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"I think it's pretty common for guys to not get much attention here tbh" ^ yes this. | |||
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"6 months on fab isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things and sometimes age can go against you Patience is key." I've seen younger guys than me on here with like 30 veris and they've only been on a year... Like what's the secret 😅 | |||
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"6 months on fab isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things and sometimes age can go against you Patience is key. I've seen younger guys than me on here with like 30 veris and they've only been on a year... Like what's the secret 😅" They’ve got a 9 inch tongue and can breathe through their ears 🤷♂️ | |||
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"6 months on fab isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things and sometimes age can go against you Patience is key. I've seen younger guys than me on here with like 30 veris and they've only been on a year... Like what's the secret 😅 They’ve got a 9 inch tongue and can breathe through their ears 🤷♂️" Must have haha. What's your suggestion for getting meets? | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM " Who said that ![]() | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? " Did someone say something? Thought i heard something but can't see anyone 🧐🤔 | |||
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"6 months on fab isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things and sometimes age can go against you Patience is key. I've seen younger guys than me on here with like 30 veris and they've only been on a year... Like what's the secret 😅" They've probably got themselves out there by attending organised socials or such like.....or they just have a better approach than you....who knows! | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM " I don’t get replies to DMs either. I have a fiancé I’ve been with for 10 years and a wonderful partner I literally LUCKED out into ending up with off the back of a forum thread. Don’t worry is what I’m tryna say. We’re all in the same boat. Keep posting. Find your tribe. | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Did someone say something? Thought i heard something but can't see anyone 🧐🤔" Great minds you just delivered it much better | |||
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"6 months on fab isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things and sometimes age can go against you Patience is key. I've seen younger guys than me on here with like 30 veris and they've only been on a year... Like what's the secret 😅 They've probably got themselves out there by attending organised socials or such like.....or they just have a better approach than you....who knows! " I've been to a social and have a couple of veris... So that a plus what couples ask for. I thought maybe colour but idk I'm at a loss at this point | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM Who said that ![]() That did make me laugh ![]() | |||
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"Stop overthinking it. It boils down to the brutal truth of numbers. Men are in the huge majority here and there’s a smorgasbord of choice to be had for those looking for guys. Whatever you think is the reason, the chances are you’re wrong. " Yeah I guess. I guess I'm just not hot enough then haha | |||
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"Stop overthinking it. It boils down to the brutal truth of numbers. Men are in the huge majority here and there’s a smorgasbord of choice to be had for those looking for guys. Whatever you think is the reason, the chances are you’re wrong. Yeah I guess. I guess I'm just not hot enough then haha " See now that’s a ridiculous statement. You have to embrace the knowledge that most women here won’t fancy you. That’s the same for every guy here. | |||
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"6 months on fab isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things and sometimes age can go against you Patience is key. I've seen younger guys than me on here with like 30 veris and they've only been on a year... Like what's the secret 😅 They’ve got a 9 inch tongue and can breathe through their ears 🤷♂️ Must have haha. What's your suggestion for getting meets? " Don’t rush about. Make friends. Chat shit on the forums. Make more friends. Get chatting. Go to socials. All the fun ones. Make friends. Don’t call them meets. Concentrate on being social. Making friends. Chat more shit. Enjoy yourself…. Do you get the kind of idea OP? Your profile is good. Just keep having fun 😘 | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Did someone say something? Thought i heard something but can't see anyone 🧐🤔" Thank god it’s not just me | |||
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"... I've been to a social and have a couple of veris... So that a plus what couples ask for. I thought maybe colour but idk I'm at a loss at this point " Are you feeling blue? ![]() | |||
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" Must have haha. What's your suggestion for getting meets? Don’t rush about. Make friends. Chat shit on the forums. Make more friends. Get chatting. Go to socials. All the fun ones. Make friends. Don’t call them meets. Concentrate on being social. Making friends. Chat more shit. Enjoy yourself…. Do you get the kind of idea OP? Your profile is good. Just keep having fun 😘" Yeah I get what you mean... It does make me wonder if guys are reaching out or people are reaching out to them though... Guess I've just got to figure out how this all works | |||
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" Must have haha. What's your suggestion for getting meets? Don’t rush about. Make friends. Chat shit on the forums. Make more friends. Get chatting. Go to socials. All the fun ones. Make friends. Don’t call them meets. Concentrate on being social. Making friends. Chat more shit. Enjoy yourself…. Do you get the kind of idea OP? Your profile is good. Just keep having fun 😘 Yeah I get what you mean... It does make me wonder if guys are reaching out or people are reaching out to them though... Guess I've just got to figure out how this all works " Keep on swimming. You’re doing good ♥️ | |||
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"... I've been to a social and have a couple of veris... So that a plus what couples ask for. I thought maybe colour but idk I'm at a loss at this point Are you feeling blue? ![]() I wouldn't say that. Just thinking that it's been a while and I've had no attention it's all. I figured all of you would have a better idea than me | |||
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" Must have haha. What's your suggestion for getting meets? Don’t rush about. Make friends. Chat shit on the forums. Make more friends. Get chatting. Go to socials. All the fun ones. Make friends. Don’t call them meets. Concentrate on being social. Making friends. Chat more shit. Enjoy yourself…. Do you get the kind of idea OP? Your profile is good. Just keep having fun 😘 Yeah I get what you mean... It does make me wonder if guys are reaching out or people are reaching out to them though... Guess I've just got to figure out how this all works Keep on swimming. You’re doing good ♥️" You think I'm doing good? | |||
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" Must have haha. What's your suggestion for getting meets? Don’t rush about. Make friends. Chat shit on the forums. Make more friends. Get chatting. Go to socials. All the fun ones. Make friends. Don’t call them meets. Concentrate on being social. Making friends. Chat more shit. Enjoy yourself…. Do you get the kind of idea OP? Your profile is good. Just keep having fun 😘 Yeah I get what you mean... It does make me wonder if guys are reaching out or people are reaching out to them though... Guess I've just got to figure out how this all works Keep on swimming. You’re doing good ♥️ You think I'm doing good?" Yeah of course. You’re chatting on the forums. You’ve been to a social. You’re starting to get to know people. What’s not to like? Sex isn’t everything | |||
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" You think I'm doing good? Yeah of course. You’re chatting on the forums. You’ve been to a social. You’re starting to get to know people. What’s not to like? Sex isn’t everything " Yeah I know it's not all about sex. Would be nice to have it though haha. End of the day it's a swingers site not Facebook haha I know swinging has it's social aspects which I do enjoy and I will for sure be visiting clubs and another social | |||
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"There's many things that can help single guys. Clubs, socials, networking via both of those always helps, being active on the forums, being able to accommodate, posting interesting photos and having a good bio.....just a few things that spring to mind. And it's never worth comparing yourselves to others as you're looking for people to be interested in you, not them. Nothing they do or say will affect your life on here. " I have been to a social and unfortunately I cannot accommodate due to living circumstances. I do see that a lot of people can't accommodate though | |||
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" You think I'm doing good? Yeah of course. You’re chatting on the forums. You’ve been to a social. You’re starting to get to know people. What’s not to like? Sex isn’t everything Yeah I know it's not all about sex. Would be nice to have it though haha. End of the day it's a swingers site not Facebook haha I know swinging has it's social aspects which I do enjoy and I will for sure be visiting clubs and another social " It isn’t FB no. Its Fab. And swinging is a social thing for many. Some it’s not. Find your little place in it and enjoy every minute | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible?" Who said that ??? I digress,but yes i do,im sure there's plenty that massage how wonderful their Fab existance is ![]() | |||
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"There's many things that can help single guys. Clubs, socials, networking via both of those always helps, being active on the forums, being able to accommodate, posting interesting photos and having a good bio.....just a few things that spring to mind. And it's never worth comparing yourselves to others as you're looking for people to be interested in you, not them. Nothing they do or say will affect your life on here. I have been to a social and unfortunately I cannot accommodate due to living circumstances. I do see that a lot of people can't accommodate though " Stop comparing what you do or don’t, to what others do or don’t. That won’t have an effect on how ‘successful’ a time you have here. | |||
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"There's many things that can help single guys. Clubs, socials, networking via both of those always helps, being active on the forums, being able to accommodate, posting interesting photos and having a good bio.....just a few things that spring to mind. And it's never worth comparing yourselves to others as you're looking for people to be interested in you, not them. Nothing they do or say will affect your life on here. I have been to a social and unfortunately I cannot accommodate due to living circumstances. I do see that a lot of people can't accommodate though Stop comparing what you do or don’t, to what others do or don’t. That won’t have an effect on how ‘successful’ a time you have here. " Will it not? Surely being able to accommodate and having certain advantages would greatly improve your chances on here.... | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM " Yeah I do. I do have the privilege that I get messages but they’re messages sent to every woman, not in response to me. I don’t seem to navigate forum politics well (or maybe I do but I’m just not hot enough). I can feel quite isolated and tend to stay pretty quiet tbh | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM Yeah I do. I do have the privilege that I get messages but they’re messages sent to every woman, not in response to me. I don’t seem to navigate forum politics well (or maybe I do but I’m just not hot enough). I can feel quite isolated and tend to stay pretty quiet tbh" I see you 😘 | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM Yeah I do. I do have the privilege that I get messages but they’re messages sent to every woman, not in response to me. I don’t seem to navigate forum politics well (or maybe I do but I’m just not hot enough). I can feel quite isolated and tend to stay pretty quiet tbh I see you 😘" Thank you xxx | |||
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"There's many things that can help single guys. Clubs, socials, networking via both of those always helps, being active on the forums, being able to accommodate, posting interesting photos and having a good bio.....just a few things that spring to mind. And it's never worth comparing yourselves to others as you're looking for people to be interested in you, not them. Nothing they do or say will affect your life on here. I have been to a social and unfortunately I cannot accommodate due to living circumstances. I do see that a lot of people can't accommodate though Stop comparing what you do or don’t, to what others do or don’t. That won’t have an effect on how ‘successful’ a time you have here. Will it not? Surely being able to accommodate and having certain advantages would greatly improve your chances on here.... " Not necessarily. I don’t accommodate, but have made many friends over the years I’ve been in and off here. It won’t ’improve’ your chances. What it may do, is increase the pool of people who you may match with. You still have to attract that person enough to want to meet you. | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM Yeah I do. I do have the privilege that I get messages but they’re messages sent to every woman, not in response to me. I don’t seem to navigate forum politics well (or maybe I do but I’m just not hot enough). I can feel quite isolated and tend to stay pretty quiet tbh" Just so everyone knows- this is a fucking amazing person ^ | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM Yeah I do. I do have the privilege that I get messages but they’re messages sent to every woman, not in response to me. I don’t seem to navigate forum politics well (or maybe I do but I’m just not hot enough). I can feel quite isolated and tend to stay pretty quiet tbh Just so everyone knows- this is a fucking amazing person ^" Wholeheartedly seconded. | |||
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"There's many things that can help single guys. Clubs, socials, networking via both of those always helps, being active on the forums, being able to accommodate, posting interesting photos and having a good bio.....just a few things that spring to mind. And it's never worth comparing yourselves to others as you're looking for people to be interested in you, not them. Nothing they do or say will affect your life on here. I have been to a social and unfortunately I cannot accommodate due to living circumstances. I do see that a lot of people can't accommodate though Stop comparing what you do or don’t, to what others do or don’t. That won’t have an effect on how ‘successful’ a time you have here. Will it not? Surely being able to accommodate and having certain advantages would greatly improve your chances on here.... Not necessarily. I don’t accommodate, but have made many friends over the years I’ve been in and off here. It won’t ’improve’ your chances. What it may do, is increase the pool of people who you may match with. You still have to attract that person enough to want to meet you. " Yeah I get you... Just makes me wonder what makes some guys so special on here that they're getting with tonnes of people is all | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM Yeah I do. I do have the privilege that I get messages but they’re messages sent to every woman, not in response to me. I don’t seem to navigate forum politics well (or maybe I do but I’m just not hot enough). I can feel quite isolated and tend to stay pretty quiet tbh Just so everyone knows- this is a fucking amazing person ^" Thank you, that’s a lovely thing to say | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM Yeah I do. I do have the privilege that I get messages but they’re messages sent to every woman, not in response to me. I don’t seem to navigate forum politics well (or maybe I do but I’m just not hot enough). I can feel quite isolated and tend to stay pretty quiet tbh Just so everyone knows- this is a fucking amazing person ^ Wholeheartedly seconded." Thank you, very much appreciated! | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM " don't worry us women get it too ,well us that don't have our whole dinner out that is | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM Yeah I do. I do have the privilege that I get messages but they’re messages sent to every woman, not in response to me. I don’t seem to navigate forum politics well (or maybe I do but I’m just not hot enough). I can feel quite isolated and tend to stay pretty quiet tbh" Goodness me, I most definitely see you and appreciate your words. You have value, worth and meaning to me. | |||
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"6 months on fab isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things and sometimes age can go against you Patience is key. I've seen younger guys than me on here with like 30 veris and they've only been on a year... Like what's the secret 😅" It's not a competition | |||
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"My advice ? It's like this. There are 10 trains with 20 carriages each, full of men pulling in to St. Pancras. There is 1 train with a few carriages of women perhaps, pulling out of St Pancras. Everyone has their windows open. (old style BR Trains) ![]() Great analogy | |||
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"6 months on fab isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things and sometimes age can go against you Patience is key. I've seen younger guys than me on here with like 30 veris and they've only been on a year... Like what's the secret 😅 It's not a competition " For the amount of guys on here I'm sure it is a bit. Like I'm sure the top 20% of guys are regularly getting attention and meeting regularly too. | |||
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"There's many things that can help single guys. Clubs, socials, networking via both of those always helps, being active on the forums, being able to accommodate, posting interesting photos and having a good bio.....just a few things that spring to mind. And it's never worth comparing yourselves to others as you're looking for people to be interested in you, not them. Nothing they do or say will affect your life on here. I have been to a social and unfortunately I cannot accommodate due to living circumstances. I do see that a lot of people can't accommodate though Stop comparing what you do or don’t, to what others do or don’t. That won’t have an effect on how ‘successful’ a time you have here. Will it not? Surely being able to accommodate and having certain advantages would greatly improve your chances on here.... Not necessarily. I don’t accommodate, but have made many friends over the years I’ve been in and off here. It won’t ’improve’ your chances. What it may do, is increase the pool of people who you may match with. You still have to attract that person enough to want to meet you. Yeah I get you... Just makes me wonder what makes some guys so special on here that they're getting with tonnes of people is all " Conventionally handsome, with great personalities, with the added bonus of superb sexual skills, many of those guys are frequently at clubs, playing with lots of ladies, and word gets around and the ladies want to meet them. | |||
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"There's many things that can help single guys. Clubs, socials, networking via both of those always helps, being active on the forums, being able to accommodate, posting interesting photos and having a good bio.....just a few things that spring to mind. And it's never worth comparing yourselves to others as you're looking for people to be interested in you, not them. Nothing they do or say will affect your life on here. I have been to a social and unfortunately I cannot accommodate due to living circumstances. I do see that a lot of people can't accommodate though Stop comparing what you do or don’t, to what others do or don’t. That won’t have an effect on how ‘successful’ a time you have here. Will it not? Surely being able to accommodate and having certain advantages would greatly improve your chances on here.... Not necessarily. I don’t accommodate, but have made many friends over the years I’ve been in and off here. It won’t ’improve’ your chances. What it may do, is increase the pool of people who you may match with. You still have to attract that person enough to want to meet you. Yeah I get you... Just makes me wonder what makes some guys so special on here that they're getting with tonnes of people is all Conventionally handsome, with great personalities, with the added bonus of superb sexual skills, many of those guys are frequently at clubs, playing with lots of ladies, and word gets around and the ladies want to meet them." I appreciate the honesty. I'm sure 6ft plus with over 8 inches comes in handy too haha. So all these guys are going to clubs? All of them? | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM " I'm surprised OP. You have some nice photos. Just keep plugging away.... | |||
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"My advice ? It's like this. There are 10 trains with 20 carriages each, full of men pulling in to St. Pancras. There is 1 train with a few carriages of women perhaps, pulling out of St Pancras. Everyone has their windows open. (old style BR Trains) ![]() I think that I will just ride my bicycle ![]() | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM I'm surprised OP. You have some nice photos. Just keep plugging away...." Thank you. But yeah. I don't get any attention from women and couples | |||
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"Patience and polite conversation. Don't change and you'll click with someone at some point. " This is good advice x | |||
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"6 months on fab isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things and sometimes age can go against you Patience is key. I've seen younger guys than me on here with like 30 veris and they've only been on a year... Like what's the secret 😅 They’ve got a 9 inch tongue and can breathe through their ears 🤷♂️" Is that a quote from the Kevin Bloody Wilson song? | |||
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"Does anyone else on here just feel invisible? Like everyone is getting attention but you? I see single guys posting new pics with women and I'm like... I don't even get a rely or DM Yeah I do. I do have the privilege that I get messages but they’re messages sent to every woman, not in response to me. I don’t seem to navigate forum politics well (or maybe I do but I’m just not hot enough). I can feel quite isolated and tend to stay pretty quiet tbh Goodness me, I most definitely see you and appreciate your words. You have value, worth and meaning to me." You’re very kind, thank you ![]() | |||
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"It's very easy to feel invisible on here, especially when you see the same names popping up in the forum and chatting with each other. It takes a lot of work to get to that level of forum interaction, so don't feel bad if you're not there. I'm certainly not, but happy with just popping in to make a CLASSIC comment every now and then, and sometimes it leads to a message or 2, most of the time not. You get out what you put in is what I'm trying to say." My mileage appears to have varied, but I just kinda...joined the forums and started interacting with people, and never really felt that there was pushback on that or that I was having to do hard work to be accepted. Unless of course I actually haven't been and everyone's just pretending. | |||
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