FabSwingers.com forum: I’ve spotted a friend on FAB

By *he normal one OP Man
16 weeks ago

Hereford

While checking out the local updates on here a few weeks ago I noticed a profile of a lovely young lady on here after looking at her public photos and reading her bio the penny suddenly drops it is someone I’ve known a number of years and always felt we had a connection and I’m thrilled she is on here. The downside is she has set her age preference a number of years lower than myself which prevents me from messaging or even winking her. I’m not expecting her to give me the green light for any sort of fun but it would be interesting where the knowledge we are both on here would take us. I’m in regular contact with her on social media but I don’t feel it would be appropriate to mention it in a dm on there. Has anyone got any suggestions how best approach her. I respect her limits on here and I don’t want to spoil our present friendship.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Don’t.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
16 weeks ago

Next Door

I personally wouldn't appreciate or want to be contacted on here by someone who I interact with a lot on social platforms. And if filters are set that you don't fall into, then it's giving you your answer, you arent what the lady is looking for on here.

just keep it to the other platform you chat on.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
16 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

You say you respect her limits, so respect her limits and don't mention it. I'd hate to be contacted by someone I already knew away from here. This is a totally separate and private sphere from the rest of my life.

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By *parkle1974Woman
16 weeks ago

Leeds

You've said it yourself that you don't feel it's appropriate.....

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
16 weeks ago

Maidstone

I guess the only issue could be if she spots you here, it could cause some panic on her part, so you may want to reassure her?

When I was at Uni, I spotted one of my Lecturers behaving nervously at the gay bar I was in (in my boy days). I freaked out and hid.

But then thought, I need to do the mature thing...

I casually approach him and said it was lovely to see him there and he has my assurance I will totally respect his discretion. I wished him a lovely evening and I'll now rejoin my friends.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
16 weeks ago

Chatham

If you respect her limits, as you say you do, leave her alone.

Her age limit is set for a reason.

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By *cott14Man
16 weeks ago

Essex & SW Exeter/Taunton

I think you’ve answered your own question my friend

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By *allySlinkyWoman
16 weeks ago

Leeds

As you have known her a number of years and always felt you have a connection, why have you not already "tested the water" about taking things a step further ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
16 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Block her so you don't have access to more of her than she has to you.

You're outside of her preferences, don't bother her 💜

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By *urbo TedMan
16 weeks ago

Stansted

Could it be that she too has searched locally and recognised you so has set her age limits to avoid you contacting her?

You say you value her friendship and have had a connection for years but nothing more has happened. Perhaps it's just meant to stay as it is and you both enjoy a good friendship.

Widen your search and leave her to it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
16 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Just don't contact her O.P.

It's quite stalkerish here sometimes, the way people get excited because they recognise someone using the site.

If her settings are set to reject someone with your attributes - stay rejected.

Do people get this excited if you see someone in Tesco ?

It speaks a lot about people needing and wanting privacy. Just honour it.

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By *enbobjimMan
16 weeks ago

Wallasey

Agree with everyone unfortunately I know you want to but it’s got tits and up written all over it. She’s probably seen that you have checked her out and if she hasn’t messaged you tells you all you need to know.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
16 weeks ago

Stoke

It's creepy, don't do it.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
16 weeks ago

Cambs

She's set her boundaries, please respect them if you are friends.

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By *vaRose43Woman
16 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Leave well alone.

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By *ambertMan
16 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Nope nope nope

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
16 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Step 1. Hit the block button.

Step 2. Enjoy all the other countless hotties on Fab.

Step 3. Moan when you have to put some hard work in.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
16 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Block and respect their right to some privacy. There are a million other people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

OP, you've had all the advice saying 'no', but we know what you're going to do. You're going to let the little brain take control and you're going to keep visiting her profile so she sees some one local is looking at her, and on other social media you're going to be more flirtatious.

What could possibly go wrong?

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By *olfandtazCouple
16 weeks ago

Bristol

Taz has been recognised a few times in public and approached. She finds in creepy.

Respect her boundaries on here,

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By *illy IdolMan
16 weeks ago

Midlands

Ignore she is on Fab. Is she interested in you away from Fab?

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By *itygamesMan
16 weeks ago

Don't invade her privacy / private life, you shouldn't even be asking the question.!!

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"Taz has been recognised a few times in public and approached. She finds in creepy.

Respect her boundaries on here, "

That is insanely creepy and a bit scary to be honest.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
16 weeks ago

Cheshire

Out of 100 people we surveyed. Our survey says.

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By * and R cple4Couple
16 weeks ago

swansea

I don't understand why people even need to ask..

We have recognised loads of people on here from good friends of my parents to old school friends of ours and it would never cross our minds to message them.

She has a age limit set for a reason and if the connection hasn't come to anything after all this time the odds are the connection could be one sided.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

Leave it be mate. Leave it where it is and do t say anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

Her fab life is pvt,should be respected as well as her age range..

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By *viatrixWoman
16 weeks ago

Redhill

Leave her alone.

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By *lakeyMan
16 weeks ago

Teesside

Lower your age

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By *hrista BellendWoman
16 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Is the thrill of her finding out you are on here, worth destroying the friendship...

I block them and and stay away from them on fab and our real life friendship continues as normal

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By *imply DeeWoman
16 weeks ago

Wherever

Don’t you think if she was interested in you sexually you would know by now? You have a “connection”, no?

Leave her alone, it’s creepy.

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By *oodmessMan
16 weeks ago

yumsville

It sounds like she's doing her thing OP. Just people doing their thing, finding their thing. As exciting as it might be thinking you've found something out, swinging is about discretion, we'd have our faces on public if not.

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By *ksailormanMan
16 weeks ago

portsmouth

Don’t do it, respect her right to privacy here (well you know what I mean).

If you have looked at her profile and fab’d some of her pictures (I would advice against that) then she will have seen that and if she’s interested she would check you out or contact you.

I walked passed someone I’ve been messaging on her in the street only last week and I recognised her she was with a friend and I just left her to it, no was was I going to speak to her in the street with her mates about that we chat on here.

Respect iand trust is a big thing and once it’s gone it’s gone.

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By *8on33Man
16 weeks ago

winfrith

"While checking out the local updates on here a few weeks ago I noticed a profile of a lovely young lady on here after looking at her public photos and reading her bio the penny suddenly drops it is someone I’ve known a number of years and always felt we had a connection and I’m thrilled she is on here. The downside is she has set her age preference a number of years lower than myself which prevents me from messaging or even winking her. I’m not expecting her to give me the green light for any sort of fun but it would be interesting where the knowledge we are both on here would take us. I’m in regular contact with her on social media but I don’t feel it would be appropriate to mention it in a dm on there. Has anyone got any suggestions how best approach her. I respect her limits on here and I don’t want to spoil our present friendship."
I'm with the ladies on this but although she'll know you're here does she know you are bi ?

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By *piritualBlackBWW1979Woman
16 weeks ago

Medway

If it helps, I had someone who I knew in real life, try and get my attention via the normal dating apps that I was on. I really didn't like it, especially as he was able to approach me in other ways. I didn't see him in that way either, nice person just not my type. Don't do it. Enjoy your friendship!

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By *olfandtazCouple
16 weeks ago

Bristol

"Taz has been recognised a few times in public and approached. She finds in creepy.

Respect her boundaries on here,

That is insanely creepy and a bit scary to be honest."

Yep, thankfully she's not been on her own when it's happened and it's always been in a public space

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By *issmorganWoman
16 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Leave her to it op, if you know her in real life it could all get very awkward for you.

Block her and move on.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
16 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

You have always felt you had a connection.

She may not of course.

As everyone has suggested. Leave her be on here. If you want to make any contact do it off site and don't mention Fab. At all. Ever.

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By *iberius61Man
16 weeks ago

Pontefract

Don't do it. If you're interested approach her through other channels...but if she's set age limits outside your range, I guess she's not interested. There's a lot of people I fancy who don't fancy me. Life is cruel, best to accept it.

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By *enk15Man
16 weeks ago

Evesham

Why do people say that they have respect for someone but also ask for advice on whether to take disrespectful behaviour?

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By *he normal one OP Man
16 weeks ago

Hereford

Thanks for the feedback everyone.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
16 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Don't.

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By *ilonStitchCouple
16 weeks ago

Staffs

Deffo answered you own question there buddy! Don't do it

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By *ex HolesMan
16 weeks ago

Up North

Sounds like she’s game. Make your move buddy

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By *ustaGuy91Man
16 weeks ago

Dublin

As most have already said probably be best to block her and leave her be, she may not want to be recognised on this site by someone she knows

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By *ustaGuy91Man
16 weeks ago

Dublin

I personally wouldn't want anyone I know to find me on here

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