FabSwingers.com forum: Non Fab Friends and Fab

By *udding Rose OP Woman
44 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

My questions to ye all is.....

If a non fab friend wanted to meet you on a specific day, would you lie to them and say you're doing something else, like you have to work or something but secretly you're meeting up with a fab girl/guy for some debauchery or just meeting for a coffee/lunch?

Would you then tell them the truth and spill the beans about fab or would you tell the truth without giving away the details and say you're meeting up with a fwb and leave fab out of it?

What excuse do you give when going to socials and you're away for a full weekend!!?

Sorry for all the questions but curiosity got the better of me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Umm why wouldn't you just say you are busy /have other plans??

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
44 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Separate both worlds. Nothing to gain in telling them.

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

I don’t give any excuses, if I’m busy I’m busy and that’s all anyone needs to know.

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By *ny1localMan
44 weeks ago

READING

"I don’t give any excuses, if I’m busy I’m busy and that’s all anyone needs to know."
this, and if they've the cheek to ask why, I've the cheek not to tell them.

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By *eroLondonMan
44 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Umm why wouldn't you just say you are busy /have other plans?? "

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I was going to ask/remark similarly.

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By *udding Rose OP Woman
44 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

"Umm why wouldn't you just say you are busy /have other plans?? "

Ah but then they'll ask what you're doing, where you're going etc...

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
44 weeks ago

Next Door

I just say to them ive already got plans. Then ask if we can do something another day.

Never go into detail of why I can't.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
44 weeks ago

Next Door

"Umm why wouldn't you just say you are busy /have other plans??

Ah but then they'll ask what you're doing, where you're going etc... "

Out with friends. Maybe🤷‍♀️

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By *imples24Man
44 weeks ago

tamworth

Say I’m busy,wouldn’t mind telling them with what and who but would lie to where I met the person lol

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By *ealitybitesMan
44 weeks ago

Belfast

I don't discuss my sex life with anyone I'm not having sex with.

I've never once had a conversation with a non fab friend or colleague about anything sex related because it's none of their business just as their sex life isn't any of mine.

I don't go away for fab weekends and rarely go to socials.

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By *haiababeWoman
44 weeks ago

North devon

Well some of my close friends know i have some fwbs, and know i see them so they will assume any plans are with them without an explanation. Althpugh my friends dont k ow about fab. They think i still meet guys on tinder.

I tell my mum im meeting up with a friend, although i know wshe suspects we dont talk about it. Also tell the ex im going out with mum firends without the kids if he asks what im doing with my child free weekend. As i keep everything away from thr kids so its none of his business.

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Why lie?

“I’m going out meeting up with a friend!”

^and that’ll do

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

I’m busy, I already have plans. That’s all I’d need to say really.

It’s not a lie and they don’t need to know the details either.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
44 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I just say sorry I'm busy.

Meeting friends, going to parties or just 'going away for the weekend'. None of my non fab friends are nosy enough to ask for details, which is good, the same as I don't quiz them.on what they're up to.

If anything, I get more questions from Fab friends than anyone else. Swingers do sometimes like to know what other swingers are doing more than they possibly deserve to. 🤔🤦‍♂️😂😂

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

They wouldn't be told anything, just say you're busy and that's it.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
44 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I'm off to have a fab time" then mimic doggy style.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
44 weeks ago

Next Door

""I'm off to have a fab time" then mimic doggy style."

So you're dogging 😅

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
44 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

""I'm off to have a fab time" then mimic doggy style.

So you're dogging 😅"

No. The international symbol for dogging is something completely different. It's a wanker sign with the other hand winding down a window.

Or something like that

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
44 weeks ago

Next Door

""I'm off to have a fab time" then mimic doggy style.

So you're dogging 😅

No. The international symbol for dogging is something completely different. It's a wanker sign with the other hand winding down a window.

Or something like that "

🤣

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By *uriousscouserWoman
44 weeks ago

Wirral

I wouldn't say I'm on fab but would say I have plans.

I've a relatively wide social circle (that's what she said) so it wouldn't occasion any comment.

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By *B..Woman
44 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Depends which friend asks, but I would still say I’m busy

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By *ony MannMan
44 weeks ago

South Newton

I would just say I'm busy. I'm not telling anyone I swing without a good reason....like taking them to a club.

I did drop a line to someone at work once, she said yes. Its the only time I asked, no problem on that occasion but I imagine there could be.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
44 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I have other plans that day is a perfectly valid answer.

Generally if someone asks what I'm up to directly I will just tell them though. People in my life know that I don't care for being secretive 💜

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

"Umm why wouldn't you just say you are busy /have other plans??

Ah but then they'll ask what you're doing, where you're going etc...

Out with friends. Maybe🤷‍♀️"

This is what we say 🙌

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Depends on the friend. Some of them know I'm on fab, and those I don't get told I'm meeting a friend from my ND Facebook group (which I don't actually belong to...)

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By *ndyp81Man
44 weeks ago

essex

"My questions to ye all is.....

Would you then tell them the truth and spill the beans about fab or would you tell the truth without giving away the details and say you're meeting up with a fwb and leave fab out of it?

What excuse do you give when going to socials and you're away for a full weekend!!?

Sorry for all the questions but curiosity got the better of me!!!

No point it to telling the truth as it will always come back and bite you in the bum one way or another

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By *vaRoseWoman
44 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

I just say I’m sorry I already have plans, if they’re a close friend and they push for info I might say something like I’m meeting an old school friend or similar

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By *udding Rose OP Woman
44 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

Good answers!!!

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By *arley QuimWoman
44 weeks ago

Somewhere

I just say I've got a 'date', I say I dabble in online dating which is pretty much the same concept as here in most ways

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
44 weeks ago

your head

I just tell them the truth, they know how I choose to live my life so it's a non issue.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
44 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Why would I lie to one of my friends? If I’m busy I’m busy 👍🏻

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
44 weeks ago

East Sussex

If one of my friends can't meet me on a specific date I just suggest another. The same goes for them. I don't tell my friends every detail of my life though, they wouldn't really be interested

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
44 weeks ago

somewhere

Only friends I have are fully aware of my fab life, towards the end of my "active" days, I was only seeing one person regularly and never interfered with seeing my friends x

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

"My questions to ye all is.....

Would you then tell them the truth and spill the beans about fab or would you tell the truth without giving away the details and say you're meeting up with a fwb and leave fab out of it?

What excuse do you give when going to socials and you're away for a full weekend!!?

Sorry for all the questions but curiosity got the better of me!!!

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absolutely none of their business 👍

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By *udding Rose OP Woman
44 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

"My questions to ye all is.....

Would you then tell them the truth and spill the beans about fab or would you tell the truth without giving away the details and say you're meeting up with a fwb and leave fab out of it?

What excuse do you give when going to socials and you're away for a full weekend!!?

Sorry for all the questions but curiosity got the better of me!!!

absolutely none of their business 👍"

Very true!!

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By *iss DevilWoman
44 weeks ago

Bedford

"Umm why wouldn't you just say you are busy /have other plans?? "

Exactly this, no need to go into details.

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By *ea monkeyMan
44 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I don’t tell people details. Most people know that I’m poly and I swing.

Apparently at work there’s a general understanding to not ask what I got up to on my time off 😂

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By *allipygousMan
44 weeks ago

Leicester

I met two female ex colleagues for a meal Monday evening, one bought her new boyfriend along to meet the other girl and me.

I was late and when asked by the single girl what kept me I simply said "fornication". The new boyfriend looked confused and asked did he hear me right? To which the two girls said "Yes" in unison whilst smiling. Nothing more was said. They know about my lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

I'd just say I'm meeting a friend, I'm not lying but I don't need to go into specifics.

I don't tell my friends when I plan a sexy night away with the husband, I just saw we are having a date night - who needs that much detail?

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By *udding Rose OP Woman
44 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

"I'd just say I'm meeting a friend, I'm not lying but I don't need to go into specifics.

I don't tell my friends when I plan a sexy night away with the husband, I just saw we are having a date night - who needs that much detail? "

That's true!! Just because they ask questions, it doesn't mean you have to give them any details!!

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