FabSwingers.com forum: The most off putting sex

By *ruceyy OP Man
29 weeks ago

London

Have you had it? They're hot, flirty, amazing company...

And then you have sex. And my god. It's just all the effort to keep going.

Met someone recently NOT A FABBER who according to her, had not had sex in 7 years. But after the briefest of dates, she wanted to come back to mine.

She was SHAKING when I was close to her, like a nervous pooch. I didn't pressure anything in anyway and constantly asked, are you ok?!

When sex started, she looked like she was horrified but kept saying please. Please please please. So naturally I kept stopping and being like, I'm concerned about you are you sure you're ok?! And she would say yes keep going.

Anyway it didn't last long and I didn't finish but she got grumpy that I had put my clothes back on literally just after she orgasmed.

It was just chaos, borderline terrifying. We are still good and chat but yeah, not doing that again...

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By *aizyWoman
29 weeks ago

west midlands

You are not having a good time of it lately are you Brucey?! No never had anything like that happen to me, sounds like you are better off just staying as friends.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
29 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Had sex with someone who grunted rather than moaned. Sounded like I was banging Pumba. I did not see her again.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
29 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Sometimes, even when everything else is right, the actual sexual chemistry just isn't.

I've had people I've adored and been super into and wanted desperately. But when it came to the bedroom we were just utterly incompatible and fell absolutely flat. I doubt either of us got anything out of it but confusion and frustration.

It sucks. But it happens sometimes.

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By *hilloutMan
29 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Have you had it? They're hot, flirty, amazing company...

And then you have sex. And my god. It's just all the effort to keep going.

Met someone recently NOT A FABBER who according to her, had not had sex in 7 years. But after the briefest of dates, she wanted to come back to mine.

She was SHAKING when I was close to her, like a nervous pooch. I didn't pressure anything in anyway and constantly asked, are you ok?!

Anyway it didn't last long and I didn't finish but she got grumpy that I had put my clothes back on literally just after she orgasmed.

It was just chaos, borderline terrifying. We are still good and chat but yeah, not doing that again..."

As soon as I'd have picked up on how nervous she was, I probably would've backed out. Far safer option.

And yes, I know it's easier said than done when the horn goes to your head(s)

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

It sounds like she is having intimacy issues, especially if she has not had sex for 7 years!!

It sounds like she really likes you and if you like her but the only issue is the sex.

Perhaps an open conversation and take things very slowly or just stay friends.

I have had a few experiences that weren’t the best but not in the mood to publicise them today

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
29 weeks ago

Hell

When you go round and it’s all good until the kiss. And you just know it’s not going to get any better.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
29 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

"It sounds like she is having intimacy issues, especially if she has not had sex for 7 years!!

It sounds like she really likes you and if you like her but the only issue is the sex.

Perhaps an open conversation and take things very slowly or just stay friends.

I have had a few experiences that weren’t the best but not in the mood to publicise them today

Point 1. YES

Pont 2. NO NO NO

Point 3. YES

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
29 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

I feel for both of you Bruce.

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By *iberius61Man
29 weeks ago

Pontefract

"Sometimes, even when everything else is right, the actual sexual chemistry just isn't."

This. I actually lived with a lady for 2 years. We were compatible in every way, great friends, never argued, agreed with just about everything, but sex was distinctly ordinary. I still don't know why, it just wasn't as good as it should have been given everything else. We actually started off as friends and since then I've been kinda dismissive of those people who say 'friends first, before intimacy'. I'm like, why the hell would I want to risk a perfectly good friendship

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
29 weeks ago

Birmingham

I've had it too. I pressured myself into fucking some random guy to try get over my 'needing a connection' thing. But oh my god, it was awful. I couldn't believe how bad it was. I think he thought he was some kind of sex god because he made me squirt and he licked me everywhere and his tongue was so hard. And he was so forceful too and kept disrespecting my boundaries. I really regret it and it's made me realise I should never overlook my need for connection.

The poor woman you fucked. I had a feeling she just wanted to get sex done but wasn't particularly into it? A bad experience for you both.

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By *d4fun73Man
29 weeks ago

Shipley

When you go down and it's smells!

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By *4bimMan
29 weeks ago

Farnborough Hampshire

"When you go down and it's smells!

should of got her a one way ticket to korea.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
29 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Oh, jeez OP. That sounds uncomfortable.

I've never had that with anyone I've spent time getting to know first. I have had very unsatisfactory sex with a couple of people when I first joined way back when. There was no chemistry, no connection. I didn't realise at the time that NSA just doesn't suit me.

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By *ykmwyldTV/TS
29 weeks ago

Belpre

I think that she was overly excited, but was extremely nervous because it had been 7 years since she had had sex with someone.

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By *eroLondonMan
29 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Sometimes, even when everything else is right, the actual sexual chemistry just isn't.

It sucks. But it happens sometimes."

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You really are Fab's ambassadress of diplomacy with your benign comments, my goth-frock. xx

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By *eroLondonMan
29 weeks ago

Mayfair

"You are not having a good time of it lately are you Brucey?!...."

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By *igR93Man
29 weeks ago

Sarcasm City

You guys are having sex?

How do I do this?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
29 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

"When you go down and it's smells!

If it's not your bollocks it's your feet

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By *d4fun73Man
29 weeks ago

Shipley

"When you go down and it's smells!

If it's not your bollocks it's your feet"

Hey it wasn't me!

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By *lakeyMan
29 weeks ago

Teesside

Working away once got off with this lass out of the local boozer it was a country type pub in the sticks.

Took her back to my rental and was getting down to it in front of the open fire and as she took her pants off she let out a massive fart.

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By *lueLotusWoman
29 weeks ago

the wilderness

I once shagged someone who was allright in the sack, can barely remember it it was that meh, but after he went and filled the condom with water and sat there watching and laughing at his sperm swimming around in it

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Had one guy who just liked 1 position….. got to the point I had to fake it every time we met

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Sounds a lot like pent up anxiety on her side and the fact that she persevered suggests that she was very aware of it. Problem with anxiety is it will feed itself especially in the situation that's triggering the condition.

Depending on your relationship and how frank a conversation you can have and assuming you even want to have that conversation you could talk through the anxiety and reassure her that you can work through it together if it's something she really wants or agree to be pre-event friends if it's not. The worst result would be to lose a friendship as a result of embarrassment.

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By *ansoffateMan
29 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

A long time ago. Absolutely gorgeous, amazing passionate kisser, when we got to it she just jumped on the bed spread eagle and lay there lifeless. She looked like a sex doll, it was unnerving.

It was such a complete detachment shock to the system, I was done instantly. Awkward though as we'd been friends for quite a while. We did have a sexual relationship later, but after a few conversations. It worked out a lot better with her on top, she felt in control enough to stay engaged then. Once we found that connection, it was always there. It was quite a dance to get there though. If we weren't so enthralled with each other as friends - I doubt we ever would have.

We helped each other a lot it was quite a beautiful relationship. The first open relationship I had. A lot of my beliefs around intimacy and trust were formed from that relationship. And yet our first sexual encounter is lodged in my head as the most off-putting.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
29 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I have an important question Brucey. Was this Manchester or London?

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By *a LunaWoman
29 weeks ago

South Wales

I once had sex with a man who yelled out really loudly when he came. It was like he’d stepped on a Lego brick, fell and then promptly stepped on another one.

Was most off putting, but he scared the bejesus out of me the first time.

We didn’t date for long.

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By *ruceyy OP Man
28 weeks ago

London

"I've had it too. I pressured myself into fucking some random guy to try get over my 'needing a connection' thing. But oh my god, it was awful. I couldn't believe how bad it was. I think he thought he was some kind of sex god because he made me squirt and he licked me everywhere and his tongue was so hard. And he was so forceful too and kept disrespecting my boundaries. I really regret it and it's made me realise I should never overlook my need for connection.

The poor woman you fucked. I had a feeling she just wanted to get sex done but wasn't particularly into it? A bad experience for you both."

No she definitely enjoyed it. She was annoyed I didn't finish and was happy to leave it as such and begged for me to finish.

She has a great job and was sane to clarify, it was just sexually she seemed to be into things or act in a way I wasn't comfortable with. But I gave her all the opportunity before to not do it and was looking for a way to back out myself politely many times.

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By *ruceyy OP Man
28 weeks ago

London

"I have an important question Brucey. Was this Manchester or London?"

Where do you think!

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By *ornycougaWoman
28 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I met a guy for round 2. First time was great. Second time he thought he was a porn star and snorted and grunted continuous during foreplay. It was like mating with a wild boar. I put up with it for about 15 minutes then told him I wasn't feeling it and he needed to leave.

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
28 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Nope, I've never had bad sex!!!

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