FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling confused!!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can someone fall in love without meeting you? Might sound a daft question but can it really happen????

Constructive advice needed please lol

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By *hris N KateCouple
over a year ago

Gainesville

At best I would think they are in love with the idea of being in love. Could develop into real love... Maybe, could also, and more likely, to just be creepy! Lol

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Some do...

Know a few people that met chatting online, ping ping messages for weeks/months....

Worked for them.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He's not creepy at all, but I have never been in a loving relationship and don't trust anyone really!!! That's why I thought I'd throw it to the forum xx

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

You read all the time of this kinda thing but id say no not until you have met them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You read all the time of this kinda thing but id say no not until you have met them "

Ah but someone can think that they have fallen in love, there is a difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that you can fall in love with someone with out meeting them but then you might fall right out love when you do meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think that you can fall in love with someone with out meeting them but then you might fall right out love when you do meet"

Yeh that's what I thought!!!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you can fully know a person just by exchanging messages or tel calls.

How many times do you see people say they weren't what they were expecting when we met?

If someone falls in love with someone over the net then they are falling for someone as they persieve them, a fantasy in a way, cos how can u truely know someone without seeing body language etc

Or they are needy or trying to trap you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a friend (in vanilla life) who started chatting to a lady on Facebook, she lived in Mexico and he lived here. Over the course of several months they exchanged pics and messages. Then one day he booked a ticket out there and they got married a couple of weeks later. This was a few years ago and they're still together and totally in love.

So to answer the op's question, yes, I think its perfectly possible...

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

Ok i can see it in the other point of veiw BUT surley you need to meet a person to be Truley inlove??

I get the fact some people have found love online but the meeting is the cement between all the emails txts pics calls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You read all the time of this kinda thing but id say no not until you have met them "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know they are really how they come across....watch catfish.

I don'y believe its love until you meet that person i believe you can really like someone or the idea of them but to call it love is a bit full on for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmm, maybe begin to fall in love with someone virtually but I think to really love someone, you need to know them, be with them, see the things that never make the messages.

On here, sorry but I would say in love with the idea of getting in the place some wear knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think you can fully know a person just by exchanging messages or tel calls.

How many times do you see people say they weren't what they were expecting when we met?

If someone falls in love with someone over the net then they are falling for someone as they persieve them, a fantasy in a way, cos how can u truely know someone without seeing body language etc

Or they are needy or trying to trap you"

Seen this numerous times on Fab!

The status updates, forum posts, "No longer meeting" headlines on profiles, new couples profiles alongside single ones.

I general - a temporary change in status that tends to result in either a return to the previous use of single only profiles, temporarily hidden profiles, "user no longer on site" or a shiny new profile and username.

I often think that whilst it can happen, some join sites such as this with mixed motives and if i'm honest, slightly confused motivation for being here. It's all well and good claiming a desire for NSA and nothing but fun and friendship - but if one party has other intentions it's easy for someone to be let down big time, duped by those preying on the needy or severely dissapointed when things go pear shaped.

But it will always happen, on here as much as traditional dating sites and other channels - why should Fab be any different.

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Think the thought of falling in love behind a keyboard could happen, we can all write the right sort of thing sat behind a keyboard. Better in person to see the reaction on there face to question. True love is out there, you have to make mistakes to find it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All you really know is that they write damn good messages, the rest is in our heads trying to fulfil our own hopes and dreams, as well as theirs. We all love the romance of the idea, just like "Sleepless in Seattle" we have a fantasy of what this person is like. Until we meet them and see the rest of their personality and traits we will never know if we can love them. The question is which is more important to you right now, the fantasy or the reality and are you prepared to risk it all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often think that whilst it can happen, some join sites such as this with mixed motives and if i'm honest, slightly confused motivation for being here. "

I agree, if you are looking for something outside of your current relationship/lives that you really should be fulfilling within them then reaching out on here will never work. This site is for extra curricular activity only, A great site for some adult sexy fun to distract you for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who are we to say you can't?

Everybody is different, and everybodys perception of love is unique for them. Adoration, lust, love, need, desire all become blurred for some people. Nothing wrong with that at all.

If someone chooses to describe the cocktail of emotions they're feeling as love then what gives us the right to smother it with our 'wisdom'.

Sometimes in life you have to trust your own instincts and 'roll the dice'. Yes you might get it wrong or you might get played, but it reminds you you're alive!

The question isn't whether someone else can 'remotely' fall in love, but whether you're secure enough in yourself to trust your instincts and buy a lottery ticket. You'll never win the lottery if you never buy one but keep asking others whether it can be won or not.

He might be playing you, but he might not. You won't get the answer to that on a forum.

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

I won't go into the entire story of meeting my hubby but will say that our first dance at our wedding was to savage garden's I knew I loved you before I met you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is definitely someone on here I have strong feelings for, they're amazing, funny, beautiful, kind and I love her to bits, she knows who she is x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think sometimes we think of love in binary terms. You are either in love, or you're not. But i guess the reality is that it is much more fuzzy and changeable. I do believe in love, as a strong emotion that makes you feel an incredible attachment to someone, but I don't think there is a point where you can say, yep, as of now it's no longer just "like", it's officially "love". "love" doesn't exist as an isolated thing, it is a mental and emotional state. I love my partner, and know this because that is how I feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can fall in love with the unknown but you need to meet them to see if those feelings are true xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. If you think you can fall in love without meeting someone then you need to step away from the Internet and get out in the real world a little bit more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank u for all your comments, believe me I never joined Fab to find love!!!

The total opposite in fact and I am an extremely guarded untrusting person lol but like some of u have said, u will never really know until u spend real time with that person!! Thank u all very much xxxx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if you do.... good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and Paul met online and didn't actually meet for months due to living in different parts of the country.

I'd say I loved him before we met, it just got deeper after we met.

Kay x

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By *tu and ChezCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

i met stu online and said we love you before we had even met and we have been happily married for nearly two year and madly in love with each it can really happen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a chance..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me, as the reality may be very different to the perceptions formed via written and verbal communications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is possible. I loved my former master before we met, it just got more in depth afterwards.

We did talk every day for hours on video calls though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't think so.

When I was on dating sites I used to push for a meet up quite quickly, as exchanging messages can give you an opinion of someone that turns out to be different that your opinion of them when you meet up in the flesh.

That said, I had a lot more successful dates than unsuccessful ones so it does form a good basis, but not love I don't think.

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