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"I'm happily solo poly. What exactly is the question?" I'm not solo poly but I'm poly. Curious about the question as well.  | |||
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"What do you call a group of polys? " I don’t know….what do you call a group of polys? 🤷♂️😂 | |||
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"What do you call a group of polys? I don’t know….what do you call a group of polys? 🤷♂️😂" It was a genuine question. :D But then I realised you wouldn't need to call them anything because they'd tell you what they were long before you asked. 😅 | |||
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"What do you call a group of polys? I don’t know….what do you call a group of polys? 🤷♂️😂 It was a genuine question. :D But then I realised you wouldn't need to call them anything because they'd tell you what they were long before you asked. 😅" You’re mistaking them for vegans 🤣 | |||
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"What do you call a group of polys? I don’t know….what do you call a group of polys? 🤷♂️😂 It was a genuine question. :D But then I realised you wouldn't need to call them anything because they'd tell you what they were long before you asked. 😅 You’re mistaking them for vegans 🤣" Vegans. Kinky people. Poly people. All the same. 😅 | |||
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"What do you call a group of polys? I don’t know….what do you call a group of polys? 🤷♂️😂 It was a genuine question. :D But then I realised you wouldn't need to call them anything because they'd tell you what they were long before you asked. 😅 You’re mistaking them for vegans 🤣 Vegans. Kinky people. Poly people. All the same. 😅" And a secret handshake? | |||
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"What do you call a group of polys? I don’t know….what do you call a group of polys? 🤷♂️😂 It was a genuine question. :D But then I realised you wouldn't need to call them anything because they'd tell you what they were long before you asked. 😅 You’re mistaking them for vegans 🤣 Vegans. Kinky people. Poly people. All the same. 😅" A vegan poly crossfitter would be the trifecta! J | |||
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"What do you call a group of polys? I don’t know….what do you call a group of polys? 🤷♂️😂 It was a genuine question. :D But then I realised you wouldn't need to call them anything because they'd tell you what they were long before you asked. 😅 You’re mistaking them for vegans 🤣 Vegans. Kinky people. Poly people. All the same. 😅 A vegan poly crossfitter would be the trifecta! J" And a fucking nightmare. | |||
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"Wait, sorry for swearing Julie! xx" Do I give the impression of not being a sweary person? I used the word cunt in a post earlier today. Also apologies OP, hit us with the question so that we can be helpful. I'm very new to poly so I can be potentially useless 😂 J | |||
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"Poly here with multiple partners, hit us with the question! " I was in a relationship with one lady lets call her D but in other relationship with 2 other women H and L at the same time H and L now of D but D did not know about H and L. so I left D so I could carry on being with the other 2 H and L H and L was happy with the status que but as any one now running 3 separate lives is very stressful So in you advice how could I ask H and L to join me in a polyamorous relationship or throuple | |||
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"Poly here with multiple partners, hit us with the question! I was in a relationship with one lady lets call her D but in other relationship with 2 other women H and L at the same time H and L now of D but D did not know about H and L. so I left D so I could carry on being with the other 2 H and L H and L was happy with the status que but as any one now running 3 separate lives is very stressful So in you advice how could I ask H and L to join me in a polyamorous relationship or throuple" You're already seeing each of them with the others knowledge and consent? Why does it need to become a throuple? Are they remotely interested in each other? | |||
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"Wait, sorry for swearing Julie! xx Do I give the impression of not being a sweary person? I used the word cunt in a post earlier today. Also apologies OP, hit us with the question so that we can be helpful. I'm very new to poly so I can be potentially useless 😂 J" You're dipping your toes ever so slowly in to the world of poly? And you're ND? Yaaaay J, welcome to the world of clichéd living. (no seriously, that makes me so happy to read) | |||
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"Poly here with multiple partners, hit us with the question! I was in a relationship with one lady lets call her D but in other relationship with 2 other women H and L at the same time H and L now of D but D did not know about H and L. so I left D so I could carry on being with the other 2 H and L H and L was happy with the status que but as any one now running 3 separate lives is very stressful So in you advice how could I ask H and L to join me in a polyamorous relationship or throuple" You've been busy, you randy fecker. I'm so jealous.  | |||
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"Is there any one on here in this sort of relationship I would like some advise on talking to my ladies about the idea of making it official " I’m not sure if you’re saying it’s going to come as a shock to them knowing there are others or not. If so do it asap and be prepared to lose one or more ! If not then just explain what it is you want , what expectations , commitments, level of openness & detail about others etc to take it further and formalise the relationship but try to do it as a conversation and be ready to be flexible. What is you want exactly that’s not happening or present already ? | |||
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"Wait, sorry for swearing Julie! xx Do I give the impression of not being a sweary person? I used the word cunt in a post earlier today. Also apologies OP, hit us with the question so that we can be helpful. I'm very new to poly so I can be potentially useless 😂 J You're dipping your toes ever so slowly in to the world of poly? And you're ND? Yaaaay J, welcome to the world of clichéd living. (no seriously, that makes me so happy to read)"At least I don't crossfit anymore 😅. I do yoga though 😬😂 | |||
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"Poly here with multiple partners, hit us with the question! I was in a relationship with one lady lets call her D but in other relationship with 2 other women H and L at the same time H and L now of D but D did not know about H and L. so I left D so I could carry on being with the other 2 H and L H and L was happy with the status que but as any one now running 3 separate lives is very stressful So in you advice how could I ask H and L to join me in a polyamorous relationship or throuple" So they both know? Because if you're dating someone, in a poly relationship with them and not telling them about the other person, you're not poly. My advice? Why do you have to make it a throuple OP? You can enjoy relationships separately without making them one thing. Is that what the women want? My main things would be - have an open level of communication. Don't lie, it's unethical and devalues your poly relationship. Don't oversaturate, make sure you make time for yourself, plan things and stick to them. All poly relationships are different, that's part of the joy of them. And enjoy it. When polyamory works it's really beautiful. Fun, loving, supportive. I love being polyamorous and wouldn't change it for anything now.  | |||
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"Poly here with multiple partners, hit us with the question! I was in a relationship with one lady lets call her D but in other relationship with 2 other women H and L at the same time H and L now of D but D did not know about H and L. so I left D so I could carry on being with the other 2 H and L H and L was happy with the status que but as any one now running 3 separate lives is very stressful So in you advice how could I ask H and L to join me in a polyamorous relationship or throuple" do H and L know of each other ? Have they met each other ? Do they like each other ? Can you expand on what you mean by running three separate lives ? I'm reading between lines here which may not be helpful!! | |||
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"Just to help 🍻🥂borrowed from the internet. Panamory: This refers to anyone who identifies as pansexual and polyamorous. Polysaturated: I’m not putting this as a type of polyamory, because it’s mostly a joke term. Essentially, someone is polysaturated when they are no longer accepting new partners or relationships because of time constraints and having too many current partners. Swolly: Someone who is both polyamorous, and a swinger sexually (someone who has multiple sexual relationships at once, and engages in recreational sex with multiple partners consensually.) Wibble: The opposite of compersion, a momentary feeling of insecurity, fear, or jealousy over a partner paying more attention to another, newer partner. (This is a primarily UK term, and instead of compersion, frubble is used!) Types of Polyamory: Hierarchical Polyamory: This form of polyamory involves the use of the terms primary and secondary in regards to partners. A primary partner is someone who, for financial, emotional, or other reasons, has the highest degree of involvement or entanglement in your relationship. Usually, this term is used in order to make a new couple feel comfortable as they venture out into polyamory, or because two people share a child, a home, a bank account, are married, ect. Not all married/having children/sharing a home couples use these terms, but it does help when introducing new partners to the dynamic for them to understand. Every other partner would then be a secondary partner to the primary. There can also be more than one primary partner in your relationship. Closed Polyamory: This type of polyamory refers to a relationship that is no longer accepting new partners, in which the people practicing cannot have romantic or sexual relationships outside of the poly circle. This is often modified between partners, and closed polyamory means many different things now, but is usually used to indicate that the person is not seeking a new partner. Cluster Marriage: A polyamorous relationship where several married couples live together and usually exchange partners in a sexual or romantic sense. One Penis Policy/One Vagina Policy: A type of polyamory where a man can have sex with as many women as he wants, but his partners may only have sex with him. Vice versa, a woman can have sex with as many men as she wants, but her partners can only have sex with her. Open Network: This is a form of polyamory where all partners are open to new relationships and connections, and the polycule is willing to accept new partners into the fold. Open Relationship: A relationship where the members are not sexually monogamous, or a relationship that permits sexual interactions outside of the polycule. This term is often confused or used interchangeably with polyamory, however it is not always the case. You can be polyamorous and not be in an open relationship, and you can be in an open relationship, and not be polyamorous. The two are not mutually exclusive. Puppy-Pile Poly: A kind of fun term for a polyamorous relationship where everyone involved in engaged in some form of a sexual/romantic relationship with everyone else, resulting in a ‘puppy-pile’. These relationships usually involve a lot of cuddle and bed sharing! Relationship Anarchy: This type of polyamory refers to people who do not see their relationships as working with each other, but as separate entities in and of themselves, and therefore are free to have as many or as little relationships as they want. This can be problematic, especially for beginners, and must be consensually agreed upon by all people involved in order to work effectively. Solo Poly: This type of polyamory is for people who do not want to be engaged in any polyamorous couples, or families and would rather operate on their own as a free agent" As you’ve only “borrowed” it, could you please return it asap as someone might be googling it right now wondering where feck it’s gone! Then give us the TL;DR skinny on it 😊 | |||
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"Just to help 🍻🥂borrowed from the internet. Panamory: This refers to anyone who identifies as pansexual and polyamorous. Polysaturated: I’m not putting this as a type of polyamory, because it’s mostly a joke term. Essentially, someone is polysaturated when they are no longer accepting new partners or relationships because of time constraints and having too many current partners. Swolly: Someone who is both polyamorous, and a swinger sexually (someone who has multiple sexual relationships at once, and engages in recreational sex with multiple partners consensually.) Wibble: The opposite of compersion, a momentary feeling of insecurity, fear, or jealousy over a partner paying more attention to another, newer partner. (This is a primarily UK term, and instead of compersion, frubble is used!) Types of Polyamory: Hierarchical Polyamory: This form of polyamory involves the use of the terms primary and secondary in regards to partners. A primary partner is someone who, for financial, emotional, or other reasons, has the highest degree of involvement or entanglement in your relationship. Usually, this term is used in order to make a new couple feel comfortable as they venture out into polyamory, or because two people share a child, a home, a bank account, are married, ect. Not all married/having children/sharing a home couples use these terms, but it does help when introducing new partners to the dynamic for them to understand. Every other partner would then be a secondary partner to the primary. There can also be more than one primary partner in your relationship. Closed Polyamory: This type of polyamory refers to a relationship that is no longer accepting new partners, in which the people practicing cannot have romantic or sexual relationships outside of the poly circle. This is often modified between partners, and closed polyamory means many different things now, but is usually used to indicate that the person is not seeking a new partner. Cluster Marriage: A polyamorous relationship where several married couples live together and usually exchange partners in a sexual or romantic sense. One Penis Policy/One Vagina Policy: A type of polyamory where a man can have sex with as many women as he wants, but his partners may only have sex with him. Vice versa, a woman can have sex with as many men as she wants, but her partners can only have sex with her. Open Network: This is a form of polyamory where all partners are open to new relationships and connections, and the polycule is willing to accept new partners into the fold. Open Relationship: A relationship where the members are not sexually monogamous, or a relationship that permits sexual interactions outside of the polycule. This term is often confused or used interchangeably with polyamory, however it is not always the case. You can be polyamorous and not be in an open relationship, and you can be in an open relationship, and not be polyamorous. The two are not mutually exclusive. Puppy-Pile Poly: A kind of fun term for a polyamorous relationship where everyone involved in engaged in some form of a sexual/romantic relationship with everyone else, resulting in a ‘puppy-pile’. These relationships usually involve a lot of cuddle and bed sharing! Relationship Anarchy: This type of polyamory refers to people who do not see their relationships as working with each other, but as separate entities in and of themselves, and therefore are free to have as many or as little relationships as they want. This can be problematic, especially for beginners, and must be consensually agreed upon by all people involved in order to work effectively. Solo Poly: This type of polyamory is for people who do not want to be engaged in any polyamorous couples, or families and would rather operate on their own as a free agent" Oh blimey, that's confusing 😱 I don't think I'm here for labels 😂 J | |||
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"Poly here with multiple partners, hit us with the question! I was in a relationship with one lady lets call her D but in other relationship with 2 other women H and L at the same time H and L now of D but D did not know about H and L. so I left D so I could carry on being with the other 2 H and L H and L was happy with the status que but as any one now running 3 separate lives is very stressful So in you advice how could I ask H and L to join me in a polyamorous relationship or throupledo H and L know of each other ? Have they met each other ? Do they like each other ? Can you expand on what you mean by running three separate lives ? I'm reading between lines here which may not be helpful!!" This. Do H and L know about each other? J | |||
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"Wow those terms are weird. I particularly hate panamory among them, but there's some real doozies in there 💜" Yep. Swolly and wibble are getting strong dislike from me. I'll stick to poly and just carry on without using those terms. | |||
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"What do you call a group of polys? I don’t know….what do you call a group of polys? 🤷♂️😂" Polyps? | |||
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"What do you call a group of polys? " An STD | |||
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"You learn something new every day, interesting list. Though I wonder how long lasting these relationship types are? I mean anyone here been in a poly relationship for say 5 years or more? I'm genuinely curious." Married, open and poly since the day we met | |||
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"Manogamy is unrealistic for both sexes. Leads to boredom and frustration. " Some people are wired for monogamy. Some aren't. It's okay either way. Just find compatible people 💜 | |||
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"You learn something new every day, interesting list. Though I wonder how long lasting these relationship types are? I mean anyone here been in a poly relationship for say 5 years or more? I'm genuinely curious. Married, open and poly since the day we met " Interesting, can I ask how long have you been together? Did you meet as swingers or in a vanilla situation? | |||
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"Manogamy is unrealistic for both sexes. Leads to boredom and frustration. Some people are wired for monogamy. Some aren't. It's okay either way. Just find compatible people 💜" yes ! | |||
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"Manogamy is unrealistic for both sexes. Leads to boredom and frustration. Some people are wired for monogamy. Some aren't. It's okay either way. Just find compatible people 💜" I've found it varies for me. I can go through phases in relationships where it's monogamous, like when I met my wife, we had children. It never felt like some need wasn't being fulfilled, we were in our bubble and loving it. I'm sure there is a genetic wiring element, but it's also dependent on the relationship for me. I don't think I can specifically say I'm wired for one or the other. | |||
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"Manogamy is unrealistic for both sexes. Leads to boredom and frustration. Some people are wired for monogamy. Some aren't. It's okay either way. Just find compatible people 💜 I've found it varies for me. I can go through phases in relationships where it's monogamous, like when I met my wife, we had children. It never felt like some need wasn't being fulfilled, we were in our bubble and loving it. I'm sure there is a genetic wiring element, but it's also dependent on the relationship for me. I don't think I can specifically say I'm wired for one or the other." If I feel unfulfilled in a relationship it's time to leave it. Not try and plug the holes with someone else. I do hate the very idea of that approach to it. I've been happily polysaturated at one before, and generally I don't ever actively seek additional partners, but that's not the same as being monogamous at heart to me 💜 | |||
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"Manogamy is unrealistic for both sexes. Leads to boredom and frustration. Some people are wired for monogamy. Some aren't. It's okay either way. Just find compatible people 💜 I've found it varies for me. I can go through phases in relationships where it's monogamous, like when I met my wife, we had children. It never felt like some need wasn't being fulfilled, we were in our bubble and loving it. I'm sure there is a genetic wiring element, but it's also dependent on the relationship for me. I don't think I can specifically say I'm wired for one or the other. If I feel unfulfilled in a relationship it's time to leave it. Not try and plug the holes with someone else. I do hate the very idea of that approach to it. I've been happily polysaturated at one before, and generally I don't ever actively seek additional partners, but that's not the same as being monogamous at heart to me 💜" I take your point, I'd always consider myself to have to potential to be poly, but at times in my life I don't feel the drive for other relationships. It's more a if I meet someone where that feels right I'm open to it. Its definitely not a this need isn't being fulfilled - I'll go elsewhere thing for me though. It just doesn't feel right intrinsically to do that - like I am going against my nature. Whether I would leave would be situational though. If a partner was going through something, like my wife had PND, I'd want to be there for them. Quite a few friends have said to me I stick around too long though. I think that's probably been true in the past. | |||
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"Just to help 🍻🥂borrowed from the internet. Panamory: This refers to anyone who identifies as pansexual and polyamorous. Polysaturated: I’m not putting this as a type of polyamory, because it’s mostly a joke term. Essentially, someone is polysaturated when they are no longer accepting new partners or relationships because of time constraints and having too many current partners. Swolly: Someone who is both polyamorous, and a swinger sexually (someone who has multiple sexual relationships at once, and engages in recreational sex with multiple partners consensually.) Wibble: The opposite of compersion, a momentary feeling of insecurity, fear, or jealousy over a partner paying more attention to another, newer partner. (This is a primarily UK term, and instead of compersion, frubble is used!) Types of Polyamory: Hierarchical Polyamory: This form of polyamory involves the use of the terms primary and secondary in regards to partners. A primary partner is someone who, for financial, emotional, or other reasons, has the highest degree of involvement or entanglement in your relationship. Usually, this term is used in order to make a new couple feel comfortable as they venture out into polyamory, or because two people share a child, a home, a bank account, are married, ect. Not all married/having children/sharing a home couples use these terms, but it does help when introducing new partners to the dynamic for them to understand. Every other partner would then be a secondary partner to the primary. There can also be more than one primary partner in your relationship. Closed Polyamory: This type of polyamory refers to a relationship that is no longer accepting new partners, in which the people practicing cannot have romantic or sexual relationships outside of the poly circle. This is often modified between partners, and closed polyamory means many different things now, but is usually used to indicate that the person is not seeking a new partner. Cluster Marriage: A polyamorous relationship where several married couples live together and usually exchange partners in a sexual or romantic sense. One Penis Policy/One Vagina Policy: A type of polyamory where a man can have sex with as many women as he wants, but his partners may only have sex with him. Vice versa, a woman can have sex with as many men as she wants, but her partners can only have sex with her. Open Network: This is a form of polyamory where all partners are open to new relationships and connections, and the polycule is willing to accept new partners into the fold. Open Relationship: A relationship where the members are not sexually monogamous, or a relationship that permits sexual interactions outside of the polycule. This term is often confused or used interchangeably with polyamory, however it is not always the case. You can be polyamorous and not be in an open relationship, and you can be in an open relationship, and not be polyamorous. The two are not mutually exclusive. Puppy-Pile Poly: A kind of fun term for a polyamorous relationship where everyone involved in engaged in some form of a sexual/romantic relationship with everyone else, resulting in a ‘puppy-pile’. These relationships usually involve a lot of cuddle and bed sharing! Relationship Anarchy: This type of polyamory refers to people who do not see their relationships as working with each other, but as separate entities in and of themselves, and therefore are free to have as many or as little relationships as they want. This can be problematic, especially for beginners, and must be consensually agreed upon by all people involved in order to work effectively. Solo Poly: This type of polyamory is for people who do not want to be engaged in any polyamorous couples, or families and would rather operate on their own as a free agent Oh blimey, that's confusing 😱 I don't think I'm here for labels 😂 J" Definitely no labels, those ^^ are too closed definitions, we make poly work how we want to, with as many variations as we want | |||
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"You learn something new every day, interesting list. Though I wonder how long lasting these relationship types are? I mean anyone here been in a poly relationship for say 5 years or more? I'm genuinely curious. Married, open and poly since the day we met Interesting, can I ask how long have you been together? Did you meet as swingers or in a vanilla situation? " Met completely vanilla on a dating site. We’ve been together for 14 years now. | |||
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"You learn something new every day, interesting list. Though I wonder how long lasting these relationship types are? I mean anyone here been in a poly relationship for say 5 years or more? I'm genuinely curious. Married, open and poly since the day we met Interesting, can I ask how long have you been together? Did you meet as swingers or in a vanilla situation? Met completely vanilla on a dating site. We’ve been together for 14 years now. " wow thanks for the info, maybe it's for me too then.  | |||
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"I think the main thing OP is what are you hoping for? All spending time together for say dates, would be very different obviously to all hanging out together for sexy stuff. " Yes to have 2 girlfriend in where we all live together and sleep together and have no one else involved just us 3 for the normal life and sex | |||
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"Is there any one on here in this sort of relationship I would like some advise on talking to my ladies about the idea of making it official " How many ladies…. Show off! | |||
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"Hopefully we can find this again been a year since ours ended " What did you guys have, out of interest? | |||
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"I was in a Poly relationship. Didn't know it at the time though. "I think I may have met Poly too. | |||
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