FabSwingers.com forum: So, MAGGIE is dead.

By *bfoxxx OP Man
over a year ago

Crete or LANCASTER

Good.

I won't mourn or miss her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you??

Unless you knew her personally???

Joyous because someone died says more about you than the person your NOT mourning !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone getting on the hate train is boring now...

How long will this laaaaaaaaaaast?!

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By *limBobStretchedPantsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think whatever your political _iews are we have lost an amazing women. She may have screwed over a few people but show me a politician who hasn't. Maggie was a remarkable woman and she represented a stronger more united Britain in my opinion. We could do with a few more stronger willed people at the top.

Again this is just my opinion. And I think it should be more RIP Baroness Thatcher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now if it was Maggie Q ,then I'd be upset lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I for one thought she was brilliant.

How about showing a little respect for the loss of another human being life. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want people talking about one of your loved ones like this after they're gone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying you wont miss her is one thing but to say that its 'good' that she's dead is disgusting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm ... death is not something to be rejoicing in no matter what your political _iews are

I have found the people who are saying this most .. mostly on FB I add are too young to even know what she stood for or what she actually did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good.

I won't mourn or miss her.

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not saying any more about her there is plenty of other threads about her

why start another 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boring now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I for one thought she was brilliant.

How about showing a little respect for the loss of another human being life. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want people talking about one of your loved ones like this after they're gone..."

Would you also show respect for saddam hussain etc what you need to realise is maggie was despised by millions for various matters which will never be forgiven. Yes sad for her family but i got rid of my rose tinted glasses in 1979.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have found the people who are saying this most .. mostly on FB I add are too young to even know what she stood for or what she actually did"

Which is how hatred continues generation after generation.

I think these threads about Mrs T have shown clearly that there are people on here who are not as tolerant & friendly as they claim to be and I am glad they have shown their true colours these past two days as we wouldn't want to meet (and maybe have sex with) someone who is that unhinged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I for one thought she was brilliant.

How about showing a little respect for the loss of another human being life. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want people talking about one of your loved ones like this after they're gone...

maggie was not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saying you wont miss her is one thing but to say that its 'good' that she's dead is disgusting. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had great respect and admiration for Margaret Thatcher. She fought the Unions and won. Who among us remembers Arthur Scargill? She introduced the Poll Tax which I consider to be the fairest form of local taxation. I fail to understand how a family with 4 or 5 or even people living in the house pay the same Council Tax as a married couple. Surely they should pay more because they put a greater strain on our services. That's why the Community Tax was so fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I for one thought she was brilliant.

How about showing a little respect for the loss of another human being life. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want people talking about one of your loved ones like this after they're gone...

She was loved by millions too, hence why she was voted in to power three times.

Saddam wasn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have found the people who are saying this most .. mostly on FB I add are too young to even know what she stood for or what she actually did

Which is how hatred continues generation after generation.

I was very young when she was PM but unlike others I know about her policies and what she did for the country.

I would love one of the haters to try and run the country successfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maggie had more balls than the shower who have been in office since she left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good.

I won't mourn or miss her.

Btw OP I am sure she would not be bothered after all she doesn't need your vote now, nor are you a family member who have every right to mourn her peacefully.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I for one thought she was brilliant.

How about showing a little respect for the loss of another human being life. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want people talking about one of your loved ones like this after they're gone...

I didn't mourn Saddam's death just as I won't mourn Margaret Thatchers death but I also didn't celebrate it either. I found the images of him being killed very distasteful actually.

All this hatred towards an elderly lady who has not been involved in the running if the country for some time now seems a bit over the top to me. Surely the time to rejoice was when she lost the election and was no longer primeminister? That I could understand. If what she did was so terrible why have successive governments not simply reversed the policies?

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By *otlistcplCouple
over a year ago

Newport

"I have found the people who are saying this most .. mostly on FB I add are too young to even know what she stood for or what she actually did

Which is how hatred continues generation after generation.

I was very young when she was PM but unlike others I know about her policies and what she did for the country.

I would love one of the haters to try and run the country successfully

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she,s already closed down the pits of hell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad im too young to remember anything about her as p.m also glad i have far more important things going on in my life to give a fook either way that shes dead

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"I have found the people who are saying this most .. mostly on FB I add are too young to even know what she stood for or what she actually did

Which is how hatred continues generation after generation.

I'm sorry Wishy but I have to say this....your recent posts on last weeks threads have shown you to have little empathy for the living in this country, so please don't preach today about others not being tolerant or friendly about the dead.

Tolerant of others and their personal circumstances is not something I would describe you as recently judging by your posts.

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

All this hatred towards an elderly lady who has not been involved in the running if the country for some time now seems a bit over the top to me. Surely the time to rejoice was when she lost the election and was no longer prime minister? That I could understand. If what she did was so terrible why have successive governments not simply reversed the policies? "

Well said Evie. I have read all the threads regarding the death of Baroness Thatcher and have found the sentiments _xpressed by some posters disgraceful.

To have _xpressed joy when she was defeated in election is understandable, and whilst I understand that many people will not feel any sadness about her death, to rejoice in her death is contemptible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have found the people who are saying this most .. mostly on FB I add are too young to even know what she stood for or what she actually did

Which is how hatred continues generation after generation.

Tolerant of others and their personal circumstances is not something I would describe you as recently judging by your posts.

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how you have wallowed in the her death is an insight into you as a person !

It has done you no favours and puts you in a position where you can hardly lecture others !

Your unfunny jokes and hypocrisy just vile

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Wallowed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have found the people who are saying this most .. mostly on FB I add are too young to even know what she stood for or what she actually did

Which is how hatred continues generation after generation.

Tolerant of others and their personal circumstances is not something I would describe you as recently judging by your posts.

You're quite right, I have very little empathy for people I don't know, but I still don't wish them dead and rejoice when it comes to pass though.

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By *etanreadyCouple
over a year ago

dover

"I think whatever your political _iews are we have lost an amazing women. She may have screwed over a few people but show me a politician who hasn't. Maggie was a remarkable woman and she represented a stronger more united Britain in my opinion. We could do with a few more stronger willed people at the top.

Again this is just my opinion. And I think it should be more RIP Baroness Thatcher. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wallowed?"

Gloried would be a better word. Smug even. All those Maggie jokes you posted was almost like you had them stored up on a notepad file just waiting for her to die.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Good.

I won't mourn or miss her.

Fuck me is it Monday all over again?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"Wallowed?

Gloried would be a better word. Smug even. All those Maggie jokes you posted was almost like you had them stored up on a notepad file just waiting for her to die."

No....I was posting them as I was receiving them on my phone.

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

"I for one thought she was brilliant.

How about showing a little respect for the loss of another human being life. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want people talking about one of your loved ones like this after they're gone...

I didn't mourn Saddam's death just as I won't mourn Margaret Thatchers death but I also didn't celebrate it either. I found the images of him being killed very distasteful actually.

The last sentence says it all. Until Thatcher successive post war Labour Governments, and in opposition, had genuflected cravenly to the power of the Trade Union Barons..Tory Governments were equally weak, preferring to pacify and fudge. Thatcher faced up to, and delivered what everybody knew, that something had to be done. None of her reforms have been reversed.

Do most of us know the names of contemporary Trade Union leaders..No,I thought not, back in the 70's we knew them all.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"I for one thought she was brilliant.

How about showing a little respect for the loss of another human being life. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want people talking about one of your loved ones like this after they're gone...

I didn't mourn Saddam's death just as I won't mourn Margaret Thatchers death but I also didn't celebrate it either. I found the images of him being killed very distasteful actually.

Do most of us know the names of contemporary Trade Union leaders..No,I thought not, back in the 70's we knew them all.

I think her actions went far further than union reform though, and had a deeper agenda.

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By *etanreadyCouple
over a year ago

dover

i was only young when she was pm but got great admiration for her, yes she got things wrong, she`s only human we all make mistakes, but at least she was strong enough to stand her ground in what she believed in,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have found the people who are saying this most .. mostly on FB I add are too young to even know what she stood for or what she actually did

Which is how hatred continues generation after generation.

Tolerant of others and their personal circumstances is not something I would describe you as recently judging by your posts.

how you have wallowed in the her death is an insight into you as a person !

It has done you no favours and puts you in a position where you can hardly lecture others !

Your unfunny jokes and hypocrisy just vile"

It wasn't just me thinking pot/kettle then?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good.

I won't mourn or miss her.

I wont mourn or miss her either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good.

I won't mourn or miss her.

Your obviously a really nice bloke being glad that someone has died. She was still a human being with kids regardless of wether you agreed with her political ideas. People like you make me sick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She polarised opinion in life, she'll do it in death. both _iewpoints are legitimate. both are valid. the gushing eulogies are just as irksome as the more base comments. get over yourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just know that this is all going to repeat itself when the Queen dies. And I think a few people will end up being banned over it.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

We went through all this shit yesterday and while I never grassed on the guy his thread got closed, cant the same be done to this one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We went through all this shit yesterday and while I never grassed on the guy his thread got closed, cant the same be done to this one?"

Give it time lol..

I'll be off down south in a short while so I'll be keeping out of trouble as I'll be driving for four hours.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

It's been interesting to read the various threads on this topic. Many who rejoice that she's gone and many who say it is sad.

The most interesting observation, for me anyway, has been the very very emotive language used against those who are glad she's gone. People, in my opinion, can feel how they like. Because they feel that way does not make them 'vile', 'disgusting', 'sick', 'evil'.

I've also seen repeated comments about how she was a mother/grandmother, etc, and we should respect that. Sorry? No. Lots of women are. Lots of men are fathers and grandfathers. But unless they have done something to earn my respect I won't be told that I have to!

My very first post I said I was glad she was gone. I meant it. I also stated I had sympathy for her family. I meant that also. And I won't make apologies for how I think or feel. I feel absolutely no need to defend how I think or feel. And I am fully entitled to do so. Just as others are entitled to feel the way they do. I am not 'sick', 'disgusting' or 'evil'. But I am honest.

I loathed the woman. I'm hardly likely to grieve her passing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's been interesting to read the various threads on this topic. Many who rejoice that she's gone and many who say it is sad.

I loathed the woman. I'm hardly likely to grieve her passing."

You were a lot more vociferous than that in your condemnations of her yesterday. It sounds like your initial euphoria over her passing has ebbed somewhat and you feel a little embarrassed about how you reacted to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again this is just my opinion. And I think it should be more RIP Baroness Thatcher. "
screwed over a few???

Try living in scotland when she was PM

She treated this country and ireland like something on the bottom of her kitten heels..

She was a dragon...and i for 1 am outraged at the over the top funeral she Will receive!!

Thats MY tax money thats paying for it.

Yes sorry for her family they have lost a mother...let them bury her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares, like her or hate her, she was a person, a person who has family that loved her. As far as I'm concerned, let her rest in peace. The past is the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she cost me my apprentice

car factory she shut it down n send the all the jobs down south its one reason why i hated her so much plus the ill poll tax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just been reading about the aftermath of the parties last night celebrating her death.....looting, obstruction, violence and vandalism......hmmmm so is that how we should treat our country and fellow human beings! What an absolute joke and for me just proves that those who have to resort to violence, jumping on the bandwagon and resort to pathetic name calling clearly are the less intelligent.

No respect or value whatsoever for people who act like that.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Who cares, like her or hate her, she was a person, a person who has family that loved her. As far as I'm concerned, let her rest in peace. The past is the past"

No it really really isn't. We still feel the impact now. And not in a good way. I posted a great deal about it yesterday so shan't repeat that. But if you want to know the threads are still there.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Just been reading about the aftermath of the parties last night celebrating her death.....looting, obstruction, violence and vandalism......hmmmm so is that how we should treat our country and fellow human beings! What an absolute joke and for me just proves that those who have to resort to violence, jumping on the bandwagon and resort to pathetic name calling clearly are the less intelligent.

No respect or value whatsoever for people who act like that."

I would imagine those mindless idiots were largely too young to even remember her. It seems some people need no excuse to be a Dick.

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes sorry for her family they have lost a mother...let them bury her.

That's what she requested but the state wants to honour her. Even the Labour Party agree she deserves a decent send off. A Ceremonial Funeral is one step down from a full state funeral. It is essentially the same thing but without the lying in state.

Only four other Prime Ministers have been given the same tribute: Churchill, The Duke of Wellington, Viscount Palmerston and William Gladstone.

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over a year ago

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"It's been interesting to read the various threads on this topic. Many who rejoice that she's gone and many who say it is sad.

I loathed the woman. I'm hardly likely to grieve her passing.

I posted very little which was vociferous actually. My first post was as I described. I posted a lot of stuff about her economic policy and one or two jokes. None of which I retract. And I reiterate. I loathed the woman. In fact, with an absolute Passion. And I am very glad she's gone.

And, finally, I'm not going to get into any long discussion about it. I retract not one word of what I said. I apologise for not one word.

GLAD

SHE'S

GONE.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fascinated to know what she did to Scotland during her time. Please enlighten me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fascinated to know what she did to Scotland during her time. Please enlighten me!"
its been said

poll tax

lost of jobs

took the working n middle class away make Scotland VERY POOR

she came to Scotland on a 2 day visit at a cup final i was at it

we sown her the red card at half time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was i Liverpool when i heard the news yesterday and sitting in Costa coffee when i heard myself saying out loud that it was really sad that she had died.

I don't want to get into any political arguments because that is just not me, but i thought she was a very inspirational lady. She was tough, out spoken and knew just how to put men in their place and quiver just by looking at them.

The man on the next table had also said that he was pleased that she had died and hoped that she was in hell and could tell that from my accent that i would be a "Thatcher lover" strange choice of words i know !!

You either love her or hate her and well you know where i stand on that one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good.

I won't mourn or miss her.

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And what a strong woman . We need more strong woman around ...And she may not have pleased everyone I know in her time... But Who could in a job like that. She is a icon and I for one feel she did a lot for woman in the work place .She was true to the things she felt was right at the time ... And love her hate her she is now part of our history.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I'm fascinated to know what she did to Scotland during her time. Please enlighten me!"

I personally benefited.

I am grateful for the opportunities that some of her policies helped me achieve. I am also saddened for people who suffered hardship.

Moving forward, all the best to the people who may be still struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general there is a different attitude up north to her than in the home counties. I guess thats because she was a self interested woman who wanted to make her friends rich whilst oppress the working man. If people want to despise her then its their right to do so as she did so little to inspire millions more the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fascinated to know what she did to Scotland during her time. Please enlighten me!

I personally benefited.

I am grateful for the opportunities that some of her policies helped me achieve. I am also saddened for people who suffered hardship.

Moving forward, all the best to the people who may be still struggling.

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same here ... and I am also sad for the people who suffered and there family's .

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

Very true , its the same now , the rich get richer and the poor get poorer , .

I for one will defo not miss the evil woman

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland

I think the people slagging her off should look around themseves at their houses if she hadnt given people the right to buy half of us would still be in council houses and, or on strike for somthing like no capachino in the poxy coffee machine the falkland islanders would be speaking spanish and the coal miners would all be millionairs ... Show a little respect for the greatest prime minister we ever had.. RiP The Iron Lady

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"I'm fascinated to know what she did to Scotland during her time. Please enlighten me!its been said

poll tax

lost of jobs

took the working n middle class away make Scotland VERY POOR

she came to Scotland on a 2 day visit at a cup final i was at it

we sown her the red card at half time "

and gave us the right to buy our council houses. The shift from tenant to homeowner was one that would not have happened,

Most of her policies were not overturned when labour got in nor were all the privatised industries renationalised. So she could not have been all bad

and no before you launch I am not a Thatcherite and I am scottish...

I just respect that she was a mother and grandmother and she has passed...

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"In general there is a different attitude up north to her than in the home counties. I guess thats because she was a self interested woman who wanted to make her friends rich whilst oppress the working man. If people want to despise her then its their right to do so as she did so little to inspire millions more the opposite. "

There is a difference certainly between those who actually had to live through her policies (as adults) and those who were teens or children. Many, though not all on here, who were adults seem to not have their rose-tinted glasses on.

However, that said, each person is entitled to their own opinion. They should not be attacked for it on a personal level on here, as has happened. I certainly have not done so yet there have been posts stating that anyone who is pleased at her passing is 'sick', 'evil', etc, and that they are glad they know of such people as they wouldn't now want to meet them. That is really personal and not discussion. I too am glad those people would not want to meet me. I think we would have very little in common.

Moving on ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always sad when someone dies, sad for loved ones left behind.

Thats all really......rip madge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always sad when someone dies, sad for loved ones left behind.

Thats all really......rip madge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally find people posting vitriolic criticism and vile comments about a human being passing away simply would be better off expending their energy & anger on something more productive than a dead woman.

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

"I for one thought she was brilliant.

How about showing a little respect for the loss of another human being life. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want people talking about one of your loved ones like this after they're gone...

I didn't mourn Saddam's death just as I won't mourn Margaret Thatchers death but I also didn't celebrate it either. I found the images of him being killed very distasteful actually.

Do most of us know the names of contemporary Trade Union leaders..No,I thought not, back in the 70's we knew them all.

I think her actions went far further than union reform though, and had a deeper agenda."

That's as maybe, I'm not an apologist for Thatcher, many of her policies I did, and continue to, disagree with.

Nevertheless, the mindless, childish, hate directed at a Prime Minister who dared to think, and do, the unthinkable by taking on the Unions, is pathetic.

Ageing 80's class warrior students, and generational socialists aside, any grown up political analysis would have to acknowledge that Thatcher's battle with Trade Union power was a desperately necessary for the economic health of the country.

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By *umbriaman1962Man
over a year ago

outside of penrith

not every one in the north hated her,

she did what needed doing at the time

she had more balls than any pm since

was from yorkshire i can remember labour in power in 70s we had 4 hours with elicicity 4 hours without that for several weeks. unions running country

she was a leader when we were in need of one, love her or hate her she was needed at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not every one in the north hated her,

she did what needed doing at the time

she had more balls than any pm since

was from yorkshire i can remember labour in power in 70s we had 4 hours with elicicity 4 hours without that for several weeks. unions running country

she was a leader when we were in need of one, love her or hate her she was needed at the time"

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/162470#last

Admin have spoken on the bottom of this thread.

As I have taken off or stopped numerous threads since this one, please stop starting threads on Thatcher as I think everyone has now had their say.

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