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"A social to me is just a coffee or drink to see if you’re attracted to each other enough to want to have sex. A date is more in-depth in getting to know their personality for something deeper than just sex" Yeah your response is way better. I'm not coffeed up this shit this early | |||
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"A social to me is just a coffee or drink to see if you’re attracted to each other enough to want to have sex. A date is more in-depth in getting to know their personality for something deeper than just sex" Something deeper than sex? I'm wondering if it always has to be romantic. So let's say you're meeting someone as friends. You might or might not have sex with them. Is it a date because of the friendship? | |||
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"A social to me is just a coffee or drink to see if you’re attracted to each other enough to want to have sex. A date is more in-depth in getting to know their personality for something deeper than just sex" Yep, this ^^ | |||
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Would I date someone from fab? Possibly. Not closed to it. | |||
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"A social to me is just a coffee or drink to see if you’re attracted to each other enough to want to have sex. A date is more in-depth in getting to know their personality for something deeper than just sex" This says it perfectly. Yes, I've had dates with people from Fab and would again. | |||
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"I’m guessing a lot imagine a social to be a drink and a chat. A date being a bit more. Some other activity being involved perhaps. Walk, cinema, etc. Would I have a date with someone? If the activity appealed, yeah, why not. " Ah so it's based on what you're doing? Social being solely a drink and a chat. I once had a social described to me as hoops. Hoops people have to jump through to get to what they really want. | |||
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"A social can definitely lead to a date down the line if the stars and moon align " See, that's more how I see it unless there's already potential interest there. Dates are a bit further down the line, if that connection is hinted at etc. But then I like mate dates. Like the term, like the idea of them. They're not date dates though. | |||
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"I’m guessing a lot imagine a social to be a drink and a chat. A date being a bit more. Some other activity being involved perhaps. Walk, cinema, etc. Would I have a date with someone? If the activity appealed, yeah, why not. Ah so it's based on what you're doing? Social being solely a drink and a chat. I once had a social described to me as hoops. Hoops people have to jump through to get to what they really want. " What a charming way of them to word it. 😍 | |||
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"Head an interesting thing the other day on the news Take a mate on a date, I guess that’s a kind of social, unless you are looking to fuck your mate " A mate date! See, I wouldn't call it a social because sex is firmly not even a factor. But I'm being social. What a quandary. | |||
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"It depends for me, a social yes coffee and establishing if there is more that we want to explore further. A date is something that I want to spend time with them and having more than just coffee and there’s the connection there already " The connection... is that romantic in nature or just any form of connection? | |||
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"Last night I was talking to a friend and they were using date rather than social. I think it's becoming more commonplace on here. Is there a difference in a social compared to a date? Would you have a date with someone from the forums? Date someone from the forums? Are there any other words that have a different meaning on Fab?" Yes I’d go in a proper date if interest was there. Though reality on fab for me is that women just don’t have interest in dating trans women generally. | |||
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"Social is a fab thing to get to know someone. Dates are usually with my friends like let's make a date to do something. Dating dates I've almost kinda forgotten
Would I date someone from fab? Possibly. Not closed to it."Ah you use the double date to show a difference! So do I. Sometimes. When it's applicable.
I hope you remember dating dates soon, if that's what you want. | |||
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"I dated a formite who disappeared soon after never to be seen again (purely coincidental, honest) Aa for double meaning on fab, doesn't single female often mean married male and I'm not even trying to work out what straight means. " Oh I believe you it was purely coincidental! And yay for including the double meanings - language is such a subjective thing and I guess the only way to find out what people mean by certain terms is asking them. | |||
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"For me it’s a significant difference between the two. “Social” would be something I call “coffee social” or “drinks social” and it’s exactly that. We’ve been chatting on here for a bit and want to see if there’s chemistry in person. Sometimes social is as well a group organised thing. “Date” would be something after an initial “social”, to spend more time together like cinema, day out and such, with a possibility of ending having sex after. Would I date someone from the forum? Yes, if the possibility arises." So the distinction is based on activities and having spent time with them before? You wouldn't have repeat socials, as an example. | |||
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"I think words like Social and Play are used here as a way of taking emotion out of the activities in order to protect feelings " Possibly. I guess play is more user friendly isn't it? Sounds nicer, is lighter than fucking. | |||
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"A social to me is more relaxed and with less intent. A date would be that we both have a vested interest in each other and will take it as a chance to put our absolute best self forward. Dressed up real smart and probably meet somewhere a bit more upmarket and swanky. " I like that. A lot. Yes, vested interest is what makes the difference in terms of meeting someone from here. Dressing up and going somewhere swanky, the flirting that unfolds... all perfect.  | |||
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"A social to me is just a coffee or drink to see if you’re attracted to each other enough to want to have sex. A date is more in-depth in getting to know their personality for something deeper than just sex" ^ this! | |||
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"To me a social is simply low key encounter for a coffee or a drink and nothing more than chat as opposed to anything else, with little planning bar setting a time and a place. A date? Can be anything from dinner and drinks, a movie, bowling, or any other activity where there's forethought and planning involved. They tend to be longer time wise and can involve several different elements. Yes, they can include hotels, overnighter stays and sex. But it's usually with someone you already know or have previously had that low key social. I do both. " Yes I think we've posted similar in threads before and agreed with each other. A date doesn't need to be a grand affair does it? It could be in a bookshop that leads to lunch, then cocktails and... or a carboot sale.
I like the idea of planning used to differentiate. I plan dates. Love planning them. Socials aren't really planned in the same way. Definitely more low key. | |||
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"A social to me is just a coffee or drink to see if you’re attracted to each other enough to want to have sex. A date is more in-depth in getting to know their personality for something deeper than just sex" What she said ^ | |||
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"The social for me is that part before we have sex where we have a drink and talk a bit. I don't see meeting anyone from here as a date, thet aren't meeting with the intention to date me, …. " Are you 100 percent sure ? | |||
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"The social for me is that part before we have sex where we have a drink and talk a bit. I don't see meeting anyone from here as a date, thet aren't meeting with the intention to date me, they are meeting as a preliminary to sex. And no, I wouldn't date. Especially not anyone from here. " Ah that's interesting. So a date is when there's a potential, an interest in dating the person. Why especially not from here? | |||
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"A social would be a drink to see if we got along, and just intending to have a laugh. A date would be probably intentionally trying to relax and seduce each other hopefully leading to something more than a handshake at the end. 🌈" So for you if there's the possibility of sex it's a date? See, I'd say that's a social unless there's the possibility of date-ing. Feelings. But then it's a bit murky because you can develop feelings for fwbs so when does it become dates? It's not quite binary for me evidently. | |||
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"Watched first dates and was wondering if everyone else in the restaurant are contestants too and they don't make it to final show because they are a bit normal. Sometimes pretty obvious why they are single and it's getting like XFactor where they have to have a back story. For some reason Paul develops Tourettes when it's on and constantly abuses the contestants with obscenities. "Yes I really liked it at first! Now it feels a bit... too made for television. The shock factor. Everyone deserves to find love I guess, even the characters. | |||
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"A social would be a drink to see if we got along, and just intending to have a laugh. A date would be probably intentionally trying to relax and seduce each other hopefully leading to something more than a handshake at the end. 🌈 So for you if there's the possibility of sex it's a date? See, I'd say that's a social unless there's the possibility of date-ing. Feelings. But then it's a bit murky because you can develop feelings for fwbs so when does it become dates? It's not quite binary for me evidently. "I bc was talking to a mate bc about this. What’s a ‘date’. And we agree that there’s some kind of emotional interest and the intent of letting to know them. Yes, and you probably already have romantic feelings and wants and desires blah blah. Any thing les than that and it’s just going out, or a ‘social’ if I’m relating it with fab. When I’ve been on fab I’ve only ever met for s social with zero expectations. But the fact that sometimes sexy things happen is beyond my control and I blame it on the universe. 😏 But if I have ever asked for a date, my intentions are clear. ‘I like you a lot, and I’d like to know if you like me’. I’d find out at the end of the date.  | |||
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"I use both words interchangeably where there is no clear intent on the purpose of the meet, more so when the person I am meeting is just a friend; I can afford to be frivolous. Otherwise I tend to be discrete - a "social" if it's just a meet comprising of coffee or libations and catching up with a platonic Fab friend; a "date" if I have been chatting/flirting with someone on Fab and we're both amenable in taking things further. I'm beginning to employ the word "dalliance" more often these days but that just reflects my whimsical nature on here and my inclination to bonk someone I fancy. A dalliance is the next level: cocktails, romantic undertones, flirts aplenty and then reconvene in some boudoir... I would very much be open to "dating" someone from the forums. Just think of the fantastical things that could occur between us! Finally, I am trying with all my might to cease in the use of "playdate" because the OP has totally decimated that term on the fora. She's an incorrigible 'Henry Higgins'." I'm such a bellend of a Higgins! Sometimes it's for good though - like desire feedback loop is such a beautiful term and I'm enjoying reading others use it more frequently. I strongly dislike playdate but that's an affection of mine. Use it and I'll try not to decimate it.
Dalliance is a term I'm rather fond of - much like you said there's a hint of romance about it. Why is it 'dating'? Not actually date dating, just some area touching on it? | |||
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"Last night I was talking to a friend and they were using date rather than social. I think it's becoming more commonplace on here. Is there a difference in a social compared to a date? Would you have a date with someone from the forums? Date someone from the forums? Are there any other words that have a different meaning on Fab?" A social is just a chat to get to know each other to see if there's any sexual attraction there | |||
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"Last night I was talking to a friend and they were using date rather than social. I think it's becoming more commonplace on here. Is there a difference in a social compared to a date? Would you have a date with someone from the forums? Date someone from the forums? Are there any other words that have a different meaning on Fab? Yes I’d go in a proper date if interest was there. Though reality on fab for me is that women just don’t have interest in dating trans women generally. " Ach, yes. I think that's sadly true. Outside of Fab, what's the dating scene like for you? | |||
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"For me a date always had potential to lead to something romantic. A meet had the potential to lead to sex. I wouldn’t call a social on here a date." Well that's how I saw it at first. And then I thought perhaps I'm being a bit black and white and discounting out a myriad of dates. But I suppose for me a date should have that potential for more. Not sex. Feelings. They can be no pressure but there's still that potential. It's quite an "old fashioned" view. | |||
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"For me a date always had potential to lead to something romantic. A meet had the potential to lead to sex. I wouldn’t call a social on here a date. Well that's how I saw it at first. And then I thought perhaps I'm being a bit black and white and discounting out a myriad of dates. But I suppose for me a date should have that potential for more. Not sex. Feelings. They can be no pressure but there's still that potential. It's quite an "old fashioned" view." Feelings don’t always have to be romance and romantic love though. For the purposes of fab you can have a lovely friendship with someone and want to spend time with them sexually as well as platonically | |||
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"To me, a social is a kind of friendly get to know other, natter I have never been on a social that I expected to go anywhere other than a coffee shop I'm kind of happy to leave it there too if that's where it runs out of legs (for either of us) A date, to me, suggests intent It formalises a liking for one another and there is a hope / expectancy that it will lead to the bedroom, or further These terms are just words though As long as both parties are clear and upfront with each other, the words are merely subjective" Intent is a good way to describe the differences for you. I like it. And yes. They're words. The only clear, accurate for that moment definition? A shared meaning between the person communicating and the one receiving. It's such a subjective thing, I've really enjoyed reading how people view the terms though. | |||
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"It depends for me, a social yes coffee and establishing if there is more that we want to explore further. A date is something that I want to spend time with them and having more than just coffee and there’s the connection there already The connection... is that romantic in nature or just any form of connection? " Ideally a romantic connection where minds are explored just as much as the body’s. Learning each other and enjoying those times together too. That’s a date for me really. | |||
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"I get irked by the fab 'meet'- as in the euphemism for sex. Unless they mean 'meat' but maybe that just means we had a steak? Date is cute, I quite like that. How about we just say sex or fuck if we mean sex and meet or date if you know we mean well... meet? Social can then just mean the gatherings where several people meet." Hard same Hans, hard same. I'm realising more and more and have noticed that even in a works capacity I'm something of a Higgins where language is concerned. I think a meet sounds nicer to people who use it. Rather than fuck. Much like those who say a date when really they just mean sex with someone they have no romantic feelings/inclination towards. But obviously that's my opinion and yeah... clearly a myriad of meanings. | |||
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"For me a date always had potential to lead to something romantic. A meet had the potential to lead to sex. I wouldn’t call a social on here a date. Well that's how I saw it at first. And then I thought perhaps I'm being a bit black and white and discounting out a myriad of dates. But I suppose for me a date should have that potential for more. Not sex. Feelings. They can be no pressure but there's still that potential. It's quite an "old fashioned" view. Feelings don’t always have to be romance and romantic love though. For the purposes of fab you can have a lovely friendship with someone and want to spend time with them sexually as well as platonically " No, they definitely don't. And romantic feelings don't always mean you want to sail/fly off in to the sunset with them. I really like the friendships I have with people where sex is also part of it. I don't have romantic feelings for them but I like them as a person. I wouldn't ever say I've been on a date with them though... | |||
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"We've not ventured out of the house yet on here so shoot us down if we're wrong. We've read numerous times on profiles that social meets are just as important to people than the physical acts. It appears to be more about making friends with similar interests rather than always finding the next hook up. I'm sure people have their own aims, so I suppose it depends on each interaction." No shooting down here don't worry! For some people the social side is as important as the physical. For others it's not. There's not really a right or wrong way of approaching things, it's just finding those who are compatible with how you do things. No one should disparage a person's way of doing things (in the utopian Fab in my head) - I like the friendship, it's an important part for me and if that's not quite there I fizzle things out. Grow bored. Other people really like hook ups, very much NSA. Talking to people means you find out what they mean by terms, what it is they're hoping to find. A bio gives a bit of an insight but conversation? Far more so. | |||
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"We've not ventured out of the house yet on here so shoot us down if we're wrong. We've read numerous times on profiles that social meets are just as important to people than the physical acts. It appears to be more about making friends with similar interests rather than always finding the next hook up. I'm sure people have their own aims, so I suppose it depends on each interaction. No shooting down here don't worry! For some people the social side is as important as the physical. For others it's not. There's not really a right or wrong way of approaching things, it's just finding those who are compatible with how you do things. No one should disparage a person's way of doing things (in the utopian Fab in my head) - I like the friendship, it's an important part for me and if that's not quite there I fizzle things out. Grow bored. Other people really like hook ups, very much NSA. Talking to people means you find out what they mean by terms, what it is they're hoping to find. A bio gives a bit of an insight but conversation? Far more so." At least we're not way off the mark then. Thank you, perhaps we should endeavour to get past the front door then | |||
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