FabSwingers.com forum: Profile...why bother

By *leasingmyhubs OP Couple
24 weeks ago

Holbeach

Not sure why we bother writing a profile when so many don't read it. Would save them throwing their toys out of the pram when they are told no and why

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
24 weeks ago

little house on the praire

It's against site rules to name and shame people

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"Not sure why we bother writing a profile when so many don't read it. Would save them throwing their toys out of the pram when they are told no and why"

Unfortunately it's a very sad fact that so many don't fully read the profile. Your definitely right that it would stop a lot of problems.

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By *ife NinjaMan
24 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Some people can't see past tits

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I read every single one. Fully. And so i know to exclude myself from people who don't fit and vice versa.

I know my profile is rubbish. Might explain why i get a lot of meets in clubs but really difficult here!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
24 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

"Some people can't see past tits

Exactly this^^

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Ha jokes on you I can’t read 😎😎

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By *parkle1974Woman
24 weeks ago

Leeds

I just don't bother replying...saves the hassle in the long run x

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By *vaRose43Woman
24 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Just delete if they haven’t read the profile

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By *naswingdressWoman
24 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a filter. People who don't read the profile go no further

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By *exandcoffeeWoman
24 weeks ago

Stamford

Couldn’t agree more!

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By *hat.coupleCouple
24 weeks ago

Dartford

To read the profile or not to read the profile, that is the question.....READ THE FUCKING PROFILE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!

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By *r MzchiefMan
24 weeks ago

Derbyshire

Ill get my reading specs out, eyesight not what it used to be but i guess i dont match what you are looking for so i wont waste your time.

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By *opeyXWoman
24 weeks ago

Dundee

"Some people can't see past tits

This. I haven't posted any public photos or even got round to writing my profile properly but my inbox is very much quality messages over quantity (junk mail). Also use heavy filters.

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
24 weeks ago

Wolvo

Agreed OP. Very frustrating. Folk always think theres a work around or that what you’ve written doesnt apply to them. Short of blocking everyone and messaging profiles you like first theres not much you can do.

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By *edonisticVoyagersCouple
24 weeks ago

Northwest

We appreciate a well written profile, I always read it in its entirety.

If someone hasn't the time to read a profile, they are not going to have the time when getting down to the most important part 🙃😉

Mrs 💋

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"Not sure why we bother writing a profile when so many don't read it. Would save them throwing their toys out of the pram when they are told no and why"

Couldn't agree more, and even when they say they read it it's obvious they haven't!

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I never even read the opening post

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By *opeyXWoman
24 weeks ago

Dundee

"I never even read the opening post "

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Mum said it's my turn to post this sort of thread!

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By *istr3ssWoman
24 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

"Some people can't see past tits

Agree. The guys look at the photos, then send messages and wonder why I simply don't reply or have to point out that there are worsds that need reading below the photos

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By *ex HolesMan
24 weeks ago

Up North

"Not sure why we bother writing a profile when so many don't read it. Would save them throwing their toys out of the pram when they are told no and why"

TLDR

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By *enk15Man
24 weeks ago

Evesham

We bother for the people that do

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By *elix SightedMan
24 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"Some people can't see past tits

Nice tits.

Oh. I mean… what?

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I mean, I hardly ever read profiles, I'm all about the pictures.

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By *opeyXWoman
24 weeks ago

Dundee

"Mum said it's my turn to post this sort of thread!"

Can't even look at your profile blurb.....well photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"Mum said it's my turn to post this sort of thread!

Can't even look at your profile blurb.....well photos.

Don't worry, they're both highly overrated

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By *issmorganWoman
24 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It's a good filter Tbf. I can tell straight away when they've not read it & I don't feel bad deleting their message.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I get the same thing, I think I have explained things clearly on mine for the guys, but still get the DM clearly showing they haven't read it.

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By *ir tootMan
24 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"We bother for the people that do

This all the way, sure some people don't, but im happy when people do.

Speaking of need to make mine more readable, loving the bullet points

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By *affron40Woman
24 weeks ago

manchester

It’s a filter in itself. Delete and move on

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By *eyond PurityCouple
24 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We’ve added a new paragraph at the start which pretty much says to not message us if your profile is mainly your cock then don’t waste everyone’s time…

…guess who’s time they waste still

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By *asterMeliodasMan
24 weeks ago

Newmill

"We’ve added a new paragraph at the start which pretty much says to not message us if your profile is mainly your cock then don’t waste everyone’s time…

…guess who’s time they waste still

I'll take "people with profiles that are mainly their cock" for 400 please, Alex.

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
24 weeks ago

Leamington Spa

"Not sure why we bother writing a profile when so many don't read it. Would save them throwing their toys out of the pram when they are told no and why"

Omgoodness so so true... Had some get really arsey and rude when we remind them of the boundaries which are all on the profile and they claim they have read

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By *anJenny 181Couple
24 weeks ago

Preston

"It's against site rules to name and shame people"

We got a forum ban for naming and shaming wish I could display it as a badge of disobedience lol

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By *rPunxMan
24 weeks ago

Hull

I always read the profiles, that way I know not to bother messaging anyone because I don't fit what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

It’s pure laziness not having the common decency to read a profile. I’ve condensed mine so much in hope that it will be read but to no avail the majority are too occupied by my pictures.

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By *rPunxMan
24 weeks ago

Hull

I actually enjoy reading some of them. The humour and sarcasm in some, just crack me up to the point where I almost want to message just to congratulate them on a well written and funny profile. I especially love the ones that have the secret message in them. Like to prove that you have read it put (usually something obscure or weird like smurf sex) in the message title

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By *ifestyle1Man
24 weeks ago

me171

"It's against site rules to name and shame people"

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By *ifestyle1Man
24 weeks ago

me171

It's the way it is in fab..if I say!!

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By *ark n kimCouple
24 weeks ago

Durham

We use their blank profile and the fact they haven't read our profile as a very effective filter.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
24 weeks ago

somewhere

When I wasn't hidden and I'd get messages such as "loved your profile" (it is very *I'm not meeting* heavy!) I'd sometimes reply with "which bit? Tell me which really stood out for you?" Sometimes I'd get abuse for wasting people's time, asking why I was here (just here for the forums) and on the very odd occasion they would admit they didn't read it. Hence being hidden now, no point having it "live"... I've had 5 messages in 3 days since 😂.

*I don't think I have said anything I shouldn't have here mods, please don't put me on the naughty step 😂❤️

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By *rHotNottsMan
24 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"It’s pure laziness not having the common decency to read a profile. I’ve condensed mine so much in hope that it will be read but to no avail the majority are too occupied by my pictures.

Not always, sometimes you just get chatting & I sometimes read them after we’ve interacted for a while to make sure I keep an open mind

I don’t think it’s the law that you must read them before messaging is it ?

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
24 weeks ago

The Continental

"Not sure why we bother writing a profile when so many don't read it. Would save them throwing their toys out of the pram when they are told no and why"

You don’t write it for those that don’t bother to read it. You wrote it for the people that do.

If you’re not interested in them, just rely with a no thanks, hit the block button, and boom…………no toy throwing comebacks.

Fab’s a piece of piss.

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By *ipsforlipsMan
24 weeks ago

Midlands

"Not sure why we bother writing a profile when so many don't read it. Would save them throwing their toys out of the pram when they are told no and why"

Sadly I think some don't even read the heading, leave along get to the profile

tbh I'm male, so don't get a lot of messages, and messages from idiots amuse me (as I wonder what planet they are on, and who they think is likely to respond

), but if I were female or couple getting lots of messages, I can understand frustration and annoyance.

Hope the quality of your messages improves!

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By *ustincider888Man
24 weeks ago

Preston Ish

I start to read all profiles but then if it states I'm not the type they're looking for I stop, same goes for the war and peace length types.🥱

I will often but not always block these profiles as a filter

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By *eyond PurityCouple
24 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

You write a good profile for the ones who do read; the ones who are likely to be on your wavelength.

The fact others don't read it, just demonstrates they're likely a no. It's just another filter.

Some people - the right people, do read. Stay heartened. Ignore the crud.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
24 weeks ago

Poole

"Not sure why we bother writing a profile when so many don't read it. Would save them throwing their toys out of the pram when they are told no and why

Sadly I think some don't even read the heading, leave along get to the profile

tbh I'm male, so don't get a lot of messages, and messages from idiots amuse me (as I wonder what planet they are on, and who they think is likely to respond

), but if I were female or couple getting lots of messages, I can understand frustration and annoyance.

Hope the quality of your messages improves! "

Exactly this. We put quite clearly on our profile title. Yet daily we get messages, asking when is our next meet? Or offers, that they are staying nearby for work ect. If we've not got a meet up, it means we're not playing. Prob working, but it makes us the bad guys by ignoring, and or blocking.

We are a very gen, play reg couple, who play very hard when we do. A couple that seeks out single men. But lots shoot themselves in the foot, by messaging and bombard messaging us, when we have no meet up.

- no messages by dm, off the back of this thread.

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By *ozzybear1981Man
24 weeks ago

preston

I enjoy reading a profile.

I like to get an insight into if I feel we may be compatible in person.

It’s nice to learn about someone too

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"It’s pure laziness not having the common decency to read a profile. I’ve condensed mine so much in hope that it will be read but to no avail the majority are too occupied by my pictures.

Not always, sometimes you just get chatting & I sometimes read them after we’ve interacted for a while to make sure I keep an open mind

I don’t think it’s the law that you must read them before messaging is it ? "

I can speak to someone for months before I eventually read their profile.

A profile generally gives you a list of what they want and don't, it doesn't tell me if I'd get on with the person or not.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
24 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If you can tell.someone hasn't read your profile when they message then it's doing the job intended.

It's identifying those you won't be compatible with as much as it is those you may be, so it's actually great when people clearly demonstrate they have put in a couple of minutes effort to read some words.

It makes it an easy decision to delete mail and hit the block button. There's no limit on the number of blocks you can apply and it's the perfect permanent filter to whittle down the potentials list.

I love it when it's obvious they haven't read mine. Saves me ages trying to decide if I might want to engage with them. 😁

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I don't expect someone to read all of my profile as it's getting a bit long, but it would be nice if people read the first line. The one good thing is it's a good filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"I enjoy reading a profile.

I like to get an insight into if I feel we may be compatible in person.

It’s nice to learn about someone too

A profile doesnt tell the whole story. Theres so many on fab that speaking to them personally and privately changes your whole idea of them. Sometimes good, sometimes bad.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
24 weeks ago

Wherever

Just don’t reply and block them, saves everyone’s time. I see it as a good thing.

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By *ozzybear1981Man
24 weeks ago

preston

"I enjoy reading a profile.

I like to get an insight into if I feel we may be compatible in person.

It’s nice to learn about someone too

A profile doesnt tell the whole story. Theres so many on fab that speaking to them personally and privately changes your whole idea of them. Sometimes good, sometimes bad. "

I get that, sometimes it’s like false advertising when you do start to talk or meet.

But it’s sometimes beautiful too

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By *elix SightedMan
24 weeks ago

Cloud 8

It doesn’t matter to me. Every message I get is printed off, placed in a guilded frame and hung in the downstairs toilet.

I once got two messages in a month 🕺

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By *acavityMan
24 weeks ago

Redditch

Like the 'Straight' guy who messaged me this morning.

I don't meet straight men is clearly stated in my profile.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
24 weeks ago

Leeds

The easy option would be not to write one then.

Mrs

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By *uffnmuffCouple
24 weeks ago

London

Don't bother me if people don't read our profile as it says nothing about us anyway. X

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