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"It's swings and roundabouts shag, I would love it that menopause and puberty were not coinciding over the past 10 years, buts that's my only regret about having a family later on. I had a career, went travelling, had a ton of experiences, then had kids. Loads of my school friends are grandparents now having started families at 20 and they are doing the looking after the grandkids cycle, I definitely chose the best path for me "Looking after grandchildren is a 'cycle' it's a privilege! | |||
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" For a mother's and baby's health the best time to give birth is early 20s. " I don't agree early 20s is best for a new mother's mental health | |||
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" For a mother's and baby's health the best time to give birth is early 20s. I don't agree early 20s is best for a new mother's mental health " I agree, you are likely to be better prepared for motherhood the older you get. Just not physically, medically speaking. | |||
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"^^ 'elderly primagravida' is writ large in my medical notes. When I rocked up at the surgery pregnant at 35 the midwife was almost disapproving. When I turned up pregnant at 46 the medical people threw their hands up in despair. Nature will do what it wants to do and all the medical warnings in the world won't stop it. " Didn't you find looking after a newborn at 46 and coping with a toddler when your obviously older exhausting? I do a lot of babysitting for my youngest grandson who's 7 months. I find that tiring and he's only crawling and has naps!☺️ | |||
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"She said there's an 11 year gap" "When I turned up pregnant at 46 the medical people threw their hands up in despair." Sorry, what's your point, Sally? | |||
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"^^ 'elderly primagravida' is writ large in my medical notes. When I rocked up at the surgery pregnant at 35 the midwife was almost disapproving. When I turned up pregnant at 46 the medical people threw their hands up in despair. Nature will do what it wants to do and all the medical warnings in the world won't stop it. Didn't you find looking after a newborn at 46 and coping with a toddler when your obviously older exhausting? I do a lot of babysitting for my youngest grandson who's 7 months. I find that tiring and he's only crawling and has naps!☺️" Things didn't turn out as expected bearing out your point about younger mothers. I have no doubt that I would have found a baby at that age exhausting and a huge strain on me and the whole family. One compensation about your grandson is you can hand him back to his parents  and just enjoy the best bits | |||
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"I'm not trying to cause an argument but she didn't mention having a toddler as well as a baby at 46. " I had my first baby at 33, my second at 35 and became pregnant at 46 but that didn't go full term because basically I was too old. The gynaecologist told me the oldest woman she'd seen who was pregnant naturally was in her late fifties and the oldest woman still having regular periods was 62. | |||
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"So sorry to hear the sad news about your third baby" Thank you. It was a long time ago and I don't mind talking about it. | |||
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"^^ 'elderly primagravida' is writ large in my medical notes. When I rocked up at the surgery pregnant at 35 the midwife was almost disapproving. When I turned up pregnant at 46 the medical people threw their hands up in despair. Nature will do what it wants to do and all the medical warnings in the world won't stop it. Didn't you find looking after a newborn at 46 and coping with a toddler when your obviously older exhausting? I do a lot of babysitting for my youngest grandson who's 7 months. I find that tiring and he's only crawling and has naps!☺️ Things didn't turn out as expected bearing out your point about younger mothers. I have no doubt that I would have found a baby at that age exhausting and a huge strain on me and the whole family. One compensation about your grandson is you can hand him back to his parents and just enjoy the best bits "Exactly ☺️ | |||
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"I'm not trying to cause an argument but she didn't mention having a toddler as well as a baby at 46. I had my first baby at 33, my second at 35 and became pregnant at 46 but that didn't go full term because basically I was too old. The gynaecologist told me the oldest woman she'd seen who was pregnant naturally was in her late fifties and the oldest woman still having regular periods was 62. " I am so sorry I bought this up 😟 | |||
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"I think my point is that regardless of what anyone believes to be the best age for anything life has other ideas" My single biggest , well only real regret in life on not having more kids. I have three daughters would have loved 6 or 8 but I didn’t know then what I know now. I did consider another around age 50 but it’s a such a massive decision and responsibility I would needed to slow down at work and likely give up fab to raise a child properly | |||
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"I'm not trying to cause an argument but she didn't mention having a toddler as well as a baby at 46. I had my first baby at 33, my second at 35 and became pregnant at 46 but that didn't go full term because basically I was too old. The gynaecologist told me the oldest woman she'd seen who was pregnant naturally was in her late fifties and the oldest woman still having regular periods was 62. I am so sorry I bought this up 😟" Thank you. Please don't feel bad, I chose to mention it and if I found it distressing I wouldn't have brought it up. | |||
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"I'm not trying to cause an argument but she didn't mention having a toddler as well as a baby at 46. I had my first baby at 33, my second at 35 and became pregnant at 46 but that didn't go full term because basically I was too old. The gynaecologist told me the oldest woman she'd seen who was pregnant naturally was in her late fifties and the oldest woman still having regular periods was 62. I am so sorry I bought this up 😟 Thank you. Please don't feel bad, I chose to mention it and if I found it distressing I wouldn't have brought it up. "Have a 🫂 regardless 🙂 | |||
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"I think my point is that regardless of what anyone believes to be the best age for anything life has other ideas My single biggest , well only real regret in life on not having more kids. I have three daughters would have loved 6 or 8 but I didn’t know then what I know now. I did consider another around age 50 but it’s a such a massive decision and responsibility I would needed to slow down at work and likely give up fab to raise a child properly " It's a much bigger decision the older you get I think. My dad certainly had doubts becoming a father at 40. | |||
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"I'm not trying to cause an argument but she didn't mention having a toddler as well as a baby at 46. I had my first baby at 33, my second at 35 and became pregnant at 46 but that didn't go full term because basically I was too old. The gynaecologist told me the oldest woman she'd seen who was pregnant naturally was in her late fifties and the oldest woman still having regular periods was 62. I am so sorry I bought this up 😟 Thank you. Please don't feel bad, I chose to mention it and if I found it distressing I wouldn't have brought it up.
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"I think my point is that regardless of what anyone believes to be the best age for anything life has other ideas My single biggest , well only real regret in life on not having more kids. I have three daughters would have loved 6 or 8 but I didn’t know then what I know now. I did consider another around age 50 but it’s a such a massive decision and responsibility I would needed to slow down at work and likely give up fab to raise a child properly It's a much bigger decision the older you get I think. My dad certainly had doubts becoming a father at 40. " I think there’s a huge amount of unwarranted stigma too. People say things like it’s selfish to have a teenager when you’re in your 60s or 70s or to die leaving someone in their 20s without a father. Lots of children and young adults have awful abusive parents or no parents for alll kinds of reasons does that make their lives any less valuable or worthwhile? It’s almost like your life can only be worth something if your parents are alive | |||
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"I think my point is that regardless of what anyone believes to be the best age for anything life has other ideas My single biggest , well only real regret in life on not having more kids. I have three daughters would have loved 6 or 8 but I didn’t know then what I know now. I did consider another around age 50 but it’s a such a massive decision and responsibility I would needed to slow down at work and likely give up fab to raise a child properly It's a much bigger decision the older you get I think. My dad certainly had doubts becoming a father at 40. I think there’s a huge amount of unwarranted stigma too. People say things like it’s selfish to have a teenager when you’re in your 60s or 70s or to die leaving someone in their 20s without a father. Lots of children and young adults have awful abusive parents or no parents for alll kinds of reasons does that make their lives any less valuable or worthwhile? It’s almost like your life can only be worth something if your parents are alive" I agree. I think that often you can only live your authentic self when your parents aren't around. But that's enough deep and meaningful for me for a Sunday morning | |||
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"I think my point is that regardless of what anyone believes to be the best age for anything life has other ideas My single biggest , well only real regret in life on not having more kids. I have three daughters would have loved 6 or 8 but I didn’t know then what I know now. I did consider another around age 50 but it’s a such a massive decision and responsibility I would needed to slow down at work and likely give up fab to raise a child properly It's a much bigger decision the older you get I think. My dad certainly had doubts becoming a father at 40. I think there’s a huge amount of unwarranted stigma too. People say things like it’s selfish to have a teenager when you’re in your 60s or 70s or to die leaving someone in their 20s without a father. Lots of children and young adults have awful abusive parents or no parents for alll kinds of reasons does that make their lives any less valuable or worthwhile? It’s almost like your life can only be worth something if your parents are alive I agree. I think that often you can only live your authentic self when your parents aren't around. But that's enough deep and meaningful for me for a Sunday morning " After losing my only job having to live with my parents again makes me feel kinda shite. Not want you meant ofc but I don't exactly feel myself being here. | |||
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" I think that often you can only live your authentic self when your parents aren't around. But that's enough deep and meaningful for me for a Sunday morning After losing my only job having to live with my parents again makes me feel kinda shite. Not want you meant ofc but I don't exactly feel myself being here." The parent/child dynamic never really goes away. | |||
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"I would say 2 things here, if you want to start a family, the younger you are the better, lets say in your lower 20s, but for love, it could be more or less at any age. It would be interesting to see what your view is about this, do you agree or what age would you say it could it? "i didnt think i was ready to have a child when i was younger and as i got older felt that it wasnt going to happen anyway for a number of reasons, not being in a steady relationship was one. Then i found out i was (late late 30's) and felt that well this is it and i was prepared to single parent. I dont think i was mentally ready when i was younger . I have friends that had kids at 20 and early - I think its a very individual thing and if you think about it too much then you can find a way to put it off forever - mine kind of just happened and now im glad i followed it through. | |||
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" I think that often you can only live your authentic self when your parents aren't around. But that's enough deep and meaningful for me for a Sunday morning After losing my only job having to live with my parents again makes me feel kinda shite. Not want you meant ofc but I don't exactly feel myself being here. The parent/child dynamic never really goes away. " Yeah well hopefully I can pick myself up eventually | |||
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"Having a child in your early 20s is fine. "Having a child at any legal age is fine usually | |||
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"I would say 2 things here, if you want to start a family, the younger you are the better, lets say in your lower 20s, but for love, it could be more or less at any age. It would be interesting to see what your view is about this, do you agree or what age would you say it could it? "You have a child when you're ready, for some that's early on, some it's later in life and for some it's never. Love? Ha never. | |||
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"It's swings and roundabouts shag, I would love it that menopause and puberty were not coinciding over the past 10 years, buts that's my only regret about having a family later on. I had a career, went travelling, had a ton of experiences, then had kids. Loads of my school friends are grandparents lnow having started families at 20 and they are doing the looking after the grandkids cycle, I definitely chose the best path for me "Hi patricia, that is good you chose the best path for you to have it later on too | |||
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"It's swings and roundabouts shag, I would love it that menopause and puberty were not coinciding over " Same for me, two pubescent teens and a peri mum does not make for a nice household to be in at times bit I wouldn't change it, I had my kids in my early 30s and that was the right time for me | |||
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"It's swings and roundabouts shag, I would love it that menopause and puberty were not coinciding over the past 10 years, buts that's my only regret about having a family later on. I had a career, went travelling, had a ton of experiences, then had kids. Loads of my school friends are grandparents now having started families at 20 and they are doing the looking after the grandkids cycle, I definitely chose the best path for me
Looking after grandchildren is a 'cycle' it's a privilege!"ISN'T a Cycle | |||
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"I’d say when it feels right is the most important thing. I fell in love young’ish I suppose to you Shag my age was far too young . I started a family late according to you. My love lasted ages. And my kids are doing damn good thank you. "Yes, when it feels right is the most important thing too | |||
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"Yes and no. " Drowning at what stage of life you are 20 yo may not be the best fit for a 28yo. But a 40yo with a 50yo both with grown kids maybe. | |||
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"There's no right age. My dad was 40 when my youngest brother was born. I was 33 when my oldest child was born. Were my dad and I wrong?" You are right there, there is no right age for it | |||
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