FabSwingers.com forum: Single man struggling to get meets.

By *r Voyuer OP Man
16 weeks ago

Northampton

Hi all. It seems to be really hard to get any meets as a single man. I try my best when messaging to be polite and not come over as too pushy or desperate etc, lol but I just seem to get turned down, ignored or deleted and blocked. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Tia. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

Not another one.........

You had two meets in May!

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
16 weeks ago

Ends

I find the biggest obstacle to me getting meets is women finding me attractive

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By *r Voyuer OP Man
16 weeks ago

Northampton

I know, how greedy am I, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"I know, how greedy am I, lol. "

Then why post looking for a sympathy fuck?

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By *r Voyuer OP Man
16 weeks ago

Northampton

Perhaps thats it, I'm a ugly git, lol.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
16 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

2 veris in 4 months doesn't seem too bad considering hoe long it takes many men to get even one.

My question is always what do you think you're doing right OP?

Keeping in mind how many messages women receive every day, and most women are not even looking to meet every day, what in your profile or messages do you think makes you a more appealing prospect than the rest of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"Perhaps thats it, I'm a ugly git, lol. "

Who cannot accommodate?

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By *r Voyuer OP Man
16 weeks ago

Northampton

Lol, ok.

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By *r Voyuer OP Man
16 weeks ago

Northampton

I assumed 2 in 4 months was poor but perhaps I'm doing ok then. Yeh I imagine women and couples get hundreds of messages don't they, didn't really think about that. X

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"I assumed 2 in 4 months was poor but perhaps I'm doing ok then. Yeh I imagine women and couples get hundreds of messages don't they, didn't really think about that. X"

Can I ask why you cannot accommodate?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
16 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

If I was actively meeting, I wouldn't engage with your profile. Your one photo is a rucked up top and a chin, and your bio is generic. Its not uncommon for men to join this site thinking there would be loads of offers of sex. Read some profiles and get some ideas for photos

You must be engaging well with people once you get a reply, as you have had two meets. Jazz up your profile and you might get more people engaging

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By *r Voyuer OP Man
16 weeks ago

Northampton

Appreciate that advice, thank you. X

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By *offiaCoolWoman
16 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

"Appreciate that advice, thank you. X"

Use 'reply and quote' so people know who you are responding to

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By *outhern77Man
16 weeks ago

Quinton

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By *avidbanksMan
16 weeks ago

leeds

Best place in clubs get your face seen

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
16 weeks ago

little house on the praire

You've been on 4 months and had 2 meets. What was you expecting?

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By *umagain58Man
16 weeks ago

London

Keep on working on this and you never know. It took me ages with some but got there. Good luck

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By *oom_88Man
16 weeks ago

Grays

Truth is this, youll get alot of offers if youre gay/bi as personally I tend to get alot of them despite im straight and not interested in men.

Women on the other hand have tons of messages, no matter how pretty or not pretty they are as theres clearly many more men than women in this app. Hell I constantly see womens status such as "im bulk deleting my emails as ive got too many!"

Changing the way of your pics or profile wont really matter much as long as you have a clear image of your face.

No matter what you do to your profile if youre unnatractive they most likely wont meet you, if you are attractive only increases your chances by a little bit as theres plenty of attractive men that will be already sending them plenty of messages, its more about luck in my opinion

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By *lexnMan
16 weeks ago

Bolton

Clubs are a good way to meet people, but it’s not enough to be present, you have to make the effort, go say hi, chat about anything really, at the end of the day you don’t have to have the same non sexual interests, as long as you are not that creep in the corner you’ll be fine.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
16 weeks ago

Central

How many women do you message in a month? What percentage of women do you think it's realistic to expect would find you attractive? And of those who may, would you assume will have complementary interests and preferences?

If they do match, they would need to find you preferable and more attractive than any of the other thousands of men here. Do you have realistic or unrealistic expectations?

People only have your profile and message, to compete with the others here.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

It's because you've listed poo and pain as a no.

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By *ornucopiaMan
16 weeks ago

Bexley

Don't wear crocs. There is almost universal hatred of them on here.

I have recently realised that is where I am going wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"It's because you've listed poo and pain as a no."

Either that or it's because he's listed no solo males. I feel that he has cut himself off from nearly 90% of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"Hi all. It seems to be really hard to get any meets as a single man. …. Xx"

That’s your perception.

I see lots & and lots of single guys getting to meet people and I’ve been lucky too.

Just be yourself and like in every part of life you will find your people who don’t mind talking to you.

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
16 weeks ago

somewhere

Trust me when I say this, 2 meets in 4 months is good, if you joined here expecting clunge every day then it won't happen but whatever you are doing as a new single bloke on here is obviously working, I don't really know what to suggest other than maybe have a face and body transplant of Ryan Reynolds and then you might get inundated with the fannae left right and centre (I mean you may look like him already, I don't know).

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By *onguesandpunsMan
16 weeks ago

East Midlands

A friend of mine recently created a profile on here and within hours she'd had over 200 messages from single men. Imagine getting over 200 emails per day at work! You'd never be able to respond. So the fact that you've had 2 meets recently is a positive.

Unlike wider society, men are very much at the bottom of the 'food chain' in the fab world, but if you continue to be polite and keep your profile fresh and interesting, that's the best way forward imo.

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By *ornucopiaMan
16 weeks ago

Bexley

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By *ornucopiaMan
16 weeks ago

Bexley

Spell checking one's user name can often help with other people's perceptions about one!

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"Trust me when I say this, 2 meets in 4 months is good, if you joined here expecting clunge every day then it won't happen but whatever you are doing as a new single bloke on here is obviously working, I don't really know what to suggest other than maybe have a face and body transplant of Ryan Reynolds and then you might get inundated with the fannae left right and centre (I mean you may look like him already, I don't know)."

“Clunge”….an inbetweeners fan right there!!

To add my 2p worth in for what it’s worth I think 2 meets in the time you’ve been here is decent work. Definitely need to keep the profile fresh and updated with some up to date pictures as the women you seek will want to know who they are talking to. I agree with previous posts too about clubs. I took the plunge as a single guy and it was the key to unlocking the door

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
16 weeks ago

Leeds

When I get a message on here or my singles profile I look at the profile, if I like what I see I'll reply and If not I won't.

In regards to yourself OP there's 1 photo of a t-shirt so I can't guage any attraction therefore I wouldn't respond.

Your profile is your shop window make it stand out.

Have a look at some other guys profile and see what they do to attract meets.

Mrs

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By *aTina HeadTurnerWoman
16 weeks ago

Travelling

Your messages must be really good then if you’ve managed to get two meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

You’ve done even better managing to meet two couples too so I really do think you’re making something out of nothing. Just update your profile with some new content. ALOT of men would be envious of you right now

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
16 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"You’ve done even better managing to meet two couples too so I really do think you’re making something out of nothing. Just update your profile with some new content. ALOT of men would be envious of you right now "

Not through bio and pic I hope, otherwise we are all doomed.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

Here we go again. But like others have pointed out, you've been verified a couple of times. That's a high success rate on here for a single bloke. You're obviously doing something right. You don't need advice from the forums. A new thread like this gets posted on the forums on a weekly basis. It's not a one size fits all approach when trying to meet or chat to people from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"Spell checking one's user name can often help with other people's perceptions about one!"

Lol.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
16 weeks ago

Leeds

Personally I wouldn't reply to your message because I can see nothing of you in your one photo. Also your name puts me off as I imagine all you want to do is watch a couple and not play.

I also get turned off when I see poo mentioned.

However it's great you have two verifications so you must be doing something right. Happy Fabbing.

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By *ockdownlickdownMan
16 weeks ago

Crewe

OP it's just supply and demand. Womeñ here have got no chance of seeing through our discrete profiles and none are prepared to put in even the slightest bit of work to see how charming, funny and entertaining we men are. There's no "getting to know you phase", you have to be Oscar Wilde, Sean Lock, Ryans Gosling and Reynolds all rolled up into a composite profile to even get a perfunctory "what?" In return.

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By *ockdownlickdownMan
16 weeks ago

Crewe

For context I have contacted every woman within 20 miles who hasnt set filters, one replied and it went nowhere, and im me.... What chance have you got? 😆

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
16 weeks ago

southampton

Not the golden ticket but just stick with it, over a few years I,ve had a handful of meets & on two occasions was approached first.

It's never going to be prolific even if you get lucky, fish in the sea etc with men on here.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
16 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"OP it's just supply and demand. Womeñ here have got no chance of seeing through our discrete profiles and none are prepared to put in even the slightest bit of work to see how charming, funny and entertaining we men are. There's no "getting to know you phase", you have to be Oscar Wilde, Sean Lock, Ryans Gosling and Reynolds all rolled up into a composite profile to even get a perfunctory "what?" In return.

It is supply and demand. Supply them with a decent bio and pics and demand a bigger inbox allocation from Fab.

Both you and the OP are hardly pushing the boat out with bios and pictures to be honest. It's competitive and if you're struggling to compete, look inwardly and adapt. But what do I know?

*Reaches for anti-fanny spray.

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By *issmorganWoman
16 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op, you've only got one pic, so maybe add some more to give an idea of you

Also if you don't want to hear from men, cut out that line about no solo men and use your filters to block them.

You don't need to say your age or location as it's already on your profile..

You've stated a couple of likes, but what are you offering meets and why should they choose you.

It's hard when you just rely on fab for meets, so organised socials are a great way to meet others.

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By *essTTWoman
16 weeks ago

Birmingham

"For context I have contacted every woman within 20 miles who hasnt set filters, one replied and it went nowhere, and im me.... What chance have you got? 😆"

Every woman? Even through one's you didn't find attractive?

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By *parkle1974Woman
16 weeks ago

Leeds

"For context I have contacted every woman within 20 miles who hasnt set filters, one replied and it went nowhere, and im me.... What chance have you got? 😆"

Every woman

That comes across as desperation which is not an attractive quality.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

I’ve been on here a little while now with no meets just chats.

Turned down a couple profiles as they were not what I’m looking for and won’t drop my playing rules for a notch in the bed post.

I still have my right hand which serves me well along with pornhub

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