FabSwingers.com forum: Getting to know someone

By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore?

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By *naswingdressWoman
15 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes.

It's not worth it.

Fuck people, except without contact.

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By *r John WickMan
15 weeks ago

The Continental

Yes, I would like a friend or two that I can hang with occasionally. But I completely suck at making friends. I like my own company too much, have been out of friend circles for too many years.

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By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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"Yes, I would like a friend or two that I can hang with occasionally. But I completely suck at making friends. I like my own company too much, have been out of friend circles for too many years."

I’ll be your friend.

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By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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"Yes.

It's not worth it.

Fuck people, except without contact."

I would like to guck you. With lots of contact, Swing.

Germy.

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By *ack FrostyMan
15 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Sometimes I struggle to people

I people at work

By the end of the day my tolerance for people is probably lower where it should be

Therefore I don’t impose myself on other people

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By *arialoueWoman
15 weeks ago

bradford

Prefer my own company these days, I dont trust anyone, coz I've found out in the past ad soon as I start to trust someone,they disappear

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By *naswingdressWoman
15 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yes.

It's not worth it.

Fuck people, except without contact.

I would like to guck you. With lots of contact, Swing.

Germy. "

I won't kink shame you, but I don't know what gunk means

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Yeah most definitely. I’d love to meet people and try new experiences but it’s a chore and disheartening when you get nothing. Feels like I can’t compete with everyone else and you’re good enough

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By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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"Sometimes I struggle to people

I people at work

By the end of the day my tolerance for people is probably lower where it should be

Therefore I don’t impose myself on other people "
it is not recognised enough how exhausting socialising is or emotional labour at work

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By *asterMeliodasMan
15 weeks ago

Newmill

I love getting to know new people. My wife likes to say I could go into an empty room and come out with 3 new friends.

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By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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"Yes.

It's not worth it.

Fuck people, except without contact.

I would like to guck you. With lots of contact, Swing.

Germy.

I won't kink shame you, but I don't know what gunk means

Guck *

Me neither though. It should say fuck.

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By *naswingdressWoman
15 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yes.

It's not worth it.

Fuck people, except without contact.

I would like to guck you. With lots of contact, Swing.

Germy.

I won't kink shame you, but I don't know what gunk means

Guck *

Me neither though. It should say fuck. "

goddamn it I autocarroted myself

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By *aven.Woman
15 weeks ago

Not the North West...

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people"

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By *ack FrostyMan
15 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"Sometimes I struggle to people

I people at work

By the end of the day my tolerance for people is probably lower where it should be

Therefore I don’t impose myself on other people it is not recognised enough how exhausting socialising is or emotional labour at work"

Don’t get me wrong I like people. But there are many a times where I just need to be alone and cycle or ride my motorbike or just sit and read…anything as long as no people 🤣

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By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people

No"

Oh you’re back. Let’s see who goes first this time

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By *lym4realCouple
15 weeks ago

plymouth

Yep would be nice to just be able to meet up and have good old chin wag and a laugh and of course a moan and groan ...and if anything else happens be a nice brucey bonus xx

ps we've got a nice hi fi so could even listen to some tunes lol xx

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By *elisandre300Woman
15 weeks ago

dontbefuckingnosey

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore? "

On here?

I’ve learnt I’m not really anyone’s cup of tea so I pretty much keep to myself.

In real life I have a close circle of friends I see daily so feel complete.

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By *aven.Woman
15 weeks ago

Not the North West...

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people

Oh you’re back. Let’s see who goes first this time

I forget who's turn it is, let me check the rota.

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By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore?

On here?

I’ve learnt I’m not really anyone’s cup of tea so I pretty much keep to myself.

In real life I have a close circle of friends I see daily so feel complete. "

If you like short kings, come and find me

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By *r John WickMan
15 weeks ago

The Continental

"Yes, I would like a friend or two that I can hang with occasionally. But I completely suck at making friends. I like my own company too much, have been out of friend circles for too many years.

I’ll be your friend.

Dude 🤗

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
15 weeks ago

in the waves

"Sometimes I struggle to people

I people at work

By the end of the day my tolerance for people is probably lower where it should be

Therefore I don’t impose myself on other people it is not recognised enough how exhausting socialising is or emotional labour at work"

I'm like this too. So much peopling at work.

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By *IG G77Man
15 weeks ago

GATLEY

I'm learning I'm not really anyone's cup of tea either so that's ok

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By *icecouple561Couple
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15 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't feel it's a chore but it's very difficult. For reasons I won't go in to here we need to stay localish, this limits who we can meet. I don't just mean on fab, it's true for meeting people in general. Also by the time you're our age most people have established friendships and don't have the time or inclination to make new ones. Younger people tend to go to different places and do different things.

If you join a hobby type club it can be very cliquey.

It's hard

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By *weetCherryWoman
15 weeks ago

London

"Yes.

It's not worth it.

Fuck people, except without contact."

This, been burned so many times I’ve had enough of people for the rest of my life, no matter how lonely I feel sometimes is better than opening up and getting hurt

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By *eroLondonMan
15 weeks ago

Covent Garden

My young Sirrah, you have the spirit of youth on your side. For me — nobody wants to know. I'm an outcast, a pariah, a misfit, ostracised to the outer reaches of oblivion. Six socials in and not a single verification. I am destite in a realm where verifications are the currency to success/suck-sex.

When I'm seen no one remembers, when I'm absent they all forget. Even in my downward spiral of lamentation it's an uphill struggle to just stay focused.

Mind you, the women on here are pretty fit though. The ladies are even better. And the quality of quims on offer — it's like a smörgåsbord of mouthwatering delights.

Effort is so passé.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
15 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

"My young Sirrah, you have the spirit of youth on your side. For me — nobody wants to know. I'm an outcast, a pariah, a misfit, ostracised to the outer reaches of oblivion. Six socials in and not a single verification. I am destite in a realm where verifications are the currency to success/suck-sex.

When I'm seen no one remembers, when I'm absent they all forget. Even in my downward spiral of lamentation it's an uphill struggle to just stay focused.

Mind you, the women on here are pretty fit though. The ladies are even better. And the quality of quims on offer — it's like a smörgåsbord of mouthwatering delights.

Effort is so passé."

Lies.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Hmm i want to meet the 'right' people... But its so hard to identify them!

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By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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"Hmm i want to meet the 'right' people... But it’s so hard to identify them! "
Have you tried going to socials

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By *asterMeliodasMan
15 weeks ago

Newmill

"Hmm i want to meet the 'right' people... But its so hard to identify them! "

Aww, I'm the left person.

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By *urious_CB22Man
15 weeks ago

Cambridge

Getting to know people can be hard. You have the same superficial questions you ask each other, it can be boring and repetitive. I often wonder why bother at all, yet I still crave having some sort of relationship at a meaningful level. Dating sites I think are to blame, people make little effort these days.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
15 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I've no desire to make more friends

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By *rHotNottsMan
15 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Here Yes, I go through phases.

It does take a lot of energy and effort to chat to and arrange to meet new people. And then be prepared for new types of relationships forming after meeting and the implications of that.

I don’t think it’s possible to be doing it all the time especially with families, jobs , friends, other relationships to nurture.

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By *naswingdressWoman
15 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Hmm i want to meet the 'right' people... But its so hard to identify them!

Aww, I'm the left person.

Fools to the left of me, jokers to the right

Here I am stuck in the middle with you

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By *eroLondonMan
15 weeks ago

Covent Garden

When I'm seen no one remembers, when I'm absent they all forget. Even in my downward spiral of lamentation it's an uphill struggle to just stay focused.

Mind you, the women on here are pretty fit though. The ladies are even better. And the quality of quims on offer — it's like a smörgåsbord of mouthwatering delights.

Effort is so passé.

Lies."

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You and me are over. 🏴

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By *eroLondonMan
15 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"Hmm i want to meet the 'right' people... But its so hard to identify them! "

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Have you tried black? One you taste black you never go back.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
15 weeks ago

Leeds

No I never want to meet new people.

The mr

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By *ell GwynnWoman
15 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

When I'm seen no one remembers, when I'm absent they all forget. Even in my downward spiral of lamentation it's an uphill struggle to just stay focused.

Mind you, the women on here are pretty fit though. The ladies are even better. And the quality of quims on offer — it's like a smörgåsbord of mouthwatering delights.

Effort is so passé.

Lies.

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You and me are over. 🏴"

More lies

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By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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"No I never want to meet new people.

The mr "

Strangely, I wouldn’t have guessed this.

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By *naswingdressWoman
15 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

When I'm seen no one remembers, when I'm absent they all forget. Even in my downward spiral of lamentation it's an uphill struggle to just stay focused.

Mind you, the women on here are pretty fit though. The ladies are even better. And the quality of quims on offer — it's like a smörgåsbord of mouthwatering delights.

Effort is so passé.

Lies.

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You and me are over. 🏴"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uCGD9dT12C0

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By *artfordBlokeMan
15 weeks ago

Dartford

" Yep would be nice to just be able to meet up and have good old chin wag and a laugh and of course a moan and groan ...and if anything else happens be a nice brucey bonus xx

ps we've got a nice hi fi so could even listen to some tunes lol xx

That's largely what I'm looking for too,fellowship with the like minded is always good, with or without any sauciness

nice speakers btw

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By *uriousscouserWoman
15 weeks ago

Wirral

In the real world thankfully I find it stupidly easy to meet people. I think I have an approachable face, which is both a blessing (when I'm in a sociable mood and interesting people chat with me) and a curse (you can guarantee every whack-job in a 2 mile radius will hone in on me).

On here it feels like a lot of effort to maintain conversations when what comes back are one line responses (frequently one word responses!) so I tend to let them peter out naturally rather than keep pushing.

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By *YDB75Man
15 weeks ago

East Yorkie

I tried to write a profile that would appeal to lots of different people….but was honest to myself so changed yesterday and made it about me and if that doesnt appeal then so be it. Im me

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By *eroLondonMan
15 weeks ago

Covent Garden

When I'm seen no one remembers, when I'm absent they all forget. Even in my downward spiral of lamentation it's an uphill struggle to just stay focused.

Mind you, the women on here are pretty fit though. The ladies are even better. And the quality of quims on offer — it's like a smörgåsbord of mouthwatering delights.

Effort is so passé.

Lies.

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You and me are over. 🏴

More lies"

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Sêê? I cannot even vanquish you without you pushing back. Get the message.

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By *rHotNottsMan
15 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Getting to know people can be hard. You have the same superficial questions you ask each other, it can be boring and repetitive. "

That’s sounds easy! But It it’s not my experience , the complete opposite.

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By *ozzybear1981Man
15 weeks ago

preston

Getting to know someone mentally and physically can be a beautiful adventure for both.

Exploring the mind is a journey that I adore to embark on before exploring the physical journey together.

That excites me so much 🥰

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By *oxy jWoman
15 weeks ago

somerset

i have a vast network of friends non swingers and 30++ years has given us loads of swinging friends too ... i dont look for friends as that is a bit plastic / false much rather it just happens face to face i have zero time for online so called friends im not interested in people i wont/dont meet ...

its a massive problem today is social media its made many people lazy with social skills anyone can sit behind a keyboard all day with google as their brain ... but nothing beats that face to face social time ... social mixing is so important yet its happening less and less for some because of social media

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By *oxy jWoman
15 weeks ago

somerset

"I tried to write a profile that would appeal to lots of different people….but was honest to myself so changed yesterday and made it about me and if that doesnt appeal then so be it. Im me "

and thats how a profile should be ..about you and what you want ..you will only stand out by being you

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By *herrybakewellCouple
15 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We often feel thus way.....but if you don't make the effort, it's not going to happen.

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By *evil-AngelWoman
15 weeks ago

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I would love to make new friends and try to put myself out there but i find it exhausting.

I feel like I need to just end up in the second series of a friendship once all the hard work has been done

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By *viatrixWoman
15 weeks ago

Redhill

I went from having dozens and dozens of friends (met online and scattered all over the world but we used to meet up IRL about 3 times a year etc) there was a massive fallout last year and they all disappeared apart from 3 or so.

I had 3 FWBs whom I saw regularly and I kind of lost them all at the same time…. Also last year/beginning of this one.

Last year was SAD and INTENSE.

I’d really like new friends but I keep everyone at arm’s length now. For my own self-preservation.

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By *piritualBlackBWW1979Woman
15 weeks ago

Medway

"Prefer my own company these days, I dont trust anyone, coz I've found out in the past ad soon as I start to trust someone,they disappear "

The right ones won't disappear!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
15 weeks ago

Reading

Im a bit of a loner so the effort never seems worth the pay off

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

I really love meeting and being with people when I want to. But they have expectations don’t they…. ….if only people had less or no expectations of each other…

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By *piritualBlackBWW1979Woman
15 weeks ago

Medway

"I love getting to know new people. My wife likes to say I could go into an empty room and come out with 3 new friends."

This is me! Though I would say, I would walk out with 3 more acquaintances! I know lots of people but only a few of them are real friends. I treasure them, because like many above, I have been hurt and my trust has been treated like trash!

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By *ell GwynnWoman
15 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I'd always struggled with making close friends until about 8 years ago. I've since found some amazing people who are ND like me, and relating to them is effortless in a way I didn't know was possible. Knowing that level of connection is a possibility, I'm no longer reticent about putting myself out there, whether or not it goes anywhere.

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By *ea monkeyMan
15 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore? "

Yes absolutely.

I’ve put myself out there on a number of occasions and getting rejected, rebuffed or just plain ignored does take a toll. I’ve decided against going to events, clubs or socials in the past because the expectation is for guys to make the first move and I’m tired of both having to put myself out there and being rejected

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By *piritualBlackBWW1979Woman
15 weeks ago

Medway

"I'd always struggled with making close friends until about 8 years ago. I've since found some amazing people who are ND like me, and relating to them is effortless in a way I didn't know was possible. Knowing that level of connection is a possibility, I'm no longer reticent about putting myself out there, whether or not it goes anywhere."
I'm ND too, didn't know until a few years ago but it explains some of my long standing friendships!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
15 weeks ago

Leeds

I love meeting new people, however my overthinking brain isn't allowing it right now.

Mrs

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
15 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

It gets more difficult the older you get to make friends. I've moved around a bit too which hasn't helped. And now where I've settled, most people here have lived in the area all their lives and so have interest in new people.

Plus being a single parent and working mostly from home doesn't help. But I have cats

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By *a LunaWoman
15 weeks ago

South Wales

Yeah, it’s one of the many reasons I’m practically a hermit.

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By *erfHerder74Man
15 weeks ago

Greenock

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore? "

It is difficult to meet new people

I need a bit of time to trust someone, to start feeling sexual attraction. Men don’t have patience and just want a quick release then stop talking after you made an effort.

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By *opeyXWoman
15 weeks ago

Dun Dee

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore? "

Yeah but its why I go to socials, I cba to do the ping pong thing for ages and then finally arrange 1-1 social things, then it not even happen.

I do struggle and get a bit overwhelmed at large organised socials, but there mostly friendly, amazing bunch of people and super interesting to boot!

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By *YDB75Man
15 weeks ago

East Yorkie

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By *YDB75Man
15 weeks ago

East Yorkie

"I love meeting new people, however my overthinking brain isn't allowing it right now.

Mrs "

That overthinking brain can be so cruel and destructive cant it

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Met a number in the past but the best meets are when you get to know someone

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By *opeyXWoman
15 weeks ago

Dun Dee

"I love meeting new people, however my overthinking brain isn't allowing it right now.

Mrs

That overthinking brain can be so cruel and destructive cant it"

Something I learnt when you overthink would you tell a friend this/also is it a fact? Sometimes helps!

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By *electableicecreamMan
15 weeks ago

The West

It ebbs and flows for me. I could go six months without wanting to see anyone new and then have months where I really enjoy meeting new people.

The main thing that's changed for me is discovering I'm not neurotypical so I don't worry much about not clicking with most people anymore and I really value those I do click with.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
15 weeks ago

somewhere

Yes I like meeting people but fuck me, it's hard work!

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By *YDB75Man
15 weeks ago

East Yorkie

"I love meeting new people, however my overthinking brain isn't allowing it right now.

Mrs

That overthinking brain can be so cruel and destructive cant it

Something I learnt when you overthink would you tell a friend this/also is it a fact? Sometimes helps!

Funnily enough i was told that by a therapist

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By *cLovin2Man
15 weeks ago

Reading

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore? "

I did use to think that when younger, I was shy. I've since lost the shyness and most inhibition. The key is be yourself and you will attract the right kind of people

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By *cLovin2Man
15 weeks ago

Reading

"Yes.

It's not worth it.

Fuck people, except without contact.

I would like to guck you. With lots of contact, Swing.

Germy.

I won't kink shame you, but I don't know what gunk means

Guck *

Me neither though. It should say fuck.

goddamn it I autocarroted myself"

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By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore?

I did use to think that when younger, I was shy. I've since lost the shyness and most inhibition. The key is be yourself and you will attract the right kind of people "

I’m becoming more confident talking to people these days. I talk to people at bus stops or people serving my drink at pubs/ bars and people in the sauna/ steam.

But finding it exhausting remains. I just find interacting with people exhausting. Sometimes I don’t even reply to people on message because I haven’t got the energy for conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

I’m keeping my circle of friends small but high quality these days but still always open to new people

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By *cLovin2Man
15 weeks ago

Reading

"I would love to make new friends and try to put myself out there but i find it exhausting.

I feel like I need to just end up in the second series of a friendship once all the hard work has been done"

Devil angel, with legs like yours, I'll be your friend. If my hand wanders onto your thigh, don't worry he's just playing.

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By *cLovin2Man
15 weeks ago

Reading

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore?

I did use to think that when younger, I was shy. I've since lost the shyness and most inhibition. The key is be yourself and you will attract the right kind of people

I’m becoming more confident talking to people these days. I talk to people at bus stops or people serving my drink at pubs/ bars and people in the sauna/ steam.

But finding it exhausting remains. I just find interacting with people exhausting. Sometimes I don’t even reply to people on message because I haven’t got the energy for conversation. "

I'm a bit surprised to hear you say that, we met at one of your socials, I thought you were quite sociable actually. Maybe you are underestimating yourself

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By *eliWoman
15 weeks ago

No. If I want to interact with people I will. Sometimes I don't have the energy to give but I never feel like I want to but also don't.

You're an odd one Pickle.

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By *ickle-Lilly-Willy OP Man
15 weeks ago

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"No. If I want to interact with people I will. Sometimes I don't have the energy to give but I never feel like I want to but also don't.

You're an odd one Pickle. "

Tell me something I don’t know.

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By *cLovin2Man
15 weeks ago

Reading

We all go through periods where we can't be arsed to meet people. But when I want to I'm quite good at it now, but I wasn't when younger. My point is, it's a learned habit, for those who feel awkward, you can learn to get better at it with practice.

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By *affron40Woman
15 weeks ago

manchester

No. I prefer to be alone most of the time and have a really lovely life. When I’m in the mood to be sociable I’ll plan it and enjoy the day. But I’m then happy to go back to my quiet time. I don’t want or need a big circle so I’m very careful who I let close.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
15 weeks ago

North West

I want to be sociable with the people I want to be sociable with. I don't find meeting new people to be daunting, I just don't have the mental space or energy to cultivate myriad friendships.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
15 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Sometimes OP. They’re the times I need some off grid spoon whittling

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By *r beardMan
15 weeks ago

ware

Put the kettle on. Nice and strong, sweet enough.

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By *ansoffateMan
15 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

When I hit it off with someone the NRE can be quite powerful, which is great but if I don't have the space in my life for it then I can't give the energy it deserves or requires.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
15 weeks ago

your head

Yep! I can be a bit rubbish at actually talking to people and go through phases of being here all the time or not at all which doesn't help conversations flow very easy.

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By *929Man
15 weeks ago

newcastle

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore? "

Yes I’d love to eventually meet someone to be with and build a good life eith but honestly can’t be fucking bothered to look I’m happy with my little routine of work and gym and just enjoying peace and being alone at night time

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By *entleman JayMan
15 weeks ago

Wakefield

No. I love meeting new people.

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By *indergirlWoman
15 weeks ago

somewhere, someplace

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore? "

Yep

And Yep

I suck at making new friends ir keeping them 🫣

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By *eroLondonMan
15 weeks ago

Covent Garden

But she does suck... ^. Fåçt.

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By *uzzieboyMan
15 weeks ago

taunton

Good to meet new people I think and to be honest I’ll talk to anyone and everyone when I’m out

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By *neeyedwillieMan
15 weeks ago

Darlington

"Do you ever feel like you want to meet new people but putting yourself out there can be so difficult or such a chore? "

No.

You don't get jack shit done in online spaces.

Go where people are, start conversations and the rest is history. If they don't wanna talk, let them walk.....but you'd be shocked how many do want to. There's a lot of lonely people out there

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By *vaRose43Woman
15 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Love making new friends, but also… ewww people!!

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

As an introvert I find it difficult. I'm pretty crap at small talk unless I force myself to do it and find large groups a nightmare. I'm happy being on my own most of the time fortunately x

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By *HUSH-Man
15 weeks ago

London

I like meeting new people but I’ve definitely found as I’ve gotten older it’s more difficult to be in social situations where that takes place. A lot of my friends have settled down now, some have moved away and others have work commitments. I had very little free time in my previous job so I was difficult to pin down too.

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By *octor ProdMan
15 weeks ago

working Overseas

I like meeting new people, and one of the perks of travelling with work is meeting new people. Old.friends used to joke that wherever we went, I would bump into someone I knew, if when they mentioned where they lived the other person would say "Do you know Wil.."

That said; I don't always need my friends around me,and I can fill me time on my own quite happily

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By *illy IdolMan
15 weeks ago

Midlands

On Fab I'm okay chatting to 1 or 2 at a time. Anymore more than that, then I find it's a bit much.

Away from Fab, my bucket is full and I have no interest in meeting anyone new.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
15 weeks ago

Newcastle

I’d love to meet someone and live happily ever after but can’t be bothered with the hassle of dating. I’ve lived by myself for a long time now and think it would be hard to share my space with someone again.

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By *eroLondonMan
15 weeks ago

Covent Garden

This Juliet is looking for her Romeo ... ... ^

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