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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
13 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Yes.

Yes.

What was the other question?

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By *rgasmatron1970Man
13 weeks ago

Bromley

Depends on the situation to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

Never say never Meli!

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
13 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Oh, does it vary, probably yes.

Mrs TMN x

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By *ot to giggleWoman
13 weeks ago

Coventry

maybe

maybe

maybe

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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"Yes.

Yes.

What was the other question?"

You're so quick Mrs NipNips.

Erm... well would you ever not have sex with someone straight away? What would make you wait?

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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"Depends on the situation to be honest. "

So... you would? It doesn't have to be an ironclad yes to always having sex. More... would you?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
13 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
13 weeks ago

St Neots

Yes yes yes

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By *ell GwynnWoman
13 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

It totally depends on how long we've been chatting and how much chemistry there is.

And how long ago I last had sex.

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By *r AnalyticMan
13 weeks ago

Nuneaton

Yes if the spark is real and don't feel awkward.

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By *hilloutMan
13 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

If I fancied them and they were keen, yes.

Yes, and I have. Interestingly, on 2 out of 3 occasions that rule was tossed out the window, resulting in play.

Not sure re the last one. My brain cells are exhausted from my grueling clinic today

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc.

Never say never Meli!"

So you haven't? Or you have Phooey? It's all very confusing.

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By *onderlust69Couple
13 weeks ago

Central belt

Yes if there mutual attraction and everyone's in the same place then swapsex will happen

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By *ora the explorerWoman
13 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Nope

Although it may have happened once

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Yes I have had the sex on a first meet, I never take it for granted though.

It certainly wouldn’t sway me from meeting if no sex was on the cards.

It wouldn’t bother me if my date had a different idea of what was to happen

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By *ycanNightsMan
13 weeks ago

Workington

Yes x 3

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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"It totally depends on how long we've been chatting and how much chemistry there is.

And how long ago I last had sex."

So Nell, have you had sex with someone the first time you've met them? We don't really talk much and I'm curious.

What would be reasons for you to wait?

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By *r John WickMan
13 weeks ago

The Continental

Yes

Yes

Yes

Easy, next question.

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By *d mirerMan
13 weeks ago

lost

Possibly

Possibly

And possibly

It’s all dependant on who’s , where’s and circumstances really .

Damn this fence is uncomfortable!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
13 weeks ago

Tamworth

Definitely varies.

In a club, where I have had a chat to someone, got a feel for their personality (mind out the gutter) and there's an obvious mutual physical attraction, definitely.

If I've been chatting to someone for a while, clicked and a social goes ridiculously well - it's a possibility although I prefer to make it just a social first off.

I wouldn't ever make arrangements after a couple of messages to meet up purely intending to play. Just not my way of doing things.

As regards someone else's activities outside of our own interactions - I'm fairly live and let live. There are certain activities (bareback for example) that would put me off but them playing with others on a first meet wouldn't - unless they kept badgering me about it.

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc.

If I fancied them and they were keen, yes.

Yes, and I have. Interestingly, on 2 out of 3 occasions that rule was tossed out the window, resulting in play.

Not sure re the last one. My brain cells are exhausted from my grueling clinic today "

Gruelling clinic/your advancing years. Either or.

Oh so women who've said I don't have sex on the first social/m word have met you and their knickers have slid off?

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By *oo..Woman
13 weeks ago

Boo's World

Nope

Yes

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Yes

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By *midnight-Woman
13 weeks ago

...

Yes

yes

yes

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By *weetiepie99Woman
13 weeks ago

cardiff

Perhaps

Yes

Maybe

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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"Yes I have had the sex on a first meet, I never take it for granted though.

It certainly wouldn’t sway me from meeting if no sex was on the cards.

It wouldn’t bother me if my date had a different idea of what was to happen "

Do you use the word date as a replacement for meet? Or is it because it's a date date?

Complete aside.

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By *he KakapoMan
13 weeks ago

A nice rock

Yes x3

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By *hilloutMan
13 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc.

If I fancied them and they were keen, yes.

Yes, and I have. Interestingly, on 2 out of 3 occasions that rule was tossed out the window, resulting in play.

Not sure re the last one. My brain cells are exhausted from my grueling clinic today

Gruelling clinic/your advancing years. Either or.

Oh so women who've said I don't have sex on the first social/m word have met you and their knickers have slid off? "

Perhaps...middle age can be merciless

Indeed. I must've done something right

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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"Nope

Although it may have happened once "

Nora, shocking behaviour. Tut.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc.

Never say never Meli!

So you haven't? Or you have Phooey? It's all very confusing."

Well, it is all very confusing, cos I thought in most case not, but when I look at what has happened, sometimes I have talked to the person for a while, and then the first time we meet we seem to get naked. Others we may have intended only a social, but that has then moved back to my house and our clothes have mysteriously vanished again. However, I would say for half, we have managed to remain fully clothed for the first meet or two.

So it looks like the answer to your three questions is:

Yes, Yes and Yes again

(I have shocked myself)

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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"Possibly

Possibly

And possibly

It’s all dependant on who’s , where’s and circumstances really .

Damn this fence is uncomfortable!"

Don't worry; there are a few who are also getting splinters as well. True comrades.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
13 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I suppose I'll answer properly.

Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them? - As a general rule, I would usually say no. I don't see it as a likely possibility and would never agree to meet someone for the first time and fuck them. But. Sometimes. You meet someone, there's those absolutely explosive fireworks of chemistry, their entire being sings to you, and you have the opportunity to act on it. It has happened before, however rarely. And I hope it happens again.

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you? - Of course. People are welcome to view sex as casually or seriousy as they like. Some people absolutely don't want to rush into something they might regret and I am not a person to shame someone for being what they believe to be reasonably cautious. If someone saw sex on a first encounter to be a necessity, I'd consider us incompatible and not meet them though.

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc. - I think that part is covered already.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
13 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"It totally depends on how long we've been chatting and how much chemistry there is.

And how long ago I last had sex.

So Nell, have you had sex with someone the first time you've met them? We don't really talk much and I'm curious.

What would be reasons for you to wait? "

Ok, stranger who I have very little contact with, I'll provide more detail.....

Yes, I've had sex with someone the first time I've met them.

I tend to talk to people for a month or two minimum, usually longer, before seeing them as I generally meet other forum users. I like that I can get a feel for someone's personality from observing their online interactions, which is what prompts me, or not, to send a DM and get chatting. By the time we meet in person a nice connection has been established. I never go to a first social with the expectation of sex, but I'm open to the possibility of it should that online chemistry transfer over into real life. If the spark isn’t there then it's not happening.

Also, distance is sometimes a deciding factor. If travelling a long way and the liklihood of seeing each other again soon is low, the attraction electric and mutual, then I'm not going to deny my vagina.

Reasons to wait would be....

- One of us needs longer to feel comfortable with the other.

- I'm on my period.

- We've met in a location that doesn't allow for sexual activity.

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
13 weeks ago

St Leonards

Yes

Yes

Yes

Cunt

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By *elshnewbies69Couple
13 weeks ago

cardiff

Yes to all but massively depends on who we are meeting

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By *xmfrvnMan
13 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Anything is possible.

The social/meet is to make sure you want to do the things you think you want to do to the pictures. Which may be fine as part of that first meeting, or may be better left for later when comfort/rapport/horn has grown.

It all depends.

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By *ainbowCheesecakeCouple
13 weeks ago

Northampton

I mean we had anal sex in the back of a qashquai on our first meet and have been together almost ten years now and married eight so I guess that's a yes

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


" I mean we had anal sex in the back of a qashquai on our first meet and have been together almost ten years now and married eight so I guess that's a yes"

Would it of changed things if it was a different make of car do you think?

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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" I mean we had anal sex in the back of a qashquai on our first meet and have been together almost ten years now and married eight so I guess that's a yes

Would it of changed things if it was a different make of car do you think?"

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By *acksparrow99Man
13 weeks ago

Canary Wharf, London

Yes. Yes. Yes.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
13 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Yes fuck yes

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By *oppet22TV/TS
13 weeks ago

huddersfield

Yes definitely would

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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"Definitely varies.

In a club, where I have had a chat to someone, got a feel for their personality (mind out the gutter) and there's an obvious mutual physical attraction, definitely.

If I've been chatting to someone for a while, clicked and a social goes ridiculously well - it's a possibility although I prefer to make it just a social first off.

I wouldn't ever make arrangements after a couple of messages to meet up purely intending to play. Just not my way of doing things.

As regards someone else's activities outside of our own interactions - I'm fairly live and let live. There are certain activities (bareback for example) that would put me off but them playing with others on a first meet wouldn't - unless they kept badgering me about it. "

A full response. Thanks Crimson.

So these socials are purely social or do they tend to lead to more?

Live and let live is good unless it has a negative effect on your interactions.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


" I mean we had anal sex in the back of a qashquai on our first meet and have been together almost ten years now and married eight so I guess that's a yes

Would it of changed things if it was a different make of car do you think?"

Apparently, research shows that you can fit three child seats on the back seat of a Qashqai - which is not the case for other compact SUVs, so I imagine that it would have made a difference if the car was a different make

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
13 weeks ago

King's Crustacean

Yes

Yes

Yes

I'll have what ever she's having

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By *parkle1974Woman
13 weeks ago

Leeds

No

No

No

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By *ittlebirdWoman
13 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Yes. To all

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By *elboy1978Man
13 weeks ago

Jarrow

Yes I would have sex with someone I just met

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By *hong80321967Man
13 weeks ago

Wakefield

Yes, definitely

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By *eli OP   Woman
13 weeks ago

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"I suppose I'll answer properly.

Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them? - As a general rule, I would usually say no. I don't see it as a likely possibility and would never agree to meet someone for the first time and fuck them. But. Sometimes. You meet someone, there's those absolutely explosive fireworks of chemistry, their entire being sings to you, and you have the opportunity to act on it. It has happened before, however rarely. And I hope it happens again.

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you? - Of course. People are welcome to view sex as casually or seriousy as they like. Some people absolutely don't want to rush into something they might regret and I am not a person to shame someone for being what they believe to be reasonably cautious. If someone saw sex on a first encounter to be a necessity, I'd consider us incompatible and not meet them though.

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc. - I think that part is covered already."

Oh Prey you little softie coming back and answering in more detail.

I hope you do get to experience that chemistry again. Life is too short to pass on certain opportunities isn't it?

I do think there's a compatibility issue? No, not issue. Situation when it comes to those we meet at times. If one is very much for casual sex and rather quickly and the other is more... I'd like to wait, perhaps it's not the best of fits. It can work though.

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By *aiseiMan
13 weeks ago

Birmingham

Yes….have done so with ONSs on night out and in my days on AFF where I’d spoken to (but not met) them first.

Yes I’d meet someone who didn’t think that way.

Academic now, however.

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By *hiversMan
13 weeks ago

Dinas Powys

Yup

Yup

Yup

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By *B69Woman
13 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Yes I have done but we have spoken many times before and I plan on doing it again later this year, got to grab the opportunities when you can.

Can’t remember the other part to the thread I distracted by thinking of what will be

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By *aizyWoman
13 weeks ago

west midlands

Yes to all 3.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
13 weeks ago

Leeds

Yep, sometimes the chemistry leads to other things.

Yes I'd meet them if they didn't have sex the 1st time.

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By *ackformore100Man
13 weeks ago

Tin town


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

Yes and have done

Yes because what people say and what they do are often different

Yes every situation is unique. No pressure. Just let things unfold and what will be will be.

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

No. Maybe. Perhaps. Tempted. Yes.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
13 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Yes.

Yes.

What was the other question?

You're so quick Mrs NipNips.

Erm... well would you ever not have sex with someone straight away? What would make you wait?"

Sometimes practical factors, available time, location. Sometimes just to do with the chemistry, I go with the flow.

What about you, OP?

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By *ipsforlipsMan
13 weeks ago

Nuneaton

Yes

Yes

Always

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By *a LunaWoman
13 weeks ago

South

Yes

Yes

Yes

If there’s sexual chemistry I can be a bit slutty.

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By *urry BlokeMan
13 weeks ago


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

Yes

Yes

No

If there is a click and a mutual agreement, I'm all for shagging with new meets

That said, it is never expected

Every meet is different

Everyone is different

There are different gels, different vibes

If I met someone and I found them icky or pushy or not as expected, I have absolutely no embarrassment in telling them nothing would happen between us

I would expect the same back

Imagine knowing someone fucked you for feeling compelled to

No. Just No.

Has that answered your questions well enough Meli?

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"Yes….have done so with ONSs on night out and in my days on AFF where I’d spoken to (but not met) them first.

Yes I’d meet someone who didn’t think that way.

Academic now, however."

Whenever I see ONS I automatically read it as Office for National Statistics

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By *cLovin2Man
13 weeks ago

Reading

Yes, why not. Why should one wait until date 2 or 3 before enjoying sex? It's 2024 not 1824 where sex is preceded by marriage, courting followed by sex with clothes on.

2) there's nothing wrong with sex with someone of a different opinion, except Tories.

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By *cLovin2Man
13 weeks ago

Reading


" I mean we had anal sex in the back of a qashquai on our first meet and have been together almost ten years now and married eight so I guess that's a yes

Would it of changed things if it was a different make of car do you think?"

Vauxhall Corsa is a definite no.

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By *ussy whisperer1000Man
13 weeks ago

redditch

O yes

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By *ealitybitesMan
13 weeks ago

Belfast

I have done in the past but never would again mainly because of the ridiculous level of drama that followed immediately after and the degree of expectation.

I insist on at least one social now and it's not negotiable.

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By *lirtyfun123Woman
13 weeks ago

essex

It depends really. Sometimes you feel that instant connection with someone, the chat flows easily and you feel like you’ve known them for ages so when you meet there’s no awkwardness.

But if I chat with someone and I’m just not sure then I always arrange just a social and take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I would not meet someone under the pretence of us meeting equating to sex. I cannot say that I’ve never met anyone, ever and had sex the same day. I can say I’ve never met anyone from Fab and had sex during that same first initially coffee date. I have had sex with someone from Fab the same day we had coffee. We met two hours after leaving one another. It was meant to be a coffee only and we both had less than an hour. We ended up rescheduling our diaries, doing some errands together, visiting a museum, and having lunch all before leaving for meetings we rescheduled for later in the day.

We both suggested getting back together later that same evening not even one hour after we said goodbye at the Tube station.

I would meet someone who has sex on a first meet so long as they understood there was no expectation of sex with me on a coffee date.

There are times my answers varies. For example, if I go to a club I definitely have sex upon first meeting someone. Not two seconds after a hello but… also, depends because I could see situations in which I may bend my own idea — I don’t dare care it a rule as that just begs to be broken — in certain situations. I like to leave room for the opportunity where I may have a change of mind, rather than make it so tightly defined that I’m unable to deviate from my ways and somehow feel “bad”.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

Great question:

-No

-Yes

-No

But pretty illogical answers tbh if you really think about it, so not sure what this says about me…?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
13 weeks ago

Reading

No I have learnt my lesson

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By *anJenny 181Couple
13 weeks ago

Preston

up to now Jenny has had sex with everyone we have met

However if the vibe was wrong or the person was not clean or weird then it would be a straight no thanks & we would have no hesitation on leaving.

We normally go for people who have veryfication's & touch wood that seems to have worked well so far.

On the occasions we have looked at people without veryfication's they have ghosted us at one stage or the other.

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By *luehairedcumslutCouple
13 weeks ago

St Neots

I know everyone is different... But if the chemistry is really good, what difference does it make to wait until the second time you meet?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
13 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We’ve fucked on first meets.

Actually… quite a few now I think about it

We don’t meet people we don’t intend to fuck generally though.

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By *Silver-Man
13 weeks ago

Mold

Yes Yes and sometimes

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
13 weeks ago

Tamworth


"Definitely varies.

In a club, where I have had a chat to someone, got a feel for their personality (mind out the gutter) and there's an obvious mutual physical attraction, definitely.

If I've been chatting to someone for a while, clicked and a social goes ridiculously well - it's a possibility although I prefer to make it just a social first off.

I wouldn't ever make arrangements after a couple of messages to meet up purely intending to play. Just not my way of doing things.

As regards someone else's activities outside of our own interactions - I'm fairly live and let live. There are certain activities (bareback for example) that would put me off but them playing with others on a first meet wouldn't - unless they kept badgering me about it.

A full response. Thanks Crimson.

So these socials are purely social or do they tend to lead to more?

Live and let live is good unless it has a negative effect on your interactions."

Generally socials, yes. I think it's important for us both to be able to walk away and reflect, with no pressure, on whether they want to meet again. Very occasionally I've invited someone back to mine after a social but in each of those cases, we've been talking for some time in advance!

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
13 weeks ago

Markfield

Perhaps not if it was for a job interview.

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By *kyblue2Couple
13 weeks ago

Coventry

Yes

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By *moothshaftMan
13 weeks ago

Coventry

Yes I would, and have, with a lady off here. 5 years on, we're still in touch.

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By *eading beddingMan
13 weeks ago

Berks

That is the questions!

Yes, have done, but see how the chemistry and situation plays out.

Yes, of course, respect personal preferences.

Yes, horses for courses!

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By *igronnie89Man
13 weeks ago

near you


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

depends really

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By *indergirlWoman
13 weeks ago

somewhere, someplace

Yes

Yes

And yes

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By *ansoffateMan
13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Yes but unlikely

Yes

Yes

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By *uxom redCouple
13 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

Depends on chemistry between us

So maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Yes. I have, I only ever met anybody that I actually fancied. Sometimes it works out. Sometimes it doesn’t.

But if I’ve ever met somebody I already fancy them enough to drive in bed with them if we did get along

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By *oeBeansMan
13 weeks ago

Derby

I have done and would do again, purely out of convenience as we didn't know if we would meet again if our schedules aligned.

Yes, I would do as I prefer a social first even if that's not always the case.

Yes it does. Someone who I've chatted to who's in my area Vs someone who lives near me would have different outcomes for a first meet

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
13 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Yes. It was a fucking horrendous situation.

Yes.

Yes.

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By *illy IdolMan
13 weeks ago

Midlands

No

Yes

Maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"No

Yes

Maybe"

Well dam

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By *illy IdolMan
13 weeks ago

Midlands


"No

Yes

Maybe

Well dam

"

I have lapses

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
13 weeks ago

North West

Mainly, no. I want to get to know them a bit first. Exceptions made in very specific (yet usually pre considered) situations.

Perhaps "maybe" is the right answer?!

But mainly, no.

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By *hil most chillMan
13 weeks ago

London & Europe

I would and I have. Although it's not a prerequisite, I'm happy to wait if that's what my potential partner prefers

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By *aizyWoman
13 weeks ago

west midlands


"No

Yes

Maybe

Well dam

I have lapses"

Might have to work on that Willy, not sure how successful 'wanna be my lapse?' Is going to be tbh!

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair


"No

Yes

Maybe

Well dam

I have lapses

·

Might have to work on that willy"

Daizy is often found working on willies.

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By *illy IdolMan
13 weeks ago

Midlands


"No

Yes

Maybe

Well dam

I have lapses

Might have to work on that Willy, not sure how successful 'wanna be my lapse?' Is going to be tbh! "

I'm weak

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
13 weeks ago

In a town full of colours

Yes.

If the attraction is there, let's play, miss being able to romp in the day use hotels

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By *herry delightWoman
13 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Yes I would fuck someone I just meet.

Technically two guys today at the club I got fucked by two guys I didn't meet as in they sat down next to me and 5 mins later we were fucking. Last time I just as the woman next to me on the bed are you bi? She said yes I was licking her pussy.

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By *IG OsMan
13 weeks ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

Depends on how long been messaging for really. I won't know if I want to have sex with someone until we have met tbh, regardless of how long have been chatting for. Usually within first 5 minutes I will know but writing skills have very little to do with attraction. For me anyway and attraction has little to do with their looks, just to be clear, hope all's well with you Meli

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By *mf123Man
13 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

In the past i have done many times but now as i age it would take a pretty remarkable woman

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
13 weeks ago

Launceston

I have in the past _eli. But now I'm more cautious about picking the wrong men. So I'm more likely to have a quick social only first. My resolve would probably weaken if I fancied the ass off him though lol!

What about you Meli? What are your thoughts on this?

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By *orbidden eastMan
13 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

If there was a mutual attraction, and we laughed really well

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By *iz78Woman
13 weeks ago

wirral

Yes

Yes

Yes

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By *gent CoulsonMan
13 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Have to say, it would depend on the connection.

A random stranger no.

Someone I had been chatting with and there was that spark, yes

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
13 weeks ago

Essex


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

I have - rarely is it worth it. One occasion became a FWB for a long time. That’s the exception though really.

Yes - just because someone sometimes does things differently doesn’t make either of us wrong. Nor does it change my mind.

My rules - I can break them if I wish. But yes - person & situations change things.

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By *affron40Woman
13 weeks ago

manchester

I’m sure I did once or twice back in the day… but it was never a plan to do so.

Wouldn’t interest me now and I can’t see that ever changing.

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By *he year of 69Man
13 weeks ago

Bury

Have had sex with many people the first time we've met. Other occasions it's been after a few times. It's often just down to how we both feel. And how much booze was involved! Think the quickest was someone I got chatting to on a dating site. An hour later we were on the stairs in my house fucking! Think we were both just rather horny!

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

She's got cobwebs on her quim. ^ Fåçt.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"She's got cobwebs on her quim. ^ Fåçt."

It’s all about the timing

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By *agnar73Man
13 weeks ago

Glasgow

I try not to be a man-slut and behave myself but right person and right time, yes and yes.

But it is nice to get to meet and know people

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
13 weeks ago

Maidstone

Yes to all.

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By *oy_boyxMan
13 weeks ago

swansea

Been invaited by couple. 2 quick drink and down to bussines. After that back another 3times. They loved. She sat next to me and we start kissing etc

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

^ with her? Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"^ with her? Yes. "

It’s ALL about the timing!

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair


"She's got cobwebs on her quim. ^ Fåçt.

It’s all about the timing "

I never delete my comments. Everything I post is immutable. Timing-Shmiming.

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By *ellhungvweMan
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Of course I would - happens all the times in clubs and if you click with someone on a social then why wait?

Its fab we are talking about - not some life long commitment.

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By *entBarryUKMan
13 weeks ago

Ashford

Yes, done that.

Yes, done that too.

Yes, but you are too far away Meli!

I always suggest a social first whether meeting a fabber or not. I like to connect with people. I have found the turn up and shag method doesn't work for me very often.

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By *rand Central CoupleCouple
13 weeks ago

Glasgow


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

We’re swingers! :-

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By *onnyJohnMan
13 weeks ago

Doncaster


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Purely because each of those can't be quantified adequately enough in such a short statement to cover every situation presenting itself within the context of each statement.

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By *entBarryUKMan
13 weeks ago

Ashford


" I mean we had anal sex in the back of a qashquai on our first meet and have been together almost ten years now and married eight so I guess that's a yes"

This is almost exactly what happened to me! Except it was a Fiesta.

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
13 weeks ago

Always on the move

Yes x 3

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By *cLovin2Man
13 weeks ago

Reading


"

I would not meet someone under the pretence of us meeting equating to sex. I cannot say that I’ve never met anyone, ever and had sex the same day. I can say I’ve never met anyone from Fab and had sex during that same first initially coffee date. I have had sex with someone from Fab the same day we had coffee. We met two hours after leaving one another. It was meant to be a coffee only and we both had less than an hour. We ended up rescheduling our diaries, doing some errands together, visiting a museum, and having lunch all before leaving for meetings we rescheduled for later in the day.

We both suggested getting back together later that same evening not even one hour after we said goodbye at the Tube station.

I would meet someone who has sex on a first meet so long as they understood there was no expectation of sex with me on a coffee date.

There are times my answers varies. For example, if I go to a club I definitely have sex upon first meeting someone. Not two seconds after a hello but… also, depends because I could see situations in which I may bend my own idea — I don’t dare care it a rule as that just begs to be broken — in certain situations. I like to leave room for the opportunity where I may have a change of mind, rather than make it so tightly defined that I’m unable to deviate from my ways and somehow feel “bad”. "

Bella, thanks for the essay, though you missed out the title "first date bonk, discuss"

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By *herry delightWoman
12 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I don't see the problem with have sex with someone you just met as this what this site is meant to be for swingers.

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By *eli OP   Woman
12 weeks ago

.


"I don't see the problem with have sex with someone you just met as this what this site is meant to be for swingers.

"

I don't think the site is *meant* to be for any one thing. Not any more. Perhaps when it first started.

I like reading how people view it. The differences in approaches etc. There's not a right/wrong way of doing it unless you're deliberately hurting another.

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By *or-QueeningMan
12 weeks ago

Manchester


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

1) Yes. But it's unlikely a first meet would be for sex, it's more likely that we meet for a social, click quickly and then head to somewhere more comfortable.

2) Of course. I don't assume sex is going to happen, even if our virtual conversation has gone well and been...flirtatious. So I'd happily meet someone just to check out the vibes in person and hopefully meet someone interesting. If we might meet again for sex then that's delightful.

3) Definitely. Maybe I'm tired, maybe we weren't able to flirt and check out the sexual chemistry on the first meet because of what we were doing. Maybe there's something that's just making me uncertain about the person and I want to be more sure before I commit.

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By *herry delightWoman
12 weeks ago

Ilfracombe


"I don't see the problem with have sex with someone you just met as this what this site is meant to be for swingers.

I don't think the site is *meant* to be for any one thing. Not any more. Perhaps when it first started.

I like reading how people view it. The differences in approaches etc. There's not a right/wrong way of doing it unless you're deliberately hurting another. "

There is no right or wrong way but at the end of the day this is meant to be a swinging site for like minded people to meet up for sex.

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By *had_ThunderCockMan
12 weeks ago

Sydney University Wank Bank

Q1, It depends, but yes

Q2. It depends, but yes

Q3, it depends, but yes

Q4, let me know when you’re available

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By *etropolitainMan
12 weeks ago

Redworth Co Durham

Just yes

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By *reggSausageMan
12 weeks ago

derby

Only if I can eat first

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By *ife NinjaMan
12 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Have done

Why not?

If there's an attraction, get it on

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By *ggdrasil66Man
12 weeks ago

Saltdean

I couldn’t fuck anyone I’m not attracted to. But if I am I will fuck right away. So yes!

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By *errocaWoman
12 weeks ago

Shropshire

If both parties are feeling the chemistry and wanna fuck... Then yes.

I'd meet someone who didn't want to have sex straight away.

Can't remember what the last bit was.

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By *r99mr99Man
12 weeks ago

Ealing


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

Yes, yes. And not varied but times it makes it more likely. Am I meeting them from here -if so there's likely to be a sexual undercurrent. Did I meet them on a dating site-well goals are slightly different so sex may not be the most important outcome

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By *alandNitaCouple
12 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

We have done many times in clubs, but we've also had loads of socials too.

Cal

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By *ark73XXXMan
12 weeks ago

North Staffs/South Cheshire


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

Normally not

Yes I would

Yes

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By *RRRRRR123Man
11 weeks ago

warwickshire

asking ladies only marks out of 10 for my pics and who would fuck me

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By *RRRRRR123Man
11 weeks ago

warwickshire

i didnt mean on 1st date or meet just in general from my pics

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By *xbabyxxxWoman
11 weeks ago

Bradford

No as I only do social meet

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By *akedMMan
11 weeks ago

Witney

No I would not have sex on the first date .would like to know them more before we have sex

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
11 weeks ago

Sunderland

We fucked on our first date. 16 years ago so clearly it panned out OK

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
11 weeks ago

Portstewart


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

No we wouldn't have sex on a first meet/date

Yes we would consider meeting someone w8th a different answer to ours

And thirdly it would be highly unlikely we would change our minds

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By *asterMeliodasMan
11 weeks ago

Near Keith

There have been times I fucked on first meeting someone. My wife technically counts as we had sex on our first "date", though we had interacted a bit before that.

That said, I prefer building a genuine connection with people before that happens.

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By *JcuriousCouple
11 weeks ago

Derby

Yes we have, obviously only if the vibe is right with everyone.

Miss S x

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By *orksguy1965Man
11 weeks ago

Howden

Yes if we click

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By *antazyfreaksCouple
11 weeks ago

Just Ask


"Would you have sex with someone the first time you meet them?

Would you meet someone who would answer that question differently to you?

Are there ever times where your answer varies? People. Situations etc."

Yes, especially love it in a club

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By *oadsafun1960Man
11 weeks ago

Somerset & Hertfordshire

Yes to all three

It really depends on the situation so never assume something.

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By *emptmeonceWoman
11 weeks ago

the Northern Hemisphere


"Yes to all three

It really depends on the situation so never assume something."

This

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By *RWoodyCouple
11 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Generally speaking yes to all three, although I guess there's plenty of circumstantial variation in there.

J x

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