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What makes for a message you respond to?

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By *rishmuzza25 OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Swadlincote

I was wondering if you had any key things you look for in a message. Or is it down to certain content and physical features?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
10 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Something to actually engage with and respond to.

Small talk is tedious waffle. I dont want to have to tell 100 people a daythat I'm fine on the off chance they've got something of actual interest to say once that's out the way. Just skip that and get to the interesting part.

Not immediate sexual talk and fap fodder from a complete stranger. I don't know someone, I don't want my very first interaction with them to be with their cock in hand. It's like turning around on the bus to find the guy behind you is wanking furiously into your hair. Doesn't matter how tall he is or how chiselled his abs are. That's never gonna be an appealing intro.

That those are the only options so many people see there as being astounds me.

Talk about something interesting. Something actually chosen specifically to engage with the person you're reaching out to

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By *hilloutMan
10 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

As a single guy I'm lucky if I get one unsolicited message in a blue moon

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By *agatoXXXMan
10 weeks ago

Mordor

I'll let you knoe the first time I receive a message.

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By *urry BlokeMan
10 weeks ago

Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want

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By *arla SwingerWoman
10 weeks ago

Somewhere

Inject some humour and I'll generally respond

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By *lanitMan
10 weeks ago

Aylesbury

New here & don't have a chance as most want verification but can't get if you don't have! Not many in my town but then seems like im too far if i look bit further out.

I admit I've had few responses but not good news lol

Just seems like we are farting against thunder but I'll keep trying & keep hoping for the best

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By *eordieJeansCouple
10 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

The simplest of things… open questions.

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By *imply DeeWoman
10 weeks ago

Wherever

I will look at the profile first and if I think we’re not compatible for whatever reason, I won’t respond, which is perfectly within website rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Something to actually say that piques my interest, show their personality, and make me want to know more about them.

Someone who sends a message about my physical appearance simply doesn’t appeal. It becomes tiring hearing you’re attractive if that’s all they can string together.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
10 weeks ago

Liverpool


"Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want"

I totally agree. Spoiled for choice, with so many of us. Women know they can set their standards as high as they wish.

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
10 weeks ago

Sunderland

Generally if someone meets our criteria or seems nice

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By *hilloutMan
10 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"New here & don't have a chance as most want verification but can't get if you don't have! Not many in my town but then seems like im too far if i look bit further out.

I admit I've had few responses but not good news lol

Just seems like we are farting against thunder but I'll keep trying & keep hoping for the best"

From my experience, even if the message is well crafted many women will first view the profile before deciding to answer. If it doesn't rouse their interest, odds of an answer are less likely.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
10 weeks ago

Liverpool


"New here & don't have a chance as most want verification but can't get if you don't have! Not many in my town but then seems like im too far if i look bit further out.

I admit I've had few responses but not good news lol

Just seems like we are farting against thunder but I'll keep trying & keep hoping for the best"

If you're new the best advice is to NOT wait on here - you could well be waiting for a very long time.

I moved on to going to socials and well-researched clubs. What I found, having made an effort to dress well and behaved in the same way I would in any normal social situation, was that I quickly found myself successful.....and I've never looked back. Profiles are anonymous and may well sell you short, plus you're up against a lot of other issues on here that are extremely unlikely to change.

Be brave - go for it! If a very average guy like me can do well, almost anyone can. Good luck!

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
10 weeks ago

Hyde

For us, show at least that you have read our profile…. the 1st line is a big giveaway

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
10 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Cheeky humour and a pretty/handsome face or faces.

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By *anilla switchWoman
10 weeks ago

Hampshire

Jizz requests.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
10 weeks ago

Wirral.

Me finding him attractive from the face pic attached/on his profile & a fun, cheeky opener.

If I don't find him attractive/funny, I delete without reply.

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By *heBigLibowskiMan
10 weeks ago

Hampshire

I need a full on gaping photo with unadulterated innuendos to even be tempted.

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By *punk n gushCouple
10 weeks ago

walmer

Be polite make an effort mention a few things that prove you will have read there profile in full before messaging etc

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
10 weeks ago

Staffordshire


"I need a full on gaping photo with unadulterated innuendos to even be tempted."

I recommend Jamie hants.

You don’t get much more gaping innuendo full stop.

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By *olden RatioWoman
10 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire


"Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want

I totally agree. Spoiled for choice, with so many of us. Women know they can set their standards as high as they wish. "

Should we lower our standards?

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
10 weeks ago

In a town full of colours

When he sends a face pic that I find attractive tbf

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By *WANDTGCouple
10 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

We will reply to all messages, even if it's a polite no. But, mostly we'll review their profile to see if they've read ours. No smokers, sexual orientation, no drugs etc .

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
10 weeks ago

Liverpool


"Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want

I totally agree. Spoiled for choice, with so many of us. Women know they can set their standards as high as they wish.

Should we lower our standards?"

Absolutely not - just stating facts.

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By *olden RatioWoman
10 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire


"Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want

I totally agree. Spoiled for choice, with so many of us. Women know they can set their standards as high as they wish.

Should we lower our standards?

Absolutely not - just stating facts. "

I see, thank you for clarifying

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By *8on33Man
10 weeks ago

winfrith

can I see your cock ?

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By *he Silver FuxMan
10 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

“Your car alarm is going off”

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
10 weeks ago

Liverpool


"Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want

I totally agree. Spoiled for choice, with so many of us. Women know they can set their standards as high as they wish.

Should we lower our standards?

Absolutely not - just stating facts.

I see, thank you for clarifying "

No probs - realise it could have been read two ways.

I'm firmly of the opinion that every individual has the right to like what they like and respond accordingly. Just because us single guys get tumble on here it shouldn't mean women should 'take pity'

I keep telling guys to stop messaging on here and head out to clubs and socials, but it appears to fall on deaf ears.

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By *illy IdolMan
10 weeks ago

Midlands

They're female

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By *affron40Woman
10 weeks ago

manchester

They’re my cousin

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By *ittlebirdWoman
10 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

They’re offering 4 doughnuts, a foot rub and an orgasm

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By *ell GwynnWoman
10 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"They’re offering 4 doughnuts, a foot rub and an orgasm "

It's your cousin, right? In a floaty summer dress?

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By *weetiepie99Woman
10 weeks ago

cardiff

Polite, funny, handsome, not asking for much really

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By *he Silver FuxMan
10 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"They’re offering 4 doughnuts, a foot rub and an orgasm "

But there were originally six in the box

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By *ittlebirdWoman
10 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"They’re offering 4 doughnuts, a foot rub and an orgasm

It's your cousin, right? In a floaty summer dress?"

Shush… that was a secret Neil

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