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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP   Man
29 weeks ago

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Do you find it hard to distance yourself from people? To avoid getting hurt? Or because it’s for the best?

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
29 weeks ago

Wolvo

To start with yes but eventually i get my head around it and either create healthy boundaries or shut them out completely.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
29 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"To start with yes but eventually i get my head around it and either create healthy boundaries or shut them out completely. "

Same. Sometimes cutting them off completely is the easiest option.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
29 weeks ago

Tamworth

No, very easy.

It’s something I’ve always been able to do if I want, with no problems. I’m not sure if that’s a good thing 😬

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

It depends on who it is. If it's an established relationship then I find it more difficult as I don't want there to be regrets down the line so I probably try to maintain as much of our existing relationship as much as I can, even if it's probably gone past the point of repair and I'll be honest, it can be exhausting

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Best heal yourself of past trauma then you may have the tools to cope better.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
29 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

No, it’s one of the benefits of being selfish, it’s easy to look after no.1

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By *a LunaWoman
29 weeks ago

South Wales

Not really. My issue is letting people in.

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By *eliWoman
29 weeks ago

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No. It's incredibly easy for me to distance myself. I'm quite warm and friendly to everyone but it's rare it goes deeper than that.

When it does? It takes time. I can also quickly distance myself if something doesn't feel right (and I'm not stuck in their dicksand).

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By *icecouple561Couple
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29 weeks ago

East Sussex

No. It takes an awful lot for me to distance myself but when I've made the decision I just do it. Usually there's no going back either

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
29 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Um.

I don't think so.

I'm quite a pragmatic person. If I believe that the closeness that is developing is the wrong choice for me, I will step away.

Oftentimes I'm pretty open to seeing just what's there. I'm sometimes a little uncomfortable with how deep I'm getting with someone when it's more than I expected, because I know how much I value my independence and freedom, and when I feel that's potentially at risk I can get itchy feet. But I usually try to keep myself open to it unless something happens that means that connection has to be severed.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
29 weeks ago

Leeds

Fucking people off, standard procedure, don’t know if you know this, but have you met people, they’re idiots, but there is a few select specimens who are idiots in a good way.

The mr

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP   Man
29 weeks ago

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"Fucking people off, standard procedure, don’t know if you know this, but have you met people, they’re idiots, but there is a few select specimens who are idiots in a good way.

The mr "

Huge idiots

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
29 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Depends on the relationship. If it’s someone I see a lot it’s harder.

Mrs TMN x

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By *cedGemWoman
29 weeks ago

your dreams


"To start with yes but eventually i get my head around it and either create healthy boundaries or shut them out completely.

Same. Sometimes cutting them off completely is the easiest option."

Definitely 100%

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By *eordieJeansCouple
29 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I can do it. It’s hard at first and social media has made it a lot harder if you have mutual friends but after a few weeks I can almost forget about them.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP   Man
29 weeks ago

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"Depends on the relationship. If it’s someone I see a lot it’s harder.

Mrs TMN x"

Real

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
29 weeks ago

Reading

No it comes pretty naturally to me.

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By *ad NannaWoman
29 weeks ago

East London

No, but it's rather difficult for me to feel hurt by people, as I'm not easily offended or upset by peoples' behaviour.

I can easily shrug things off and think positively.

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By *ad NannaWoman
29 weeks ago

East London

My long term partner's behaviour towards me at times is terrible, but it doesn't hurt me.

People have off days.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP   Man
29 weeks ago

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"My long term partner's behaviour towards me at times is terrible, but it doesn't hurt me.

People have off days."

The thought of anyone treating you badly makes me sad

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