FabSwingers.com forum: How do you like your social?

By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
30 weeks ago

Wherever

For me, I like busy places. I’ve been known for meeting in ALL busy places. Busy coffee shops. Art galleries. Chinatown. Busy beach. Hyde Park Winter Wonderland. Camden. Oxford Street. You name it, the busier the better. Most of them were a great success.

Made me wonder. How about you?

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By *asterMeliodasMan
30 weeks ago

Newmill

I always ensure it's in a public place and that they're able to leave under their own steam if they want to go at any point. Last time I met up with someone for the first time I lined it up with bus times because she doesn't drive, so that if she wasn't feeling it she wouldn't be counting on me to drive her somewhere. Providing as much reassurance of safety as possible is important to me.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
30 weeks ago

Wherever

"I always ensure it's in a public place and that they're able to leave under their own steam if they want to go at any point. Last time I met up with someone for the first time I lined it up with bus times because she doesn't drive, so that if she wasn't feeling it she wouldn't be counting on me to drive her somewhere. Providing as much reassurance of safety as possible is important to me."

Yes. Safety is paramount. I do that too, I don’t drive so always have a plan B and route planned.

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By *WB85Man
30 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Pub / restaurant.....somewhere nice.

Even meeting someone for a walk can be quite nice.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
30 weeks ago

north of lincoln

We only ever meet someone in a pub or bar first . We also find sharing a few drinks together helps you realise if you want to go further or not

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

The only 1:1 social I've done was in Costa and that was because it was clear that we were friends only, not friends thinking about doing the sex!

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By *et and WillingCouple
30 weeks ago

Nuneaton

We always ask the lady we are meeting where she is happy to meet and go with that after all we are a couple shes a single lady

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By *irwanksalot69Man
30 weeks ago

Birmingham

As public as possible, so the lady feels safe.

(As a bonus, it's also quite fun subtly talking about naughty things in a public place

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By *ealitybitesMan
30 weeks ago

Belfast

Always a public place. I don't mind if it's busy or quiet but it has to be someplace we can have conversation without having to shout.

That's what puts me off so many group socials. The environment isn't very social.

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By *ea monkeyMan
30 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

In my basement, at the axe shop, abandoned warehouses… the options are limitless

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"In my basement, at the axe shop, abandoned warehouses… the options are limitless "

👀

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Public places.

Never a restaurant. I like to be able to swallow my drink fast and say right lovely meeting you but must go if it’s not for me.

Luckily, I’ve never had a bad experience.

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By *edstockings2Couple
30 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

We like our social between rounds of fucking. Halftime cuppa.

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By *cedGemWoman
30 weeks ago

your dreams

Nice quiet pub so we can talk freely-ish over a drink.

Wouldn't go for a meal as others have said it's far easier to down a drink & go if you're not feeling it

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By *cLovin2Man
30 weeks ago

Reading

"Public places.

Never a restaurant. I like to be able to swallow my drink fast and say right lovely meeting you but must go if it’s not for me.

Luckily, I’ve never had a bad experience. "

I got strangely aroused when I read

"I like to be able to swallow" and fast

Drink was a bit of a let down Bella.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Public places.

Never a restaurant. I like to be able to swallow my drink fast and say right lovely meeting you but must go if it’s not for me.

Luckily, I’ve never had a bad experience.

I got strangely aroused when I read

"I like to be able to swallow" and fast

Drink was a bit of a let down Bella.

Don’t worry I’m a let down too. Boring also. 😊

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
30 weeks ago

Newcastle

I prefer a bar somewhere central. A nice quiet and cosy corner where you can talk without being overheard and maybe have a few subtle touches or kisses without being noticed.

I have done coffee shops but find they don’t really make for a sexy atmosphere.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
30 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Quiet n secluded, lime behind Asda's bins

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By *2000ManMan
30 weeks ago

Worthing

Local coffee shop then walk and chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

We prefer a local walking routes, mini golf, you know, just somewhere casual. No stress, no fuss. Xx

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By *issmorganWoman
30 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I've had socials in the past in a nice coffee shop or bar.

I don't mind as long as its in a neutral place ie not theirs or at mine.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
30 weeks ago

Stratford

Public but quieter. Good transport links

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Mayfair

In a Caffé Nero™, a city branch, because they often have high vaulted ceilings; an art gallery or a museum where we can walk and talk at length and get to know each other, less focused on the objet d'art or the relics but more immersed in each other. The artworks always serve splendidly for those comfortable silences and the interludes.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
30 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I don’t mind where at all. As long as I’m being a social butterfly I’m happy

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By *riar BelisseWoman
30 weeks ago

On Holibobs

Ranging from cuppa tea socials, going shopping, dinner, themepark, museum, walking the dog, cemetery (in daylight) sex club, to watching fireworks, I've met so many people, in loads of different places, over the 5 years I've been on here

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By *ookie46Woman
30 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I don’t mind as long as it’s not too noisy

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
30 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

A nice place that's fairly busy so we can get straight into the subject of 'worse meets ever' laugh out loud without drawing too much attention, then maybe a little flirting. No PDA but maybe a little tactile touch every now and again.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
30 weeks ago

Wirral

Don't mind where, as long it's quiet enough to chat but busy enough to not feel overheard.

If I'm meeting at the weekend (which I normally am) I have found that meeting in a pub of an evening can be misconstrued, so tend to play it safe with coffee shops these days.

I had a great social a couple of months ago in the cafe at a museum. We had coffee and then went to see the show at the planetarium. It was a very happy afternoon!

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By *affron40Woman
30 weeks ago

manchester

Nice big pub that’s not overly busy.

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By *a LunaWoman
30 weeks ago

South Wales

Somewhere with good parking, toilets, public but not too peopley. And lastly, informal.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
30 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Pub. Pub? Pub! 🍺

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By *ady LickWoman
30 weeks ago

Northampton Somewhere

Pub or coffee shop for me, not too close to home. Never a restaurant in case I want to get out of there! Have burnt my tongue on a coffee before because he wasn't for me and was doing sex talk

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By *orphia2003Woman
30 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Pub, cafe, organised socials.

Preferably somewhere not too busy where we can chat without needing to shout.

These days, it's places where I don't need to travel, so usually pub / coffeeshop near work. That way, if they don't show, I've not wasted time.

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
30 weeks ago

Northern Ireland

It's been coffee shops or at organised socials.

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By *edstockings2Couple
30 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

At the swinging club after all that is a neutral place where it doesn't matter if you are taking about fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Pub, waffle restaurant, pastry shop, cafe, park, but the worst was a McDonalds (I know that might be sacrilege for Little Bird - and it was not her - but the seats are uncomfortable, the lights are too bright, the conversation was not private)

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
30 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

In a nice vaulted crypt. Surrounded by my acolytes. And all the dolls.

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By *enk15Man
30 weeks ago

Evesham

Graveyards, preferably after dark.

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By *amanthabWoman
30 weeks ago

Somewhere

Has to be somewhere busy for me with lots of people around - this tends to put off most of the married men unless they’re working away from home!

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Has to be somewhere busy for me with lots of people around - this tends to put off most of the married men unless they’re working away from home!"

Doing it wrong if they consider it to be 'work'

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By *ansoffateMan
30 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Wherever we can talk and there's the potential for for sustenance.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
30 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Has to be somewhere busy for me with lots of people around - this tends to put off most of the married men unless they’re …"
… wanking away from home!

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Big social events or decent pubs that are not packed solid and really loud or I can't hear you!

Not a bad thing with some people though

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
30 weeks ago

Reading

Thank you for putting womens safety so high.

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By *edstockings2Couple
6 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

We don't like doing social but if we have then it's at my place where we can talk freely, or at swinging club.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
6 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Quiet pubs can be awkward I recently found out, I don’t mind busy places as long as I don’t have to be in close contact to feral children or hear them scream in close proximity

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By *omRachCouple
6 weeks ago

Wirral

Places we've had social meets ranging from a Tesco cafe through to a McDonalds on the A55.

These places tend to make it a little awkward to talk about anything sexual but we use it to gauge our meets personality and Rach's comfortability with him. Sex talk can always take place later over the phone if all party's are happy after the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I have ADHD and misophonia, so if it's too busy I can struggle to hear what is being said and pay attention without hearing every single other conversation in the place at the same time. 😅

It's like having multiple voices in your head, all yapping and it's an information overload.

I'd rather be able to learn about the person I'm seeing, than become mentally burned out within the first half hour lol.

An averagely busy sort of place is okay, but the noisier it gets, the more difficult it is for me.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

Usually a pub, bar, coffee shop. Have also done a shopping centre and park occasionally. Needs to be somewhere public where I feel safe but also where we can have a private conversation.

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By *mf123Man
6 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I dont do social media

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

Quiet enough so we can hear each other but not so quiet that awkward silences are deafening.

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"For me, I like busy places. I’ve been known for meeting in ALL busy places. Busy coffee shops. Art galleries. Chinatown. Busy beach. Hyde Park Winter Wonderland. Camden. Oxford Street. You name it, the busier the better. Most of them were a great success.

Made me wonder. How about you? "

Smi don't mind too busy but somethings I get overwhelmed by the noise, have had to step out of a few places to take a breather.

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By *ornycougaWoman
6 weeks ago

MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat

In a bar or pub is my preference. If its table service then all the better as the way people treat those working in the service industry says a lot about them

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By *eoBloomsMan
6 weeks ago

Springfield

Due to personal circumstances it has to be during visiting hours.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP Woman
6 weeks ago

Wherever

"In a bar or pub is my preference. If its table service then all the better as the way people treat those working in the service industry says a lot about them"

Oh yes, great point.

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Made me wonder. How about you?

Smi don't mind too busy but somethings I get overwhelmed by the noise, have had to step out of a few places to take a breather."

Bad typos jeez, didn't notice untill now.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
6 weeks ago

Ends

In a place I can get Guinness or wine and I can eat food.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

In a bed

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"In a bed"

I'm brining snacks though.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
6 weeks ago

Ends

"In a bed"

IT’S JUST A SOCIAL

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"In a bed

IT’S JUST A SOCIAL"

Yes,that's what you said

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"In a bed

I'm brining snacks though.

Definitely snacks

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By *agerMorganMan
6 weeks ago

Canvey Island

Somewhere public and busy, so museums etc I prefer. Don’t mind a pub but they can be a bit awkward as I don’t drink. 🫣

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"In a bed

I'm brining snacks though.

Definitely snacks"

Great, be round soon.

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By *enk15Man
6 weeks ago

Evesham

When are we all going bowling, Toot?

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"When are we all going bowling, Toot?"

Shall I bring my bed?

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"When are we all going bowling, Toot?"

Time and a place.

🤣

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"When are we all going bowling, Toot?

Shall I bring my bed?"

Aslong as i can get in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"When are we all going bowling, Toot?

Shall I bring my bed?

Aslong as i can get in it."

I will get you all in it

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By *he ShivsCouple
6 weeks ago

Fife

In bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"In bed. "

YES!!!

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"When are we all going bowling, Toot?

Shall I bring my bed?

Aslong as i can get in it.

I will get you all in it"

Sweet.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"When are we all going bowling, Toot?

Shall I bring my bed?

Aslong as i can get in it.

I will get you all in it

Sweet. "

Cushty

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"When are we all going bowling, Toot?

Shall I bring my bed?

Aslong as i can get in it.

I will get you all in it

Sweet.

Cushty"

Nifty. 😉

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"When are we all going bowling, Toot?

Shall I bring my bed?

Aslong as i can get in it.

I will get you all in it

Sweet.

Cushty

Nifty. 😉"

Tidy

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"When are we all going bowling, Toot?

Shall I bring my bed?

Aslong as i can get in it.

I will get you all in it

Sweet.

Cushty

Nifty. 😉

Tidy "

Orgy.

Sorry

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By *uriousscouserWoman
6 weeks ago

Wirral

I have had some great socials in unexpected places. A ferry could've been horrendous (no escape!) but was actually amazing, a museum was great (we may not have taken things further but we did discuss favourite dinosaurs and that doesn't happen often enough), the cafe of a theatre was brilliant for people-watching, christmas markets were great for the atmosphere.

Most of the time it's a coffee shop or a pub though.

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"I have had some great socials in unexpected places. A ferry could've been horrendous (no escape!) but was actually amazing, a museum was great (we may not have taken things further but we did discuss favourite dinosaurs and that doesn't happen often enough), the cafe of a theatre was brilliant for people-watching, christmas markets were great for the atmosphere.

Most of the time it's a coffee shop or a pub though."

Spinosaurus.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
6 weeks ago

Wirral

Most of the time it's a coffee shop or a pub though.

Spinosaurus.

Nice! Triceratops for me. I like the horny ones.

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By *ir tootMan
6 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Most of the time it's a coffee shop or a pub though.

Spinosaurus.

Nice! Triceratops for me. I like the horny ones."

Well.call me a triceratops today because.

🤣

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By *ripfillMan
6 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

Usually over lunch …

It’s relaxed , it’s a nice way to see if there is any magnetism - compatibility ..

I ask for a table with either privacy or a view or better with both.

Then you can see how things progress and if successful, plan a meet.

Sometimes in a restaurant however the tables can be too near together which may prevent some personal details coming out but it’s generally a nice environment.

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By *enk15Man
6 weeks ago

Evesham

Most of the time it's a coffee shop or a pub though.

Spinosaurus.

Nice! Triceratops for me. I like the horny ones."

Pachyrhinosaurus … I think they’re cute.

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By *ruceyyMan
6 weeks ago

London

I like them when they happen

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I like them when they happen "

Me too.

I’d like a social tomorrow night. Who’s in Glasgow and fancies a drink?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I’d like a social tomorrow night. Who’s in Glasgow and fancies a drink?"

I mean … it’s worth a try, right? I’ll put a meet up.

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By *itygamesMan
6 weeks ago

Hotel bar or pub

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By *LiamMan
6 weeks ago

Midlands

Anyone fancy paintballing?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Anyone fancy paintballing?

Is that like dirty snowballing?

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By *ad NannaWoman
6 weeks ago

East London

Zoo.

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By *ony MannMan
6 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Andover

Yes. Safety is paramount. I do that too, I don’t drive so always have a plan B and route planned."

Yes, nice and safe, my last one was breakfast in a pub. If I did not like the look of her I don't have to show her my room.

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By *ad NannaWoman
6 weeks ago

East London

"Anyone fancy paintballing?

Ball-painting sounds better.

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By *ad NannaWoman
6 weeks ago

East London

I like my socials as purely a social.

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By *LiamMan
6 weeks ago

Midlands

"Anyone fancy paintballing?

Is that like dirty snowballing?

Not mate

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By *LiamMan
6 weeks ago

Midlands

"I like my socials as purely a social.

"
get off my balls then

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
6 weeks ago

Merseyside

I like them in public but not overly busy so you can hear the chatter clearly

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By *ad NannaWoman
6 weeks ago

East London

"I like my socials as purely a social.

get off my balls then

I'm only painting them!

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
6 weeks ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East

"Anyone fancy paintballing?

I really wanted to try axe throwing so suggested it for a first social - it scared him off. So I stick to coffee shops and pubs now 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"Anyone fancy paintballing?

I really wanted to try axe throwing so suggested it for a first social - it scared him off. So I stick to coffee shops and pubs now 🤷🏻‍♀️

🤣🤣🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Love to meet up next im in london. Cafee great

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By *LiamMan
6 weeks ago

Midlands

"Anyone fancy paintballing?

I really wanted to try axe throwing so suggested it for a first social - it scared him off. So I stick to coffee shops and pubs now 🤷🏻‍♀️

"
🐈

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Yes, public bar or cafe. Nice safe fun.

Can be fun if blind date too.

Any ladies ir couples fancg a social ?

Thanks

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
6 weeks ago

Swansea

In public and with escape routes.

We have quite enjoyed restaurant and bar socials, but I dislike sensing an unspoken pressure to progress towards playing that evening. I think it may be influenced by alcohol.

I much prefer the more relaxed (and alcohol free environment) socials such as coffee & cake or a stroll along the beach front. With zero pressure and then I can look forward to arranging a meet in the near future.

Mrs

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