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That awkward transition

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By *unnoisseur OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Stratford

I think most of is are here for some great sexual experiences and encounters.

But I find that transition from polite chat to sexual “offering” can be difficult and cringeworthy.

Share your experiences and advice please.

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By *AYENCouple
10 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

That's what socials are for, if there's a connection things happen naturally. K.

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By *ellinever70Woman
10 weeks ago

Ayrshire

It is cringeworthy when a guy starts trying to talk all sexy like

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I tend not to talk about doing the sex until we’ve met for a social

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By *unnoisseur OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Stratford


"That's what socials are for, if there's a connection things happen naturally. K."
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Yeah do like a social. But even then you could be having a good conversation. Then you still have to turn it around to where you ask if they would like to move to a room.

That point where you need to change a normal conversation to a seductive or sexual one.

AWKWARD!!

Much prefer when the body language says everything.

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By *lack beauty 35Woman
10 weeks ago

South west


"It is cringeworthy when a guy starts trying to talk all sexy like "
this

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By *ee And MikeCouple
10 weeks ago

Cannock

Most people on here are looking for some sort of sexual encounter, worse they can say is no if you ask them something they don’t like.

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By *eliWoman
10 weeks ago

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If the chemistry is right there might be a fleeting second of awkwardness but it's soon forgotten and more than worth it. Dialling up the intensity of kissing is a less verbal, more physical cue to move elsewhere. Or you could take their hand and move to the room? I don't know OP, normally when it's *that* kind of time it doesn't feel awkward at all for me.

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By *agneto.Man
10 weeks ago

Bham

It is hard.

Also in a club where you've been chatting and now it's time to see if they want to go get sexual.

I tend to just just go matter of fact rather than Barry white.

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By *oadsafun1960Man
10 weeks ago

Somerset & Hertfordshire

Just be open honest and don't pretend to be something you aren't, if it's meant to be and you all get on things will then progress naturally.

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By *stoppMan
10 weeks ago

Durham

As 99% of my mail comes from men, usually by the 5th message they start asking for sexual acts.

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By *he love catsCouple
10 weeks ago

South Wales

It just happens surely, the situation will only get awkward if you make it awkward, can't say I've ever had to think about it.

We've chatted on here, we've met up for a drink, the most awkward thing is going to be said is shall we go up to the room and that's not even awkward for us. Your going to know if the others are going to want to by the conversation you have been having prior to that moment.

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By *unnoisseur OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Stratford


"If the chemistry is right there might be a fleeting second of awkwardness but it's soon forgotten and more than worth it. Dialling up the intensity of kissing is a less verbal, more physical cue to move elsewhere. Or you could take their hand and move to the room? I don't know OP, normally when it's *that* kind of time it doesn't feel awkward at all for me."

Yeah I so miss cues. Usually clock them 3 days later as I stir out of my sleep and give a Homer Simpson DOH!! lol

But I like that advice. THANKS!! xx

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
10 weeks ago

Newcastle

I find it more awkward in a club, I think because it feels kind of expected and I don’t like that. I prefer a more natural transition.

With people I meet on here it’s always a social first and hopefully that’s got a bit hot and steamy so if we’re meeting again we both know what will happen. We’ve already had that build up so when we next get together it’s ripping your clothes off time, no words needed.

Kx

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By *8on33Man
10 weeks ago

winfrith

I've never found it awkward it's either there or not .

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By *lfa RomeoMan
10 weeks ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

I find that if the chemistry is there, it will just come naturally.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
10 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Just say “This dick ain’t gonna suck itself”. Works 9 times out of 10.

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By *unnoisseur OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Stratford


"It just happens surely, the situation will only get awkward if you make it awkward, can't say I've ever had to think about it.

We've chatted on here, we've met up for a drink, the most awkward thing is going to be said is shall we go up to the room and that's not even awkward for us. Your going to know if the others are going to want to by the conversation you have been having prior to that moment."

As a couple or single woman it is so much easier.

As a couple you got each other to back you up and you have to beat people off with a stick.

It’s a whole different ballgame if I’m at a social with a woman friend. We can more or less pick and chose decide how little or much we wish to engage in conversation and the transition there is as blunt or exquisite as we decide to make it.

For those approaching us now it’s a totally different matter and my lady friend will often make comments about the ones she rejected on our way home.

It’s a totally different dynamic.

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By *erfHerder74Man
10 weeks ago

Greenock

Porn sex and dirty talk is cringeworthy and some cliche.

Just talk as if it’s a normal thing if that’s best for you

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By *he love catsCouple
10 weeks ago

South Wales


"It just happens surely, the situation will only get awkward if you make it awkward, can't say I've ever had to think about it.

We've chatted on here, we've met up for a drink, the most awkward thing is going to be said is shall we go up to the room and that's not even awkward for us. Your going to know if the others are going to want to by the conversation you have been having prior to that moment.

As a couple or single woman it is so much easier.

As a couple you got each other to back you up and you have to beat people off with a stick.

It’s a whole different ballgame if I’m at a social with a woman friend. We can more or less pick and chose decide how little or much we wish to engage in conversation and the transition there is as blunt or exquisite as we decide to make it.

For those approaching us now it’s a totally different matter and my lady friend will often make comments about the ones she rejected on our way home.

It’s a totally different dynamic. "

Yes I understand what you are trying to say but I would play it exactly the same if I was on my own, I just wouldn't feel awkward in the situation.

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