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By (user no longer on site) OP   
17 weeks ago

I'm sat at a church hall. In an empty room. There's a GA meeting going on that I'm not privy to because it's not for people like me. Next week will be. Significant others who are affected.

I had an argument with the person who is supposed to be there. Yes, she's been forced to go, by me. Over £20,000 later, some of which is illegal ... and I can't imagine there's ever going to be an argument over whether she needs to go.

And yet, another argument, another issue. I struggle to see the disease bit of it. She's asked for more money to pay off a friend, I told her no, because I've already paid that friend off to the tune of £200 and I asked her to be honest about everything and so another £500 doesn't make sense. I told her to register to gamban and GamStop and both have not happened because "she still has £2500 sitting in an account she can't access yet..."

My fuse is so short. She said she's at breaking point and wanted to leave if I continue forcing her to face these issues. Whilst driving 50 mph down an A road, she took of her seatbelt and opened the door.

And I be slammed the brakes just enough to ... Yeah. I'm not happy with my reaction. But I've had enough. I hate this so much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
17 weeks ago

Oh, and by saying "I had an argument" I mean she's been having the arguments. I'm quite happy to remain silent and see her through this. But she's eating away at me again and again.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
17 weeks ago

Herts

So what are your options now?

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By *ripodius WillyusMan
17 weeks ago

Here and there

If I am reading this right you caused injury in your car to someone if so hope you called for help if not explain what you are on about makes little sense

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
17 weeks ago

East Sussex

You continue to enable her behaviour or you don't that's the stark choice that faces you.

I recognise the lies and fudging of facts

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
17 weeks ago

Herts


"If I am reading this right you caused injury in your car to someone if so hope you called for help if not explain what you are on about makes little sense "

She took her seatbelt off and opened the door at 50mph. What would you have him do?

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By *ittlebirdWoman
17 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

OP. I’ve been where you are now. I get you’re at breaking point. There is only so much support you can give someone you love if they won’t help themselves. Please please for your own sake. Take a step back. It may feel cathartic posting here but please get some help FOR YOU. Always happy to support if you need it. But right now the person that needs support is you. I’m afraid your loved one will only do what they want to. It’s their choice and it doesn’t have any reflection on you as a person. Ever.

Sending hugs and my DMs are open if you need a listening ear ♥️

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By *ellroseWoman
17 weeks ago

Brum


"If I am reading this right you caused injury in your car to someone if so hope you called for help if not explain what you are on about makes little sense "

He never said he caused injury…… if anything he saved her 🙄🙄

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
17 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Which part of the disease bit are you struggling to wrap your head around?..

Mr

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
17 weeks ago

East Sussex


"OP. I’ve been where you are now. I get you’re at breaking point. There is only so much support you can give someone you love if they won’t help themselves. Please please for your own sake. Take a step back. It may feel cathartic posting here but please get some help FOR YOU. Always happy to support if you need it. But right now the person that needs support is you. I’m afraid your loved one will only do what they want to. It’s their choice and it doesn’t have any reflection on you as a person. Ever.

Sending hugs and my DMs are open if you need a listening ear ♥️"

Yep the gambling is more important than everything at the moment

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By *os19Man
17 weeks ago

Edmonton


"I'm sat at a church hall. In an empty room. There's a GA meeting going on that I'm not privy to because it's not for people like me. Next week will be. Significant others who are affected.

I had an argument with the person who is supposed to be there. Yes, she's been forced to go, by me. Over £20,000 later, some of which is illegal ... and I can't imagine there's ever going to be an argument over whether she needs to go.

And yet, another argument, another issue. I struggle to see the disease bit of it. She's asked for more money to pay off a friend, I told her no, because I've already paid that friend off to the tune of £200 and I asked her to be honest about everything and so another £500 doesn't make sense. I told her to register to gamban and GamStop and both have not happened because "she still has £2500 sitting in an account she can't access yet..."

My fuse is so short. She said she's at breaking point and wanted to leave if I continue forcing her to face these issues. Whilst driving 50 mph down an A road, she took of her seatbelt and opened the door.

And I be slammed the brakes just enough to ... Yeah. I'm not happy with my reaction. But I've had enough. I hate this so much."
. You say some of the £20,000 is illegal.Depending on which people you and her are involved with they would be the first ones I would pay off first as they could will target you or your family

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