FabSwingers.com forum: Would you?

By *Jcurious OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Derby

Meet a newbie/newbies that want to have their first meet?

If you wouldn't why is that?

If yes, have you met newbies before and it's worked out or just intrigued too?

If you are the newbies, would you be keen on meeting another newbie or prefer to meet with people that have met others before?

Miss S x

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
27 weeks ago

The Continental

I’ve no real reason not to meet a newbie.

I’d spend plenty of time to satisfy my mind that they’re serious about meeting.

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By *ir tootMan
27 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"Meet a newbie/newbies that want to have their first meet?

If you wouldn't why is that?

If yes, have you met newbies before and it's worked out or just intrigued too?

If you are the newbies, would you be keen on meeting another newbie or prefer to meet with people that have met others before?

Miss S x"

I'm not sure how to answer this, but I'd like meet someone new here, though I have no problems meeting someone who's used to it.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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27 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

In a club or at a social event? Sure.

Even for a coffee. But it would be somewhere I was going to be anyway. I wouldn't make specific travel plans.

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By *parkle1974Woman
27 weeks ago

Leeds

It wouldn't bother me if they were new, everyone has to start somewhere x

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
27 weeks ago

the moon

Yes … we all have to start from somewhere …

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By *eliWoman
27 weeks ago

If they looked like you? Yes.

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By *Jcurious OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Derby

"In a club or at a social event? Sure.

Even for a coffee. But it would be somewhere I was going to be anyway. I wouldn't make specific travel plans."

Is that because you think newbies are more likely to flake?

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Yes. Probably.

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By *Jcurious OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Derby

"It wouldn't bother me if they were new, everyone has to start somewhere x"

Very true!

Have you met a newbie before?

Miss S x

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By *Jcurious OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Derby

"If they looked like you? Yes. "

God I 🩷 you.

Miss S x

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By *ady LickWoman
27 weeks ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'd happily meet them socially. I get messages from men who's partner wants their first bi experience ~ that's a no from me!

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By *parkle1974Woman
27 weeks ago

Leeds

"It wouldn't bother me if they were new, everyone has to start somewhere x

Very true!

Have you met a newbie before?

Miss S x"

I'm not sure tbh x

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By *Jcurious OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Derby

"I'd happily meet them socially. I get messages from men who's partner wants their first bi experience ~ that's a no from me!"

Yeah we've had this plently of times, that's also no for me!

Miss S x

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By *oodlepotMan
27 weeks ago

cheltenham

"It wouldn't bother me if they were new, everyone has to start somewhere x"

Exactly that

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
27 weeks ago

Tamworth

I’ve met newbies plenty of times. With single men it’s pretty much always worked out well. I’ve met a few couples in the past where, part way through proceedings, it became obvious one of them wasn’t ready to swing.

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By *Jcurious OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Derby

"I’ve met newbies plenty of times. With single men it’s pretty much always worked out well. I’ve met a few couples in the past where, part way through proceedings, it became obvious one of them wasn’t ready to swing. "

Oh god. Couldn't think of anything worse, how did that pan out?

Miss S x

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By *elix SightedMan
27 weeks ago

Cloud 8

I have met loads of people who are newbies to the site and the scene. Some have gone well, others not so much.

A few years ago I met a wonderful couple and we really hit it off. We still meet now for some really hot evenings and are good friends. However I’ve also met a couple who were overwhelmed by nervousness and, despite my best efforts to make it easier for them, things didn’t flow and we stopped halfway. I hope they found their groove and the experience hasn’t put me off meeting new people. We all have to start somewhere, right?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
27 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Yeah, I’m fine with meeting people who are new to Fab. If I like you, I like you. It’s not likely to be about how experienced you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"It wouldn't bother me if they were new, everyone has to start somewhere x

Exactly that "

I’m happy to start at the beginning.

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By *ir tootMan
27 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Horny beginnings

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By *Jcurious OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Derby

"I have met loads of people who are newbies to the site and the scene. Some have gone well, others not so much.

Ah, half and half then for you then.

Absolutely, we do all have to start somewhere, I was intrigued by people's thoughts on it.

Do you think that experience would make you approach the situation in a different way next time? Or anything you'd do differently?

Miss S x

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By *YDB75Man
27 weeks ago

East Yorkie

Newbie chats first

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
27 weeks ago

Tamworth

Oh god. Couldn't think of anything worse, how did that pan out?

Miss S x"

Awkwardly 😂

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
27 weeks ago

Wherever

Yes, I’ve met a lot of newbies, socially or otherwise.

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By *iberius61Man
27 weeks ago

Pontefract

Personally I love newbies, the nervous excitement, then the eagerness. Just a personal favourite, but I understand that some people don't like that. Surely that's one of the great things about our hobby, everyone's different?

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By *elix SightedMan
27 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"I have met loads of people who are newbies to the site and the scene. Some have gone well, others not so much.

Ah, half and half then for you then.

Absolutely, we do all have to start somewhere, I was intrigued by people's thoughts on it.

Do you think that experience would make you approach the situation in a different way next time? Or anything you'd do differently?

Miss S x"

No I don’t think so. Hindsight is a wonderful thing so it’s impossible to know how things will go. I think we just have to take a leap of faith with people and accept we won’t always click sexually, even if we fancy each other. Sex is such a personal thing with infinite variables.

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By *emdomCouple2024Couple
27 weeks ago

dudley

Would definitely meet newbies, knowing how hard it has been for ourselves to get meets on a new profile without many reviews we wouldn't let it out us off meeting new people, we was on here before with many reviews from clubs but lost access to the profile and since rejoining our ability to go to clubs as a couple has stopped due to child care and it's definitely made it more difficult to get meets or even get to know other people xx

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By *hunky GentMan
27 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I've webcammed with a newbie so they could be verified.

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By *ir tootMan
27 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

As a newbie in many areas I find it hard to answer, but I'd love to meet someone new or old, thar is just a nice person I'm general.

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By *ir tootMan
27 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"I've webcammed with a newbie so they could be verified.

You absolute gent!

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By *hunky GentMan
27 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I've webcammed with a newbie so they could be verified.

You absolute gent!"

It was a while ago.

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By *viatrixWoman
27 weeks ago

Redhill

I’d meet people new to the site who I click with and find physically attractive, both of them in a couple’s case.

Meeting them just for them to have their first meet? Nah.

So the fact that they are new to the site is completely irrelevant to me. I have met several people who had been on the site for a few days and I gave them their first verification, but it was only because there was an attraction and a rapport.

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By *ir tootMan
27 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"I’d meet people new to the site who I click with and find physically attractive, both of them in a couple’s case.

Meeting them just for them to have their first meet? Nah.

That makes sense to be honest, not every newbie is gonna be a good person, or to your liking.

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By *trange new worldCouple
27 weeks ago

Northampton

Have met a lot of newbies and held a few social events to help them get started.

Also been a few m and fs first bi experience, all gotta start somewhere.

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By *oroRick1027Man
27 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

I've met new couples and singles ladies. Fucked in first meet

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By *ipsforlipsMan
27 weeks ago

Midlands

Of course I meet newbies and notsonewbies ... it doesn't always come up in our conversations beforehand.

The past is somewhere we don't have to visit, the future is what we come together for.

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By *vaRose43Woman
27 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

I have and had a great time

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By *mmaleiaWoman
27 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Yes, I was a nOOb once & wasn’t verified til I’d been here about 4 months, I’ve also met unverified guys, nothing bad happened, they all turned up 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

I have been a newbie on numerous occasions and the lovely ladies of Fab have taken pity on me.

I dont think that I have ever met a newbie, but that is cos by the time I meet someone we have been talking a while and they would no longer be new.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
27 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"In a club or at a social event? Sure.

Even for a coffee. But it would be somewhere I was going to be anyway. I wouldn't make specific travel plans.

Is that because you think newbies are more likely to flake?

Miss S x"

No. Not necessarily. But I do like people to spend time getting used to the site and finding their feet before jumping into trying to arrange meets.

So many pounce on the 'fresh meet' that it's not a great experience for them. Clubs and socials are an easy way to just get out there with no expectations.

There is an element of worry with some. But my bullshit radar is pretty finely tuned.

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By *elboy1978Man
27 weeks ago

Jarrow

As long as there serious about meeting then yes

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By *affron40Woman
27 weeks ago

manchester

I’ve met newbies for coffee to verify them. But not met anyone for sex in years.

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By *oughnutandDanishCouple
27 weeks ago

Ware, Hertfordshire

We have met newbies before and enjoyed it everyone has to start somewhere. Xx

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By *imples24Man
27 weeks ago

tamworth

I’m a newbie and would happily meet another newbie or someone who’s had experiences. Once you get to know them a bit and have a social meet to see if we connect.

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By *Jcurious OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Derby

"In a club or at a social event? Sure.

Even for a coffee. But it would be somewhere I was going to be anyway. I wouldn't make specific travel plans.

Is that because you think newbies are more likely to flake?

Miss S x

No. Not necessarily. But I do like people to spend time getting used to the site and finding their feet before jumping into trying to arrange meets.

So many pounce on the 'fresh meet' that it's not a great experience for them. Clubs and socials are an easy way to just get out there with no expectations.

There is an element of worry with some. But my bullshit radar is pretty finely tuned. "

Ah yes that bullshit radar, once you've been on here a few years it gets clearer and clearer 😂

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

As a newbie- it’s virtually impossible to meet- it does put a lot of people off- I would be happy to meet single or a couples profile.

It’s just finding one that wants to meet me!

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By *eeper ThanMan
27 weeks ago

Dartford

Bottom line is yes I would

But I’d be a bit wary at first and wouldn’t dive into anything chat meet for a social first

But everyone has to start somewhere don’t they

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By *heonixrising500Man
27 weeks ago

Barnsley

I prefer newbi meets

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Why. Who’s askin?

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By *partharmonyCouple
27 weeks ago

Ruislip

We're not bothered about about whether somebody is a newbie or not. We want to meet people we think we'll get on with. Newbie status has nothing to do with that.

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By *luebell888Woman
27 weeks ago

Glasgowish

Quite happy to meet a new person and have done several times before.

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By *ffervescentMan
27 weeks ago

winfrith

eventually you run out of oldies so newbies are your only option .

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By *laytime_13Woman
27 weeks ago

Lincs

I was new myself not so long ago.

And I’m infinitely grateful to my first meet for being decent.

And to the subsequently decent people I’ve met since then, who have taken a relative newbie under their wing and shared their swinging experience in a kindly fashion, whilst creating top shelf memories in the process.

Newness to the site wouldn’t necessarily discourage me from meeting, if someone’s a kn0b they’ll be a kn0b no matter how long they’ve been here, I’ll find that out in the course of chatting regardless.

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By *Jcurious OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Derby

"eventually you run out of oldies so newbies are your only option ."

😂 😂 😂

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By *Jcurious OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Derby

"I was new myself not so long ago.

And I’m infinitely grateful to my first meet for being decent.

That's nice. Glad it panned out that way for you, everyone has to start somewhere.

Bang on with that last part 😂

Miss S x

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By *exxyyDy11Man
27 weeks ago

North West

Yes I would, we all started off somewhere. However, newbie women get swamped with messages so my message probably wouldn't be read anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Yes of course, I was once the newbie that someone took a chance on!

I won't do a pity fuck tho!

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"Yes of course, I was once the newbie that someone took a chance on!

I won't do a pity fuck tho! "

Ah, Go on, Go on, Go on...

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By *endalshaggersCouple
27 weeks ago

Lake District

We have been the "newbies" and still are in all honesty.

We have no problems with talking to new profiles - so long as they do have or send pictures, it's no fun chatting to a blank avatar.

We've been verified by others who "took a chance" on us when we were new here.

There does seem to be a weird contradiction on here of people not liking/trusting new profiles but also wanting more people to join the scene.....

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By *weetCherryWoman
27 weeks ago

London

No reason not to if I was looking to meet. I always do a couple of socials first anyway so if they flake or are creepy, there are clear boundaries and no expectations for the meet

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By *ife NinjaMan
27 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Of course. We've all got to start somewhere

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By *issmorganWoman
27 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I think if I was meeting a couple with my other half, I'd prefer they had a bit of experience.

Purely because there can be potential drama if they've never watched each other play with others before.

So if they've had some previous meets or gone to clubs, I usually assume they are both fine with partner swaps,unless it says otherwise on their bio.

I'd be happy to meet a single male who is more of a newbie when meeting.

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By *atty CoramWoman
27 weeks ago

Wimbledon

I prefer to meet newbies.

Their fresh-faced optimism contrasts superbly with my jaded cynicism.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

I'd meet new people for socials sure 😊

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
27 weeks ago

Okehampton

I have met newbies for socials. Mainly this is because as a single guy, I have to be wary, with couples judging their dynamic and meeting them both in a no pressure situation allows me to make a call that there is no pressure being exercised and that they are “as one” on this. Meeting single newbie women socially first is to protect myself from post meet regret and to ensure they aren’t a raving loon or prone to poor judgement.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
27 weeks ago

Leeds

Yeah I'd meet newbies, we were all newbies once.

Mrs

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By *aomilatteCouple
27 weeks ago

Midlands

We would but be a bit more wary than those with experience. We took a Ladies bi cherry and it was very hot.

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By *ealitybitesMan
27 weeks ago

Belfast

I only ever meet for a social first time and I used to be open to meeting newbies because I was one once.

I haven't been meeting at all for a few years but even if I was I won't meet newbies anymore after the last one I chatted to randomly contacted a very good friend that I had verified and told her to back off and stop holding me back on here.

She then resorted to verbal abuse and body shaming when I challenged her on what she had done.

That completely put me off ever chatting to or meeting a newbie no matter how they present themselves.

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By *MFSMan
27 weeks ago

St Albans(ish)

As a newbie, yes, absolutely. I'm more interested in the person than their experience.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
27 weeks ago

Norwich

We wouldn't book a hotel on the strength of a meet with a newbie but would certainly arrange to meet them at an organised social we were going to.

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