FabSwingers.com forum: Do you?

By *agatoXXX OP Man
28 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?

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By *a LunaWoman
28 weeks ago

South Wales

Only when I get told to fuck off and not to let the door hit me on the way out.

Why’s that OP? Wassup?

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Not welcome would suggest actual hostility.

Ignored maybe, or just a small fish in a big pound of small fish with many younger and bigger fish for company.

All desperate to be caught and eaten.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
28 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"

Not so much now.

Nobody has the right to make anyone feel unwelcome. Hope all is OK

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Every moment of every day

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"

For what it’s worth OP, I enjoy your posts on the forums. I can always find your at times sarcasm a delight. Even more serious tone messages, at times make me nod my head or empathise with you.

If you feel unwanted here, do realise there are people who notice you and enjoy your sense of humour, and contributions to the forums. 🤗

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman
28 weeks ago

somewhere

I've no idea, I join in with threads that interests me, I think there is a place for everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Yes, and no matter how hard a few people have tried, I am still here and laughing at their childish behaviour whilst playing the victim the whole time.

Poor little things!

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By *ansoffateMan
28 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Most won't feel no ways about me. Some will appreciate me being here, and have said so. Others probably don't appreciate my presence, I sometimes get that impression. A couple of people have challenged me on things, I'm happy to have conversations with them and when I have they've always been resolved quite amicably and respectfully.

If people want to cuss me out then whatever really isn't it? If you don't like me, why even think about me?

I don't think I have the right to decide whose welcome here or not. That's enough for me.

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By *ischaTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Only when I get told to fuck off and not to let the door hit me on the way out.

Why’s that OP? Wassup?"

OUCH! That must hurt

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
28 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"

Mate, all are welcome, but not all are included. Its as simple as that.

But that doesn't matter, if you don't base validation and worth on responses. And just do you...

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By *eordieJeansCouple
28 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I don’t take this place seriously enough for it to make me feel that way. It’s an internet forum full of people with far too much time on their hands.

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By *urry BlokeMan
28 weeks ago

Stalybridge

I wouldn't say unwelcome exactly, but yeah I think I know where headed with it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
28 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't but there is a marked and noticeable difference in how some people are treated in the forum.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
28 weeks ago

Leeds

I don't, I find it ok here, yes I don't get replies all the time, my posts go ignored at times but it's just how it is.

However I'm not a guy so I guess it's different, just keep posting, the more people see you around the more they'll recognise you and reply.

Mrs

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By *iker JackMan
28 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Sadly the internet is a world where people most possibly type what they would not say to someone face to face.

You can feel unwelcome or ignored at times but it depends if you want or require attention (in a good way) or from a specific person

I would suggest if you feel unwelcome here to realise this is a part of all of our lives. We are not all meant to get on and see it for what it is.

Also I have noticed the forums are becoming a bit more quiet recently but I also note that some people who used to be involved a lot are no longer here or partaking as much

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

"Only when I get told to fuck off and not to let the door hit me on the way out.

Why’s that OP? Wassup?

OUCH! That must hurt"

Depends how well padded your butt is I imagine. Guessing that for some the door would bounce right back

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
28 weeks ago

St Neots

I recently got reported and banned from forums twice in one week for really innocuous reasons so I guess there's at least a couple people don't like me. .. But I found it pretty funny

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
28 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I recently got reported and banned from forums twice in one week for really innocuous reasons so I guess there's at least a couple people don't like me. .. But I found it pretty funny "

You're not going to get banned because people don't like you and if a mod notices you've broken a rule you might not have been reported.

NB mods can't ban people just because they don't like them.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
28 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

No. But I’ve never really thought about it. I’m just here. How would you know anyway?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
28 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I don't but there is a marked and noticeable difference in how some people are treated in the forum."

Sometimes that’s because of how those people behave on the forum. Cause and effect.

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By *hrek101Man
28 weeks ago

Herts

It's just the internets..base your value in thd real world.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
28 weeks ago

Lake District

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"

Depends in all honesty.

At the start, very much so - especially because your're new, often unverified for a spell and there's too much suspicion over new profiles being fakes.

Now, we seem that people actually do read our profile and actually do seem to be polite about it if it's a no, or seem to want to understand our dynamic/their dynamic and at least try and potentially work out a meet or a social instead of immediately putting up barriers.

It's amazing what a green tick does on this site!

I'd say whilst there still are clear cliques and "if your're not in the gang" mentality for some I'd say the majority of people here are just here for fun and banter and everyone can get along without getting too heavy in the nitty gritty.

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
28 weeks ago

St Neots

"I recently got reported and banned from forums twice in one week for really innocuous reasons so I guess there's at least a couple people don't like me. .. But I found it pretty funny

You're not going to get banned because people don't like you and if a mod notices you've broken a rule you might not have been reported.

NB mods can't ban people just because they don't like them. "

Im not moaning about it because I probably did technically break some rule. Obviously can't be 100% But I'm fairly certain a couple individuals reported something I believed to be very innocuous. Again, not moaning. I now know who not to interact with and certain things that could be taken the wrong way so it's all beneficial in the end 😊

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By *ad NannaWoman
28 weeks ago

East London

No, I feel quite at home here.

Not everyone will like me, but that's life.

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By *ad NannaWoman
28 weeks ago

East London

"I don't but there is a marked and noticeable difference in how some people are treated in the forum.

Sometimes that’s because of how those people behave on the forum. Cause and effect."

And, possibly, how well they know the other people on threads.

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By *he love catsCouple
28 weeks ago

South Wales

"No, I feel quite at home here.

Not everyone will like me, but that's life.

I like you.

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By *ohntall123Man
28 weeks ago

Biggleswade

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"

You can’t win everyone over that’s life I guess . Some people can be harsh though on here

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By *ripfillMan
28 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

One of The fundamental benifts of being on fab is that it’s a non judgemental platform ( or ought to be )

OP - I really like your posts. - please develop your special Rhino skin protective cover only if you need it.

Just say “. Fuck off and then fuck right off “

Then you will feel much better ( promise )

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By *ad NannaWoman
28 weeks ago

East London

"No, I feel quite at home here.

Not everyone will like me, but that's life.

I like you. "

That's nice to know

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Sometimes. Meh it’s just the internet though.

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By *ustamanMan
28 weeks ago

weymouth

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"

Oh I wouldn't go as far as that, ignored frequently yes

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
28 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I don't but there is a marked and noticeable difference in how some people are treated in the forum.

Sometimes that’s because of how those people behave on the forum. Cause and effect."

It is and sometimes it's not.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
28 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

I don't really care what other people think..

As long as I'm happy, lurking here, being me.

Everyone else can do as they please.

Maybe ask yourself are you happy here and go from there OP?

Good luck.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
28 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I recently got reported and banned from forums twice in one week for really innocuous reasons so I guess there's at least a couple people don't like me. .. But I found it pretty funny

You're not going to get banned because people don't like you and if a mod notices you've broken a rule you might not have been reported.

NB mods can't ban people just because they don't like them.

Good I like a quick learner 😆

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By *aughty tradesman69xMan
28 weeks ago

Gloucester

Absolutely! I'm finding it hard to get a conversation going.

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By *avexxMan
28 weeks ago

cheshire

no way never

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
28 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"I don't but there is a marked and noticeable difference in how some people are treated in the forum.

Sometimes that’s because of how those people behave on the forum. Cause and effect."

That's not strictly true is it.

The more popular of the forum users, will be given more leeway in the things that they say, over the less known or popular users.

It's always been this way, for as long I've used the forums.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
28 weeks ago

Hull

Yes I feel the same .when I message and people can’t even respond !even a no thanks would be fine . Leaves you feeling deflated .I put mine down to my age and live in hope !!!

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By *ittlebirdWoman
28 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"

Nope. And even if I wasn’t all my fucks flew off years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?

Nope. And even if I wasn’t all my fucks flew off years ago

I think I caught one - do you want it back?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
28 weeks ago

Reading

Not unwelcome but I don't think I would be much missed if I never posted again but not many would tbh.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
28 weeks ago

Reading

"Yes I feel the same .when I message and people can’t even respond !even a no thanks would be fine . Leaves you feeling deflated .I put mine down to my age and live in hope !!!"

Just delete your sent messages immediately so you can't track it.

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By *parkle1974Woman
28 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes...does it bother me, hell no.

I left the playground many years ago and just ignore the drama queens.

I'm here for me, if others don't like it then they know what they can do

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By *hil most chillMan
28 weeks ago

South East & Europe

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"

No, it's more just a feeling of complete indifference toward me. I'm sure many others experience it too, like your profile could be deleted tomorrow and no one would notice or care.

Not complaining - you get out what you put in and I've been lazy lately. But I think the sooner you realise most people here don't know who you are and aren't interested to find out, the happier you'll be

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By *ucka39Man
28 weeks ago

Newcastle

I'm an adult

I don't care as much, but care as much when it matters. Get ya head around this one

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By *eliWoman
28 weeks ago

Not that I'm not welcome as such, I just think, much like Phil, that the majority are indifferent. And seeing as we're indifferent to the majority and not great ambassadors for inclusion and talking to everyone... that's fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

No op I don’t 👍🏽 keep plodding on and do your thang 😁😁

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
28 weeks ago

Essex

I don’t, but I am very thick skinned. I also hope to god I do t make anyone feel that way. I do try to be inclusive & kind. Both on forums & in private.

Also - 100% what BellaDonna said x

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By *eyond PurityCouple
28 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I don’t really look to see who and how people have responded to my posts - I post for me now and I prefer it that way.

But then again I don’t drop bombs or spikey comments so I don’t think my comments make make any waves.

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By *agatoXXX OP Man
25 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"

Three weeks I took out after posting this. I decided to test the waters, and interestingly, the replies I got to posts were largely from people I would say weren't forum "regulars".

Yeah. There's no clique here.

Time for a longer break.

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By *he KakapoMan
25 weeks ago

A nice rock

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?

Three weeks I took out after posting this. I decided to test the waters, and interestingly, the replies I got to posts were largely from people I would say weren't forum "regulars".

Yeah. There's no clique here.

Time for a longer break."

So because you decided the people replying to you weren't regular enough or popular enough they aren't as valid?

Someone definitely had a clique mentality

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By *ffervescentMan
25 weeks ago

winfrith

"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"
occasionally yes but I'm resilient, reticent and resourceful.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
25 weeks ago

The Continental

Nope.

Even if I wasn’t welcome, I’m here to stay anyway.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Rather late to ask but what do we really mean when we say ‘accepted’ on here?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"Rather late to ask but what do we really mean when we say ‘accepted’ on here? "

Or welcome. Or valid. Whatever the feeling of inclusion is. What does that really mean?

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By *naswingdressWoman
25 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

The way to break into a forum is to keep posting.

If you're not feeling welcome and you're not doing anything wrong, then fuck the haters.

(Well. No. Don't do that. You might catch something 😷☠️)

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