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By *ake_or_death OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Manchester

How would you describe how it feels to lust after someone, and to be lusted after (by someone you want to be)? Is it different to just fancying someone?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
16 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I'd drop my Maccy D Triple Cheeseburger if she messaged for a booty call.

*I'd take one bite though.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

My opinion (not that it’s worth much!) is that lust is quite superficial… you may lust after someone because of their physical appearance whereas when you fancy someone, it’s deeper? You may know the person more and be attracted to their personality as well as what they look like.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
16 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

Also agree that lust is purely physical whereas fancying someone is physical plus potentially something more

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By *eliWoman
16 weeks ago

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I think of fancying of being more... having a crush on someone. Harmless, silly. Not too deep.

Lusting after another is very much a primal thing. Finding the other person attractive on a purely physical level, sexual thoughts, all of that.

My favourite? Desiring another, being desired. I think of it as being deeper, more wanting all of another. Being desired is intoxicating when it's reciprocated. I love the excitement of hearing from them, plans, that giddy feeling when thinking about them.

Desire is the one I'm most cautious with, likely to rein in if I think the other doesn't feel the same way.

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By *ake_or_death OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Manchester


"I think of fancying of being more... having a crush on someone. Harmless, silly. Not too deep.

Lusting after another is very much a primal thing. Finding the other person attractive on a purely physical level, sexual thoughts, all of that.

My favourite? Desiring another, being desired. I think of it as being deeper, more wanting all of another. Being desired is intoxicating when it's reciprocated. I love the excitement of hearing from them, plans, that giddy feeling when thinking about them.

Desire is the one I'm most cautious with, likely to rein in if I think the other doesn't feel the same way."

So Desire and Lust are two separate things on the Meli Scale - Lust being almost purely physical while Desire is a more all-encompassing want of the entirety of the other person?

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By *eliWoman
16 weeks ago

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"I think of fancying of being more... having a crush on someone. Harmless, silly. Not too deep.

Lusting after another is very much a primal thing. Finding the other person attractive on a purely physical level, sexual thoughts, all of that.

My favourite? Desiring another, being desired. I think of it as being deeper, more wanting all of another. Being desired is intoxicating when it's reciprocated. I love the excitement of hearing from them, plans, that giddy feeling when thinking about them.

Desire is the one I'm most cautious with, likely to rein in if I think the other doesn't feel the same way.

So Desire and Lust are two separate things on the Meli Scale - Lust being almost purely physical while Desire is a more all-encompassing want of the entirety of the other person?"

They're not quite separate for me. It's not such a binary thing. I can want to fuck and make love with the same person.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
16 weeks ago

Ends

I dunno if I’m even right here but lusting after someone is just a crazy, almost primal need for that person sexually. And to be lusted after by someone you want is to feel so unbelievably attractive that you know they can’t help but have you. It’s a great feeling when someone wants you so much.

If I fancy them it’s not that deep. It’s just like, yeah I would. I think they’re hot. I kinda like them. But it’s more surface level attraction. Not as … you know? IYKYK

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
16 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

My lust is very much Meli's desire.

When I lust for someone, I want all of them.

I certainly appreciate a pretty thing, and on hedonism nights sometimes all I want is a pretty face and I'm set, but that's just a surface level fun thing, I won't remember them or anything about them afterwards or want them the way I want the people I lust after.

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By *eliWoman
16 weeks ago

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"My lust is very much Meli's desire.

When I lust for someone, I want all of them.

I certainly appreciate a pretty thing, and on hedonism nights sometimes all I want is a pretty face and I'm set, but that's just a surface level fun thing, I won't remember them or anything about them afterwards or want them the way I want the people I lust after."

I suppose for me because I can't lust after someone without that certain level of friendship... it makes it less binary. I don't feel sexual attraction without it, can't do clubs, hedonistic random nights, one night stands etc.

Lust is very much sexually based though for me. Desire is more all encompassing.

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By *iker JackMan
16 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I find lusting after someone, for me, is dangerous.

It means that I may not be thinking with a clear mind or head but with other parts of my body potentially

It also means that I will most probably make compromises of what is my normal of how that other person may treat me

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

Lust, purely based on sexual attraction and can be sated by fulfilling the urge. Desire can be to want something that is out of reach, though if you do obtain the object of your desire you may want more with serious consequences/feelings (biblical example would be David and Uriah the Hittite's wife Bathsheba)

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
16 weeks ago

North West

This is a thing I've been mulling on in recent days. The thoughts are still tenuous, fleeting and evolving so I'm not ready to commit them into writing yet. I will instead read everyone else's thoughts with interest and maybe post again later.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
16 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"My lust is very much Meli's desire.

When I lust for someone, I want all of them.

I certainly appreciate a pretty thing, and on hedonism nights sometimes all I want is a pretty face and I'm set, but that's just a surface level fun thing, I won't remember them or anything about them afterwards or want them the way I want the people I lust after.

I suppose for me because I can't lust after someone without that certain level of friendship... it makes it less binary. I don't feel sexual attraction without it, can't do clubs, hedonistic random nights, one night stands etc.

Lust is very much sexually based though for me. Desire is more all encompassing. "

Sometimes I just like to be a simple creature and fuck something pretty. But that's not lust to me, just fun with something pretty.

Lust is a whole meal. Hedonism is just a mini bag of Tangfastics. Sweet and fun, but not actual sustenance.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago


"How would you describe how it feels to lust after someone, and to be lusted after (by someone you want to be)? Is it different to just fancying someone? "

Yes, it’s different. It’s when I’ve flicked them several ways already in my mind when I look at them. Is when I can imagine ripping their cloths off bending them over and taking them where they stand, it’s when I can’t get them off my mind when I think of something sexual and it’s them that pop in there immediately.

Fancying someone is when I just know they are pretty.

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By *eliWoman
16 weeks ago

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"My lust is very much Meli's desire.

When I lust for someone, I want all of them.

I certainly appreciate a pretty thing, and on hedonism nights sometimes all I want is a pretty face and I'm set, but that's just a surface level fun thing, I won't remember them or anything about them afterwards or want them the way I want the people I lust after.

I suppose for me because I can't lust after someone without that certain level of friendship... it makes it less binary. I don't feel sexual attraction without it, can't do clubs, hedonistic random nights, one night stands etc.

Lust is very much sexually based though for me. Desire is more all encompassing.

Sometimes I just like to be a simple creature and fuck something pretty. But that's not lust to me, just fun with something pretty.

Lust is a whole meal. Hedonism is just a mini bag of Tangfastics. Sweet and fun, but not actual sustenance."

There's not a set definition is there? It's a clear example of how subjective and nuanced language can be.

I like threads like these where I can learn how others view things - I can't just fuck something pretty, I'm possibly odd with how sexual attraction works for me but it's enjoyable to read others views. Their experiences.

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By *ake_or_death OP   Man
16 weeks ago

Manchester

I think the distinctions that have come out of this have been really interesting.

What I'd probably say is that fancying someone is a way of seeing someone that involves physical and mental attraction and can be a strong force (I.e. you can miss someone you fancy if they are not around), it isn't inherently sexual.

Whereas lust is a state I get into when I really *want* someone I fancy. When I'm not just thinking about enjoying their company, but I want them carnally - I want to touch them, smell them, taste them. Lust can happen with people I don't know very well but most of the time it is partly based on some form of relationship created between me and that person as I think I need a level of trust and comfort to be truly lustful. This can also be remote - I can lust after someone via sexting with people I have developed some kind of relationship with.

I hadn't thought about a difference between desire and lust before Meli raised it. To me, I think desire is the midpoint between fancying and lusting perhaps - there are lots of things I desire, but they don't dominate my thinking the way that lust can.

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By *ilthycouple24Couple
16 weeks ago

Glasgow

I dno I consider lust as powerfully as love as aren't more kids born out of lust than geninue love

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