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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. " And now you like women? | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. " Imagine that being said about women… | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. And now you like women? " I don't have the energy for women | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. And now you like women? I don't have the energy for women " Damn   | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. And now you like women? I don't have the energy for women " You leave the women folk to me then. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. Imagine that being said about women…" If it's how you feel say it. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. Imagine that being said about women…" No imagination necessary. Women are slated here every day. Many times a day. It's unnecessary to down any gender based on your own experiences to be fair. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. Imagine that being said about women… If it's how you feel say it." I’ve no desire to have a go at any group of people - any issues I have are with individuals | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. Imagine that being said about women… If it's how you feel say it. I’ve no desire to have a go at any group of people - any issues I have are with individuals " Yeah, I dislike men as a whole. Go figure. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. Imagine that being said about women…" Looking at most of the veris, i think some did  | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. Imagine that being said about women… Looking at most of the veris, i think some did "
Men are just kind, they will feel teeth and still say that’s the best BJ ever | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. Imagine that being said about women… If it's how you feel say it. I’ve no desire to have a go at any group of people - any issues I have are with individuals Yeah, I dislike men as a whole. Go figure." Ok - I’m saying nothing | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. Imagine that being said about women… If it's how you feel say it. I’ve no desire to have a go at any group of people - any issues I have are with individuals Yeah, I dislike men as a whole. Go figure. Ok - I’m saying nothing " Pussio | |||
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I still prefer to meet people I can socialise with, meet up for ‘just’ a brew and a natter, it doesn’t always have to be about sex, but I do love being able to just drop a filthy comment in to our conversation without batting an eyelid lol…..
My ‘tastes’ haven’t changed, but since I made the schoolboy error of aging beyond 45, I find the amount of people I am able to message (as a white, straight, solo male) has become far fewer. It is what it is though, I make the most of any opportunities which come my way…… | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. " They’re overrated  | |||
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"I started off looking for men the same age as myself then discovered I liked men quite a bit younger." The world of discovery  | |||
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"Since joining fab I am far less trusting of people in general. My tastes have changed vastly, and realise that it narrows down the reality of me ever finding what I really want." Good post | |||
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"Anyway... My outlook has changed significantly. Partly because I joined as part of a couple so wasn't really interested in meeting people for anything other than sex. Now I'm after a bit more which makes it harder. My tick sheet expanded! "Thank you for the anyway  (good direction change) | |||
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"Yes so much for the better , freer communication, attitudes generally positive, it a good learning platform but for me it tends to be non judgmental It’s a space to watch listen and enjoy plus hook Up with some very fabulous people where pleasure is the currency of life " Well written / described | |||
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"I thought swingers were more fat and ugly (like me). I was disappointed to find there's alot of hot people here " What a shocker | |||
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"I'm with coyote somewhat - I've been put off men for life after joining here." That’s a shame to hear. | |||
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"I wouldn't say my outlook has changed, more that I've discovered what suits me and what doesn't. I had no idea what I liked when I first joined, experimented extensively, then gradually uncovered where my preferences lay." Discovery | |||
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"Yes for sure not always looking for that physical hottie that you would in a potential partner and also as we have matured in age that’s changed our perspective "Mental hottie instead | |||
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"Since joining fab I am far less trusting of people in general. My tastes have changed vastly, and realise that it narrows down the reality of me ever finding what I really want." But you at least know what it is you really want? | |||
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"Not at all. We still enjoy meeting people we are physically attracted to and that share similar values, humour and interests. This is just the internet. There appear to be a few people around here that take their general experience of fab far too seriously. " They needs to be a poster for fab ‘This is just the internet’ love it | |||
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She was no to tattoo’s, no to beards or stubble and that’s eased although anyone with a proper full on beard is still a no.
I think we’ve become more switched on to what works for us now and also more relaxed in finding it. We have explored all different avenues and established where and what makes us feel sexiest.
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"Nothings changed for me really - I enjoy chatting to women and men and building connections. I am a lot more weary of gents intentions - we had a regular FWB who we trusted implicitly but since he got partnered up we’ve not been able to find anyone to replace. Men don’t tell the truth a lot more than women, in our experiences. For C, when single on here she had an absolute no list, which has eased She was no to tattoo’s, no to beards or stubble and that’s eased although anyone with a proper full on beard is still a no.
I think we’ve become more switched on to what works for us now and also more relaxed in finding it. We have explored all different avenues and established where and what makes us feel sexiest.
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"I think that makes sense to me. I'll just answer it and find out. I don't think what I find attractive has changed, it has more reasserted the things I knew were important to me. It's the friendships I've formed that have taught me the most about myself in terms of swinging and how that is different for me depending upon the relationships. Navigating the differences in levels of communication and involvement and appreciating those elements, whilst seemingly separate to attraction are integral to compatibility. It's very easy for me to say someone is appealing physically, but that's not the same as being attracted (actually experiencing sexual desire) for me. If that's not something the other person can appreciate about me then I tend to let it go. I am quite sure that can make me seem confusing or frustrating, but it's just who I am. There isn't a formula for it - sometimes there's just that there's something happening here sensation and sometimes there's not." Yeah I get that …. | |||
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"I wouldn't say my outlook has changed, more that I've discovered what suits me and what doesn't. I had no idea what I liked when I first joined, experimented extensively, then gradually uncovered where my preferences lay." This pretty much covers it for me to. | |||
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"I'm not sure. I'm more convinced than ever that I'm not a swinger and I'm also more comfortable with that. Actually, when I first joined I very much wanted just casual sex, no names, no repeats. Simple. Just your standard slutty postgrad with an oral fixation. And then I realised it wasn't particularly satisfying for me. Now? I'm not actively looking for anything and enjoying the friendships that develop. Sometimes sex is involved. Sometimes feelings even come in to play. I couldn't have sex without a certain level of friendship. I don't think my tastes have really changed - they've always been eclectic. How I go about it has though. And there's far less overthinking which is a bit of a relief. "Yes I’ve the overthinking goes / reduces… it helps | |||
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"In the years I've been on here my types and standards did not change. What did change was meeting my partner, which in turn changed how I use fab, to just dicking around on the forums. Which I used to do before, but was also actively looking to meet. That desire to meet people for emotionless sex has gone, it was all good for a while, but now I see I always craved something more fulfilling luckily i found more than I ever thought i would on fab. Mr " A fab love story to behold | |||
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"Your arse is one of the Severn wonders of the world " Are you Avon a laugh? | |||
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"Hi fabbers…. So since you have joined fab would you say your outlook has changed for what you like ? And I don’t just mean standards… but I mean a type of person you might choose, rather than pick looks go off their character …or your idea of what swinging is …. Hopefully that makes sense …. "Outlook? No. I have the same view of the site now as I did when I first joined. No expectations and just enjoy the ride. How I interact has changed back to when I first joined though as I'm now just here for me, rather than looking as part of a couple. It was an easy transition to change back. The site is what you make it. It's a tool, a great one, and not any kind of service or magic wand to provide easy access to sex because you can't source that elsewhere. | |||
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"All I've learnt so far is that the real/physical world will always be my favorite! I find chatting to people, even stranger comes pretty natural to me, but online, I cant even get a hello. Still sticking around to have a nosey, but not a big fan on online platforms - though I stay open-minded." Good post - I really like most people in the “real world”. This site is interesting but it’s not particularly good for the soul. | |||
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"Hi fabbers…. So since you have joined fab would you say your outlook has changed for what you like ? And I don’t just mean standards… but I mean a type of person you might choose, rather than pick looks go off their character …or your idea of what swinging is …. Hopefully that makes sense ….
Outlook? No.
I have the same view of the site now as I did when I first joined. No expectations and just enjoy the ride.
How I interact has changed back to when I first joined though as I'm now just here for me, rather than looking as part of a couple. It was an easy transition to change back.
The site is what you make it. It's a tool, a great one, and not any kind of service or magic wand to provide easy access to sex because you can't source that elsewhere. "No one thinks it’s an easy access to sex and, if they do, that is kicked out of them after about five minutes. | |||
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"All I've learnt so far is that the real/physical world will always be my favorite! I find chatting to people, even stranger comes pretty natural to me, but online, I cant even get a hello. Still sticking around to have a nosey, but not a big fan on online platforms - though I stay open-minded." Keep on chipping away, maybe start a thread? People might interact more then? | |||
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"I've always chosen character over looks but I've realised I really enjoy group sex through fab. Threesomes with couples have been really enjoyable. " Meeting a couple was the original reason I joined fab | |||
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"All I've learnt so far is that the real/physical world will always be my favorite! I find chatting to people, even stranger comes pretty natural to me, but online, I cant even get a hello. Still sticking around to have a nosey, but not a big fan on online platforms - though I stay open-minded. Good post - I really like most people in the “real world”. This site is interesting but it’s not particularly good for the soul. " Sorry to hear it’s not helping the soul. When I first joined (original profile) I assumed it would be a lot more interactive. Then I realised i need to take it as an ‘escape from real world’ and just go with the flow and not get caught up in the ‘why aren’t I getting meets’ idea… use forums… message the profiles that interest you … if no response we move on. For example ..I sent a message to a lady earlier today which had my face in it. I was blocked. Now that could be taken the wrong way (god damn I am that ugly), but a good way to look at it is that I wasn’t for her so to prevent future confusion /messaging then she blocks to end it there
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. " I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some." Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. | |||
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"All I've learnt so far is that the real/physical world will always be my favorite! I find chatting to people, even stranger comes pretty natural to me, but online, I cant even get a hello. Still sticking around to have a nosey, but not a big fan on online platforms - though I stay open-minded. Good post - I really like most people in the “real world”. This site is interesting but it’s not particularly good for the soul. Sorry to hear it’s not helping the soul. When I first joined (original profile) I assumed it would be a lot more interactive. Then I realised i need to take it as an ‘escape from real world’ and just go with the flow and not get caught up in the ‘why aren’t I getting meets’ idea… use forums… message the profiles that interest you … if no response we move on. For example ..I sent a message to a lady earlier today which had my face in it. I was blocked. Now that could be taken the wrong way (god damn I am that ugly), but a good way to look at it is that I wasn’t for her so to prevent future confusion /messaging then she blocks to end it there
"I take it for what it is these days and enjoy it in my own way. | |||
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"Your arse is one of the Severn wonders of the world " *Woody bags this for his next chat up line… | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. " It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it?" I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. | |||
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"All I've learnt so far is that the real/physical world will always be my favorite! I find chatting to people, even stranger comes pretty natural to me, but online, I cant even get a hello. Still sticking around to have a nosey, but not a big fan on online platforms - though I stay open-minded. Good post - I really like most people in the “real world”. This site is interesting but it’s not particularly good for the soul. Sorry to hear it’s not helping the soul. When I first joined (original profile) I assumed it would be a lot more interactive. Then I realised i need to take it as an ‘escape from real world’ and just go with the flow and not get caught up in the ‘why aren’t I getting meets’ idea… use forums… message the profiles that interest you … if no response we move on. For example ..I sent a message to a lady earlier today which had my face in it. I was blocked. Now that could be taken the wrong way (god damn I am that ugly), but a good way to look at it is that I wasn’t for her so to prevent future confusion /messaging then she blocks to end it there
I take it for what it is these days and enjoy it in my own way. " | |||
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"Yeah there's a lot more socials now and also a lot of cliques. " Cliques ? A certain group that only meet each other? Or chat only to each other? How do I get into the inner circle | |||
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"Yeah there's a lot more socials now and also a lot of cliques. " I get the impression that this is true - I was blocked the other day for saying “ah, the dreaded x social” (I won’t mention the name of it obviously). It was just a flip comment not a criticism as I’d heard about it endlessly from someone else on here. I was called various things and blocked. Very odd | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. " I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. " And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion " Affirming my point nicely though. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though. "Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful? | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though.
Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful? "Did I say they were? | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though.
Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful?
Did I say they were?
"You don’t like men - that’s your position isn’t it? And you don’t like them because of Fab? Correct? Or have I missed something? | |||
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"Coyote & mark…. My office now. I think we need to discuss this in private as it is putting the other residents off their popcorn "Yes sir! | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though.
Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful?
Did I say they were?
You don’t like men - that’s your position isn’t it? And you don’t like them because of Fab? Correct?
Or have I missed something?
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"Coyote & mark…. My office now. I think we need to discuss this in private as it is putting the other residents off their popcorn "Nah, I'm out. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though.
Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful?
Did I say they were?
You don’t like men - that’s your position isn’t it? And you don’t like them because of Fab? Correct?
Or have I missed something?
No no, you're right. As you were. "And I say it’s an unsustainable statement - some men and women on here should not be allowed near a computer, let alone other humans (some say I’m one of these people). Most on here are ok and a select few are more than ok. Pretty typical of society really. | |||
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"Coyote & mark…. My office now. I think we need to discuss this in private as it is putting the other residents off their popcorn
Nah, I'm out."Isn’t the current phrase “I’m done”? | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though.
Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful?
Did I say they were?
You don’t like men - that’s your position isn’t it? And you don’t like them because of Fab? Correct?
Or have I missed something?
No no, you're right. As you were.
And I say it’s an unsustainable statement - some men and women on here should not be allowed near a computer, let alone other humans (some say I’m one of these people).
Most on here are ok and a select few are more than ok.
Pretty typical of society really. "Intrigued, what is an unsustainable statement and why? | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though.
Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful?
Did I say they were?
You don’t like men - that’s your position isn’t it? And you don’t like them because of Fab? Correct?
Or have I missed something?
No no, you're right. As you were.
And I say it’s an unsustainable statement - some men and women on here should not be allowed near a computer, let alone other humans (some say I’m one of these people).
Most on here are ok and a select few are more than ok.
Pretty typical of society really.
Intrigued, what is an unsustainable statement and why?"I meant an unsustainable argument and for the reasons I stated above. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though.
Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful?
Did I say they were?
You don’t like men - that’s your position isn’t it? And you don’t like them because of Fab? Correct?
Or have I missed something?
No no, you're right. As you were.
And I say it’s an unsustainable statement - some men and women on here should not be allowed near a computer, let alone other humans (some say I’m one of these people).
Most on here are ok and a select few are more than ok.
Pretty typical of society really. "Coyote and Mark, up a tree k I S S I N G..... | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though.
Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful?
Did I say they were?
You don’t like men - that’s your position isn’t it? And you don’t like them because of Fab? Correct?
Or have I missed something?
No no, you're right. As you were.
And I say it’s an unsustainable statement - some men and women on here should not be allowed near a computer, let alone other humans (some say I’m one of these people).
Most on here are ok and a select few are more than ok.
Pretty typical of society really.
Coyote and Mark, up a tree k I S S I N G.....
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. " Bless. I hope you offer that same sentiment to all other people too. And yes actually she can. Coyote can believe whatever they wish. That is an opinion they have formed and they are welcome to it. Just as you are welcome to react in a typically reactive manner. You could have offered compassion and understanding. Shown them a reason to believe otherwise. Instead you chose righteous indignation. Also your right but I am sure mansplaining generalisation does nothing to move the conversation. | |||
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"Yeah as I've gone through more experiences, my tastes have evolved and are now happily stable "Stability comes from meeting me innit
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though.
Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful?
Did I say they were?
You don’t like men - that’s your position isn’t it? And you don’t like them because of Fab? Correct?
Or have I missed something?
No no, you're right. As you were.
And I say it’s an unsustainable statement - some men and women on here should not be allowed near a computer, let alone other humans (some say I’m one of these people).
Most on here are ok and a select few are more than ok.
Pretty typical of society really.
Coyote and Mark, up a tree k I S S I N G.....
Who doesn’t love a bit of humour to break the tension "There was tension, didn't spot it myself
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. Bless. I hope you offer that same sentiment to all other people too. And yes actually she can. Coyote can believe whatever they wish. That is an opinion they have formed and they are welcome to it. Just as you are welcome to react in a typically reactive manner. You could have offered compassion and understanding. Shown them a reason to believe otherwise. Instead you chose righteous indignation. Also your right but I am sure mansplaining generalisation does nothing to move the conversation. " Only Coyote what about wolves and hedgehogs? I thought it was more of a strawman than mansplaining. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. Bless. I hope you offer that same sentiment to all other people too. And yes actually she can. Coyote can believe whatever they wish. That is an opinion they have formed and they are welcome to it. Just as you are welcome to react in a typically reactive manner. You could have offered compassion and understanding. Shown them a reason to believe otherwise. Instead you chose righteous indignation. Also your right but I am sure mansplaining generalisation does nothing to move the conversation. " There are plenty of things I could say to this but I’ll keep my own counsel I think. I cannot stand misogyny or misandry in any guise. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. I can write off who I want, joys of having an opinion. And I can disagree with your opinion - joys of also having an opinion Affirming my point nicely though.
Doing nothing of the sort - how can all men be awful?
Did I say they were?
You don’t like men - that’s your position isn’t it? And you don’t like them because of Fab? Correct?
Or have I missed something?
No no, you're right. As you were.
And I say it’s an unsustainable statement - some men and women on here should not be allowed near a computer, let alone other humans (some say I’m one of these people).
Most on here are ok and a select few are more than ok.
Pretty typical of society really.
Coyote and Mark, up a tree k I S S I N G.....
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. Bless. I hope you offer that same sentiment to all other people too. And yes actually she can. Coyote can believe whatever they wish. That is an opinion they have formed and they are welcome to it. Just as you are welcome to react in a typically reactive manner. You could have offered compassion and understanding. Shown them a reason to believe otherwise. Instead you chose righteous indignation. Also your right but I am sure mansplaining generalisation does nothing to move the conversation. There are plenty of things I could say to this but I’ll keep my own counsel I think. I cannot stand misogyny or misandry in any guise. " Don't hold your tongue now, things are just getting intresting. I'm at work bored and this is killing time for me Mr | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. Bless. I hope you offer that same sentiment to all other people too. And yes actually she can. Coyote can believe whatever they wish. That is an opinion they have formed and they are welcome to it. Just as you are welcome to react in a typically reactive manner. You could have offered compassion and understanding. Shown them a reason to believe otherwise. Instead you chose righteous indignation. Also your right but I am sure mansplaining generalisation does nothing to move the conversation. There are plenty of things I could say to this but I’ll keep my own counsel I think. I cannot stand misogyny or misandry in any guise. Don't hold your tongue now, things are just getting intresting. I'm at work bored and this is killing time for me Mr " Make your own entertainment | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. Bless. I hope you offer that same sentiment to all other people too. And yes actually she can. Coyote can believe whatever they wish. That is an opinion they have formed and they are welcome to it. Just as you are welcome to react in a typically reactive manner. You could have offered compassion and understanding. Shown them a reason to believe otherwise. Instead you chose righteous indignation. Also your right but I am sure mansplaining generalisation does nothing to move the conversation. There are plenty of things I could say to this but I’ll keep my own counsel I think. I cannot stand misogyny or misandry in any guise. " Ah another fascinating skill us humans have. The ability to hate the intolerant with as much Bile as they do. If you can't stand misogyny or misandry what are you doing to change the conditions that allow those things to persist. If you preach tolerance and then state that you can't tolerate people who are intolerant. Are you really tolerate? Again, instead of hating a person who follows an ism. We could simply ask why they feel that way and how can we help. | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. Bless. I hope you offer that same sentiment to all other people too. And yes actually she can. Coyote can believe whatever they wish. That is an opinion they have formed and they are welcome to it. Just as you are welcome to react in a typically reactive manner. You could have offered compassion and understanding. Shown them a reason to believe otherwise. Instead you chose righteous indignation. Also your right but I am sure mansplaining generalisation does nothing to move the conversation. There are plenty of things I could say to this but I’ll keep my own counsel I think. I cannot stand misogyny or misandry in any guise. Don't hold your tongue now, things are just getting intresting. I'm at work bored and this is killing time for me Mr Make your own entertainment " Nooooo, there's more to be had here
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"Honestly? Since being on fab it’s put me off internet swingers. I used to swing regularly with my partner in clubs and I still go, just less regularly due to work commitments. The people in clubs seem far more genuine. Here, I can’t be bothered to wade through all the bullshit. Above posters are swinging handbags about some stupid comment (and the comments from both sides are stupid). Looking at an awful lot of men and women on this site, if this is how they are in real life, they’re quite frankly bloody awful people. But that’s the internet all over isn’t it? Perhaps I’m not invested enough in the site to see people on their true light. " Don’t disagree with that | |||
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"Yes, I used to like men. Then I joined fab. I assumed this was meant as humour but some people just affirmed the sentiment. My preferences never changed. Always been into Dominate women of 28-60 the only thing that has changed is my self worth. I used to have some. Subsequent comments confirmed it wasn’t humour - I merely pointed out that saying a similar thing about women would not have been taken well. It wasn't taken well regardless and instead of complaining about the generalised nature of the comment. How about we think about why such a statement exists and why others might be offended by it? I understand why people say such things but I don’t agree with such statements. You can’t write off an entire section of a community based on one characteristic. Bless. I hope you offer that same sentiment to all other people too. And yes actually she can. Coyote can believe whatever they wish. That is an opinion they have formed and they are welcome to it. Just as you are welcome to react in a typically reactive manner. You could have offered compassion and understanding. Shown them a reason to believe otherwise. Instead you chose righteous indignation. Also your right but I am sure mansplaining generalisation does nothing to move the conversation. There are plenty of things I could say to this but I’ll keep my own counsel I think. I cannot stand misogyny or misandry in any guise. Ah another fascinating skill us humans have. The ability to hate the intolerant with as much Bile as they do. If you can't stand misogyny or misandry what are you doing to change the conditions that allow those things to persist. If you preach tolerance and then state that you can't tolerate people who are intolerant. Are you really tolerate? Again, instead of hating a person who follows an ism. We could simply ask why they feel that way and how can we help." Again, plenty I could say but I won’t | |||
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" Again, plenty I could say but I won’t " But yet there you are saying something anyway. I wonder if you know any women in real life. | |||
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" Again, plenty I could say but I won’t But yet there you are saying something anyway. I wonder if you know any women in real life. Bait me all you like pal " I'm not your pal, mate | |||
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" Again, plenty I could say but I won’t But yet there you are saying something anyway. I wonder if you know any women in real life. Bait me all you like pal I'm not your pal, mate "You’ve blocked me so don’t message again | |||
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" Again, plenty I could say but I won’t But yet there you are saying something anyway. I wonder if you know any women in real life. Bait me all you like pal I'm not your pal, mate
You’ve blocked me so don’t message again "I've never messaged you. And I don't think that rule works like you think it does. | |||
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" Again, plenty I could say but I won’t But yet there you are saying something anyway. I wonder if you know any women in real life. Bait me all you like pal I'm not your pal, mate
You’ve blocked me so don’t message again
I've never messaged you.
And I don't think that rule works like you think it does.
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" Again, plenty I could say but I won’t But yet there you are saying something anyway. I wonder if you know any women in real life. Bait me all you like pal I'm not your pal, mate
You’ve blocked me so don’t message again
I've never messaged you.
And I don't think that rule works like you think it does.
Just leave me alone - ok? "You ok hun? | |||
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" Again, plenty I could say but I won’t But yet there you are saying something anyway. I wonder if you know any women in real life. Bait me all you like pal I'm not your pal, mate
You’ve blocked me so don’t message again
I've never messaged you.
And I don't think that rule works like you think it does.
Just leave me alone - ok?
You ok hun?"I’ve asked you nicely - I think that’s fair | |||
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" Again, plenty I could say but I won’t But yet there you are saying something anyway. I wonder if you know any women in real life. Bait me all you like pal I'm not your pal, mate
You’ve blocked me so don’t message again
I've never messaged you.
And I don't think that rule works like you think it does.
Just leave me alone - ok?
You ok hun?
I’ve asked you nicely - I think that’s fair "Ok that's fair. Will you stop too? | |||
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" Again, plenty I could say but I won’t But yet there you are saying something anyway. I wonder if you know any women in real life. Bait me all you like pal I'm not your pal, mate
You’ve blocked me so don’t message again
I've never messaged you.
And I don't think that rule works like you think it does.
Just leave me alone - ok?
You ok hun?
I’ve asked you nicely - I think that’s fair
Ok that's fair. Will you stop too?"Yes I won’t engage with you again - thank you | |||
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" Again, plenty I could say but I won’t But yet there you are saying something anyway. I wonder if you know any women in real life. Bait me all you like pal I'm not your pal, mate "Hey I'm not your buddy, guy! You definitely get to use the shades emoji for pulling that one out. | |||
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Some great responses so thank you for that….
I am sure there are always going to be some comments that put it off course … but we steer back
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"Yeah 100%, I feel we allow their personality to come through before we decide as I feel like you can like that person a lot more when you allow yourself to get to know them on a deeper level. We've changed over the years of being on here on how we look at it, go about things and it's definitely for the better. Miss S x" Well I best get working on my personality to get it shining | |||
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"I'm with coyote somewhat - I've been put off men for life after joining here." Can I ask - why stay then? This is a small sample of menfolk in the country and it's obvious that a much larger ratio than you'd meet at a jive dance club are a bit weird. Why not simply accept that you don't like the fab type of menfolk and sample some from another source? | |||
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"I'm with coyote somewhat - I've been put off men for life after joining here. Can I ask - why stay then? This is a small sample of menfolk in the country and it's obvious that a much larger ratio than you'd meet at a jive dance club are a bit weird. Why not simply accept that you don't like the fab type of menfolk and sample some from another source?" So as we were saying…. Has it changed for you? The fab experience…. | |||
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"I definitely joined expecting to only care for my age or younger. Then it was hot older woman central and my eyes were opened. So if anything I'm less fussy, just be fun and sexy "I have had a similar experience where by I didn’t think ladies older than me would have any interest, I assumed those my own age would be the ones to interact. But fab has opened my eyes to not assume ..and go with the flow | |||
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"Not changed me. Still liking all the naughty wives can meet and this is another way can with a bit of work. It’s easier though not on here" Where are these wives haha | |||
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