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"I never look at a profile and think they’re dateable. But sometimes after a few meets with someone you think to yourself “awww they’re really nice, the kind of guy I’d date” if only I wasn’t such a cock hungry slut! And to be fair, a lot of folk are only on here looking to find that special someone, they just dress it up as them looking for lots of sex, but dig a bit deeper and they’re an old romantic, looking for lurrrrrrrve. " Interesting point. Do you think people are sorta hard wired for monogamy? Or at least an emotional connection? | |||
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"Dateable is not something I consider " Dam lady that's some profile pic! | |||
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"I never look at a profile and think they’re dateable. But sometimes after a few meets with someone you think to yourself “awww they’re really nice, the kind of guy I’d date” if only I wasn’t such a cock hungry slut! And to be fair, a lot of folk are only on here looking to find that special someone, they just dress it up as them looking for lots of sex, but dig a bit deeper and they’re an old romantic, looking for lurrrrrrrve. Interesting point. Do you think people are sorta hard wired for monogamy? Or at least an emotional connection? " I don’t know really. I just know that a lot of people try and kid themselves that they’re looking for just sex, but that as soon as something more substantial (feelings wise) is offered, they’re on it like Sonic. | |||
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"Personally I'd I was single I don't think I'd date from fab. But saying that I wouldn't dare at all " Why not? I had a date from Fab on Thursday. Drinks nice dinner chat and a goodnight kiss.........all perfectly normal? | |||
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"Personally I'd I was single I don't think I'd date from fab. But saying that I wouldn't dare at all Why not? I had a date from Fab on Thursday. Drinks nice dinner chat and a goodnight kiss.........all perfectly normal?" Because doing fab together requires trust and communication & I don't trust easy. | |||
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"I'm not looking to date, but if I was I wouldn't be looking on fab. I get people do, but I never would want a relationship with someone who was on here. But that's more due to my past history than other people. So no, I just look at you guys as a bunch of penises. " That's how my wife see me.... She often calls me a dick. ?? | |||
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"Did you mean specifically looking at a profile pictures, before you’ve got to know the person? Be careful you don’t fall in love with the idea of somebody! " I think that is a real danger especially if you're looking for more than just sex. It's easy to imagine that the person you're chatting too would be perfect dating material where the reality could be so very different. I don't view people on here as dateable really. I'd need to meet them several times before it even crossing my mind... but that's really unlikely to happen as I'm too complicated to date. It's kinda why I'm here in the first place. | |||
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"Personally I'd I was single I don't think I'd date from fab. But saying that I wouldn't dare at all Why not? I had a date from Fab on Thursday. Drinks nice dinner chat and a goodnight kiss.........all perfectly normal? Because doing fab together requires trust and communication & I don't trust easy." Surely any relationship be it casual or moreso requires trust? | |||
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"I don't consider anyone from anywhere as someone I'd want a serious relationship with. I'd date men from here in a casual sense. I'm not looking for a husband or live in lover." Can two people of a certain age not have a transient relationship which is to say you have time together time away both enjoyable. I don’t see how having such an arrangement means marriage or cohabitation? | |||
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"I was told by someone on Fab last year that I was totally fuckable and yet totally Undateable at the same time. That fucking hurt. And it was wrong. They were wrong to say it and they know it. Still hurt though. But it did make me realise my own worth. I’ve found my partner here and I love him to bits These things happen " | |||
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"As a single with kink interests I would be open to date from here, I mean where do you look for likeminded people. " Plus, she's just gorgeous | |||
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"I don't think this is quite what you're asking. But I'm unlikely to want to have sex with someone that I wouldn't also consider going on a date with. Not that I'd date them. Does that even make sense? I wouldn't want to date them but I need to like them that much to get naked. J" Same. | |||
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"As a single with kink interests I would be open to date from here, I mean where do you look for likeminded people. Plus, she's just gorgeous " Hello you! & thank you x | |||
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"I am not single, but every person I have been with sexually on Fab I would have very easily dated/been in a relationship with. That is my fucking problem and that is why the little heart gets bruised. " I could resemble this comment, if I'm not careful. | |||
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"I was told by someone on Fab last year that I was totally fuckable and yet totally Undateable at the same time. That fucking hurt. And it was wrong. They were wrong to say it and they know it. Still hurt though. But it did make me realise my own worth. I’ve found my partner here and I love him to bits These things happen " I have found my partner here too and I love her to bits. She is part of me now xxxx | |||
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"I was told by someone on Fab last year that I was totally fuckable and yet totally Undateable at the same time. That fucking hurt. And it was wrong. They were wrong to say it and they know it. Still hurt though. But it did make me realise my own worth. I’ve found my partner here and I love him to bits These things happen " ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ this happens you find things your not looking for emotions are always involved even when we say they are not ! things will be what they will be | |||
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"I was told by someone on Fab last year that I was totally fuckable and yet totally Undateable at the same time. That fucking hurt. And it was wrong. They were wrong to say it and they know it. Still hurt though. But it did make me realise my own worth. I’ve found my partner here and I love him to bits These things happen " Awww LB, very happy for you. | |||
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"Did you mean specifically looking at a profile pictures, before you’ve got to know the person? Be careful you don’t fall in love with the idea of somebody! " Kinda yeh. And no. The idea of someone it’s me imagining that I am searching for a specific perfection. What I mean is when you get to know somebody, how do you think let’s move from just a hook up to something more intimate. | |||
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"I asked a question a long time ago, whether anyone thought I was datable, I was going through pretty low point thinking there is nobody out there for me. I had one answer that stuck in my mind, that would be alright if I wasn’t on Fab, (or something along those lines) So my question is on about me, what all the we’re on here in a promiscuous, swinging type of way, do you look at some people and think - wow, they are so datable! Or or do you look at every profile as a sex meet only and nothing more? I’m not saying feelings might not get involved after you meet them, just that from the beginning, you see them as a sex object. " I don’t think I could sleep with someone I didn’t think was worthy of a connection of sorts, so do I look at potentials as dateable, yes! Do I go on dates to find that connection, yes! As long as they understand that actual it’s just a date with no outcome of long term relationship (as I’m already taken) then it can be a fun date of just getting to know each other for future endeavours. Do I look at profiles and think they are fuckable, normally no, however only three so far! There has to be a spark. I need that connection, friendship, and trust above all. | |||
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"I asked a question a long time ago, whether anyone thought I was datable, I was going through pretty low point thinking there is nobody out there for me. I had one answer that stuck in my mind, that would be alright if I wasn’t on Fab, (or something along those lines) So my question is on about me, what all the we’re on here in a promiscuous, swinging type of way, do you look at some people and think - wow, they are so datable! Or or do you look at every profile as a sex meet only and nothing more? I’m not saying feelings might not get involved after you meet them, just that from the beginning, you see them as a sex object. " I don’t look at every profile that way.. in fact at all. I have to like someone as a person and we like the social side as well as the physical. Given that myself and hubby are always looking for someone to compliment our relationship and potentially be very regular in meeting, I’d say that yes, I do judge people’s ’dateable-ness’. | |||
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"I asked a question a long time ago, whether anyone thought I was datable, I was going through pretty low point thinking there is nobody out there for me. I had one answer that stuck in my mind, that would be alright if I wasn’t on Fab, (or something along those lines) So my question is on about me, what all the we’re on here in a promiscuous, swinging type of way, do you look at some people and think - wow, they are so datable! Or or do you look at every profile as a sex meet only and nothing more? I’m not saying feelings might not get involved after you meet them, just that from the beginning, you see them as a sex object. " I think that's the fundamental difference between men and women although I never view any woman as a sex object . | |||
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"I don't view people through that lens, but equally as I look for people I can connect with on more than just a physical level then if that was I was looking for, I probably would be picking people who I would find dateable. I don't think that makes sense but it does to me." I think what you said made perfect sense and was what I was trying to say worded better. You don’t want to date on here but would like to meet the type of person you feel is dateable. | |||
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"I'd like to be considered a dateable option but I know I'm not someone who should date, I just don't do well in relationships even FWBs who are abit too keen make me feel claustrophobic. People make comments like 'aren't you lonely' but I don't feel lonely, I love my own company but them asking me makes me wonder if I'm just delusional and I am in fact lonely but too daft to realise. " It sounds like you're just fine as you are. | |||
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"I don't view people through that lens, but equally as I look for people I can connect with on more than just a physical level then if that was I was looking for, I probably would be picking people who I would find dateable. I don't think that makes sense but it does to me. I think what you said made perfect sense and was what I was trying to say worded better. You don’t want to date on here but would like to meet the type of person you feel is dateable." At least someone gets what I'm on about | |||
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"I've dated from here. I've married from here. You never know who will arrive in your life, when or where. Or how long they'll be around. So saying 'never' is kinda pointless really. What will be will be. " Exactly! It cracks me up that some people say “I’d never consider dating people from Fab” as if all people here were lepers, pariahs of society, sex-starved zombies who have not another brain cell to emit electrical impulses to.. the lowest echelons of civilisation.. and it makes me wonder why they are here then? Surely being here makes them just as undesirable as all the rest for anything remotely more civilised, “vanilla” or normal! I have met several highly intelligent and incredibly society functional people on Fab…and all very sexy to boot. Yes please to keep finding such gems on here! | |||
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"I've dated from here. I've married from here. You never know who will arrive in your life, when or where. Or how long they'll be around. So saying 'never' is kinda pointless really. What will be will be. Exactly! It cracks me up that some people say “I’d never consider dating people from Fab” as if all people here were lepers, pariahs of society, sex-starved zombies who have not another brain cell to emit electrical impulses to.. the lowest echelons of civilisation.. and it makes me wonder why they are here then? Surely being here makes them just as undesirable as all the rest for anything remotely more civilised, “vanilla” or normal! I have met several highly intelligent and incredibly society functional people on Fab…and all very sexy to boot. Yes please to keep finding such gems on here! " Yes! I find it staggering when ppl say they wouldn't date someone from Fab...why not?? And the ppl judging negatively are on Fab themselves! | |||
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"I asked a question a long time ago, whether anyone thought I was datable, I was going through pretty low point thinking there is nobody out there for me. I had one answer that stuck in my mind, that would be alright if I wasn’t on Fab, (or something along those lines) So my question is on about me, what all the we’re on here in a promiscuous, swinging type of way, do you look at some people and think - wow, they are so datable! Or or do you look at every profile as a sex meet only and nothing more? I’m not saying feelings might not get involved after you meet them, just that from the beginning, you see them as a sex object. " We use fab and meets as a foreplay before our own personal play so just see people as sex objects. | |||
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