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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?

Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?

Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D

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By *ea monkeyMan
22 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

In short, yes.

I can get a mental boner for someone, for pictures that I see or a conversation.

An actual erection is a different thing though.

There are definitely different levels of arousal for me

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

There’s the 🔥 stiffy

There’s a 😍 stiffy

There’s a 😈stiffy

There’s the 🌈snog

There’s the 💕 snog

Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.

One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.

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By *arry McKockiner69Man
22 weeks ago

Exeter

Yes, no, maybe, it depends

But also, yes

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By *eyond PurityCouple
22 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Yeah there are differently different level of hardness and states.

I can be very excited in my mind but my cock isn’t reflecting that - stimulation helps that or is that old age 😂

I don’t think it’s solely linked to how horny you are but I do get harder when I’m getting closer to orgasm.

K

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
22 weeks ago

Wherever

Great question Meli. It should be interesting to read the responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

I don't get hard, not having a cock and all.

I have 2 levels, on and off. I don't get more turned on by any one person/scenario, though I also never fully get in the moment with anyone.

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By *lueLotusWoman
22 weeks ago

the wilderness


"There’s the 🔥 stiffy

There’s a 😍 stiffy

There’s a 😈stiffy

There’s the 🌈snog

There’s the 💕 snog

Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.

One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes. "

I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy

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By *imples24Man
22 weeks ago

tamworth

I’d say two levels. One normal horn then get harder if it’s more naughtier and kinky.

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"In short, yes.

I can get a mental boner for someone, for pictures that I see or a conversation.

An actual erection is a different thing though.

There are definitely different levels of arousal for me"

Does that extend to people giving you different levels of erection? If that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago


"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?

Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?

Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D "

Great question, its definitely a spectrum for me (not binary, i.e. hard or soft), different ladies, poise poses (class not crass, the latter 'unsells' for me), scent, look, voice, tone, cadence, non verbal cues and time of day or evening, general mood, and a big one for me is moon phase, I get extremely aroused for about a week at certain times of the phase !

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"Yeah there are differently different level of hardness and states.

I can be very excited in my mind but my cock isn’t reflecting that - stimulation helps that or is that old age 😂

I don’t think it’s solely linked to how horny you are but I do get harder when I’m getting closer to orgasm.

K

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How old are you now K? Always had you at late thirties, max.

No, evident physical arousal/lack of doesn't mean a person is any less horny. That's a good point!

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By *odgerMooreMan
22 weeks ago

Nowhere


"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?

Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?

Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D "

There’s a normal level for me and a ‘ she’s got my mind turned on!!’ Level too - normal is purely physical with some engagement and the other is off the chart aching to fuck them type of engagement mentally with an iron bar hard on. But there might be a ton of levels in between but they are the extremes.

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By *ir tootMan
22 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Without saying who someone on here gives me a really painful bones,but in a good way. Nl

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago


"There’s the 🔥 stiffy

There’s a 😍 stiffy

There’s a 😈stiffy

There’s the 🌈snog

There’s the 💕 snog

Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.

One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.

I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy"

Come here and I’ll show you 😏

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
22 weeks ago

North West

Recently someone came in my mouth without being hard at all. To be honest I didn't know that was a thing. It was pretty nifty.

Just felt like sharing as it kind of shows that arousal isn't necessarily linked to stiffness.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
22 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

Definitely isn't a one standard erection fits all, although age does have an impact as your mind and penis don't always play nicely together! 😳

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
22 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Depends on many factors I guess.

Length of any abstinence, who you're with, where you are, time of day, what you're doing, how long you've spent on any teasing/foreplay, is it the first boner of the night or not....the variables are many.

Sometimes the slightest thing can give you a stonker you could crack walnuts with. Other times if it's been a long day, or there's been alcohol involved, or you're short on sleep it can take a little more encouragement.

And if you're in a club play room that's hotter than Satan's ballsack then you can often have an uphill struggle due to temperature.

I guess you don't know til the situation arises. Pun intended.....😇😇

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By *lueLotusWoman
22 weeks ago

the wilderness


"There’s the 🔥 stiffy

There’s a 😍 stiffy

There’s a 😈stiffy

There’s the 🌈snog

There’s the 💕 snog

Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.

One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.

I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy

Come here and I’ll show you 😏"

Said your name 3 times and nothing happened I want my money back.

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"There’s the 🔥 stiffy

There’s a 😍 stiffy

There’s a 😈stiffy

There’s the 🌈snog

There’s the 💕 snog

Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.

One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes. "

Oh you definitely can find someone who can do it all. Rare but it's even more special when you do. ❤️

Do you notice the different levels when it comes to sex? Like oh Person A it's fun but it's not explosive. I'm not as hard as say with person B.

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By *ex HolesMan
22 weeks ago

Up North

My erection hardness depends on what score you are out of 10

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
22 weeks ago

London

For me yes but it's not necessarily down to the person but more the situation.

And Mrs can definitely tell the difference when I'm extremely turned on versus just being normally horny....

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By *ea monkeyMan
22 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"In short, yes.

I can get a mental boner for someone, for pictures that I see or a conversation.

An actual erection is a different thing though.

There are definitely different levels of arousal for me

Does that extend to people giving you different levels of erection? If that makes sense. "

No, not really. If I’m erect, then I’m erect.

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By *ea monkeyMan
22 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"There’s the 🔥 stiffy

There’s a 😍 stiffy

There’s a 😈stiffy

There’s the 🌈snog

There’s the 💕 snog

Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.

One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.

I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy"

If it was me, that would probably want a trip to the GU clinic

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By *hil most chillMan
22 weeks ago

South East & Europe

It definitely varies with different partners. Some have definitely caused harder erections far easier than others. Hard to explain, but so great when you're with someone that excites you that much

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
22 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"There’s the 🔥 stiffy

There’s a 😍 stiffy

There’s a 😈stiffy

There’s the 🌈snog

There’s the 💕 snog

Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.

One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.

I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy

If it was me, that would probably want a trip to the GU clinic"

Deep heat does look like lube in a dark room though......🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

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By *arry McKockiner69Man
22 weeks ago

Exeter

To give a serious answer, for me, arousal doesn't mean erection.

There's the lazy, I could have a wank but don't know if I can be bothered arousal

You can have, I'm not really in the mood but I can see she is expecting something

All the way up to she's nicked my towel with a cheeky glint in her eye so I'm going to throw her on the bed

None of this necessarily correlates with how hard I get

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago


"There’s the 🔥 stiffy

There’s a 😍 stiffy

There’s a 😈stiffy

There’s the 🌈snog

There’s the 💕 snog

Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.

One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.

I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy

Come here and I’ll show you 😏

Said your name 3 times and nothing happened I want my money back. "

It could be your accent. 😏 try again.

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"I’d say two levels. One normal horn then get harder if it’s more naughtier and kinky. "

Ah so kinkier does it for you more? Or is there no correlation?

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By *urry BlokeMan
22 weeks ago

Stalybridge

It's a strange one with me

I get hard with meets

I get harder the more comfortable I become with someone

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?

Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?

Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D

Great question, its definitely a spectrum for me (not binary, i.e. hard or soft), different ladies, poise poses (class not crass, the latter 'unsells' for me), scent, look, voice, tone, cadence, non verbal cues and time of day or evening, general mood, and a big one for me is moon phase, I get extremely aroused for about a week at certain times of the phase !"

Moon phase? I've read many things in my time on here but never a man's arousal being cyclic. How did you find out that was the case?

Time of day is definitely one I'm more familiar with - for the most part men seem to be more... firm first thing. Perhaps it's just those I choose to have sex with though!

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
22 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"There’s the 🔥 stiffy

There’s a 😍 stiffy

There’s a 😈stiffy

There’s the 🌈snog

There’s the 💕 snog

Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.

One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.

I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy"

It's very hard to explain.

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By *ozzybear1981Man
22 weeks ago

preston

For me it’s the connection that makes it intense and I think with the right connection she would see the excitement in my cock.

Noticing that how I see her is very visual to her by how hard she has me and how excited she makes me.

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By *ea monkeyMan
22 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"There’s the 🔥 stiffy

There’s a 😍 stiffy

There’s a 😈stiffy

There’s the 🌈snog

There’s the 💕 snog

Of course there’s different levels of being aroused differently from different people and also she can do something different each time that makes me want different things.

One size doesnt fit all but all things can come from one person too… sometimes.

I'd love to know what the 🔥 stiffy feels like for a guy

If it was me, that would probably want a trip to the GU clinic

Deep heat does look like lube in a dark room though......🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️"

How many times do we need to remind you about your glasses?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
22 weeks ago

Leeds

Boners a boner. I mean the bus used to give me one if I sat over the wheels doesn’t make me want to fuck her exhaust.

The mr

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By *anzer FernandoMan
22 weeks ago

Over the seas and far away

I'm always at my hardest - aching hardness - skin on skin, being touched by a woman and touching a woman. Then there's a functional hard on - the one I get perving here, having a play. It's hard but but aching, horny hard. But then sometimes in the right mood, with a particular vid, or chat, the imagination will take over it will cross from functionally hard to achingly hard.

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?

Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?

Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D

There’s a normal level for me and a ‘ she’s got my mind turned on!!’ Level too - normal is purely physical with some engagement and the other is off the chart aching to fuck them type of engagement mentally with an iron bar hard on. But there might be a ton of levels in between but they are the extremes. "

Does that translate to a physical response or is it more a mental thing? I know that I'm more aroused the deeper the connection. I'm definitely erm... slicker the more turned on I am. I'm curious if it's the same for men. In their way, obviously.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
22 weeks ago

Ends

Yeah. More hard with some than others. But people do different things to help you get there. Communication always helps. And condoms that fit.

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By *P994Man
22 weeks ago

Travelling

The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
22 weeks ago

Ends


"The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂"

Yeah I read that it’s to do with T levels. I dunno if that’s true but I’m also harder than any other time in the morning.

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By *P994Man
22 weeks ago

Travelling


"The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂

Yeah I read that it’s to do with T levels. I dunno if that’s true but I’m also harder than any other time in the morning. "

Making note of that and hopefully all my future meets will be pre 9am, not sure how well that’ll go though

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"Without saying who someone on here gives me a really painful bones,but in a good way. Nl "

A really painful one doesn't sound great... perhaps you're both due some tests.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
22 weeks ago

Ends


"The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂

Yeah I read that it’s to do with T levels. I dunno if that’s true but I’m also harder than any other time in the morning.

Making note of that and hopefully all my future meets will be pre 9am, not sure how well that’ll go though "

Get them to stay the night and give them a bad shag at night and then a good shag in the morning.

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂

Yeah I read that it’s to do with T levels. I dunno if that’s true but I’m also harder than any other time in the morning.

Making note of that and hopefully all my future meets will be pre 9am, not sure how well that’ll go though

Get them to stay the night and give them a bad shag at night and then a good shag in the morning. "

Exactly. They'll want to see you again and write you such a glowing veri you'll be drowning in clunge.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
22 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"Do different people inspire different levels of erectness? I'm definitely erm... slicker the more turned on I am. I'm curious if it's the same for men. In their way, obviously. "

Every hardon is different, Meli. It’s not a binary on/off thing. And it’s not harder with one partner and softer with another. Stiffness just varies. It’s a stiffy spectrum. It’s about blood pumping and things swelling. It’s not precise. It varies during a single fuck, or a blow job, let alone from time to time and person to person.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
22 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

For me at least, erectile rigidity (that sounds wonderfully scientific doesn’t it?) is in no way correlated with my level of arousal.

Sometimes it just feels harder than others irrespective of how aroused I may be.

Having said this, I do really love it when I get an absolutely metal like solid one - they’re blooming awesome! 🤭👍🏻👍🏻

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By *eano78Man
22 weeks ago

Worthing

Men are no different to women. If she's hot, that helps, if she's sexy of mind, even better... Flirting and suggestion, the build up, all makes a big difference.

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"Definitely isn't a one standard erection fits all, although age does have an impact as your mind and penis don't always play nicely together! 😳"

Boo to age. Older men are such attractive things as well. On the plus side... there's so much to sex it doesn't have to be cockcentric.

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"Depends on many factors I guess.

Length of any abstinence, who you're with, where you are, time of day, what you're doing, how long you've spent on any teasing/foreplay, is it the first boner of the night or not....the variables are many.

Sometimes the slightest thing can give you a stonker you could crack walnuts with. Other times if it's been a long day, or there's been alcohol involved, or you're short on sleep it can take a little more encouragement.

And if you're in a club play room that's hotter than Satan's ballsack then you can often have an uphill struggle due to temperature.

I guess you don't know til the situation arises. Pun intended.....😇😇"

Dunno why and might be completely wrong here but... I get the feeling you really don't like club play room temperatures, Obi. As I said, might be wrong.

Oh I know about some of the variables, I'm not as virginal as I so clearly appear. Length of abstinence makes such a difference... there's a definite sweet spot to be found.

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By *odgerMooreMan
22 weeks ago

Nowhere


"The hardest I think my dick ever gets is when I have morning wood and I’m desperate to pee 😂

Yeah I read that it’s to do with T levels. I dunno if that’s true but I’m also harder than any other time in the morning.

Making note of that and hopefully all my future meets will be pre 9am, not sure how well that’ll go though

Get them to stay the night and give them a bad shag at night and then a good shag in the morning.

Exactly. They'll want to see you again and write you such a glowing veri you'll be drowning in clunge."

Bring your toothbrush

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

Yes there are different levels of excitement, depending on the situation, time of day amongst other things

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By *ir tootMan
22 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"Without saying who someone on here gives me a really painful bones,but in a good way. Nl

A really painful one doesn't sound great... perhaps you're both due some tests. "

Okay aside from my rubbish typo and the fact I've never met them, I think i meant more the throbbing, it's never been that that amazing before, maybe more along the lines of uncomfortably good?

They just make me feel really dam good you know?

I'm tired i have no idea.

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By *eli OP   Woman
22 weeks ago

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"Boners a boner. I mean the bus used to give me one if I sat over the wheels doesn’t make me want to fuck her exhaust.

The mr "

Ha! So there's no difference in the boner for you. You're hard and that's it. That's fair enough. Some men it varies and I've found it interesting reading about how, why etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago


"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?

Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?

Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D

Great question, its definitely a spectrum for me (not binary, i.e. hard or soft), different ladies, poise poses (class not crass, the latter 'unsells' for me), scent, look, voice, tone, cadence, non verbal cues and time of day or evening, general mood, and a big one for me is moon phase, I get extremely aroused for about a week at certain times of the phase !

Moon phase? I've read many things in my time on here but never a man's arousal being cyclic. How did you find out that was the case?

Time of day is definitely one I'm more familiar with - for the most part men seem to be more... firm first thing. Perhaps it's just those I choose to have sex with though!"

Sorry for the delay in replying, I just made a random connection, I noticed years ago that would get a lot more frequent and 'random' erections at a Certain time of month (even now, and I say to myself it's like being 15 all over - , and it's around full moon phase ( I checked). Of course I get aroused at other times (unless I'm stressed), but definitely for me, more so around full moon. And yes, as for time of day, early morning would find me most aroused

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By *appytochatMan
21 weeks ago

Deep in the New Forest

If nobody's mentioned it yet.... The highest and can also be the worst is when you are so hard and horny that your balls physically ache.

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By *urious_CB22Man
21 weeks ago

Cambridge

It depends on the person and also how I am feeling at that time. Definitely it only works for me if I am with someone I am attracted to, but it is also down to my mood. If I am not in the mood then I might struggle to maintain an erection, no matter how attracted I am to the person I am with. Other times when I am in the mood I can be so rock hard it hurts! No such thing as a standard erection for me.

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By *erfHerder74Man
21 weeks ago

Inverclyde

I used to date a man who could turn me on just by talking, ok it was a brummy accent but it was nice

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By *ags73Man
21 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"So... do you experience different levels of arousal? During the day could be one example. The person you're with could be another - do different people inspire different levels of erectness?

Have you ever been with someone and marvelled at how rock hard they make you? Or is it just a case of one standard erection fits all?

Women/those who have sex with men... you can post whatever. :D "

There’s erections and erections - best one was in company of a woman earlier in year

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
21 weeks ago

Lincoln

Simply, yes.

Sometimes I'm exhausted, headache-y, whatever but still horny. I'm hard but it's only a fraction of my final form.

Then there's the average, the everyday boner. I'm feeling okay, I'm feeling healthy, I'm turned on.

Finally, there's the granite cock rock 😎 If K is doing something particularly hot like her wonderful cock worshipping, or playing with herself while she watches another woman riding me. Two women kissing around my cock... you get the idea. Then yes, my cock feels exceptionally hard, and everything feels amazing 🥵🤤

Hope that helps your research.

LvM

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