FabSwingers.com forum: Question for singles

By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

When looking for potential matches, how do you feel about single profiles having photos in their gallery of them having sex?

Assuming the photos are consensual, does it bother you on a site like Fab?

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By *one_maverickMan
30 weeks ago

Leeds/Bradford

"When looking for potential matches, how do you feel about single profiles having photos in their gallery of them having sex?

Assuming the photos are consensual, does it bother you on a site like Fab?"

Isn't that what's expected for a site like this?

Is a bit weird to think that you're the only one they're having sex with. Just seems like insecurity to me

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
30 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If the other person is tagged and they have a veri from them on show. Not ideal, but okay.

Otherwise, no.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
30 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Not a single but we do look for single men and it doesn’t really bother us. We’re more bothered about what they’re saying in their messages than the pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Doesn’t bother me as each to their own

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
30 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

I'm not a fan for several reasons. Mainly because there's no way to know if the other person is aware. Often the photo shows more of the other person than the profile owner. And also because in some ways I'm quite prudish for a person 'on a site like this'

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
30 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Instant delete for me.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
30 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Oh. I'm not a single. I do meet singles though so I think I can reply

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By *edeWoman
30 weeks ago

the abyss

How do we know the photos are consensual though? I don't particularly like action shots as I like a bit left to the imagination - to find out on my own as it were

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By *edeWoman
30 weeks ago

the abyss

"Oh. I'm not a single. I do meet singles though so I think I can reply

Julie is rule breaking

What is this world I now live in??

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

"If the other person is tagged and they have a veri from them on show. Not ideal, but okay.

Otherwise, no."

Can you tag others in photos? I didn't even know you could do that

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
30 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"If the other person is tagged and they have a veri from them on show. Not ideal, but okay.

Otherwise, no.

Can you tag others in photos? I didn't even know you could do that"

You can pop their username on as text in an edit. Preferably while also obscuring their face and any real identifying features like tattoos and scars.

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
30 weeks ago

Hell

I always wonder if the other person even knows about the pictures

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By *ora the explorerWoman
30 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Definitely not for me. Instant delete

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By *eyond PurityCouple
30 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We invariably end up finding the woman more attractive and ask the gent if we can have her details.

As of yet this has not been successful

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

"If the other person is tagged and they have a veri from them on show. Not ideal, but okay.

Otherwise, no.

Can you tag others in photos? I didn't even know you could do that

You can pop their username on as text in an edit. Preferably while also obscuring their face and any real identifying features like tattoos and scars."

I understand what you mean now. Some people may be happy to be in the photos, but don't want to be identified though.

Your preference though, so I'm not saying you're wrong.

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By *arkSovereignMan
30 weeks ago

Lancashire

You do you as long as theyre not close ups of spunk filled vaginas! That’s an instant no for me.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
30 weeks ago

Maidstone

I'm not a fan really. But I don't have pics of others on mine either. It wouldn't necessarily put me off but it would really depend.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

"You do you as long as theyre not close ups of spunk filled vaginas! That’s an instant no for me. "

I'm with you on this. Each to their own though

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By *hilloutMan
30 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"When looking for potential matches, how do you feel about single profiles having photos in their gallery of them having sex?

Assuming the photos are consensual, does it bother you on a site like Fab?"

It does always raise the issue of consent.

Not terribly bothered by it. I find profiles that forego this more appealing in general.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
30 weeks ago

Next Door

I don't mind if there is 1, especially if you cant really make out who the other person is (eg distinctive marks/tattoos) and then lots of just them on there own.

If just action pics then it's a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I also wonder about consent. Also, I personally don't like being photographed during sex and would rather not meet someone than have to have an awkward convo about it so it'd be a no for me on that basis alone.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

A few of you have mentioned consent. Out of interest, when you see a third/fourth party in a couples profile, do you assume those pictures are consensual?

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
30 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"A few of you have mentioned consent. Out of interest, when you see a third/fourth party in a couples profile, do you assume those pictures are consensual?"

That's a good point. And being totally honest I am more likely to. I realise that's a double standard so I'm going to be cynical about everyone going forward!

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By *edeWoman
30 weeks ago

the abyss

I assume any photo with someone in that is not on the profile has the high potential to be non-consensual. If I'm on a profile, I'm on it to see them not anyone else they may have been with

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By *iss.BellaWoman
30 weeks ago

Wales

Doesn't phase me. Free porn

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

If the other person in the video is hot it would probably put me off meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Instant delete for me.

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By *onkeynutWoman
30 weeks ago

somewhere

I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

"A few of you have mentioned consent. Out of interest, when you see a third/fourth party in a couples profile, do you assume those pictures are consensual?

That's a good point. And being totally honest I am more likely to. I realise that's a double standard so I'm going to be cynical about everyone going forward!

I very much doubt you're alone in this. Don't you just love double standards

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

"I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis."

What if it's a really hot photo?

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By *affron40Woman
30 weeks ago

manchester

Not my bag. I know people are having sex. Doesn’t mean I want to see it. In close up. Puts me right off my tea

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis.

What if it's a really hot photo?"

Then share it between you and the person you had sex with

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By *ookie46Woman
30 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’m not a fan mainly because I’m not into graphic pics and they really do nothing for me

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

"I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis.

What if it's a really hot photo?

Then share it between you and the person you had sex with"

Same rule applies for couples profiles?

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By *oiluvfunMan
30 weeks ago

Penrith

It doesn't bother me unduly, I just like to see a history of that person actually turning up for meets.

Pics can show the person is genuine, although the date shown on the pic is the date of the upload to the site here, it's not necessarily the date the pic was taken....

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By *eyond PurityCouple
30 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"A few of you have mentioned consent. Out of interest, when you see a third/fourth party in a couples profile, do you assume those pictures are consensual?"

A number of couples profiles, although not all, will probably have a veri that you could link it to.

But we aren’t fans of action shots full stop. We don’t take pics during play at all and wouldn’t want to have pics taken of us.

Any pics where we’ve taken with another lady (staged, not action) will have both of our profile names on.

I guess it’s another filter

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By *ittlebirdWoman
30 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I’m not single anymore but it’s always an instant delete for me.

I do not want to see them balls deep in foof.

Its their profile… it should be about them

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By *inUpProWoman
30 weeks ago

Liverpool

It doesn't overly bother me

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By *eyond PurityCouple
30 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I don't need to see someone hanging out of someone else to understand they are capable of sexy times.

Those pics aren't erotic to me and I wouldn't want my heat of the moment times online for all to see either.

Even if someone was OK with them having/displaying their intimate moments, how long does that consent last? - I've seen pics on here that are 7 yrs old and I'm not convinced those women know they're still being used as bait to attract people on a site like this.

It does help to identify (and eliminate) BB players sometimes, which is the only advantage.

I'd much prefer a half dressed, teasing, solo shot.

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By *ad NannaWoman
30 weeks ago

East London

It depends on the photo.

If they look like porn shots with mostly women's bodies in them and him barely visible, I'll click next.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I'm a massive hypocrite because I don't like those photos and videos but I find if I enjoy their company and they're engaging enough, it's something I can look past

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By *ad NannaWoman
30 weeks ago

East London

"I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis.

What if it's a really hot photo?"

What's your idea of a hot photo?

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By *ellhungvweMan
30 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Profiles with pictures of people having sex on a sex site?

Let me think about what I think ….. seems more than reasonable to me.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

"I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis.

What if it's a really hot photo?

What's your idea of a hot photo?"

Infront of the log burner

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

"I don't need to see someone hanging out of someone else to understand they are capable of sexy times.

Those pics aren't erotic to me and I wouldn't want my heat of the moment times online for all to see either.

It does help to identify (and eliminate) BB players sometimes, which is the only advantage.

I'd much prefer a half dressed, teasing, solo shot.

Cara, have you seen your pictures?

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
30 weeks ago

Reading

I’m not into it, it’s a no from me

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By *weet6Woman
30 weeks ago

East Riding

Doesn't do it for me.

I get far more turned on by the tease shots...

Just sayin'

Sxx

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
30 weeks ago

Essex

I’m not a fan of action shots on any profile - male, female, couple, TV/TS. Obviously each to their own.

But I worry about consent. Privacy. Ultimately discretion….

Also I just don’t want to see it. I’m a semi prude I guess.

But I know what happens in restaurants… but I don’t want to sit down to someone else’s half eaten dinner either.

I like a fresh page. Imagination.

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By *a LunaWoman
30 weeks ago

South Wales

It leaves me cold really. But I know that men are mostly more visually stimulated by that sort of thing, so whereas most women would think “whose ass is that he’s pumping?!” most men think “fwoarrr look at me, pumping this fine ass”.

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

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By *illy Idol OP Man
30 weeks ago

Midlands

"It leaves me cold really. But I know that men are mostly more visually stimulated by that sort of thing, so whereas most women would think “whose ass is that he’s pumping?!” most men think “fwoarrr look at me, pumping this fine ass”.

That's the general consensus I'm getting. Very interesting.

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Mayfair

I avoid those profiles in their entirety. It's not for me.

To use a weak analogy — I've booked the finest room in the finest hotel and it looks pristine, but I don't need to see any evidence of who's slept, sullied and despoiled it before me.

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By *enelope2UWoman
30 weeks ago

Fife

Well I'm single and I'd say 99% if my pics are just me and the rest are my friends with benefits...if I'm with someone they will know who I was/or am with... I'm single I answer to myself

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"When looking for potential matches, how do you feel about single profiles having photos in their gallery of them having sex?

…."

There’s no better way to stop me messaging them than that.

(I’m answering about single profiles)

I posted a photo that had another woman in it once, I was told my inbox would die and I’d lose friends, and I did. But I posted the photo for the art and nothing else. (I still think it was one of the best I’d took) but it’s a fact, some will be put off talking to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?

Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. As much as the owners of these photos claim that the females in them know I'm pretty sure they don't as most are grim and do not flatter the female involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?

Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. ….."

Welcome to fab

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?

Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. …..

Welcome to fab

Everyone on fab is emotionally damaged. Right!?!?

(Except the smug couples)

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By *orphia2003Woman
30 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I really don't like it, especially when it shows much more of the person they are fucking than them.

I too often wonder if they have permission from said person to publish.

But equally, Thier profile, Thier business.

My ex FWB has loads of such pics on his single profile, and we actually clashed over that when we first chatted online. It was only when I got to know him in person outside of fab that we clicked. Turns out that the group all consentually displayed pics of each other at various private events. He loves being filmed and photographed. I hate it.

Probably one of the reasons we parted company.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?

Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. …..

Welcome to fab

Everyone on fab is emotionally damaged. Right!?!?

(Except the smug couples)

That goes without saying despite me saying it.

Could do without the "here's one I shagged earlier" rogues gallery.

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
30 weeks ago

Hampshire

I don't like it. Especially as you have no way of knowing if the woman has consented. Years ago I had a meet take photo and put on his profile (from behind) and wouldn't take it down and fab took AGES to respond to my reports.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
30 weeks ago

I'm a straight single woman, so a single guys profile full of pics of women isn't attractive to me

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By *aseylee324Couple
30 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

That's the general consensus I'm getting. Very interesting."

Possibly because an awful lot of women have been subjected to something they had not consented to?

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By *onkeynutWoman
30 weeks ago

somewhere

"I’m not a fan. I know how sex works, and I don’t need to see proof that they know where to put their penis.

What if it's a really hot photo?"

It might be “really hot” to them but it won’t be that for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?

Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. …..

Welcome to fab

Everyone on fab is emotionally damaged. Right!?!?

(Except the smug couples)

There is nobody’s profile where I’ve got to know them personally that hasn’t shown me some kind of history where they have had to struggle with something.

Yet.

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By *oiluvfunMan
30 weeks ago

Penrith

"I don't like them. Is it supposed to be a visual resume?

Sometimes it's feels like fab is just a show and tell for emotionally damaged adults. …..

Welcome to fab

Everyone on fab is emotionally damaged. Right!?!?

(Except the smug couples)

Which couples are smug? The ones on their second, or third relationships, or the ‘got it right first time, and still together after all these years’ ones?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
30 weeks ago

Wirral.

Not for me. And would not meet anyone with such graphic pics on theirs profile.

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By *heelerMan
30 weeks ago

Northants

Well it is a sex site doubt there's many virgins on here.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
30 weeks ago

Tamworth

A couple, fine. But one of my pet hates is when the photos are predominantly someone else. I want to get an idea of what a potential meet looks like. Knowing they have at least 2” of cock or part of a hand which I can see hanging out of someone isn’t helpful.

Also, I do wonder to what extent the sharing is consensual.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
30 weeks ago

cardiff

I don't like them. Puts me right off. Yes you know how to have sex and have had lots of it, whoopee do. It's a no thanks from me.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
30 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

"I avoid those profiles in their entirety. It's not for me.

To use a weak analogy — I've booked the finest room in the finest hotel and it looks pristine, but I don't need to see any evidence of who's slept, sullied and despoiled it before me."

Sullied and despoiled? Interesting choice of words.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
30 weeks ago

Reading

It's common. I don't prefer it but would not reject someone in that basis.

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