FabSwingers.com forum: Assumption

By *iker Jack OP Man
10 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

There’s a saying

“Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups”

Do we all assume too much, be it about other people or things in general, what will or won’t be done.

Does assumption actually mean we miss out on things. Thinking it will or will not happen, or sometimes are we afraid to ask as we think we may know the answer whereas we actually don’t

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By *asterMeliodasMan
10 weeks ago

Near Keith

It's an interesting question. I definitely think people can often self-sabotage by assuming how something will turn out instead of letting it play out, and they end up creating a self-fulfilling prophecy where it only goes the way they assumed because their expectations unconsciously steered it that way.

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By *a LunaWoman
10 weeks ago

South

I’m sure I’ve missed out on things due to incorrect assumptions.

But there is another saying “you can’t miss what you never had”.

So it evens itself out!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
10 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

Great question Jack.

People assume too much and this will keep them firmly locked in their present viewpoints and they will cease to develop .

Simple as

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By *iker Jack OP Man
10 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"Great question Jack.

People assume too much and this will keep them firmly locked in their present viewpoints and they will cease to develop .

Simple as"

Every now and then a great question pops into my head. Thats this years quota of them used though

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By *bi HaiveMan
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10 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Everyone makes assumptions. It's human nature.

The important thing is to be able and prepared to stand corrected, change viewpoints and acknowledge you were wrong if those assumptions turn out to be incorrect.

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By *ellinever70Woman
10 weeks ago

Ayrshire

In relation to places like here, I'm okay with sticking with my assumptions about some people and don't feel I'm missing out in any way

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
10 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"Everyone makes assumptions. It's human nature.

The important thing is to be able and prepared to stand corrected, change viewpoints and acknowledge you were wrong if those assumptions turn out to be incorrect. "

Agreed but even better if people reasoned about what they see and hear and acted on their findings rather than assumptions and knee jerk reactions.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
10 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"In relation to places like here, I'm okay with sticking with my assumptions about some people and don't feel I'm missing out in any way "

Are those assumptions ? I'd say they are decisions based on experience. You are aware you could be assuming - there's a difference.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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10 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Everyone makes assumptions. It's human nature.

The important thing is to be able and prepared to stand corrected, change viewpoints and acknowledge you were wrong if those assumptions turn out to be incorrect.

Agreed but even better if people reasoned about what they see and hear and acted on their findings rather than assumptions and knee jerk reactions. "

True.

But some of my assumptions are formed based on reasoned argument and what I've witnessed.

So assumptions aren't always baseless, knee jerk or incorrect.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
10 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

"Everyone makes assumptions. It's human nature.

The important thing is to be able and prepared to stand corrected, change viewpoints and acknowledge you were wrong if those assumptions turn out to be incorrect.

Agreed but even better if people reasoned about what they see and hear and acted on their findings rather than assumptions and knee jerk reactions.

True.

But some of my assumptions are formed based on reasoned argument and what I've witnessed.

So assumptions aren't always baseless, knee jerk or incorrect. "

Surely if something is based on reasoned argument or personal experience it is not an assumption, to assume would be to arrive at a point without either of those.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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10 weeks ago

East Sussex

There's another saying ' assume' makes an ass out of u and me.

I assume that's sometimes correct

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By *affron40Woman
10 weeks ago

manchester

I assume people are telling the truth. It’s often my downfall

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By *icecouple561Couple
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10 weeks ago

East Sussex

Sometimes you have to assume to illustrate a point you're making.

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By *8on33Man
10 weeks ago

winfrith

"There’s a saying

“Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups”

Do we all assume too much, be it about other people or things in general, what will or won’t be done.

Does assumption actually mean we miss out on things. Thinking it will or will not happen, or sometimes are we afraid to ask as we think we may know the answer whereas we actually don’t "
Assumption here makes women's lives here easier ,yes they miss out but they don't care do you ladies?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
10 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"Everyone makes assumptions. It's human nature.

The important thing is to be able and prepared to stand corrected, change viewpoints and acknowledge you were wrong if those assumptions turn out to be incorrect.

Agreed but even better if people reasoned about what they see and hear and acted on their findings rather than assumptions and knee jerk reactions.

True.

But some of my assumptions are formed based on reasoned argument and what I've witnessed.

So assumptions aren't always baseless, knee jerk or incorrect.

Surely if something is based on reasoned argument or personal experience it is not an assumption, to assume would be to arrive at a point without either of those. "

assumptions are baseless as far as I know - they are the accepting of something without proof and therefore baseless....

BUT - could there be an in between e.g. as Obi says ( he based his 'assumption' on what he saw and heard or read or whatever ) a sort of very partially informed assumption ?

We all have to make snap decisions at times e.g. if im being chased by someone with a machete , then i'd assume right away they intend to do me harm and not pick fluff off my cardie.

The worst assumptions from my point of view are those that are informed by bias and word of mouth ...

Blind belief and not questioning why we think the things we think can be very limiting....

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By *ellhungvweMan
10 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I think it depends where you are and what you are assuming about. People assume all the time because often it is the most likely thing to happen and is therefore a shortcut. That’s fine.

Where it goes wrong is when there are consequences that haven’t been thought about or where you don’t learn from the assumptions that you made previously that didn’t work out.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
10 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"I assume people are telling the truth. It’s often my downfall "

I take everyone on face value until I learn otherwise ... I listen and believe until . ... the opposite is too horrible to contemplate don't you think ?

Mistrust and cynicism ...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
10 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

"Sometimes you have to assume to illustrate a point you're making."

Can you give me a 'such as' ?