FabSwingers.com forum: Has age affected your performance?

By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

When I was in my 20s I was a shit shag, mostly due to inexperience and nerves. When I did manage to get meets (from a site not too dissimilar to Fab), nerves would often get the better of me and I'd end up with unreliable erections or struggle to get it up at all. The opposite of what you'd expect from a horny young man! It's a wonder I had any FWBs back then, but luckily the ones I did have were good at relaxing me and getting the best out of me.

I've noticed as I progressed through my 30s, and now into my 40s, that those issues have not bothered me for a long time. Maybe it's due to more experience and confidence, but overall I feel like I've definitely improved with age, with meets being even more fun now than they used to be.

I wondered if others feel this, or has age had the opposite affect on your performance?

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By *8on33Man
13 weeks ago

winfrith

Age gives you confidence and confidence gets rid of nerves ,which in turn gets rid of erection problems.

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By *aven.Woman
13 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I've gone down hill with age.

In my twenties I was hot and energetic and bloody good at the sex. Now I just can't be arsed.

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By *insdaleMan
13 weeks ago

By far away.

Greatly so, i use get hard at the slightest thing, but its always at the wrong time and place.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
13 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

I can be arsed but it's slow sensual .... comfortable sex .... with refreshments.

ffs that made me laugh out loud.

I leave the gymnastics to the kids ...

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By *agatoXXXMan
13 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

No, I have always been this bad at the sex.

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By *oo..Woman
13 weeks ago

Boo's World

Better with age 😊

More horny

More adventurous

More confident

More willing to ask for what I want/need

More intense/passionate

More insatiable

More orgasms

More toys

Still like snacks and romance though 🥰

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By *agatoXXXMan
13 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

"Better with age 😊

More horny

More adventurous

More confident

More willing to ask for what I want/need

More intense/passionate

More insatiable

More orgasms

More toys

Still like snacks and romance though 🥰 "

I can only guarantee the snacks.

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By *r lotharioMan
13 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

nope, but it affects the amount of people in your age range, that's for sure

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By *oo..Woman
13 weeks ago

Boo's World

"Better with age 😊

More horny

More adventurous

More confident

More willing to ask for what I want/need

More intense/passionate

More insatiable

More orgasms

More toys

Still like snacks and romance though 🥰

I can only guarantee the snacks."

And the car 🤣

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
13 weeks ago

East Sussex

I've never given a performance

I'm nearly 68 and post menopause I've had to adapt and anyone who meets me would need to understand that. One of the reasons we don't meet much younger men.

Mr N is doing just fine and needs no help...far from it

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By *hrista BellendWoman
13 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yeah menopause definitely knocked my sexual libido and capability for sex for six. Now I'm coming out the other side, the horn has definitely increased and I'm looking forward to the future

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
13 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Hmm.

Not so much.

Experience and confidence has improved some things. Old injuries and old bones have counted against others.

I would say I'm enjoying sex now more than I did in my younger years, because that's how my brain feels about it right now. But then I have no object permanence, and I was definitely enjoying sex a lot 2 decades ago, too, so I can't say it with confidence 💜

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By *ou only live onceMan
13 weeks ago

London

No, I'm still as shit as I've always been. I do miss my 20-something body though, thinking I was fat!

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By *agatoXXXMan
13 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

"Better with age 😊

More horny

More adventurous

More confident

More willing to ask for what I want/need

More intense/passionate

More insatiable

More orgasms

More toys

Still like snacks and romance though 🥰

I can only guarantee the snacks.

And the car 🤣"

Sadly, she's not mine! Still the best fun I've had on four wheels.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
13 weeks ago

Llanelli

I'd say I've definitely improved with age and I'm enjoying sex more than ever

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By *rHotNottsMan
13 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

40s and 50s are definitely much better than 20s and 30s. More adventurous and confident & , much more opportunities which drives you to stay physically on it

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By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"I've gone down hill with age.

In my twenties I was hot and energetic and bloody good at the sex. Now I just can't be arsed. "

Can't be arsed to have sex or can't be arsed during sex?

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By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"I can be arsed but it's slow sensual .... comfortable sex .... with refreshments.

ffs that made me laugh out loud.

I leave the gymnastics to the kids ... "

Slow and sensual is my preference too, but I like to try a little gymnastics too!!

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By *inkyropecoupleCouple
13 weeks ago

carluke

Definitely notice the difference between when we were younger and now.

Now during sex we still bounce around like teenagers, but afterwards we’re like a couple of geriatrics when trying to get off our knees/roll over etc 😂

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By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"nope, but it affects the amount of people in your age range, that's for sure"

I try not to think too much about this, as it's out of our control!

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By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"Yeah menopause definitely knocked my sexual libido and capability for sex for six. Now I'm coming out the other side, the horn has definitely increased and I'm looking forward to the future

That's great to hear

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By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"Hmm.

Not so much.

Experience and confidence has improved some things. Old injuries and old bones have counted against others.

I'm genuinely disappointed... that no one made a joke about their "old bone" yet.

But it's good to hear you're enjoying sex!

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By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"I'd say I've definitely improved with age and I'm enjoying sex more than ever "

Good to hear others feel this way too!

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
13 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Nah can still go a few hours at a a time

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By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"40s and 50s are definitely much better than 20s and 30s. More adventurous and confident & , much more opportunities which drives you to stay physically on it "

This is a good way of looking at it!

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By *aven.Woman
13 weeks ago

Not the North West...

"I've gone down hill with age.

In my twenties I was hot and energetic and bloody good at the sex. Now I just can't be arsed.

Can't be arsed to have sex or can't be arsed during sex?"

I think once I'm there I put the effort it, I just don't pursue it as much as I used to.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
13 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I last longer but no longer have the cardio to do it. I just end up blowing out my arse and giving up.

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By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"I've gone down hill with age.

In my twenties I was hot and energetic and bloody good at the sex. Now I just can't be arsed.

Can't be arsed to have sex or can't be arsed during sex?

I think once I'm there I put the effort it, I just don't pursue it as much as I used to.

I can relate to this

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By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"I last longer but no longer have the cardio to do it. I just end up blowing out my arse and giving up."

Haha I feel that, can last ages but don't want to as is hard work

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By *heGateKeeperMan
13 weeks ago

Stratford

I’m a much better shag in my 30s than I was in my 20s because I think I know more, I listen more, I give more and I am more in touch with the personal and emotional side

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By *host63Man
13 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

"I've gone down hill with age.

In my twenties I was hot and energetic and bloody good at the sex. Now I just can't be arsed. "

That's a shame as you ate looking fantastic

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
13 weeks ago

the moon

I think so …. Gotten better with age …☺️

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By *eordieJeansCouple
13 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I last longer but no longer have the cardio to do it. I just end up blowing out my arse and giving up.

Haha I feel that, can last ages but don't want to as is hard work

Ages is a bit of stretch but a lot longer than I did a few years back.

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By *ndyp81Man
13 weeks ago

essex

I’m like an old cheese gone all mould and green lol

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By *hil most chill OP Man
13 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"I’m like an old cheese gone all mould and green lol"

Stilton is considered fancy by many

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By *andT2023Couple
13 weeks ago

in the middle

I think i have improved with age ..less bothered by others perceptions ..more confident in myself .

I was not this sexually open in my 20s

Txx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
13 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm not sure, I'm open to trying a lot more things than I once was, I'm direct enough to say no not that way try this, I guess I'm much better at getting what I want from it than putting up with mediocre one sided sex.

Mrs

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By *ealitybitesMan
13 weeks ago

Belfast

I've no idea.

I haven't had multiple partners or regular sex throughout the decades so I've nothing to compare to.

My 50s have been the only period in my life that I've had anything resembling a sex life and I haven't had any performance complaints so beyond that I genuinely don't have a clue.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Central

Swings and roundabouts.

Probably better with some sex and much better at getting what I need. Becoming more of a picky, selective partner though

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By *reggSausageMan
13 weeks ago

derby

Twice in two minutes is good for a 53 year old right?

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
13 weeks ago

Maidstone

I still haven't got a clue what I'm doing. Ahhh that's why no one wants to meet me

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By *ailor75Man
13 weeks ago

Brigg, near scunthorpe

Never had erectio. Problems but sex definitely better with age

Well should I say sex for me. Got better with age lol I can't speak for the ladies iv slept with hahah they might disagree lol

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By *ailor75Man
13 weeks ago

Brigg, near scunthorpe

"Twice in two minutes is good for a 53 year old right?"

I'd be proud of that

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By *dam1971Man
13 weeks ago

Bedford

"I still haven't got a clue what I'm doing. Ahhh that's why no one wants to meet me

Finding out keeps you young

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
13 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"I still haven't got a clue what I'm doing. Ahhh that's why no one wants to meet me

I’ve always admired you scarlet.

The demographic doesn’t work at all so I’ve never wasted our time by dropping in your box other than daft forum stuff.

Point I’m making is… I forget now

Oh yeah, nice tits.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
13 weeks ago

Next Door

Thought I got better with age, better technique, staying power etc.

But nah, Im a crap shag and not had many lately due to being rubbish

🤷‍♀️

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By *r lotharioMan
13 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

"Thought I got better with age, better technique, staying power etc.

But nah, Im a crap shag and not had many lately due to being rubbish

🤷‍♀️"

i can't see this being 100% factual somehow

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By *ymbunny79Woman
13 weeks ago

sheerness

"Better with age 😊

More horny

More adventurous

More confident

More willing to ask for what I want/need

More intense/passionate

More insatiable

More orgasms

More toys

Still like snacks and romance though 🥰 "

Completely agree with this

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By *929Man
13 weeks ago

newcastle

Not really but I’m only 40 so not sure if will down line, I’m actually far fitter and stronger now than was in early 20s

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By *allipygousMan
13 weeks ago

Leicester

I don't have the body I had 10 years ago, never mind 20 or 30 years ago and haven't seen the inside of a gym in about 35 years but compared to the vast majority of my peers I look bloody brilliant, even if I do say so myself 😊

At 62 I take sildenafil so don't have erection problems and keep shagging fit, as I call it, with my exercise bike and a couple of 4kg dumbells at home. I'm always complimented on my stamina but know enough to not just keep banging away, my foreplay is on point.

As a lover I think I've improved with age in so much as there are things I do now that I'd never have done when younger.

Also, weirdly enough, I used to get stage fright in group scenarios but for the past 5 months or so I'm not bothered at all. I've no idea why 🤷🏾‍♂️

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

As I've aged I've started to think more about longevity, so like to play with the lady more in order to prolong my orgasm and increase the ladies, so they have more so we both enjoy

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By *xstaceyxxTV/TS
13 weeks ago

longeaton,

Nope no problem about age.i love a good fuck.

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