I'm happy to be there by myself. Coffee shops, pubs are fine. Would be happy to meet up at a club for a social. If it's a no show then I'll have the afternoon or evening to myself. If I was in a restaurant then I'd treat myself to 3 courses rather than just mains and a desert.

I've seen people post on their status the names of time wasters. My time is not wasted if I'm happy to be by myself somewhere.

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By *issmorganWoman
19 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"This is why I would never have a social meet unless I'm happy to be there by myself. Coffee shops, pubs are fine. Would be happy to meet up at a club for a social. If it's a no show then I'll have the afternoon or evening to myself. If I was in a restaurant then I'd treat myself to 3 courses rather than just mains and a desert.

I've seen people post on their status the names of time wasters. My time is not wasted if I'm happy to be by myself somewhere."

You have the right idea here,

Always have a social somewhere you could be going anyway, ie for a coffee in your lunch or after work.

That way you're not having your time wasted by those who don't show up.

When I was meeting, I had a few meets for a cuppa, near where I would have been anyway.If I do in future ill meet somewhere that's convenient to me and take a book, so if they don't show I'm still happy with a coffee and something to read.

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By *ansoffateMan
19 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I think you may be wasting your time.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
19 weeks ago

Wherever

What stops you from creating your own, foolproof, app?

I’ll stick with Fab, thanks.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Central

Fab has a vetting system, as well as lots of tools to help to make your selection filtering easier.

Report all no shows and inappropriate behaviour to Admin. They investigate every report.

If you're getting multiple repeats of the same issue, it sounds like you're potentially not using the site tools as effectively as you could as well as needing to refine how you are picking people.

Lots of tips in the forum for help.

A closed group sounds like less fun and unlikely to get enough people very well matched, apart from being victims of poor results.

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