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By *agic.M OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Orpington

Guys, you know how #notallwomen complain on the forum about #notallmen not  knowing how to send a first message? making no effort, or that the messages are rude or inappropriate? What if I told you that #notallwomen take a very similar approach when first messaging 👀...

So for your entertainment only (and this is just a bit of banter ladies - please no trigger reflex 🙏) I have copy pasted some of the first messages I have received from some of the women on fab and created this amazing compilation 😁...

"Where have you been hiding all this time" - 🙄

"Is your cock small? Why don't you show it?" - 🖲 (cringe button) 👈

"Eat my sloppy wet pussy I'm so high right now" - Dr**s are bad mkkaay?

"Shame you're not taller" - yes, there's nothing better than having regrets in life 🤭

"Fuck me" - ok...🖕

"Hey you" - hey me 👍

"Daaaaaaaaammmmmmmnnnnn" - please no cursing

"You short " - thanks Captain Obvious

" Show us your cock already " - so impatient 🤨

"Dude" - 🤔 ...Where's my car?

"Holly fuck!" - 🙏 Amin

" You shite" - oh poop 💩

Ok some of these are just tongue and cheek, and honestly I don't mind any of them, but it does show how both men and women can be bad at sending a first message (or whether #notallwomen say a first message should be) ...

So guys...for those of you that have received a first message from women, how was it? Rude or respectful? Cringe or considerate? Short or story?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
16 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

What's wrong with tall women?

I'd say the overall balance isn't far off even. 99% zero effort, copy paste or just lewd bullshit from either gender, with about 1% actually worth a proper response 💜

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By *aizyWoman
16 weeks ago

west midlands

Well, there are two I have noted down for future use, thanks OP

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By *eliWoman
16 weeks ago

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People are bad at sending first messages for the most part, it's not the sole domain of one gender.

I think women receive a greater volume because they receive, for the most part, a greater amount of messages.

I don't mind... a few words of a first message. It's not the easiest balance to strike and starting communication is the first big step.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
16 weeks ago

Castlebar

Crazy people come in all shapes, sizes and genders 🤣

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
16 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Did you reply "Sweet!" to the dude one? 🤞

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By *del 1Man
16 weeks ago

London


"Well, there are two I have noted down for future use, thanks OP "

Is it "Daaaammmnnn" and "show us your cock already!"?

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By *hilloutMan
16 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Can't really comment. I almost never receive unsolicited messages from women.

If I did and that was their content, it wouldn't affect me at all.

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By *eroLondonMan
16 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"... ... ...I have copy pasted some of the first messages I have received from some of the women on fab and created this amazing compilation... ... ..."

I thought it was against Fab rules to publicly display private messages, verbatim...❓❔

Notwithstanding OP, most of the messages I receive are somewhat more imaginative, apart from the occasional unsolicited photo of a pussy.

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By *agic.M OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Orpington


"... ... ...I have copy pasted some of the first messages I have received from some of the women on fab and created this amazing compilation... ... ...

I thought it was against Fab rules to publicly display private messages, verbatim...❓❔

Notwithstanding OP, most of the messages I receive are somewhat more imaginative, apart from the occasional unsolicited photo of a pussy."

I thought we just weren't allowed to name and shame people

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By *agic.M OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Orpington


"What's wrong with tall women?"

Ah shoot I just ran into that one 😅

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By *agic.M OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Orpington


"Did you reply "Sweet!" to the dude one? 🤞"

No, I replied with "wazzaaaaaaaaaaa"

👀

👅

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
16 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


""wazzaaaaaaaaaaa"

👀

👅"

The *only* correct response.

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By *ea monkeyMan
16 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I do get first messages from femmes, usually it’s in response to forum posts or things on my profile. Often they’re demanding cookies

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By *ell GwynnWoman
16 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"Did you reply "Sweet!" to the dude one? 🤞

No, I replied with "wazzaaaaaaaaaaa"

👀

👅"

I really wish I'd sent the "dude" message now.

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By *eroLondonMan
16 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"I do get first messages from femmes, usually it’s in response to forum posts or things on my profile. Often they’re demanding cookies"

Your cøøkies are legendary though! ⚜️

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
16 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I think the most perplexing first message I’ve had out of the blue lately was the one from a woman that just said “lol”.

I just felt laughed at.

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By *ea monkeyMan
16 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I do get first messages from femmes, usually it’s in response to forum posts or things on my profile. Often they’re demanding cookies

Your cøøkies are legendary though! ⚜️"

It’s my milkshake that really makes people gather in my garden though

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
16 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Damn right.

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By *eroLondonMan
16 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"I think the most perplexing first message I’ve had out of the blue lately was the one from a woman that just said “lol”.

I just felt laughed at. "

Dear chap — in the alternative vernacular "LOL" also means Lustful O' Lord†. It's a form of womanly deference. ♥️

It's all good.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
16 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

No, I’m fairly certain she was laughing.

In the bin went that message.

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By *naswingdressWoman
16 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

The vast majority of people are either inarticulate or wordy and pompous, with very little in between.

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By *imples24Man
16 weeks ago

tamworth

Would be interesting if they made this place women have to messaged first maybe cut a lot of shit out

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By *agic.M OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Orpington


"I think the most perplexing first message I’ve had out of the blue lately was the one from a woman that just said “lol”.

I just felt laughed at.

Dear chap — in the alternative vernacular "LOL" also means Lustful O' Lord†. It's a form of womanly deference. ♥️

It's all good."

I agree...it's probably one of those weird moments when they say one thing but mean something else...like "Omg no!🙈 Don't...you're so naughty 🤭...omg stop you bad boy☺...no, we're in public ...OK, you can hold my hand "

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By *naswingdressWoman
16 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Would be interesting if they made this place women have to messaged first maybe cut a lot of shit out "

I've been messaging first for four years. I still get a lot of shit. Just from people who've honed an image they can't maintain

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By *imples24Man
16 weeks ago

tamworth


"Would be interesting if they made this place women have to messaged first maybe cut a lot of shit out

I've been messaging first for four years. I still get a lot of shit. Just from people who've honed an image they can't maintain"

Yeah but at least if they did this your inbox wouldn’t be full with 100’s of messages with dic pics and hey want to fuck now. You could have people messaging who you wanted. Then block them if they start to be not what you wanted. Just my thoughts

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By *naswingdressWoman
16 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Would be interesting if they made this place women have to messaged first maybe cut a lot of shit out

I've been messaging first for four years. I still get a lot of shit. Just from people who've honed an image they can't maintain

Yeah but at least if they did this your inbox wouldn’t be full with 100’s of messages with dic pics and hey want to fuck now. You could have people messaging who you wanted. Then block them if they start to be not what you wanted. Just my thoughts "

You're describing what I do.

My block list overfloweth.

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By *imples24Man
16 weeks ago

tamworth


"Would be interesting if they made this place women have to messaged first maybe cut a lot of shit out

I've been messaging first for four years. I still get a lot of shit. Just from people who've honed an image they can't maintain

Yeah but at least if they did this your inbox wouldn’t be full with 100’s of messages with dic pics and hey want to fuck now. You could have people messaging who you wanted. Then block them if they start to be not what you wanted. Just my thoughts

You're describing what I do.

My block list overfloweth."

Maybe the site should try it for a while, may make everyone’s experience better

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By *naswingdressWoman
16 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Would be interesting if they made this place women have to messaged first maybe cut a lot of shit out

I've been messaging first for four years. I still get a lot of shit. Just from people who've honed an image they can't maintain

Yeah but at least if they did this your inbox wouldn’t be full with 100’s of messages with dic pics and hey want to fuck now. You could have people messaging who you wanted. Then block them if they start to be not what you wanted. Just my thoughts

You're describing what I do.

My block list overfloweth.

Maybe the site should try it for a while, may make everyone’s experience better "

It's an option open to any woman who wants to try it. I don't see why it should be mandated.

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By *3nsesMan
16 weeks ago

Dublin

More users = more money. Fab owners ain't to turn going to implement a policy that will cut down on users.

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By *agic.M OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Orpington


"Would be interesting if they made this place women have to messaged first maybe cut a lot of shit out

I've been messaging first for four years. I still get a lot of shit. Just from people who've honed an image they can't maintain

Yeah but at least if they did this your inbox wouldn’t be full with 100’s of messages with dic pics and hey want to fuck now. You could have people messaging who you wanted. Then block them if they start to be not what you wanted. Just my thoughts

You're describing what I do.

My block list overfloweth."

I believe what he is proposing is that only women should be allowed to send first message, and than men can reply and send messages...so basically men can only engage in messaging with a woman once they have received a first message from that woman...I think 🤔

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By *naswingdressWoman
16 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Would be interesting if they made this place women have to messaged first maybe cut a lot of shit out

I've been messaging first for four years. I still get a lot of shit. Just from people who've honed an image they can't maintain

Yeah but at least if they did this your inbox wouldn’t be full with 100’s of messages with dic pics and hey want to fuck now. You could have people messaging who you wanted. Then block them if they start to be not what you wanted. Just my thoughts

You're describing what I do.

My block list overfloweth.

I believe what he is proposing is that only women should be allowed to send first message, and than men can reply and send messages...so basically men can only engage in messaging with a woman once they have received a first message from that woman...I think 🤔 "

Yes.

He's suggesting women message first.

I changed my profile in 2020 to only allow me to message first.

I've blocked a lot of people.

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By *ase4122Man
16 weeks ago

Lancashire

What! Women actually message on here.

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By *imples24Man
16 weeks ago

tamworth

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By *imples24Man
16 weeks ago

tamworth


"Would be interesting if they made this place women have to messaged first maybe cut a lot of shit out

I've been messaging first for four years. I still get a lot of shit. Just from people who've honed an image they can't maintain

Yeah but at least if they did this your inbox wouldn’t be full with 100’s of messages with dic pics and hey want to fuck now. You could have people messaging who you wanted. Then block them if they start to be not what you wanted. Just my thoughts

You're describing what I do.

My block list overfloweth.

I believe what he is proposing is that only women should be allowed to send first message, and than men can reply and send messages...so basically men can only engage in messaging with a woman once they have received a first message from that woman...I think 🤔

Yes.

He's suggesting women message first.

I changed my profile in 2020 to only allow me to message first.

I've blocked a lot of people."

Yeah that’s what I’m suggesting this lady is ahead of the game

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By *naswingdressWoman
16 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"What! Women actually message on here."

Everyone I've met since 2020 has been someone I've messaged first.

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By *ex HolesMan
16 weeks ago

Up North


"What! Women actually message on here.

Everyone I've met since 2020 has been someone I've messaged first."

God help them 🙏🙏

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By *eroLondonMan
16 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"What! Women actually message on here."

Yes they do. Irrefutably.

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By *eroLondonMan
16 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"What! Women actually message on here.

Everyone I've met since 2020 has been someone I've messaged first.

God help them 🙏🙏"

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By *imples24Man
16 weeks ago

tamworth

Most women on here say their inbox is just full of messages and half the time they don’t get time to respond or even read. Or messages they don’t want

Men say they don’t get a response or any messages at all

Makes sense

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By *weetiepie99Woman
16 weeks ago

cardiff

I don't think I've ever sent a first message here. But now I have some ideas

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By *ase4122Man
16 weeks ago

Lancashire


"I don't think I've ever sent a first message here. But now I have some ideas"

Happy to your Guinea pig lol

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By *oastalloversCouple
16 weeks ago

Cornwall

I've sent boobs picture as first message to a man and I had no response. Haha!

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By *imples24Man
16 weeks ago

tamworth

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By *imples24Man
16 weeks ago

tamworth


"I've sent boobs picture as first message to a man and I had no response. Haha!

"

Maybe he wasn’t a boob man

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By *oastalloversCouple
16 weeks ago

Cornwall


"I've sent boobs picture as first message to a man and I had no response. Haha!

Maybe he wasn’t a boob man "

That may be, perhaps I'm not a dick pictures receiving person either.

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By *imples24Man
16 weeks ago

tamworth


"I've sent boobs picture as first message to a man and I had no response. Haha!

Maybe he wasn’t a boob man

That may be, perhaps I'm not a dick pictures receiving person either. "

lol well you won’t get one from me don’t worry not my style

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By *MFSMan
16 weeks ago

St Albans(ish)


"Would be interesting if they made this place women have to messaged first maybe cut a lot of shit out "

Like Bumble?

I'm not sure that would address the OP's issue as I've had opening messages there of "Hi" and "".

I've also had a woman pull out of a meeting 2hrs before and then ghost me, another get stroppy when I suggested meeting IRL and one seemed unhappy (remember this was Bumble not Fab) that I HADN'T turned the conversation to sex.

As has been said, it's not about gender. People are just crap at social interaction, and online makes it worse.

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By *agic.M OP   Man
15 weeks ago

Orpington


"I don't think I've ever sent a first message here. But now I have some ideas"

Use the "dude" one ...guaranteed reply

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By *aven.Woman
15 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I'm only responsible for 3 of those, ok maybe 4.

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By *r John WickMan
15 weeks ago

The Continental


"I'm only responsible for 3 of those, ok maybe 4."

Amateur.

Gotta get those numbers up.

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By *hilloutMan
15 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I'm only responsible for 3 of those, ok maybe 4."

😂😂 welcome back 😁

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago


"I've sent boobs picture as first message to a man and I had no response. Haha!

Maybe he wasn’t a boob man

That may be, perhaps I'm not a dick pictures receiving person either.

lol well you won’t get one from me don’t worry not my style "

You mean you're going to send her two?

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago


"I'm only responsible for 3 of those, ok maybe 4."

So one a week is not a bad ratio - but I bet the school report was #MustTryHarder

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