FabSwingers.com forum: Judging a Bio

By *entleman Caller 89 OP Man
20 weeks ago

Belfast

How many people would take a chance and either say hello or reply to a message if they weren't interested just by reading a person's Bio? I would think a human being certainly has more to offer than just a few paragraphs on a page.

How can you show another person your are genuine if a Bio is the only way to express yourself to begin with.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Why would you not give it your best shot by writing a bio that will elicit attention?

If a woman receives tens to hundreds of messages a day, why would she "take a chance"?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rimson_RoseWoman
20 weeks ago

Tamworth

It’s a mix of profile text, message, type of pics and any status for me.

If the text is poor, the others will have to be bloody good to elicit a response.

… or looking for fun for example will never interest me enough to reply - if you can’t make the effort we’re not compatible.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman Caller 89 OP Man
20 weeks ago

Belfast

My meaning to it is I am sure use receive so many rude messages and I know I don't do this, so to stand out against so many messages I am relying on someone just saying that hello back. I get your point regarding the bio

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"My meaning to it is I am sure use receive so many rude messages and I know I don't do this, so to stand out against so many messages I am relying on someone just saying that hello back. I get your point regarding the bio

Being better than people who send rude messages is such a low bar.

"Hi, I'd like to be a neurosurgeon. No, I don't even have a science A level. There are plenty of people who don't wash their hands. I wash my hands!"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman Caller 89 OP Man
20 weeks ago

Belfast

I will read through a bio first to see what is said and if the lady has mentioned any of her interests so it isn't just the basic hi how are you message. Thanks for your response

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman Caller 89 OP Man
20 weeks ago

Belfast

I am what my name suggests a gentleman

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I am what my name suggests a gentleman "

Self praise is no recommendation

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ohn.Wick.Man
20 weeks ago

The Continental

Fab life suggests that a decent bio will engage the person you’re trying to woo/attract/whatever.

Just make it as awesome as it can be.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman Caller 89 OP Man
20 weeks ago

Belfast

It's called being proud of how you where brought up and knowing your own worth. Being a gentleman is something to be proud of.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman Caller 89 OP Man
20 weeks ago

Belfast

Fair comment John

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's called being proud of how you where brought up and knowing your own worth. Being a gentleman is something to be proud of."

Ok, cool.

But anyone can claim to be a gentleman. I believe it when I see it.

I could claim to be a PhD astrophysicist. Similarly, you should probably doubt my claim until you see some supporting evidence.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

East Sussex

A human being is certainly worth more than a few paragraphs on a page. However that's all we have to work with on here along with pictures.

Very few people walk into a room full of strangers and talk in depth to each of them to find out about their character, they look at their appearance and gravitate towards the ones who attract them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"It's called being proud of how you where brought up and knowing your own worth. Being a gentleman is something to be proud of.

Ok, cool.

But anyone can claim to be a gentleman. I believe it when I see it.

I could claim to be a PhD astrophysicist. Similarly, you should probably doubt my claim until you see some supporting evidence."

Please forward your CV and appropriate certificates (LinkedIn profile is not sufficient).

Thank you

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *naswingdressWoman
20 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's called being proud of how you where brought up and knowing your own worth. Being a gentleman is something to be proud of.

Ok, cool.

But anyone can claim to be a gentleman. I believe it when I see it.

I could claim to be a PhD astrophysicist. Similarly, you should probably doubt my claim until you see some supporting evidence.

Please forward your CV and appropriate certificates (LinkedIn profile is not sufficient).

Thank you

You mean saying I am something on the internet doesn't make it true? 😭

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *vaRose43Woman
20 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

For me a bio is a little snapshot that’s all. Do I want to take the time finding out more about this person. Their pics, bio and status all play into this for me.

What someone wants and doesn’t, maybe a little bit of personality added in.

Blank profiles with little to no bio are simply deleted by me. If someone can’t be bothered to put the effort in to write a couple of paragraphs about themself then why should I make the effort to reply to them. On the few times I have, it’s never led to meeting the person as our wants and needs a have been so different that we are totally incompatible.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eliWoman
20 weeks ago

Hey OP, you've come in for something of a hard time with this thread so far.

A bio is important. It's about the whole profile. You might know that you don't send abusive messages etc, women won't necessarily.

Of course people have far more to offer than a few paragraphs but that's what you've got to work with on here. So, make the most of it. You don't need to show that you're not not like other men, draw comparisons etc. Just show you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"A human being is certainly worth more than a few paragraphs on a page. However that's all we have to work with on here along with pictures.

Very few people walk into a room full of strangers and talk in depth to each of them to find out about their character, they look at their appearance and gravitate towards the ones who attract them. "

Or determine their net worth by looking out for the Vacheron Constantin watch, the Zegna suit and the Berluti shoes

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"Hey OP, you've come in for something of a hard time with this thread so far.

A bio is important. It's about the whole profile. You might know that you don't send abusive messages etc, women won't necessarily.

You are such a nice person Meli

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Hey OP, you've come in for something of a hard time with this thread so far.

A bio is important. It's about the whole profile. You might know that you don't send abusive messages etc, women won't necessarily.

I agree with this.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ynamicnatureMan
20 weeks ago

Doncaster

Reading someone's veri's can help paint a picture as well.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ark n kimCouple
20 weeks ago

Durham

"It’s a mix of profile text, message, type of pics and any status for me.

If the text is poor, the others will have to be bloody good to elicit a response.

… or looking for fun for example will never interest me enough to reply - if you can’t make the effort we’re not compatible. "

Exactly the for us could not have put it any better.

We use the bad profile bad initial message that usually consists of hi,nice pussy or anything else crude or crass,as a very effective filter.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman Caller 89 OP Man
20 weeks ago

Belfast

Thank you to everyone that has replied, has made me thought and I've changed my bio and put myself into it more. Thanks everyone!! Happy fabbing

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ansoffateMan
20 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"Why would you not give it your best shot by writing a bio that will elicit attention?

If a woman receives tens to hundreds of messages a day, why would she "take a chance"?"

Honestly, I function on that basis here. I rarely message for that reason, I mean it probably won't even get read, if it's one amidst hundreds. Exercise in futility.

I think some women either get fed up filtering the messages and fancy a change or just like to be proactive and take charge.

I seem to get on well with those women, even if it doesn't happen all that often - still a more optimal approach.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman Caller 89 OP Man
20 weeks ago

Belfast

It certainly makes a lot of sense m8

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ealitybitesMan
20 weeks ago

Belfast

I reply to every message I receive regardless of their bio but my reply will match their approach.

I don't judge on bio alone otherwise I might actually believe that certain are amazing individuals when obviously they aren't.

The second thing I look for in a profile is consistency between bio, pics, verifications and forum contributions.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ipstick KissesWoman
20 weeks ago

There and Here

It's the nature of the beast.

I try to take an overview of everything a profile presents but I don't have time to get to know countless people better. That might be harsh or unfair but it's just how it is.

Oftentimes it's just a case of the right person messaging at the right time. Do some great guys fall through the cracks? Undoubtedly, but I can live with that and it's not a reflection on them or me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *issBlackedCouple
20 weeks ago

Glasgow

Despite people reading my bio, I somehow still get messages. My general dismay for certain shenanigans must not have been made clear haha

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eroLondonMan
20 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I reply to every message I receive regardless of their bio but my reply will match their approach.

I don't judge on bio alone otherwise I might actually believe that certain are amazing individuals when obviously they aren't.

The second thing I look for in a profile is consistency between bio, pics, verifications and forum contributions. "

•

I'm not a million miles away from this approach. However, I don't read - let alone reply - to every message that I receive. I will look at their profile first and, depending on whatever I glean from it, will determine a response, or not.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread